Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

Yes!!!


After numerous hours of texting and stressing (without exuding the latter, of course)...


Date numero dos with milf is secure!!! Man, we're hanging out this sunday so i really gotta make this a special one.


And btw... finally got a solid image.

Spoiler

Can you believe this nubian queen is 41?


#blackstayintact

#doesntusuallygetthislucky

 

[Youseenmywork]

Turned 32 last May.



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[Youseenmywork]

Just the truth this right here jesus

 

[kevm3]

So brehs heres the story.. Me and my ex was together for 5 years. We broke up in january. First year of the relationship we was great fell in love and was happy. 2nd year She made a turn where she wanted to push my buttons for a reaction being that she wasnt used to guys treating her right and being consistent and showing they care, so i checked her on it and fell back, we fixed it and we managed. 3'rd and 4th year was ups and downs. Then 5th year we deaded it. When i met her she was studying nursing and i was just being a regular street negga at the time.. So seeing her i felt inspired. She graduated as an LPN, i enrolled to pursue a degree as an RN(She was suppose to enroll in a RN program as well but never did). At first she tried to talk me out of it and told me go for computer science since everyone claimed i was good with that and was originally studying it previously.. Then she was some what ok with it.. It till my grades came in hitting a straight 4.0. for 3 semesters straight. Then we took a steady decline in the 3rd and 4th year. It was comments like "you think you all that ? " "You need to focus on buying me a big ass diamond not buying cars every summer" "You didnt do anything yet in life to have a BMW" "you spend too much money on material s**t"

So through out her time at nursing school i was completely supportive of her. She needed books i got them, she needed anything i tried to make it happen. I felt like this was the girl for me. She graduated now its my time to step up i enroll in the beginning the support was there till like i said the grades came about then it just started going down hill, the same support i gave her i didnt even get 1/8th in return. When we got together she was the sweetest thing and i would say around the 2nd year she developed a small attitude and send of hate at life and the world cutting friends off family off and i literally was her only friend and link to the outside world for a good 2-3 years.

So the last year i dealt with no support, I pressed her enough times telling her we need to fix this, i love you i wanna build a life with you. All she did was say ok we will fix this, and gave no effort. There was times she would break down crying saying Shes sorry and she'll change and how she loves me so much.. but it only lasted for the moment. So when we broke up in january i wasnt ready even tho it was a mutual decision and i lingered around still trying to talk to her to fix us. Some days she'd answer my calls, some days she wont, some days shed answer my texts some days she wont. She even went as cold and told me she dont love me any more. So right there i fell back.. Some shyt happened between me and her 3 months later where i ended up by her crib and we had sex. We didnt talk or see each other for another month i ended up by her again and we kissed. She just brushed it off like oh she hasnt had physical contact with someone so long. i just laughed it off. So we saw each other a month later and i just walked away from her like im thru with these games. So last month she calls me and im at the bbq and u hear im having a good time, she said hello and paused and hears the back ground and says called by mistake lol. So last night i got a text saying "why couldn't i be the man she needed ?" I aint even respond nor do i even know if i should. Seeing as how she blocked my number from calling or texting her.

Shes weird cause one minute she'll say i was the best thing ever, then a minute later i'm a piece of $h!t and i act like i don't care. Then one minute she'll say i did so much to make her happy, then its you didnt do SHHH Negga. I always chalked it up as shes that crazy gf, when she acted that way or just acting mad cause she aint getting her way with every situation.

You're learning first hand the lesson that women don't care about what you 'do' for them. You were like that guy who gave her a chance when she was fat and you helped her lose weight and she lost it and got fine and left you for another dude. Honestly, sounds like she got bored and peeled off. Women don't appreciate stability, being there for them or any of that. Sounds like she's trying to keep you on a string and pulls you back in whenever she's bored. You were her emotional providerman. You gave her a chance and she keeps ending up distant. A lot of dudes here experienced the same pattern. She supposedly loves you and you're the man she needs, but she's cool with not seeing you for months on an end? Assess a woman by her actions, not by her words. Nah, sounds like she's in a drought doing whatever she's over there doing and decides to drop in for a little while. Me personally, I'd move on. It might be hard because of all the feelings you got, but now you understand how the game goes and what we've been talking about in this thread. Time to keep it pushing

 

[kevm3]

I have no game


If a woman is interested cool if not cool.

I'm.not for everyone n thats life.

Pretty much. As you get older, you start to realize... what in the world are these broads offering for me to come up with all of this game, all these techniques and strategies? So you can trick her into offering you something 50 guys already got? In reality, it should be the women doing the stunts to get the attention of the man, but men are so thirsty and accepting of every little scrap of attention that a woman throws at them. The only reason women keep winning is because they know how to play the withholding game. They simply ignore the men and hold out on men until they get what they want. In Japan, the young men are ignoring the women over there and it has gotten to such a point that women actually go to these sort of dating clubs and pay men to spend time with them.

There was a point in time where women actually had to be seductive to get the man she wanted. Now all they have to do is show up and you have dudes tolerating their disrespect with a smile on their face and doing all sorts of tricks to appease them while they are at it. Clown behavior..

When you're younger, you hear all this amazing stuff about techniques that will pull women, yada, yada, and you try some of them out and yeah, you may get some manner of success by pretending to be someone else, but eventually what ends up happening is you start ending up confused or disillusioned because your self-image is based upon a woman's approval. You start wondering, "what secret technique do I have to do to get her interest? Do I wait 2.5 days to call instead of calling immediately? Do I need to hit her with the hot babe alpha blast pattern and demonstrate value by flashing my watch at just the right time?" The stuff is lame man.

That's my main problem about this PUA movement. Their whole image of manhood, aka alpha male, is based upon some hoes rewarding them with sex. I guess that dude in Tennessee who had 30 kids by different women is the ultimate alpha male right? Alpha male is simply a rebranding of the term player.

As you get older, you start figuring out, what in the world am I putting forth all of this effort for? On a tangible basis, what exactly is this or that woman offering you? While you're thinking of all these routines, is she doing the same thing to please you? Is she thinking about how to give you the perfect message or be sweet? So essentially you're doing all of this to con a woman into giving you a little bit of time... but what is her time really worth? Is she entertaining you with mind-blowing conversation? Listening to your problems when you're down and out? Cooking you a great meal? Realistically, guys are putting all of this effort to dip their ink pen in a pot that has already been dipped by 45 other pens.

All that stressing is lame. As you get older, you simply sit back and say, either she wants to deal with me or she doesn't. If she doesn't, I'm not tripping because there is another woman that will... and even if you go through one of those so-called droughts, you're not tripping because your life is filled with so many other amazing activities, you couldn't care less. If you sit around here playing all of these little games, going back and forth with these broads, you're bringing yourself down to her level. That same broad you are waiting on two days to text you back is drooling all over some other guy or is rushing at the speed of light to get backstage to the TI concert. Women that like you ain't that hard to deal with. I'm not going to con some broad into dealing with me or attempt to sell myself. Do you have to convince someone to give them a diamond? Nah, things with high worth somehow manage to sell themselves.

 

[SubLyminalz]

so this broad I was fukking with heavy last year and we stopped talking because she kept telling me that I'm busy excuse decides to unblock me on fb and send me a message telling me she is sorry for the way she acted and basically admitting she was wrong about something she did at the end of last year meanwhile I haven't seen her since the day before new years eve when we had a disagreement and she wanted to argue and I just left her crib.

her number was already deleted prior to her sending me a message and I never even responded to her

the nikka who was smashing when she was too busy for me must have cut her ass off too.

 

[Doin2Much Williams]

You're learning first hand the lesson that women don't care about what you 'do' for them. You were like that guy who gave her a chance when she was fat and you helped her lose weight and she lost it and got fine and left you for another dude. Honestly, sounds like she got bored and peeled off. Women don't appreciate stability, being there for them or any of that. Sounds like she's trying to keep you on a string and pulls you back in whenever she's bored. You were her emotional providerman. You gave her a chance and she keeps ending up distant. A lot of dudes here experienced the same pattern. She supposedly loves you and you're the man she needs, but she's cool with not seeing you for months on an end? Assess a woman by her actions, not by her words. Nah, sounds like she's in a drought doing whatever she's over there doing and decides to drop in for a little while. Me personally, I'd move on. It might be hard because of all the feelings you got, but now you understand how the game goes and what we've been talking about in this thread. Time to keep it pushing

How about this Kev. Let's agree that he's not gonna let her go. She must be really hot or still with her out of history and convenience (perhaps, lack of options).


Can we tell him that the gaps/months in between the times that she wasn't with him... she was very likely/inevitably seeing other men?


The reality of the situation is that yes, she DOES get bored. And i'm sorry to say, but he didn't CHALLENGE her enough.


Getting 4.0's in school is a direct correlation of a man who has his shiit together... and crazy women aren't about that.


But we can't convince op that he has to move on cuz we KNOW HE WON'T. So to remedy this dilemma, and he's not willing to jump shyt/avert the ratch...


... it is imperative that HE MUST PLAY HER GAME!!!


As a dude, i couldn't put up with that bullshiit. But i also know that everything is a two way street and the collateral damage can be returned just as bad or even more harsh than it was originally delivered.


If dude wants to salvage it, what he has to do is start dating other people. Dude is obviously TOO AVAILABLE for her. And the bytch knows that. Hence, why he always takes her back
when its convenient.


Next, completely ignore her for an entire month. This says that he has "more important" shiit going on. Why this guy even picks up the phone knowing she's playing games is beyond me... but he's going
to have to give her a dose of her own Robitussin.


Out of concern, jealously, unavailability, it will make her feel like she ain't worthy... and she will type hard creep back into his life.


I know it seems like a lot of work, but its reality and OP is invested and obviously wants to make it work. You just got to have a little edge when you're dealing with these ratches (sorry to refer to your
woman as such, but her behaviors exemplify/categorize her as such, if she knew better she's act better).


The thing about these types of scorned chicks who have been in a multitude of tumultuous relationships... their psyches are really fukked up. And if the turbulent elements of their previous flings aren't existent in their current unions... they ultimately get bored. That's why you MUST have an edge cuz the majority of these broads with all this mileage fly their minds proverbial planes and never land... so they accumulate all this baggage that never reaches the grounds. Aka the terminals of sanity.

Some girls change, and want a good guy like OP...


But most of them stay tarnished and tainted, always yearning for that next argument or reason for her to go off because "that's what gets her rocks off!"


OP, if you're listening, you're basically playing clean up man and this mess is beyond what you can control. You either play the game or put the controller down and walk away... forever.


Those are you're only two choices. Treading this ordeal the way you have been is only gonna kill your spirit, wallet, relationships with friends/family... and worst case scenario...


... your own life.




And that's what separates the men from the mice. The pits from the poodles...



... the captains --- from the crunch.




My question to you, computer nerd nurse...



... are you aboot that life?



.

 

[MikelArteta]

brehs what are your views on women who committed infidelity in the past and were honest letting you know that they did it in the past

 

[MikelArteta]

so this broad I was fukking with heavy last year and we stopped talking because she kept telling me that I'm busy excuse decides to unblock me on fb and send me a message telling me she is sorry for the way she acted and basically admitting she was wrong about something she did at the end of last year meanwhile I haven't seen her since the day before new years eve when we had a disagreement and she wanted to argue and I just left her crib.

her number was already deleted prior to her sending me a message and I never even responded to her

the nikka who was smashing when she was too busy for me must have cut her ass off too.

aka dated a new nukka, new nukka cheated, she rememberd how good sublyminalz treated her, so let me send him a message apologizing.

 

[MikelArteta]

So brehs heres the story.. Me and my ex was together for 5 years. We broke up in january. First year of the relationship we was great fell in love and was happy. 2nd year She made a turn where she wanted to push my buttons for a reaction being that she wasnt used to guys treating her right and being consistent and showing they care, so i checked her on it and fell back, we fixed it and we managed. 3'rd and 4th year was ups and downs. Then 5th year we deaded it. When i met her she was studying nursing and i was just being a regular street negga at the time.. So seeing her i felt inspired. She graduated as an LPN, i enrolled to pursue a degree as an RN(She was suppose to enroll in a RN program as well but never did). At first she tried to talk me out of it and told me go for computer science since everyone claimed i was good with that and was originally studying it previously.. Then she was some what ok with it.. It till my grades came in hitting a straight 4.0. for 3 semesters straight. Then we took a steady decline in the 3rd and 4th year. It was comments like "you think you all that ? " "You need to focus on buying me a big ass diamond not buying cars every summer" "You didnt do anything yet in life to have a BMW" "you spend too much money on material s**t"

So through out her time at nursing school i was completely supportive of her. She needed books i got them, she needed anything i tried to make it happen. I felt like this was the girl for me. She graduated now its my time to step up i enroll in the beginning the support was there till like i said the grades came about then it just started going down hill, the same support i gave her i didnt even get 1/8th in return. When we got together she was the sweetest thing and i would say around the 2nd year she developed a small attitude and send of hate at life and the world cutting friends off family off and i literally was her only friend and link to the outside world for a good 2-3 years.

So the last year i dealt with no support, I pressed her enough times telling her we need to fix this, i love you i wanna build a life with you. All she did was say ok we will fix this, and gave no effort. There was times she would break down crying saying Shes sorry and she'll change and how she loves me so much.. but it only lasted for the moment. So when we broke up in january i wasnt ready even tho it was a mutual decision and i lingered around still trying to talk to her to fix us. Some days she'd answer my calls, some days she wont, some days shed answer my texts some days she wont. She even went as cold and told me she dont love me any more. So right there i fell back.. Some shyt happened between me and her 3 months later where i ended up by her crib and we had sex. We didnt talk or see each other for another month i ended up by her again and we kissed. She just brushed it off like oh she hasnt had physical contact with someone so long. i just laughed it off. So we saw each other a month later and i just walked away from her like im thru with these games. So last month she calls me and im at the bbq and u hear im having a good time, she said hello and paused and hears the back ground and says called by mistake lol. So last night i got a text saying "why couldn't i be the man she needed ?" I aint even respond nor do i even know if i should. Seeing as how she blocked my number from calling or texting her.

Shes weird cause one minute she'll say i was the best thing ever, then a minute later i'm a piece of $h!t and i act like i don't care. Then one minute she'll say i did so much to make her happy, then its you didnt do SHHH Negga. I always chalked it up as shes that crazy gf, when she acted that way or just acting mad cause she aint getting her way with every situation.

RUN BREH RUN while you still can

take it frm a guy who dropped out of law school and got a job to provide for my ex fiance, and all she did was have a abortion behind my back because she couldn't sacrifice anything

take it from a guy who had another ex living rent free, and got played

most women are no appreciative of what you did, what you sacrificed.


ill always say and repeat again

you can save a man from burning building and he could be your enemy but he will be indebted for you for life.

you can save a single mom with 3 kids from the street, invite her into your home and she'll run up your cc behind your back

 

[Jesus]

brehs what are your views on women who committed infidelity in the past and were honest letting you know that they did it in the past

I'd respect her honesty...women can emotionally cheat as well.

 

[MikelArteta]

I'd respect her honesty...women can emotionally cheat as well.

it was emotionally cheating

i respect honesty i dunno what to think about this thouggh

 

[Youseenmywork]

How about this Kev. Let's agree that he's not gonna let her go. She must be really hot or still with her out of history and convenience (perhaps, lack of options).


Can we tell him that the gaps/months in between the times that she wasn't with him... she was very likely/inevitably seeing other men?


The reality of the situation is that yes, she DOES get bored. And i'm sorry to say, but he didn't CHALLENGE her enough.


Getting 4.0's in school is a direct correlation of a man who has his shiit together... and crazy women aren't about that.


But we can't convince op that he has to move on cuz we KNOW HE WON'T. So to remedy this dilemma, and he's not willing to jump shyt/avert the ratch...


... it is imperative that HE MUST PLAY HER GAME!!!


As a dude, i couldn't put up with that bullshiit. But i also know that everything is a two way street and the collateral damage can be returned just as bad or even more harsh than it was originally delivered.


If dude wants to salvage it, what he has to do is start dating other people. Dude is obviously TOO AVAILABLE for her. And the bytch knows that. Hence, why he always takes her back
when its convenient.


Next, completely ignore her for an entire month. This says that he has "more important" shiit going on. Why this guy even picks up the phone knowing she's playing games is beyond me... but he's going
to have to give her a dose of her own Robitussin.


Out of concern, jealously, unavailability, it will make her feel like she ain't worthy... and she will type hard creep back into his life.


I know it seems like a lot of work, but its reality and OP is invested and obviously wants to make it work. You just got to have a little edge when you're dealing with these ratches (sorry to refer to your
woman as such, but her behaviors exemplify/categorize her as such, if she knew better she's act better).


The thing about these types of scorned chicks who have been in a multitude of tumultuous relationships... their psyches are really fukked up. And if the turbulent elements of their previous flings aren't existent in their current unions... they ultimately get bored. That's why you MUST have an edge cuz the majority of these broads with all this mileage fly their minds proverbial planes and never land... so they accumulate all this baggage that never reaches the grounds. Aka the terminals of sanity.

Some girls change, and want a good guy like OP...


But most of them stay tarnished and tainted, always yearning for that next argument or reason for her to go off because "that's what gets her rocks off!"


OP, if you're listening, you're basically playing clean up man and this mess is beyond what you can control. You either play the game or put the controller down and walk away... forever.


Those are you're only two choices. Treading this ordeal the way you have been is only gonna kill your spirit, wallet, relationships with friends/family... and worst case scenario...


... your own life.




And that's what separates the men from the mice. The pits from the poodles...



... the captains --- from the crunch.




My question to you, computer nerd nurse...



... are you aboot that life?



.

Men tend to forget that in every area of a mans life he should be consistent but for some reason when a man is consistently inconsistent with a women it keeps them on their toes. I got a lot more to say but im chill and just gather my thoughts

 

[Medulla Oblongata]

Yes!!!


After numerous hours of texting and stressing (without exuding the latter, of course)...


Date numero dos with milf is secure!!! Man, we're hanging out this sunday so i really gotta make this a special one.


And btw... finally got a solid image.

Spoiler

Can you believe this nubian queen is 41?


#blackstayintact

#doesntusuallygetthislucky

 

[Youseenmywork]

Pook: A Don Juan is a state of mind, not a list of methods and tricks.