What's your breaking point in a relationship/marriage?

[GoGetMyDamnBelt_]

Agree with this.

And, now she realizes "she doesn't need him". That's when i'd know it would be time for me to roll.

I don't see how I'm in the wrong for that though if you put YOURSELF in that position in the first place. I TRIED, that's the problem here. Trying and feeling like it's only one sided.

 

[Sonic Boom of the South]

Get married brahs
The unbeatable force

 

[GoGetMyDamnBelt_]

Damn. That's almost exactly what happened with my ex and I. Her family was generationally poor and she would always come out of pocket to help them out. The problem is she would never tell me she was doing it because she was embarrassed about their situation, so when the time came to pay bills she would just say, "I don't have it." Come to find out later her attitude was, "Well you make enough to cover us both so I don't need to chip in all the time." which was true, but the issue was communication and being on the same page. Also, I wasn't about to sign up for taking care of her family for the rest of my life.

Anyway, sounds like a very very hard conversation. I'm sorry it went down that way but it's honestly better to stop wasting time if you guys are never gonna be on the same page.

This is sad. He sounds like a good man. Try to understand where he is coming from. His family has always had his back so he cant turn on them. Dont leave him because he has a good heart.

@Swirv I am trying to understand, really I am but like @BaldingSoHard said, I didn't sign up to take care of another family. I'm already stressing in my own household, I can't do it with 2. And as I mentioned, Im not telling him to turn his back on his family but what he is doing is feeding both families. He's trying to juggle 2 priorities when it should be one. Help the family when needed, not all the damn time. Especially when we planning for some many future things and seem to not be on the same page about it. He wants me to settle. We're young, no kids, good paying job, we shouldn't be settling. That can't happen when married. As his family likes to quote from the Bible "22 Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. 23 The man said, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called 'woman, ' for she was taken out of man." 24 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh."

He's a great man but emotionally, he's done more damages than this that has made me decide to wash my hands. This was just the icing on the cake.

 

[Poitier]

He's an Immigrant

Get an African American

 

[GoGetMyDamnBelt_]

Get an African American

Lol I'm not 'bout that life.

 

[Poitier]

Lol I'm not 'bout that life.

Are you African or Carib?

 

[Taadow]

I don't see how I'm in the wrong for that though if you put YOURSELF in that position in the first place. I TRIED, that's the problem here. Trying and feeling like it's only one sided.

You can feel however you want...but if i'm seeing somebody and she talmbat she don't need me,
then i'm gonna roll so as not to be in her way.

 

[GoGetMyDamnBelt_]

Are you African or Carib?

American but have Haitian in the blood.

 

[Poitier]

American but have Haitian in the blood.

Stick to your own men.

 

[GoGetMyDamnBelt_]

Stick to your own men.

Why?

 

[Poitier]

Why?

 

[GoGetMyDamnBelt_]

got it.

 

[Da King]

If my girl unfaithful to me I'm putting her 6 feet under

 

[Swirv]

@Swirv I am trying to understand, really I am but like @BaldingSoHard said, I didn't sign up to take care of another family. I'm already stressing in my own household, I can't do it with 2. And as I mentioned, Im not telling him to turn his back on his family but what he is doing is feeding both families. He's trying to juggle 2 priorities when it should be one. Help the family when needed, not all the damn time. Especially when we planning for some many future things and seem to not be on the same page about it. He wants me to settle. We're young, no kids, good paying job, we shouldn't be settling. That can't happen when married. As his family likes to quote from the Bible "22 Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. 23 The man said, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called 'woman, ' for she was taken out of man." 24 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh."

He's a great man but emotionally, he's done more damages than this that has made me decide to wash my hands. This was just the icing on the cake.

How are you settling?

 

[Heafcliffe]

That's true. I guess I'm assuming that NO ONE should get married unless they're on the same page about money. I love a frugal man whose financially disciplined. Don't have time for someone who cannot manage money. Flashy dudes are a major turn off.View media item 5233

For this one, you the real MVP. A rarity. Commodity.