Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[DaRealness]

One thing I learned yrs ago was to just let women talk about themselves
Eventually, there will be a fraudulent slip up..and some women just talk themselves into a grave after the first few convo's

Story from yrs ago

I use to date someone & we ended it on odd terms. She was with someone prior for a couple yrs & she wasn't fully over it.

I personally was not comfortable with it, so I decided to end things.

We chopped it up from time to time and would bullshyt via email

One week we chatted for about 4 days straight and I was applaud at the shyt she's was telling me

Before I continue, I will say we're both living on opposite sides of the country since we broke up

I relocated due to a better job opportunity

Anywho, she's in my inbox telling me about how she hasn't had dikk since we were together(I obviously didn't believe it) and keep trying to bait me into raunchy convo

Firstly, If I ain't fukkin, I ain't wit the sex talk. I keep curving it in subtle ways and she continues on..

I told her if she wanted dikk that bad to go get some..she rambled on about how she isn't that type of girl, but she's currently talking to someone & apparently they aint fukk(right...)

Next day, same story about how she wants dikk..so I flirt with her a little & she sends me naked pics out the blue. Like 10 of these joints.


She then slips up and is like "yeah, so much nice dikk in my inbox and I cant do anything about it" Also "I only send nudes during lusty convo"

This goes back to me saying that girls eventually talk themselves into a grave. Want to know about them? Just let them talk & I guarantee they will slip up eventually.

It kind of irked me because I use to date this broad and now it seems like she turned into a full bird.

It's always better let people to talk to expose themselves and reveal how full of shyt they are like Jackie Chan said in Rush Hour.

I wouldn't even have dealt with her at all after that let alone on a sexual level. What's the point in raunchy convo if you ain't hitting it? Then she sends you naked pics out the blue just so you can validate her and boost her ego. FOH. I have no time for chicks who insult men's intelligence with this twitter style "I haven't had dikk in a while" crap, because a woman can literally walk out her front door and get dikk as easy as I can go to the shop and buy a newspaper.

She sounds like a total pea brained attention whore.

Man... I just got into a silly debate with a female friend. She's got two kids by two different dudes and has a rep as a freak. Now she's talking about she's not having sex with another dude until marriage and any guy she dates just has to accept that. She's deep in the church, yadda yadda. Cool. I'm happy for her but she was being so indignant so I was like. "Look, I'mma be real with you. Aint no dude out here that you meet gonna wait until marriage to have sex with you. nikkas know you got two kids, you're a flirt, and you're a freak. Cmon now. Sorry but I'm just being honest."

She was like "It's cool. It's their loss then."

I'm like

She asked me how I would I feel if a girl said that to me and I told her I wouldn't respect it unless she was a virgin. Because who am I to challenge your beliefs if you've been consistent up to this point. But I'm not gonna listen to a girl that's been having her fun up until she meets me and then make me pay the consequences. Especially when I know your recent history and how you get down.

Broads with multiple kids and all different fathers brings up every red flag in the book

Now only does she come off as a hoe, she comes off as someone with lack of common sense and decision making.

When does a broad realize that maybe that 2nd or 3rd kid isn't a good idea?

As a man, I'm running far away from that.

You gotta deal wit her
Those 3 kids
and possibly the 3 nikkas that seeded her up

NOW these chicks want to suddenly become moral and demand a quality dude they never cared for previously after they've been ran through with two or more kids to show for it.

Mr Stable Nice Man is supposed to foot the bill as always now that they've had their fun and no longer in their prime. FOH.

I just broke up with my girl, she told me she could have anyone but she chose me. I was like

LOL so you're supposed to be grateful that she bothered to give a mere mortal the time of day? Tell her if she can have anyone, then try stealing simp Barack from Michelle.

 

[Redguard]

they're taken

and/or homebodies so you wont meet em outside

So I guess I got to pick through the scraps?

 

[Reality]

How do you guys feel about your homies dating and marrying one of your exes?

Would you still keep in contact with your friend and ex?

Depends on how shyt ended w/ the ex. I have 2 exes that i straight up wouldnt care about my buddies dating. And there 2 exes i have that i never want to know anything about their future bfs even though i broke it off w/ them.

 

[RealAssanova]

@kevm3 How would you react to dudes who tried to holla at your lady in the past liking pics of y'all together on facebook and all that. I only know they tried to holla because I go through her phone while she sleeps sometimes.

you gotta learn not to give a fukk as she ain't your possession or property. If a hoe wants to cheat breh, she'll cheat. All you can really do is delay it, but that won't really stop it from happening because if you think about it, a delay doesn't last that long.

 

[RealAssanova]

How do you guys feel about your homies dating and marrying one of your exes?

Would you still keep in contact with your friend and ex?

I really could not give two sh!ts about what an ex does with her life. Me and her clearly did not work out, so why would i have any leftover feelings? Shorty is now a product of the game and is up for anyone to bag. So, if it happens to be a close negro of mine, then so be it.

Now, if my homie starts acting real shady around me because of this, then 'mma cut him off real quick. Shorty i could really careless about.

 

[Reality]

dudes are territorial. it has nothing to do with the p*ssy. she's dumb tho, because all she gotta do is move on and I guarantee you dude will try to get back with her with the swiftness. especially if she's genuinely happy. then dude will come with the waterworks and be all sad and shyt. what he's doing now is having his cake and eating it too.​

this is the part that kills me.

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

I

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yup that's it. I'm officially DEAD now.

 

[Shameonyou]

So I guess I got to pick through the scraps?

heres what I learned about finding a quality chick...you make yourself a rare man, a rare woman will find her way to be around your orbit because they (rare man) arent seen alot. A quality woman will sense who she feels can bring her positivity in her life, and who would be a waste of time....its pretty much the same mindset the quality man would have so it matches....

trying to find a quality woman is borderline impossible because if you have a mindset that you are just LOOKING for one, you will try to find reasons to make anyone that fits some of your criteria as "good enough" and that is what gets dudes caught up.

honestly to find a woman like that you have to pretty much be lucky, but at the same time let them come to you in their own suttle way. Looking for one will put you in a tricky situation. Most of them like I said are already taken, and or dont be at spots where you would find a single woman looking for a dude....so its extremely hard.

ETA: dont get this confused with an around the way girl that you might overlook but has qualities of a good woman...she may not be your first choice, but why not take a shot at that type of female? Waiting to get lucky for the woman who excites you in first glance and has the personality to match will have you waiting forever..sometimes you gotta sacrifice personal criterias, and put other qualities above others to get what you want.

 

[CASHAPP]

It's always better let people to talk to expose themselves and reveal how full of shyt they are like Jackie Chan said in Rush Hour.

I wouldn't even have dealt with her at all after that let alone on a sexual level. What's the point in raunchy convo if you ain't hitting it? Then she sends you naked pics out the blue just so you can validate her and boost her ego. FOH. I have no time for chicks who insult men's intelligence with this twitter style "I haven't had dikk in a while" crap, because a woman can literally walk out her front door and get dikk as easy as I can go to the shop and buy a newspaper.

She sounds like a total pea brained attention whore.

NOW these chicks want to suddenly become moral and demand a quality dude they never cared for previously after they've been ran through with two or more kids to show for it.

Mr Stable Nice Man is supposed to foot the bill as always now that they've had their fun and no longer in their prime. FOH.

LOL so you're supposed to be grateful that she bothered to give a mere mortal the time of day? Tell her if she can have anyone, then try stealing simp Barack from Michelle.

thought i was the only one in here who called him out

 

[DaRealness]

thought i was the only one in here who called him out

Quite a few of us have called him out for simping only to be disrespected by Michelle even during his presidency.

 

[CASHAPP]

So it turns out I'm scheduled to work this Friday at the cashier job....have longer hours because of what the mad rush is gonna be

I'm exceedingly curious as to how the female customers will be acting in the store and how they will be trying to emasculate the male cashiers and be annoying as fukk...

Valentines Day is turning these broads into demons....I know already there is gonna be that ONE bytch who tries to be emasculating and play you for a sucker and get you to do extra shyt for them cause its 'valentines day"

 

[kevm3]

So I guess I got to pick through the scraps?

Nah, you have to leave yourself open to possibly looking outside of this country. You also have to be in environments where quality women will be. You go to a club and more times than not, you will find club rats. On very rare occasion you might luck into a decent club, but club regulars are addicted to male attention and will seek it even after being in a relationship with you. Quality women are more along the lines of homebodies, so you would have to catch them at some place like a grocery store or through knowing somebody... or you might have to frequent a place like a book store... you might have to take a college class to find some. church is a possible place as well. None of those places are guarantees of somewhere to find a decent woman, but it has a higher probability over a place like a club.

 

[kevm3]

Something you got to learn to do is make life plans that don't revolve around impressing women. You should be more focused on being a man of principle and creating a sound living structure. A man whose life involves impressing women and chasing sex, everything he does will revolve around engaging in some activity to get a woman's attention. When he gets his tax refund check, his first mission is to go out and buy some rims or put a new coat of paint on his car so he will be shining for the ladies. he might go rush out and buy a gold chain so he's blinging for the women.... buy some new clothes. To be real with you, this attitude is incredibly prevalent in the black community. If there's one subject you can immediately connect with a brotha on, it's about women. There's nothing wrong with dealing with women and wanting to look nice, but when that's what your life revolves around and that's where the majority of your finances go, that's a problem. That's how you end up turning into a loser, because the majority of your money will be spent investing into rapidly depreciating assets as well as taking on many liabilities in order to keep up this charade.

If the first thought that pops in your mind when you get a refund check is, "I need to look crispy for these women. Time to go buy some jeans and shoes. Time to go get some rims. Time to go get some jewelry. Time to go get Polo'd out..." then you really need to rethink your mindset. As a man, you need to procure financial and life stability FIRST. Your thought pattern needs to change.

You need to set some money aside and create a fall-back fund to where you can keep living if you ever lose your job. This should be several months worth of rent and other expenditures. This way, if you instantly lose your job, you won't be stuck... or if you hate your job, you don't have to force yourself to stay there because you have funds to fall back on. You also need to pay off your debt, starting with the ones that have the highest interest rate attached to them. The longer you take to pay off your interest bearing debt, the more money you are freely giving to these lending companies. Making minimum payments will keep you in a position to be a debt slave for life because the interest on those loans/credit cards is outpacing what you are paying each month. Third, you need to tuck something away for investments. I don't necessarily mean stocks and bonds, although it could include that. When you invest, I mean putting your money into something that will produce more money later. It could include stocks and bonds, but it also extends to learning new skills , whether that is through reading books, taking classes, etc.If you're a Christian, then use some of your money to help others as well. You need to make these thoughts a habit. Stack something, get your debts paid off, invest in yourself, help others... those should be priorities, and if you have something left after that, then sure, enjoy yourself... but you really don't want to be one of those dudes that spent all of their money chasing and attempting to impress women and you're in your 40's with nothing to show. Where will all those 'hoes' you smashed be? They won't be anything but distant memories while you're out here struggling and looking like one of those 'try-hard' older dudes who can't let go of the past. Nothing wrong with looking sharp, but let's be real. When's the last time you seen a 37 year old dude dressed up in polo and all of this and that and was like man, that old dude is fly. You'll look at him like man this old dude need to give it up. He's trying too hard. Looking crispy is a young man's game and the question you have to ask yourself is, do you want to have your life on automatic to where you're not worrying about finances later or are you more concerned with shining and blinding today with no concern for tomorrow?

 

[Reality]

Something you got to learn to do is make life plans that don't revolve around impressing women. You should be more focused on being a man of principle and creating a sound living structure. A man whose life involves impressing women and chasing sex, everything he does will revolve around engaging in some activity to get a woman's attention. When he gets his tax refund check, his first mission is to go out and buy some rims or put a new coat of paint on his car so he will be shining for the ladies. he might go rush out and buy a gold chain so he's blinging for the women.... buy some new clothes. To be real with you, this attitude is incredibly prevalent in the black community. If there's one subject you can immediately connect with a brotha on, it's about women. There's nothing wrong with dealing with women and wanting to look nice, but when that's what your life revolves around and that's where the majority of your finances go, that's a problem. That's how you end up turning into a loser, because the majority of your money will be spent investing into rapidly depreciating assets as well as taking on many liabilities in order to keep up this charade.

If the first thought that pops in your mind when you get a refund check is, "I need to look crispy for these women. Time to go buy some jeans and shoes. Time to go get some rims. Time to go get some jewelry. Time to go get Polo'd out..." then you really need to rethink your mindset. As a man, you need to procure financial and life stability FIRST. Your thought pattern needs to change.

You need to set some money aside and create a fall-back fund to where you can keep living if you ever lose your job. This should be several months worth of rent and other expenditures. This way, if you instantly lose your job, you won't be stuck... or if you hate your job, you don't have to force yourself to stay there because you have funds to fall back on. You also need to pay off your debt, starting with the ones that have the highest interest rate attached to them. The longer you take to pay off your interest bearing debt, the more money you are freely giving to these lending companies. Making minimum payments will keep you in a position to be a debt slave for life because the interest on those loans/credit cards is outpacing what you are paying each month. Third, you need to tuck something away for investments. I don't necessarily mean stocks and bonds, although it could include that. When you invest, I mean putting your money into something that will produce more money later. It could include stocks and bonds, but it also extends to learning new skills , whether that is through reading books, taking classes, etc.If you're a Christian, then use some of your money to help others as well. You need to make these thoughts a habit. Stack something, get your debts paid off, invest in yourself, help others... those should be priorities, and if you have something left after that, then sure, enjoy yourself... but you really don't want to be one of those dudes that spent all of their money chasing and attempting to impress women and you're in your 40's with nothing to show. Where will all those 'hoes' you smashed be? They won't be anything but distant memories while you're out here struggling and looking like one of those 'try-hard' older dudes who can't let go of the past. Nothing wrong with looking sharp, but let's be real. When's the last time you seen a 37 year old dude dressed up in polo and all of this and that and was like man, that old dude is fly. You'll look at him like man this old dude need to give it up. He's trying too hard. Looking crispy is a young man's game and the question you have to ask yourself is, do you want to have your life on automatic to where you're not worrying about finances later or are you more concerned with shining and blinding today with no concern for tomorrow?

do you/have you ever thought about mentoring young men in real life breh? all of what you post is solid and if dudes in their 20s need to hear it, dudes in their teens certainly need to hear it.

 

[kevm3]

do you/have you ever thought about mentoring young men in real life breh? all of what you post is solid and if dudes in their 20s need to hear it, dudes in their teens certainly need to hear it.

if they're willing to listen, i'll tell them what i'm telling everyone here. I haven't directly mentored though. if the opportunity comes, I'll put these youngstas on.