Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[twan83]

The funny thing is the cats who are in here posting gems the vast array of posters are mostly older late twenties early thirties, have been in numerous relationships, been engaged some even married. Have canoodled and cavorted with women of different social and cultural backgrounds, different religions, in different countries all across the world but we are wrong right?

aint that the damn truth though im 28 going on 29 was in the army traveled the world seen everything dated long enough and bout every race i can think of.

I only wanna help out the fellas that want and need help IF THEY ARE WILLING TO LISTEN.

I was in the same position they were in my youthful yrs and i learned real early and quickly and changed myself for the better during my single years and gained tons of experience and want to pass it down

 

[Numpsay]

The insults take away from whatever points you try to make though.

And in regards to your second part, most of us have have dealt with women, extensively, so a lot of these post, whether you agree with them or not, does have some truth to it, but then again, you wouldn't know that because you don't deal with women as we do.

 

[Sharp]

I dropped my pedigree in another thread.

As I'm typing this I'm on my way back from seein my kid who lives 250+ miles away with my soon to be ex-wife.

I've made mistakes that I'll never make again. Unfortunately I still have to deal with the consequences. But if I can prevent another brother from making the same mistakes, then that what I'm doing.

I was in top until I got married. By marrying her I gave her power that I did not anticipate. The man is the one who get penalized I the marriage fails which is why women primarily file for divorce. Most men don't stay because they're in love. They stay because this woman can potentially ruin them either financially, socially or emotionally. that doesn't sound like a happy marriage to me.

I dealt with it first hand. I still tried to apply my principles when I was married and my wife started rebelling. At first I was gonna charge her to the game like I would a normal chick but its much harder. She used her wife privileges to manipulate the game. She moved far away, filed an order of protection against me, claims I neglected my kid, all types of bullshyt... And this was supposed to be my wife right?

A poster said previously, when they love you they are Angels, but when they no longer care for you or need you, you will see the devil himself. She planned this shyt perfectly and if i didn't have a decent lAwyer it would have been worse.

My wife ended up getting full custody of my kid, child support. And a free crib off of me. And then can smile in my face like "r u coming to pick up your son?". I exhibited very little simp behavior and I still got screwed because I was never taught how to deal with certain situations (like most of us)

The game is dirty, so when these little kids wanna come in here and school me, I tell them to get some life experience then holla at me.

 

[MikelArteta]

Whatever niccas. Im starting to think yall didnt have friends in high school and werent allowed to go to parties and stuff where social skills were learned. None of this shyt is rocket science

The best way to pick up women and learn to deal with women is to deal with wmen. You can read all the posts in the world but you wont know what you like or what works for you until you get out there and see.

See brehs? Right away can't even talk without hurling insults, because you don pander to women suddenly you have no friends in high school

 

[Captain Crunch]

I dropped my pedigree in another thread.

As I'm typing this I'm on my way back from seein my kid who lives 250+ miles away with my soon to be ex-wife.

I've made mistakes that I'll never make again. Unfortunately I still have to deal with the consequences. But if I can prevent another brother from making the same mistakes, then that what I'm doing.

I was in top until I got married. By marrying her I gave her power that I did not anticipate. The man is the one who get penalized I the marriage fails which is why women primarily file for divorce. Most men don't stay because they're in love. They stay because this woman can potentially ruin them either financially, socially or emotionally. that doesn't sound like a happy marriage to me.

I dealt with it first hand. I still tried to apply my principles when I was married and my wife started rebelling. At first I was gonna charge her to the game like I would a normal chick but its much harder. She used her wife privileges to manipulate the game. She moved far away, filed an order of protection against me, claims I neglected my kid, all types of bullshyt... And this was supposed to be my wife right?

A poster said previously, when they love you they are Angels, but when they no longer care for you or need you, you will see the devil himself. She planned this shyt perfectly and if i didn't have a decent lAwyer it would have been worse.

My wife ended up getting full custody of my kid, child support. And a free crib off of me. And then can smile in my face like "r u coming to pick up your son?". I exhibited very little simp behavior and I still got screwed because I was never taught how to deal with certain situations (like most of us)

The game is dirty, so when these little kids wanna come in here and school me, I tell them to get some life experience then holla at me.

So true
I've seen family members and family friends go through the Child Support system, and damn it's cold.

Word of advice to anyone who's young(16 - 25) who wants to have kids or get married, DON'T. Unless you're prepared for the worst that can happen(like what Sharp said), don't have kids; get married, or even have a committed relationship.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Listening to women's advice on women doesnt help in certain situations.I learned about women thru my interactions and first hand experence. I asked female relatives (when i was younger) before I came to this conclusion and guess what they were majority wrong.They give you the old advice..... 'Buy her flowers' this that etc....basically simp,kiss up to her etc..the old approaches and this lead to many rejections and disappointments. But you live you learn .Then I came to the conclusion of doing it MY way and learning thru experience.It's like this a quarterback can practice,get advice from the coach,study the playbook but when he is in a game situation and the play breaks down,he has to learn how to audible or he wont make it out there..

 

[twan83]

I dropped my pedigree in another thread.

As I'm typing this I'm on my way back from seein my kid who lives 250+ miles away with my soon to be ex-wife.

I've made mistakes that I'll never make again. Unfortunately I still have to deal with the consequences. But if I can prevent another brother from making the same mistakes, then that what I'm doing.

I was in top until I got married. By marrying her I gave her power that I did not anticipate. The man is the one who get penalized I the marriage fails which is why women primarily file for divorce. Most men don't stay because they're in love. They stay because this woman can potentially ruin them either financially, socially or emotionally. that doesn't sound like a happy marriage to me.

I dealt with it first hand. I still tried to apply my principles when I was married and my wife started rebelling. At first I was gonna charge her to the game like I would a normal chick but its much harder. She used her wife privileges to manipulate the game. She moved far away, filed an order of protection against me, claims I neglected my kid, all types of bullshyt... And this was supposed to be my wife right?

A poster said previously, when they love you they are Angels, but when they no longer care for you or need you, you will see the devil himself. She planned this shyt perfectly and if i didn't have a decent lAwyer it would have been worse.

My wife ended up getting full custody of my kid, child support. And a free crib off of me. And then can smile in my face like "r u coming to pick up your son?". I exhibited very little simp behavior and I still got screwed because I was never taught how to deal with certain situations (like most of us)

The game is dirty, so when these little kids wanna come in here and school me, I tell them to get some life experience then holla at me.

I can relate to a extent of what you went thru. Most people already know whats up with my ex wife. and im sorry you didnt get custody of your kids and im grateful i did in my case.

Whether you simp or not in a marriage if you don't marry the right person whether you know or not and have kids with them especially that shyt will haunt you for the rest of your life when you do the right thing and get nothing back in return but hell.

There is NO SURE WAY OF BEING WITH THE RIGHT PERSON ITS JUST A LEAP OF FAITH AND A JUDGEMENT YOU MAKE that you hope is right thats the reality of things. This applies to both man and woman

 

[Shameonyou]

In life if you have to put effort into something its either because you want it bad enough, or it doesn't want you bad enough

put that into the context of attracting women

 

[Ohene]

Whatever niccas. Im starting to think yall didnt have friends in high school and werent allowed to go to parties and stuff where social skills were learned. None of this shyt is rocket science

The best way to pick up women and learn to deal with women is to deal with wmen. You can read all the posts in the world but you wont know what you like or what works for you until you get out there and see.

read this post and you'll see that we already know such.

its obvious you havent read the thread and dont get the premise of it

http://www.the-coli.com/941602-post1609.html

Were not saying that by reading this stuff we will all of a sudden become wizards at attaining women. Were not idiots. All we are doing is reflecting and detailing some of the things we have noticed given our experiences and sharing. Partially to see if our theories hold weight and were not the only ones to notice the same things. Each one teach one. What this thread allows a person to do is spot the bullshyt or plot from a mile away.Obviously a dude aint gonna be like, "Wait a second, this is exactly what Kevm3 told me would happen on page 11 and this is what I have to do to counter it :

But it might allow somebody to observe whats unraveling and think a little bit more critically at the very least.

 

[winb83]

This thread proves that all men cant be logical. If ANY of you fukkheads actually read anything I wrote none of it is encouraging simp behaviour or anything of that sort. Yall just saw a woman giving advice and started regurgitating some bullshyt some other clueless nicca told you about women. I said remain confident keep your dignity and use common sense. How is that encouraging simp behaviour, or benefitting me? Bless yall lost little hearts

the problem is your advice summary you've posted is that its obvious stuff if a guy is having trouble dealing with women its not the obvious stuff that's gonna help him. its the illusive obvious aka the stuff that's right in his face but he can't see because he's not looking for it that's the problem.

 

[kevm3]

Attracting women ain't the hard part. Having a fruitful relationship IS the difficult part after having to deal with all the possible pitfalls and landmines.

The reason we say this isn't common sense is because it isn't.

You sit here and be the responsible man... make sure all the bills are paid, come home the same time every night and never stay out too late, bring your woman roses, tell her you love her everyday, always make time for her, cut out all other females in your life, sit there and help her work through her problems and always do your best to brighten up your mood, you would think, given common sense and consideration, that you would be rewarded with loyalty and affection in return. More likely you will be treated like a boring simp and she will take that money you are giving her and possibly give it to another man and will drive him around in that car you are paying for... paying for her school? Most likely she will mess with a negro she met at that school that you are paying for. Go ahead and try it if you don't believe me. Give a woman your car to drive around and I bet you you will find another negro behind that steering wheel or you will get that car crashed.

You would think common sense would be that you treat people that you truly love as best as possible, but sorry, doesn't work like that. To keep these females attracted over the long-term, you have to do several counterintuitive things. How many times have you seen the guy a woman has called a sweetheart sit around frustrated that she only wants to be friends with him? How many times have you seen a woman sleep with and continually deal with a dude she says she can't stand?

Go ahead and 'trust your woman' and let her 'homies' take her to dinner or go to the club with her if you want to. Go ahead and tell a woman your deepest feelings and all your secrets. Go ahead and be 'understanding' of her nonsense when she brings it around. Go ahead and believe a prenuptial means that you don't really love her and you are already planning for the relationship to fail if you want to. Go ahead and take that advice and we'll see how things turn out in a few years.

 

[Ohene]

exactly. this girl is saying we dont get women and were bitter but if we didnt...how would we have attained this knowledge in the first place? By watching soap operas?

 

[winb83]

Whatever niccas. Im starting to think yall didnt have friends in high school and werent allowed to go to parties and stuff where social skills were learned. None of this shyt is rocket science

The best way to pick up women and learn to deal with women is to deal with wmen. You can read all the posts in the world but you wont know what you like or what works for you until you get out there and see.

most women are using high level manipulation tactics on men so how is going out and dealing with them casually gonna teach you to understand levels of manipulation you might not even be able to see?

the best way to learn how to pick up and deal with women is to figure out who you are as a man and define your own identity. to refuse to compromise, to refuse to allow anyone to pressure you to do anything. to have standards, demand respect, to know what you will and what you won't tolerate from anyone and draw the hard lines in the sand. the concept of most guys game is to find out what she wants and reflect those values at her. the exact opposite of what they should be doing.

so many men look at a woman like you and go i want her and they're willing to do whatever it takes to attract you. at that point they've surrendered all their power. you're basically telling men like this to go out and interact with women with such a weak internal state to them. when these women notice this they go "i can get this guy to do X" and the manipulation begins. the dishonesty of her dealing with a guy she has zero interest in just because he can be manipulated begins. next thing you know she's rationing out pity p*ssy to control him while fukking others on the side and cause he's getting p*ssy he thinks he won. he's got her pregnant maybe even caved into her demands to get married and he's gonna get taken to the cleaners by a court system that has no sympathy for men when things inevitably fail.

this isn't about social skills cause most people can be social enough to deal with others its about a man developing himself, becoming firm in his identity, living in his own reality and having complete control over his life. when he's reached that point then he can step out and deal with women. until then he has no business dealing with them.

 

[kevm3]

lol man that's just a tactic women use when you ain't buying the fact they are giving you a handful of dog doodoo and telling you it's gold. They get to name-calling. You are bitter, depressed, insecure, angry, etc.

- Telling a woman to sign a prenup, which is an insurance policy in case the relationship goes wrong, and she'll tell you you're insecure and believe that the marriage will fail off top. But if she was making significantly more money than you, she wouldn't marry you in the first place or best believe she will ask for that prenup in most cases.

- Telling an equal to a man woman that she should start paying for her own portion of meals and not expecting a dude to pay for it since that's what equality entails, and you're cheap

- Deciding not to date a single mother and take care of her kids and you're someone that needs to man-up.

- Refusing to deal with women who expect the world but bring nothing to the table and you're angry and a misogynist.

- Point out the fact that the legal system can demolish a man at no fault of his own and you are bitter.

Not believing that that peanut she just handed you is a marvelous diamond makes you all kinds of angry and bitter to these women when in reality you are quite at peace since you don't have to deal with all the drama. The ones who REALLY are bitter and angry are the ones that got okey-doked and they have to pay alimony and child support or risk being put in jail and have to watch all that money he is paying go into the pockets of another man when she's using it to dress herself up for him and to move him into the house that she now owns but you still have to make payments on.

Honestly man, with most women, it's opposite day. If she talks bad about you, you will likely have a lot more success with her. You're the jerk, mean guy, yada yada, but she can't leave you alone. You're the sweetheart, cutie, etc., and you're the negro hearing about the problems she's having from dealing with the guy she supposedly hates. When women call you angry, bitter, etc., you're a guy that is hip to the game and refuses to be manipulated. I can go on and on. This is exactly why we tell these negroes not to listen to the 'female advice' they are likely to be given, but if they want to ask for it and take it, they'll learn the hard way.

 

[Doin2Much Williams]

Just tossing in my pair of lincolns...

Knowin is literally half the battle.

Application is just as, if not moreso important than understanding
The logistics and intricacies (even tho Thou says its much simpler
Than that) of dealing w the opposite sex first hand.

Most of what i learned during educational phase on sohhs golden years
Taught the first hand; "no good can come out of simping".

That was during most of last decade where the words of wisdom
Was bein implemented, reinforced and deliberately emphasized.

But it seemed, while i dated, all that advice and way of thinking
/approaching flew out of the window.

I fukked up time after time because i didnt have experience.

Trial and error is truly the only way to understand and u must
Put yourself out there, get rejected countlessly, flaked on incessantly
Or worsest yet; burned... Before u learn.

My brothers here have been dishing out bars of gold.

Take advantage of what so many men have been thru and harness
This advice because in this day and age of vast electronic communication
And social websites... We have to be so cautious of how we play
This game of love.

In highschool: u get a girls digits. Since cellphones and email
Wasnt prevalent yet, she either had to say yes or no face to face
(or she'll mark her reply in a yes/no love letter on some archaic
But sweet "will u go out w me after 6th period" shyt.

Those innocent days are gone.

Technology has literally dilluted and tarnished the act of
Dating.

Plenty of fish no longer is used as an adage but rather a form
Of hookin up with complete, utter perfect strangers.

And i sure as hell doubt that Balkey saw that coming.

Umph.

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