What Do You Choose? Loneliness/Solitude Or A Woman With A Bad Energy/Questionable Past?

[SATAN]

I'm a felon a former addict and a former gang member, I have no right to discriminate against a bytch for her past when I did so much dirt.

I changed but I don't care about a woman's past. As long as she is STD-free. I don't ever want to be in a relationship, just give up the draws hoe

 

[Taadow]

Solitude.

 

[ColdSlither]

I’m 41 and I know how you feel. Leave the online dating alone, unless you’re just looking for some p*ssy. A woman in our age range, who is online looking for something, is most likely going to be damaged goods. You’re going to end up playing Captain Save A Hoe, unless you luck up and find someone who is worthwhile.

Stay focused on your purpose. It’s better to be lonely, than being miserable in a relationship. As for meeting someone, do it offline. If you have to, use apps like Meet Up to find things you enjoy doing. Meet people that way. And like someone else said, you’re going to have to look at younger women. The youngest I go is 25. Find you someone who likes older men. My boy went as young as 20. That’s a bit too young for me, but 6 years in and they’re still good. He found himself a good one, before life experience with various men jaded her.

 

[Elle Driver]

Op isn’t 60 though, and it’s not hoop dreams to get a younger woman when you’re an older man.

I’m not saying it’s easy with a big age gap, but op is 40, why can’t he get a chick in her early 30s?

If a dude is 60, why can’t he get a 45 year old woman?

Women act like they don’t have to worry about age.

Nah men think they’ll always have it because they think age ain’t a factor to them.

 

[razassin]

I'm 40 and I've really been on my purpose. Stacking paper and trying to stay on top of my fitness. Had pretty much given up on dating.

Then my brother suggested that I join BLK. It's a dating app that's pretty afrocentric in nature. Has some nice professionals on there and they be choosing. You actually get messages from REAL profiles, unlike POF which is full of fake profiles, bots, and BackPage rejects

I usually date my age group. Between like 37-43. And I'm noticing from my time on this site. These chicks have issues

Nasty attitudes, bitter, trust issues developed from failed relationship after failed relationship, no sense of humor, materialistic and shallow as fukk, narcissistic, ghosting for no fukking reason, fukked up energy, etc. I thought this type of behavior was reserved for younger women. I thought older women would be more mellowed out and accommodating

Now. They ARE DTF, it seems. They be trying to meet up QUICK

But, at this age, it takes more than a woman's physical to keep my interest. I actually have to enjoy your company and not mind being around you for extended periods. And I can't seem to find a woman I can stand. I be fed up and just over them quick. My patience has waned with women's bullshyt as I get older. They literally all feel the same. And I just lose interest. It takes more than p*ssy to keep me around these days. And it seems like all the virtuous, good women are taken or nonexistent in these modern dating times. I don't know brehs. This may be the end of the line for me. shyt looking hella bleak out here

I dont know man. Every one is different. You're a little older than I am. I'm 35 but I feel like I'm in the same boat. I'm getting comfortable and embracing being by myself. In the past two years I've been doing a lot of traveling, just to do something different here and there.

I stayed alone for 7 years before I found my wife.​

You'll be fine. Don’t worry about finding her. Stay focused on enjoying YOUR life and women will come to you.​

Yep, I'm in the same boat at 38. Repped you cause I'm going through the same shyt . I'd rather keep my solitude than having a woman that's on some bullshyt .

My hairline isn't going away, I'm in great shape and without any kids. I went cold Turkey from dating apps finally last month after being flaked on three times in a row

Need to go out and enjoy this great weather here. Dating younger is still the best option and I'm saying at least 15 years at this point.

Im with u nikkaz man and Im 31, turnin 32 next month

I was always in a relationship from 15 to 27 then i said wtf am i doing... why am i givin a bytch i know im not gonna marry my precious time?

SO i have stopped offially dating for 4 years... of course i've had girls who i tried goin out with during this time, i mean some of them consider me they ex, but thats on them

N i decided to take this route cuz Im not gonna give my time n energy like i did before to a bytch, i kno for a fact, i wont be marrying

RIght now Im growing professionally doin my thing n yes it does hurt sometimes bein alone but im not rushin into a relationship cuz Im sad

Get yo paper up focus on yaself n p*ssy will come if not u'll have enough paper to get u some

 

[Balla]

Nah men think they’ll always have it because they think age ain’t a factor to them.

And women don’t? Are you a woman?

 

[Elle Driver]

And women don’t? Are you a woman?

I’m responding to your post.

 

[Jerz]

It aint gon be a good look to some -- but you might have to reach down, and grab a lil 25 yr old jawn. The good ones get snatched early -- the others are available for a reason

 

[kaldurahm]

As a young dude I say just get a younger woman, 27-35 sounds better

 

[WesCrook]

I feel the same way my guy. I'm actually getting so used to being alone and being on my own program, that I have to adjust when dating a woman. Because, at this point, they're not competing with other women. They're competing with my comfort zone. Like. If your presence doesn't feel better than my solitude, then what are we doing?

And when these chicks come around, acting bitter or hot and cold. Or catching attitudes when I can't go out because I have to work or I'm with my daughter, I just be over it. Like let me just go back to doing me. Like. I see why I've been single. But then, as men, we want that female company and that consistent p*ssy access. But, at what cost, is what every man has to decide. Some ran through vagina ain't worth my peace of mind.

Been down that road. Most of the time they're around you, it's a net negative.

 

[southern.girl]

So a chick that’s with a man since she was 25 is going to leave him when she’s 40 and he’s 60?

So he will age that bad and become that unattractive to her?

So her feelings will just go away?

I’m not arguing because I definitely don’t put it past a woman to do that.

Who is the 40 year old chick gonna go after? I hope she doesn’t think younger men want her.

No one said age doesn’t impact men, but let’s be real; age impacts women a lot more than men.

Women literally have to have kids before 40.

That’s why they always rush to have them once their late 20s early 30s.

I had a chick who was literally 30 telling me she is trying to have kids ASAP.

I was bugged out, like shawty you not even mid 30s and you panicking to have a baby that quick?

Women are also pressured to be married as well by a certain age or they look undesirable.

I'm not saying they are, just what I heard.

So I think there is a bigger impact with age and women.

All I can tell you is that I know of a 40 year old woman who married older. She is contemplating divorce now.

And let’s be real. Most people who marry with that type of age difference are allowing superficial metrics to lead their decisions in choosing a mate. Much like the people in this thread that believe that they can “mold” or “control” a younger woman. That’s not exactly a pure reason to chose a partner.

IMO, age impacts men and women the same.

 

[CarmelBarbie]

As a young dude I say just get a younger woman, 27-35 sounds better

He has to find a woman in that age range that likes older men. Just speaking for myself, I don’t. Most look their age. My friends that date men that age say their libido is different too. A lot of nights I want to fukk more than one round. Op should be aware that A lot of younger women date older men for the stability, financial factor.
my friends tried to get me to talk to an older breh that was interested in me, actually this pass weekend, on some he’s probably paid just give him a chance. Outside of money and more life experiences(leading hopefully to maturity and wisdom) not many other reasons for a young woman to seriously get committed to a breh that is significantly older than her.
The main thing that I’ve noticed that’s different when it comes to older brehs is that they tend to be ready to commit and are straight to the point about what they want, really fast. Depending on the young girl’s track record with men that is a plus. Anyway, Ops best bet is to meet a younger women through a hobby they share, probably, for commonalities, and take it from there.

 

[ConPHIdential]

Breh... I know you don't want to but you'll have to start dating women in their early to mid 20s before they become damaged and jaded.

I tend to date older women because the younger ones are just annoying and immature for the most part. One thing they do have over the older women is potential. You can't teach an old dog new tricks.

A scarred women is scarred for life. No amount of rehabilitation is going to make her less jaded. Trust me I've been there. Older women won't BS you when it comes to fukking because they know they can't use that as bargaining at their age. No breh is gonna wait for reheated left overs when there is fresh meat being prepared in the market.

The problem is, the ones who are still single didn't work on their personality. They were either too career focused or were holding out for Mr Perfect and are now mad their window of opportunity is gone.

I got out of a long term relationship last year and man I feel emancipated. Waking up and only having to worry about your own happiness is liberating. Sure I want a family one day but I know as a man that time is on my side. I've met a lot of professional brehs who didn't start a family until their 40s. Most of them wife'd women in their 20s and they couldn't be happier.

I'd say start looking more so at women in their 20s.

Solid post.

 

[Stir Fry]

Gimme a freak. Y'all loners seem miserable lol

 

[kaldurahm]

He has to find a woman in that age range that likes older men. Just speaking for myself, I don’t. Most look their age. My friends that date men that age say their libido is different too. A lot of nights I want to fukk more than one round. Op should be aware that A lot of younger women date older men for the stability, financial factor.
my friends tried to get me to talk to an older breh that was interested in me, actually this pass weekend, on some he’s probably paid just give him a chance. Outside of money and more life experiences(leading hopefully to maturity and wisdom) not many other reasons for a young woman to seriously get committed to a breh that is significantly older than her.
The main thing that I’ve noticed that’s different when it comes to older brehs is that they tend to be ready to commit and are straight to the point about what they want, really fast. Depending on the young girl’s track record with men that is a plus. Anyway, Ops best bet is to meet a younger women through a hobby they share, probably, for commonalities, and take it from there.

Oh interesting I'm 25 and I swear most girls lool for older dudes, I tend to attract early 20s or women in their thirties for some reason, not really my age

25 year old guys generally aren't looking for commitment and women know that, so they date older. Unless they just tryna have fun with someone