What Do You Choose? Loneliness/Solitude Or A Woman With A Bad Energy/Questionable Past?

[number21]

Solitude easy.

 

[CarmelBarbie]

How old are you? You're in here shytting on older cats

I'm 40 and in decent shape. I've kept myself up. I don't drink or smoke (dehydrates and wrinkles the skin, thereby accelerating the aging process). Plus I'm Black. We're not gonna sit here and act like everyone ages equally. Everyone's 40 ain't the same. And everyone has a birthday. Nobody is exempt from getting older. So I hope you have this same energy when you inevitably reach this age

my bad, wasn’t trying to shyt on y’all. To put it in perspective my dad looks like he’s in his early forties. So it’s like looking at my dad... I see it like being with my dad, that’s why I can’t.

 

[CarmelBarbie]

Interesting post. Would you say as a woman gets older... security becomes more important than looks? Because I know women back in high school who would only date pretty boys end up marrying men who weren't exactly models, but their paper was right.

On the other hand, whilst men may and will look for more in a woman as they get older, her looks will almost definitely be a prime factor regardless of our age.

I would say security matters more for women as they get older. But it also depends on the woman.

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

You might have to date younger breh

NO SWIPES!!!

But a woman who is single at your age is probably gonna have some emotional baggage

The other problem is it's gonna be hard to find a woman who wants to build with a dude 10-15 years older than her. Or who is that much younger than you but can actually connect with you intellectually. That kind of woman will have her pick of dudes too.... so she prob won't be jumping for dudes in their 40s. Part of building a relationship is growing together and you are pretty much grown

This is the reality of men waiting until they are "in their prime" to have their choice of women like cereal at the grocery store. If you want to build something meaningful you have to accept some risk and invest time at the right point in your life.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

You can feel that shyt coming off of them like stank comes off of shyt. And, at that age, the juice ain't worth the squeeze, if you understand me. Like. I'm not gonna put up with your BS for some 40 year old, recycled p*ssy like I did when I wanted to fukk a bad ass 24 year old bytch. Like. The minute they show me ANY non cooperation, I just throw em in the bushes. Don't even try to work shyt out, hear their story, NOTHING. I just be DONE.

It's funny how you talk and think like this but expect good results.

I've been on plenty of dates with guys who swear they can't find good women only to find out that they themselves are very pleasant to be around. Just saying you are just as single as they are.

Maybe if you didn't compare women to garbage you'd get better results.

 

[UberEatsDriver]

I'm 40 and I've really been on my purpose. Stacking paper and trying to stay on top of my fitness. Had pretty much given up on dating.

Then my brother suggested that I join BLK. It's a dating app that's pretty afrocentric in nature. Has some nice professionals on there and they be choosing. You actually get messages from REAL profiles, unlike POF which is full of fake profiles, bots, and BackPage rejects

I usually date my age group. Between like 37-43. And I'm noticing from my time on this site. These chicks have issues

Nasty attitudes, bitter, trust issues developed from failed relationship after failed relationship, no sense of humor, materialistic and shallow as fukk, narcissistic, ghosting for no fukking reason, fukked up energy, etc. I thought this type of behavior was reserved for younger women. I thought older women would be more mellowed out and accommodating

Now. They ARE DTF, it seems. They be trying to meet up QUICK

But, at this age, it takes more than a woman's physical to keep my interest. I actually have to enjoy your company and not mind being around you for extended periods. And I can't seem to find a woman I can stand. I be fed up and just over them quick. My patience has waned with women's bullshyt as I get older. They literally all feel the same. And I just lose interest. It takes more than p*ssy to keep me around these days. And it seems like all the virtuous, good women are taken or nonexistent in these modern dating times. I don't know brehs. This may be the end of the line for me. shyt looking hella bleak out here

men settling for women with nasty attitudes is why these women out here have nasty attitudes with confidence because they know guys will still settle for them.

it took me one relationship to realize I would never settle for that and the minute I sent nasty attitude it’s a block

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Maybe it’s because I’m still young but is it even possible to be 35+ and single with no questionable past or serious personal flaw?

I've never met a single person 20 to 60 who wasn't flawed. Younger people aren't better people than older people. I work with a bunch of young people who are all the way ratchet. Idk why push that narrative.

 

[Listen]

We like to #GMB on women here on the Coli, but in my experience a vast majority of my brehs can’t be alone and need some sort of woman/side piece in their life to validate themselves.

What’s wrong with being alone when the alternative is a cycle of unhealthy relationships with no positive outcome?

Just don’t be unrealistic with your expectations of a woman. It took me a while to realize you gotta be like an Oak: Strong and sturdy, but able the bend without breaking.

It legit always happens when you got your head turned the other way Breh. Good luck.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Nah men think they’ll always have it because they think age ain’t a factor to them.

...even though a lot of times that thang stop functioning in their mid to late 30s...you hate to see it

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Oh interesting I'm 25 and I swear most girls lool for older dudes, I tend to attract early 20s or women in their thirties for some reason, not really my age

25 year old guys generally aren't looking for commitment and women know that, so they date older. Unless they just tryna have fun with someone

Women like older men not OLD men. Guys really confuse this point. We like 5 years old not 15.

 

[UberEatsDriver]

OP u not alone, I'm 33, I'm bushing my current girlfriend tonight. She has been unappropriatly communicating with her ex who lives overseas.

I rather be single & lonely than deal with a disloyal bytch

did you do it?

 

[MikelArteta]

Travel

you shall not take a wife or marry in this place

jeremiah 16:2

 

[MikelArteta]

Women like older men not OLD men. Guys really confuse this point. We like 5 years old not 15.

I’m turning 35 last girl I cavorted with was 25

 

[CarmelBarbie]

You might have to date younger breh

NO SWIPES!!!

But a woman who is single at your age is probably gonna have some emotional baggage

The other problem is it's gonna be hard to find a woman who wants to build with a dude 10-15 years older than her. Or who is that much younger than you but can actually connect with you intellectually. That kind of woman will have her pick of dudes too.... so she prob won't be jumping for dudes in their 40s. Part of building a relationship is growing together and you are pretty much grown

This is the reality of men waiting until they are "in their prime" to have their choice of women like cereal at the grocery store. If you want to build something meaningful you have to accept some risk and invest time at the right point in your life.

This.


Also water seeks its own level. If he’s continuing to attract bitter old baggage ladies, he has to be introspective. You attract people that vibrate with similar energies. At the end of the day, inner work might need to be done to attract a different type of women.

 

[GhettoTeK]

Oh you're a woman? I see why you made that earlier post. I had a feeling.

Yeah I've always wondered about it. I'd link with an older dude if he could last longer then these young dudes