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Im Starting realize and learn the only women you should truly love is your mother( if she was decent) and your daughters

:whoa: I wouldn’t go that far. There’s a lot of hyperbole in this thread. For example, I love my wife. At her worst she definitely acts like a child so I get the women being grown children comparison. But she brings a lot to the table in terms of empathy, patience, and nurturing that I just don’t have. So at her best she’s the perfect complement to my life and an awesome person to build with.
 

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Best thread in a while.

One thing I've learned is women are very deep and very secretive about their deepest feelings and desires. Alot of times it turns unto secret resentments for their husband. Thats why a lot of them turn cold and have these sexless marriage.

on top of that society has turned women into dreamers. Most really feel they should have lives similar to Michelle Obama or whoever they admire. So here comes a good faithful man and provider. Things are great for a few years, but slowly her secret desires and aspirations get the best of her Though unattainable, this woman secretly resents here man for not providing her dreams. That's why u her married men complaining they've bought bigger homes and better cars for their wives but she's still not happy.

Took me 5 years for my girl to dig out of my girl that she felt a she shouldn't pay any bills. I was paying 80 of our bills. She never expressed it. When we first moved in together I asked her how much can she afford towards bills. She said 500$, I was like cool, ill pay 1500. 4 years later she said I was getting over on her.

So there are things women know aren't logical attainable, so they don't speak on it, but deep down will resent you not providing it.
I know the board usually clown you for rambling and making posts that don't make sense but this was a great post.
 

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I see why a lot of members of the coli kinda hate women now, bad relationships with women started at birth for a lot of y’all and now it’s going into y’all relationships as adults. This thread is like a sad therapy session
You can see the scars in some of the responses. It's sad to see. They got literal disdain for women. But then again there's a lot of scorned women out there with the same level of hate and distrust for men
 

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My mom can there was a time when my moms was the only one working pops just got out the military she never told us about it but she held it down for all of us family of 4. My moms is very head strong hard working when my parents did split it was just me and her. I worked at the time went to school played ball to it was hard but my moms held it down and payed the rent and kept the lights. Never complained never looked for a handout and I love that about her and that helped mold me into the man i am today.


My mom is coming to Hawaii for Mother’s Day I haven’t seen her in years and I can’t wait to spend time with here. Got a mother day dinner planned at this steakhouse nice view to watch the sunset.


At some point I think as a man you gotta realize you can’t depend on no one you parents can only take you so far you gotta get out and get it yourself and stay motivated my moms can hold the family structure. The relationship with my dad and her hurt her peace of mind and sometimes the peace of mind is more than keeping that together and I understood that.
 

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Couldn't maintain a normal family structure with a man in the house?

Honest convo.


I was thinking about this the other day, the older I get the more I'm exposed to women and their habits....sure I still love my mom...shes a lovely mother, I adore her but she absolutely has a way of emasculating a man. She's very head strong and the idea of a man being a man in the home seems to be the antithesis of her existence. Crazy thing is I see the exact qualities in my child's mom. Its to the point where I feel like wverytime I get off work I have to mentally psych myself for the new battle that is the "power struggle" of my home. It is exhausting.
For a long time I was very mad at my dad for leaving but the older I get the more I accept how it literally feels like the only choice you have left.
Yep only choice I had to leave. Black women will do it to ya, love my mom but got damm she hella toxic and growing up it would of been impossible for any man to deal with .. also my sons mother has some demasculating unpreciative traits .. i would get off work after 8 hours gottdamm and have to do the dishes to the breakfast I cooked for the bish ? TF nevertheless I have joint shared verbal custody atm.
 

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You can see the scars in some of the responses. It's sad to see. They got literal disdain for women. But then again there's a lot of scorned women out there with the same level of hate and distrust for men
Most definitely, it ain’t just men. I see a lot of women who are :angry: anytime men get brought up. Seems like it’s just hurt people, hurting people
 

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I see why a lot of members of the coli kinda hate women now, bad relationships with women started at birth for a lot of y’all and now it’s going into y’all relationships as adults. This thread is like a sad therapy session
This shyt always starts at home. Sad. Women get hurt, have sons and mess those sons up whether intentionally or unintentionally. It sucks.
 

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Yep only choice I had to leave. Black women will do it to ya, love my mom but got damm she hella toxic and growing up it would of been impossible for any man to deal with .. also my sons mother has some demasculating unpreciative traits .. i would get off work after 8 hours gottdamm and have to do the dishes to the breakfast I cooked for the bish ? TF nevertheless I have joint shared verbal custody atm.
Did she also work? What did she do?
 

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People quick to call these type of thread women hate or hurt men complaining. But I think most men are discovering how complicated women are. and it's kind of shocking, scary and disappointing that most will never have a lasting relationship.

Might sound like hate, but most women emotions are too inconsistent to gamble your love and financial well-being on.
 
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