Washington Post: Hookup Culture Isn’t The Real Problem Facing Singles Today. It’s Math.

[Just like bruddas]

we are fukked in my honest opinion. I been off and on smashing this woman for like 5 years straight. Folks would see us and be like " why won't yall get together" She would make up an excuse and I'll just hit them with the because I don't have my degree yet that's why.

But I just because all these college grad nikkas be playin her left and right, once I get mine I'm gonna friendzone her ass and find me someone else until I'll enjoy the great sex and free drinks

 

[Kid McNamara]

Damn I was totally off wasn't i?

See I was just under the impression that people get hitched because they just get sick of being soooo self centered all the damn time. Like really son, your whole life?

In that way I sort of respect marriage, long term relationships etc... I don't advocate it, but I see why people do it.

But preaching to kids why they should never do it, its wrong under every circumstancd and fukk hoes all day till u die, is a disservice to the experience of life. Idk, it's just how I feel.

Not necessarily about that. It's about become the best version of yourself and not allowing fear to dictate the moves you make. All dudes should be educated on the long-game instead of the short. Put yourself in position to succeed in every way by age 35 and continue reaping the rewards. Use your youth and energy chasing success instead of women. Never settle down in your twenties as you're not old enough/wise enough to make that decision responsibly.

That, plus basic game, being in the best physical shape, not being lame, understand social situations and social dynamics. All boys need this information.

 

[Lakerman0834]

You make good points but one of the things with this study is that it doesn't address that most these folks in college aren't even looking for mates. You could actually reduce these numbers if folks would actually look for marriage partners in college. But in American society the view is to go to college and have fun and experience.

When actually college is the perfect time to look for a mate. This is the only time in life where you will be surrounded by this many eligible men and women. Plus unlike in the real world you can find out so much about them because you are constantly around them and everyone knows everyone's business in college.

If you are foolish to wait until after college to find a mate your chances of marriage probably decreases because now you have to balance work life and have to find eligible mates.

The realest thing a brotha ever told me (an older kat when I was in college) was college was the time to find your mate. Don't wait until after college because it gets harder.

I stress they shyt to my nephews and nieces who are in college.

undergrad is for smashing all them college hoes and grad school is were u find that wife

 

[Cloutius Maximus]

reading this thread like "shyt i need to get my money up "

 

[LezJepzin]

So I'm basically fukked then if I didn't finish college when it comes to finding a decent chick to date ?

Not everyone has that yellow brick road some of y'all talking about. Especially for the ones who had the stars align right for them to marry their college sweetheart

 

[Kid McNamara]

At the end of the day in an office setting it's really about who likes you and who you know as much as it about what you can actually do for the company in terms of work. And when companies go from the black to the red and its time to trim the fat so to speak and let some people go, people always get cut who were good workers simply because they didnt play the office politics game right. They may have worked hard but they were aloof from their co-workers or maybe the boss just didnt like them. And Cacs dont like us. Plain and simple. They dont even like to be around us. To say anything else is a fukking lie. And quite often that person on the outside looking in those types setting like that is Black people. Ive always demo'd with older cats and old heads and thats the one thing I noticed early. Black men aint getting no love out there in the professional world unless we do this shyt ourself.

You're not wrong about office politics. You're also not wrong in assuming racism exists in pretty much every office and industry (this can be used to your advantage). It is what it is.

However, you're dead wrong in assuming it's just black folks who have a hard time climbing the ranks. Just because the majority of upper management is white doesn't mean the majority of white people have a shot at upper management. Talent, aggressiveness, and social acuity climb the ranks, regardless of race. It's not about tokenism either. Everyone has a stereotype they have to fight, everyone has a culture they have to fit into it. Turn it into a positive instead of complaining about it.

...and while you complain, certain guys are going to be winners no matter what because they get it.

New rule: You can't complain until you've done everything in your power to succeed. Until you've put in 12-14 hour days for weeks on end, until you've broken your body and mind down, until you've failed and failed in order to succeed, you don't have the right to an opinion.

You can keep bringing your negativity (I'm sure you'll call it "realism") around, but I've said what needed saying.

 

[JamilALAmin]

You're not wrong about office politics. You're also not wrong in assuming racism exists in pretty much every office and industry (this can be used to your advantage).

You're dead wrong in assuming it's just black folks who have a hard time climbing the ranks. Just because the majority of upper management is white doesn't mean the majority of white people have a shot at upper management. Talent, aggressiveness, and social acuity climb the ranks, regardless of race. It's not about tokenism either. Everyone has a stereotype they have to fight, everyone has a culture they have to fit into it. Turn it into a positive instead of complaining about it.

...and while you complain, certain guys are going to be winners no matter what because they get it.

New rule: You can't complain until you've done everything in your power to succeed. Until you've put in 12-14 hour days for weeks on end, until you've broken your body and mind down, until you've failed and failed in order to succeed, you don't have the right to an opinion.

You can keep bringing your negativity (I'm sure you'll call it "realism") around, but I've said what needed saying.

Breh you're dead wrong in assuming I give a fukk about any race of people other than my own. I'm well aware everyone across the board is struggling these days. I could give a fukk about them or you for that matter you fukking Cac

 

[Kid McNamara]

Breh you're dead wrong in assuming I give a fukk about any race of people other than my own. I'm well aware everyone across the board is struggling these days. I could give a fukk about them or you for that matter you fukking Cac

Of course, I'm a CAC now.

Low-rent losers are the same across the board. Thanks for being you and proving my point. Ignored, I stay away from the stupid and unlucky.

 

[JamilALAmin]

Of course, I'm a CAC now.

Low-rent losers are the same across the board. Thanks for being you and proving my point. Ignored, I stay away from the stupid and unlucky.

That's what's up. I'm happy for you.

 

[Pazzy]

This is the now generation. That's the problem. Do it now and then worry about life later.

 

[bouncy]

This article is proof of what I've experienced

Yall nikkas should be happy, its more available p*ssy, and they are educated, that is prime rib

AND you don't need a lot of money to get top notch. shyt is sweet for men now
You can look for wifey, and still fukk around, it wasn't always like this. Men used to have to walk through fire just to get a regular chick. Now, you can get an educated freak for less shyt

And we have technology to get them anywhere, at any time. This era is heaven

 

[88m3]

social class> education


I'm not out here knocking doors down to sleep with women who have bachelors degrees in psychology

 

[PartyHeart]

I buy that there are less eligible bachelors to go around and that makes it difficult for women. What I don't buy is that it works out great for men. For the most part, the truly eligible bachelors who have it all, the looks, the personality, and the money do very well. The other men, probably not so much. And this remains true even as they age unlike the dreams many here sell.

I mean, there is a reason so many men here are bitter and jaded towards women. There is a reason things like 'red pill' exist now and didn't before. And its not just because these guys are young and haven't made it to golden age of 30 where magically women fall over themselves to get with them lol

 

[bouncy]

social class> education


I'm not out here knocking doors down to sleep with women who have bachelors degrees in psychology

But, that degree helps bring more money in the house when you do settle down!

I'm telling y'all, this is the golden age for the American man who has some sense of finances, how to choose women, and real about sex

If you don't know how to move, shyts fukked up out here

 

[bouncy]

I buy that there are less eligible bachelors to go around and that makes it difficult for women. What I don't buy is that it works out great for men. For the most part, the truly eligible bachelors who have it all, the looks, the personality, and the money do very well. The other men, probably not so much. And this remains true even as they age unlike the dreams many here sell.

I mean, there is a reason so many men here are bitter and jaded towards women. There is a reason things like 'red pill' exist now and didn't before. And its not just because these guys are young and haven't made it to golden age of 30 where magically women fall over themselves to get with them lol

This era is lovely for a man who can play the game right. It can benefit women too.

Some are jaded because they didn't play right, that isn't the games fault.

I'm loving it.