Washington Post: Hookup Culture Isn’t The Real Problem Facing Singles Today. It’s Math.

[Yup]

They may have those magazines but their aim is to provide quick tips (mostly for women who already have someone) and they don't really focus on long-term self improvement.

Just look at this list:
Be the Girl Every Guy Is Obsessed With

Full of dumb tips like "Graze his arm when you walk by." or "show more skin." How is this gonna help any lady with their dilemma?

And you know what I meant. Where's the female equivalent of "Hitch"? There are substantially more men soliciting the services of other men to help them get their shyt together so they can get women, than the counterpart.

You bring up Cosmo which is the equivalent of a Men's Fitness mag giving fat nikkas "10 tips to have rock hard abs."

There are books out there on female self-improvement, you named sex magazine. What did you expect?

 

[Kenny West]

So, I cant meet an attractive lady, settle down without marrying and let the relationship run its course? Just saying.

I think marriage/LTR should be for locking down a special female you have chemistry with, keyword: SPECIAL.

Not for just escaping the game.

 

[MikelArteta]

Who follows that jargon even in the bible it says he who finds a good thing

Men and especially women need to stop dreaming and believing God is going to send them something or someone special. Ain't no help coming. You have to make it happen yourself. Look at the odds and do the math. Stop overappraising yourself. Potential doesn't make you special or valuable. Scarcity dictates value.


Logic and Reason muthafukkkas!!

 

[The ADD]

It really is. Couldnt have simplified it better myself.

I go about the bolded a little differently. I'll date a girl for an extended period of time but they know upfront that marriage most likely isnt in the cards. A lot of modern women are cool with it.

 

[philmonroe]

They may have those magazines but their aim is to provide quick tips (mostly for women who already have someone) and they don't really focus on long-term self improvement.

Just look at this list:
Be the Girl Every Guy Is Obsessed With

Full of dumb tips like "Graze his arm when you walk by." or "show more skin." How is this gonna help any lady with their dilemma?

And you know what I meant. Where's the female equivalent of "Hitch"? There are substantially more men soliciting the services of other men to help them get their shyt together so they can get women, than the counterpart.

You bring up Cosmo which is the equivalent of a Men's Fitness mag giving fat nikkas "10 tips to have rock hard abs."

No I didn't know what you meant because if you look (not very hard) you can find the equivalent female version of this stuff. nikkas just don't want to be wrong I tell ya. Its ok you not perfect nobody is its ok to be wrong.

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

There are books out there on female self-improvement, you named sex magazine. What did you expect?

Look y'all know what I'm trying to say. There's a prevailing culture within the male community of getting your bread up, getting in shape, and generally improving yourself FIRST before you even think about trying to get the girl of your dreams. The world doesn't lie to men. We don't grow up with a fairy tale belief. We know we can get a certain quality of women if we put in work in certain areas.

I don't see that with women.

That's all. Are there exceptions? Yes, of course.

No I didn't know what you meant because if you look (not very hard) you can find the equivalent female version of this stuff. nikkas just don't want to be wrong I tell ya. Its ok you not perfect nobody is its ok to be wrong.

Okay cool, show me the pop culture examples of this then. There have been major theatrical releases of this premise on the male side. because it's such an accepted normality.

 

[old_timer]

:kermitleanin:

kermit drinking out of double cups now??

mjhand

• old_timer
• Jul 8, 2015

i can't even

and @Art Barr really tearing it up in here

 

[The ADD]

Look y'all know what I'm trying to say. There's a prevailing culture within the male community of getting your bread up, getting in shape, and generally improving yourself FIRST before you even think about trying to get the girl of your dreams. The world doesn't lie to men. We don't grow up with a fairy tale belief. We know we can get a certain quality of women if we put in work in certain areas.

I don't see that with women.

That's all. Are there exceptions? Yes, of course.

I would argue that the culture for some women addresses, education and improving but a by product is the "I don't need a man" narrative. It's an odd thing of building against instead of building for

 

[philmonroe]

Look y'all know what I'm trying to say. There's a prevailing culture within the male community of getting your bread up, getting in shape, and generally improving yourself FIRST before you even think about trying to get the girl of your dreams. The world doesn't lie to men. We don't grow up with a fairy tale belief. We know we can get a certain quality of women if we put in work in certain areas.

I don't see that with women.

That's all. Are there exceptions? Yes, of course.



Okay cool, show me the pop culture examples of this then. There have been major theatrical releases of this premise on the male side. because it's such an accepted normality.

nikka if you care enough find it yourself. Google ain't hard to use at all. Every group has their stuff they have to work on you sounding like a sucker nikka we got all Thai they don't have to do type nikka. Who the fukk cares? We all should be working on improving ourselves anyway so whether or not woman have to work on themselves (they do in different ways) is honestly irrelevant

 

[iBrowse]

In.....

Especially when I saw this:

Of course, these lopsided numbers might not matter if young, college-educated women become more willing to date — and, eventually, marry — across socioeconomic lines. But according to separate research by University of Pennsylvania economist Jeremy Greenwood and by UCLA sociologists Christine Schwartz and Robert Mare, educational intermarriage is less common today than at any point over the past half century.

 

[Yup]

Look y'all know what I'm trying to say. There's a prevailing culture within the male community of getting your bread up, getting in shape, and generally improving yourself FIRST before you even think about trying to get the girl of your dreams. The world doesn't lie to men. We don't grow up with a fairy tale belief. We know we can get a certain quality of women if we put in work in certain areas.

I don't see that with women.

That's all. Are there exceptions? Yes, of course.



Okay cool, show me the pop culture examples of this then. There have been major theatrical releases of this premise on the male side. because it's such an accepted normality.

I think we see what we want see, there is a lot of material out there for women to improve themselves and get more of what they want before, during and after relationships. Here are several books that I own:

Not to mention endless books targeting women about relationships.

There are different schools of thought; some believe in the "accept me as I am", flaws and all and there's the school of "to get what you want, you need to step your game up, etc...".

 

[Rawtid]

I would argue that the culture for some women addresses, education and improving but a by product is the "I don't need a man" narrative. It's an odd thing of building against instead of building for

Women that say this have a skewed view of relationships in the first place. A man shouldn't be easily replaced by degrees, a dildo and your ability to cut your own grass or take out your own trash.

 

[iBrowse]

i stated all that in threads before


i need to drop a book

Yall are probably ghostwriting for these writers

 

[bouncy]

Damn, y'all turned this into a relationship class!

The article, as well as myself, is just saying because there are more women in college, and live a better life its more easier for men that get ass from them because now the odds are in our favor. All that marriage and kids, talk is when you go deeper with that person.

It's just about getting your foot in the door, or in other words, SEX!

Don't worry, its not bad, and going to kill you. It's part of adulthood. Learn how to protect yourself in many ways, and get out there. It's fun searching for that special one. I don't know why everyone is always complaining. You will find someone who you can see yourself settling down with if you don't think it's all about yourself. It's a give, and take. I'm not ready for family, and all that right now, and as a man I can take my time, so I'm not rushing it. It's just how life is. Women need to make decisions earlier about family life because they only get a certain amount of healthy eggs, as man its not like that for me as long as I take care of myself.

Don't hate me, I'm just giving my side of the story!

 

[iBrowse]

Oh, this thread again...

old hag

Yo momma...