Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Cory MBA]

So it's been a while since the break up and I'm slowly getting back into the scene. I got a decent rotation for the winter lined up. Cut off my ex but she still text me asking to be friends I'm like nah. She like why you gotta be so black and white? Grey ain't my favorite color.

Not gonna lie ima miss her companionship but we weren't gonna last. She wants to explore and I'm trying to settle down have some kids. Oh well.

Now my newest problem (or adventure) is these two chicks that were friends for 10 years but they had a big fight over social meds (so you know they birds) and they hate each other. But I'm chillin with both though. I already smashed one and I have the other one in line. The first one really really really really likes me. Even when I was with my gf. She waiting for me to get over it and make her move but she got a kid and no job. She just home girl, a quick lay and then cook me some food type of deal. I think the other friend just wants to fukk to piss her off. So should I get mine and watch the Maury show unfold? Or back away?


Lastly: like I've said I wanted to start to travel. I have this other chick I used to mess with 5 years ago, who recently just got divorce with two kids and she looking for a getaway. I had this trip to DR planned for me and ex ann that was paid for so she wants to go and even gave half of her cut up front. She is one of those chicks whose slim but got a nice body Costa Rican but her face, well let's just say lights got an off switch for a reason. So I think ima take her and have some fun. Have her topless on the beach with a cigar and post pics on my IG which my ex sis still follows me and she will surely report back to her.

Doggie.....all of the women that you mentioned have some serious flaws and things to work on.

Their problems will become YOUR problems if you get too close and let them 'all in the video, all on the record,...dancin'"

Keep that dysfunction far from you - its contagious.

None of them seem worthy of a trip to the DR. Go alone, if need be.

Last bit of advice - Don't play Russian Roulette with your seed breh. Can you imagine yourself being a babby-daddy to any of these women?

 

[The ADD]

So it's been a while since the break up and I'm slowly getting back into the scene. I got a decent rotation for the winter lined up. Cut off my ex but she still text me asking to be friends I'm like nah. She like why you gotta be so black and white? Grey ain't my favorite color.

Not gonna lie ima miss her companionship but we weren't gonna last. She wants to explore and I'm trying to settle down have some kids. Oh well.

Now my newest problem (or adventure) is these two chicks that were friends for 10 years but they had a big fight over social meds (so you know they birds) and they hate each other. But I'm chillin with both though. I already smashed one and I have the other one in line. The first one really really really really likes me. Even when I was with my gf. She waiting for me to get over it and make her move but she got a kid and no job. She just home girl, a quick lay and then cook me some food type of deal. I think the other friend just wants to fukk to piss her off. So should I get mine and watch the Maury show unfold? Or back away?


Lastly: like I've said I wanted to start to travel. I have this other chick I used to mess with 5 years ago, who recently just got divorce with two kids and she looking for a getaway. I had this trip to DR planned for me and ex ann that was paid for so she wants to go and even gave half of her cut up front. She is one of those chicks whose slim but got a nice body Costa Rican but her face, well let's just say lights got an off switch for a reason. So I think ima take her and have some fun. Have her topless on the beach with a cigar and post pics on my IG which my ex sis still follows me and she will surely report back to her.

I don't even know where to begin

 

[kevm3]

Something very important in life is to find things that give you joy. In America especially, it's like many of us walk around in this dull, 'just-living', 'just-existing' sort of mindframe. Finding that balance is extremely important. It's great to be responsible and frugal, but you don't want to be so cautious and such a penny pincher that your life ends up being mundane and nondescript.

 

[MikelArteta]

I've traveled alone nothing will happen to you. Stop depending on others for your happiness.

Look when you are ready to date etc. Women will be there.

I just figured I needed some distractions but I really do need to face some issues head on. Will get right on it. Gonna do some self reflection and improvement. And you're right I am bit co-dependent. I need to be on my own for a tick to figure out myself. Still gonna go to DR though.

 

[Urbanmiracle]

You know what's my biggest problem: thinking I can solve everything. That could be why I'm around these women with problems. Can't save em or solve em

 

[Cory MBA]

You know what's my biggest problem: thinking I can solve everything. That could be why I'm around these women with problems. Can't save em or solve em

We just formed an impromptu "Pre-L" committee for you.

If you ignore the advice, we can probably tell you with 90% accuracy how each scenario will turn out breh.

Get with a winner or ride solo in the interim. You have a choice at this point. "Pre-L"....remember that.

 

[kevm3]

You know what's my biggest problem: thinking I can solve everything. That could be why I'm around these women with problems. Can't save em or solve em

That's a big thing about a lot of men. We, as men, want to solve problems and want to do the best for a woman we care about, but really, women don't want us to solve their problems, nor do they particularly care or appreciate what a dude 'does' for them. It's a harsh truth, but it's simply the reality of the matter. Many of us dudes here were 'there' for our women, listened to her problems, were her emotional rock, helped her out in the time of need and these women ended up getting bored, pulling the I'm busy routine and ended up fading away.

Bottom line is women actually prefer having some kind of problem around because it keeps them from getting bored. On the other hand, as men, most of us absolutely detest unnecessary drama, especially since it can have deadly repercussions. To women, drama is a sort of fun slice of entertainment, since more times than not, they are sheltered from the most severe repercussions of that drama. Women also love to have a man 'listen' to their problems, but not solve them...but in reality, who wants to hear complaining, especially about the same issue over and over?


Honestly, it's quite backwards dealing with a lot of women in this day and age. One of the main takeaways is to learn to find happiness by yourself. If your happiness is contingent on another person, you will forever be at their mercy and will never end up happy for long because you never know what anyone will do next. I find this especially true when it comes to dealing with women. You really never know what they will do next, so it would be utter nonsense to base your happiness upon them because you will end up being bipolar.

There is simply too much to enjoy in life than to waste time providing the rodeo circus of drama and nonsense that most women want. Focus on finding your joy, and if a woman comes along that has her mind right, let her tag along. Otherwise, keep it pushing and keep enjoying life.

 

[MikelArteta]

I touched on this earlier I had that syndrome before. a rescuer syndrome, feeling sorry for all the sob stories wanting to help and uplift her etc. Instead of dating broads with their ish together you end up with the unemployed the single mothers, the I was raped or molestatee and never had therapy, the all guys used me for sex etc
Etc.

The nice guy oh no im not like those other guys I'll treat you good etc.
Have to dead that sick disease.

Stop with the fixer uppers

You know what's my biggest problem: thinking I can solve everything. That could be why I'm around these women with problems. Can't save em or solve em

 

[kevm3]

Here's another point in a slightly off-beaten path. We, as men, need to have integrity. We see how nasty this dating scene is, so we must do our best not to contribute to it. How can we complain about something if we are taking a direct part in causing it?

Leave other mens' women alone. We might sit back and think we are being players or get some sort of ego boost from sleeping with another man's woman, but in reality, we are merely aiding a traitor in her devious acts. The woman is not only playing her man, but she's playing you as well. You're merely being used as a bit of pleasure, and if things go south, that's possibly your life on the line.

Also, how can men ever build if they can't even have the privilege of knowing that their buddy isn't sneaking behind their back socking it to their girl? Integrity goes a long way, and you will build some truly life-long friendships if you are a trustworthy person. Many doors will open up if someone knows they can trust you, especially around their woman or their finances.

 

[Mr210]

some of yall are still keeping drama in your life I see, kevm3 is dropping some heat, hope everyone is paying attention, ive been in some past relationships filled with nothing with drama spent most of my 20s dealing with that shyt. My bday just passed and a chick I broke up with like 2 1/2 years ago conviently called me to say she wanted to talk because she wanted some questions answers from back when we were together. She called on my bday on purpose because she did the same thing last year. I didnt answer this time and didnt call her back. She is 40 years old, (10 yrs older than me) no kids and never been married and is stuck to her mother like glue, her prime is passed her but she is still acting like a child

 

[Mike Ock]

Also don't be scared to point out to a chik that she's fukin up sometimes(not too often though) with you. They will get offended at that moment but they will acknowledge it and start to change their act and even apologize. The way you word it makes a difference also. Harsh words are not really necessary to leave a mark.

 

[MikelArteta]

I may be nice sometimes too nice, awkward, shy, a gentleman and sometimes even lacking the one thing that attracts women confidence.

But I've always maintained my dignity. Not impyling that I'm special or anything but the way I've lived my life I should be a 29 year old virgin , I've never picked up a girl, made the first move, sent the first message, worked game, been at a bar or a club, chased or acted like the douchebag to bring emotional highs, I've always been skinny, hell the first time a girl kissed me I was 20, yet I'm extremely lucky or extremely blessed.

I've dated a model, I've been engaged, I've been with beautiful women, I've been out with women who have made 4 times as much as I do in a year, I've had stalkers, I've had people travel hours just to do lunch or dinner with my non talkative self. I've had dates where I maybe said 4 words in total, and still having my phone blow up after. I've had more women tell me they love me then you could believe.

I'm not even bragging or boasting because I've also been played, had skittles thrown in my face, been used for dinner etc. but I've always maintained my dignity.

I've never been afraid regardless of beauty, status whatever they offer to walk away and never look back. Point is in this generation of simps and dudes with no backbones who will do anything for a shot of vagina, as a man the one thing you can maintain the one thing you can always have over women is viewing yourself as valuable being the prize, never changing, never be afraid regardless of how they look to walk away.

 

[EnzoG]

Any advice to a breh who is about to get his first piece of p*ssy

 

[Rich Spirit]

Any advice to a breh who is about to get his first piece of p*ssy

think about baseball

 

[EnzoG]

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