So what does a man do when he is looking for his wife...

[Taadow]

All these excuses and bullshyt.


If a man can’t find a woman to marry in 2021 then guess what? HE is the problem.


Hell if a man can’t find at least three women who would legitimately marry him in 2021 then HE is the problem.


This shyt ain’t rocket science. Any man who has a job, is reasonably hygienic, isn’t a creep, and has a modicum of self confidence can find a woman who will be into him. The test isn’t finding a woman to marry, the test is finding the RIGHT woman to marry. And even then there are plenty of dope black women in the world who are marriage material.

Are you telling me that you don’t know any men like the ones you describe in bold
without partners?

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Where you stay at? Are they all fine?

I’m in Charlotte. And there’s plenty of pretty chicks here looking to get married.

 

[Taadow]

Everybody doesn't settle. That's something those that settled tell themselves to feel better about their choices

I’ll let you tell it...but every person who I’ve ever heard say “I don’t settle” didn’t have anybody.

 

[Taadow]

just tell us what answer you're fishing for breh

and then do it.

it's your life.

This has nothing to do with me, bruh.

Im just asking a question that came up in another thread.

 

[Hollywood Co]

This ain’t in The Bible...

Which why I did not mention biblical scripture but typically vows are made under God and to your wife.

God has always made covenants with man as noted throughout scripture and marriage is covenant you make with him. You can go into marriage without it obviously but that covering with the creator brings a peace that no woman alone can give you.

 

[Ziggiy]

Are you telling me that you don’t know any men like the ones you describe in bold
without partners?

Nope.


Because the black men I know and associate with aren’t pathetic incels.


Association Breeds Similarity

 

[Jean Jacket]

Move around.

Every "perfect" woman has at least 20 clones.

Most women past 30 have been brought to reality. Aim at 33 to 35 and you'll find marriage material.

 

[Sniper]

I’ll say that, based on the fact that everybody doesn’t find a mate.

Most people do find a mate, it just doesn’t always last forever.

But apparently you have your mind made up and have a theory based on your answers so I’ll help you out.

You’ll never find her, she doesn’t exist and you’ll always be alone wishing that the woman you always would appear. But she’ll never be found, at least not by you.

Was that better?

 

[Taadow]

Which why I did not mention biblical scripture but typically vows are made under God and to your wife.

God has always made covenants with man as noted throughout scripture and marriage is covenant you make with him. You can go into marriage without it obviously but that covering with the creator brings a peace that no woman alone can give you.

But here’s the thing:

you cannot go into a marriage covenant with someone if they don’t want to get married -
which is the point of this thread.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Dude also needs to do a bit of introspection to see if he is marriage material as well. He should ask himself why he wants to be married and what his goals are.

Then he should identify what his past relationships looked like and what he did right and what he did wrong in them. Take the good and leave the bad.

Next he should look at any unresolved traumas or issues he may face that could mess up a long-term Union. (I.e. addictions, inability to be faithful, co-dependency, need for validation, resentment towards opposite sex, health issues, trust issues, anger issues, ect.)

Then he needs to look at the pattern of women he may have pursued in the past and how he was treated by them. Some like chasing emotionally unavailable women. Or like high maintenance. Evaluate his needs as a man and what he wants in a partner and why.

Then he should start widening his social circle and making it known to his friends that he is ready to settle down. Putting himself out there. Mixers, social events, different activities. Talk and interact with a lot of people as you enjoy yourself.

Depending on his environment and him, he should be able to find someone on his level that is compatible.

 

[Taadow]

Most people do find a mate, it just doesn’t always last forever.

So then what’s the point?

Or further: is it even an L if somebody doesn’t find a mate, given that it may not last forever?

 

[goatmane]

Date younger

College chicks / grads that just starting out

be friends with some young nikkas in college. put u on a girl

 

[Taadow]

Every "perfect" woman has at least 20 clones.

Nobody’s perfect, though...I don’t even think people expect this.

 

[Sniper]

So then what’s the point?

Or further: is it even an L if somebody doesn’t find a mate, given that it may not last forever?

Hey man, people get married hoping it lasts forever. But what are the chances those same people will be married for 50 plus years and die together?

You gotta take a chance, live life and do the best you can with what you have.

 

[Taadow]

Nope.


Because the black men I know and associate with aren’t pathetic incels.


Association Breeds Similarity

Are you married?