But most black men aren't in professions to be considered an elite group. So how come the world middle class aren't ready to marry? And white and Asian men especially make way more but they manage to settle down.
Just admit the elephant in the room whether the black man is dead broke or a middle manage is that having a rotation imaginary* of p*ssy is more valueable than family and commitment.
I say imaginary because a lot of you men think you're going to get ass when you're balling but ain't seen no receipts yet.
Don't get hot, Ladysimone, im just playing around in here.
But to answer your questions
1. Exactly. Most black men aren't in elite positions. This is pretty much the crux of the issue with the women who taste success. Instead of realizing they are small fish in a very large ocean, the ocean being
other professional women and non-professional women who probably make better partners than career women, they talk about "there are no good men."
Realistically, how many well-off men are dating equally credentialed women? Very fukking few. And thats ok. Its about building, and sometimes your building with a 65-35 or better ratio as far as income
and assets. Now, we know the "Women like thugs" shyt is overplayed, right? Especially in the late 20s. These women are looking for career-minded black men, where there are probably more
career minded black women available to each one. See the problem? So instead of looking for a man who is ready to do the family thing, they are trying to shoot parallel or higher for a man
who might just be getting his first taste of life and enjoying the fruits of his labors. Hell, they may even have college sweethearts they married (that should give a hint about the time to look for a husband, but I digress). If you are a lady with degrees and doing big things, are you too "elevated' to date a man who isn't as far along, or has no aspirations to rise in the corporate ladder? If men did that, very few
would get married. This is pretty much the point to be reinforced. The more you ask for on the menu, the smaller your pool gets. No, they shouldn't settle if they don't feel as much, but when you
have a goal in mind about the man you want, sorry, you have to wait. You cant trick, bewitch, bamboozle, or snooker that "perfect guy" into being ready. Its not gonna happen, and you have to do
what men have done for AGES: go fukking hunt, and don't stop till you found your catch. If you sit and wait, you screwed yourself.
2. Marriage may be hurting for lots of reasons: antiquated for a lot of folks, costly (especially if someone wants a white-dress wedding with 200 folks in attendance), fear of commitment, or the most
prevalent reason, it doesn't work for them. And in this economy?
Getting your finances tied up with someone else can be the death knell to that relationship the second shyt goes south.
3. White folks have an economic leg up for the most part, and them folks are marrying in college, a lot of them. Again, sounds like it could be
a gold mine. Attend a college where
black males are in abundance, play the field, boom, might come away with a winner. Then your girls will ask you how you got him, meanwhile they skipped college altogether or at least
didn't pay attention to career minded men who looked to be more down for commitment. Asian families across the board usually house larger than average families, and stick together longer,
leading to a deeper watering of the roots, so to speak. Don't toss your kid out at fukking 18 and you might be able to help them be more financially prepped down the line. Put away for college,
even when you are single
, and conduct yourself like a person ready to make real shyt happen. They have different cultural values altogether, but there are black men who feel the same.
Find them. Or complain about "no good men." Again, if the onus is on the man alone to initiate, you get what THEY choose to give you, and it may not be what you want.
4. A lot of men can get ass without that good job. Tinder. Pof. Hell, spitting in the streets. Thats not the issue, cause plenty men do both career advancement and smutting out ladies fine.
What happens when you are considered a greater catch as a man is the women you attract are of a higher grade:usually better looking, more classy, better educated, etc. Suddenly while
you got your accounting degree or some shyt, this dude is on his way to clearing his first 60k+ a year, and works with women who keep themselves in shape, and well educated, and cut-throat
when it comes to attracting males. But
Even if his womanizing doesn't increase, what does? His free time to pursue what he wants. Travel? Hobbyist collector of trinkets?
Oh, and the most important one, his time at work
Remember, while you trying to spring up roots, you dealing with a guy who is probably tired and relieved to just hang with
a beautiful woman. He don't have time to nurse a relationship, so instead he gets into situationships with one or more women and focuses on his work.
Bottom line: Women and men are different, and women are trying to do what men have done for so long without the extra legwork that men have to go through. Do you know one of the top reasons
dudes chase money and "things"? To get women! Not necessarily BETTER women, women period. So when he finally gets there, not every woman is "the one" to marry, so while you think
there are no men serious about marriage, you are wrong. You just haven't met the right one. So hop on your horse and light a torch. These men aren't going to suddenly value these
women because they earn more money than average. Jeannette might be finishing up her undergrad and hoping for better things, but you know what, maybe Brandon falls for the barista
who serves him his coffee on the way to work every day. Why? People skills. When you raise your requirements, you goddamn better believe it means more time alone. This goes for men
and women, so its best women digest that when they think education and employment are suddenly relationship qualifiers. Its more than that.
"athletic, but don't play sports"
I was having fun cause I know @Juicy was about to drop a shoe in my soup over that comment.
for the first sista to say hi
