Who do yall ladies feed first

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

Kids grow up tho.

When I was in my teens my mother wasn't preparing a plate for me.
She made one for my dad and told the rest of us to fix our own plate

I have a little one in the house, so I'm relating to that. Yeah.. as a teenager/young adult.. by that time, they can fix their own. They know what portions.. how much they want to eat. By that age, most teenagers or people in the household don't eat at the same time anyway. My mom just left the food out.. and would let us know it was cooked. But my mom would bring dinner back for her and her husband, and not bring nothing back for us.. lol. Just give us money and we have to get our own.. on some 'i'm not cooking tonight' Yeah.. I agree with your point, absolutely. I don't have a problem with the women serving food to their man, so to speak, that's just courtesy in a relationship/marriage. My stepdad would always tell her to make sure that we ate first tho then have her fix his plate after we got our food.

 

[skeetsinternal]

I'm curious, @skeetsinternal - I know people chose avatars they like, but do you look like Pastor Troy?

Nah I like PT, the avatar is basically my mood, we only have the beard in common. I get Braylon Edwards, CT Fletcher, Kimbo and now Winston Duke (Black Panther)

 

[Sassy]

If i were to have any. My kids. I dont think i need to state the obvious reasons of why.

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

You should be embarrassed with yourself if child isn't the first thing that comes to mind. How is that not the only answer?

There are so many terrible parents

yeah.. agreed. I can't relate to that with younger kids. perplexing to me.

 

[Rockstar Mom]

If this was a case of food being scarce then of course the kids eat first, and that would be the only acceptable answer. If there’s enough food to go around, it really doesn’t matter who gets a plate first imo. But like I said, we all eat together anyway.

And if we’re really getting technical, although I make all the plates at the same time, I make my damn plate first

 

[Gold]

Y'all would eat in the presence of starving kids giving you that hungry look?

Fukk kinda monsters...

Dey wan chop?? Bia, try and take from me

 

[sayyestothis]

The relationship between man and wife comes first.
Comes before anything else.

Yeah you love your kids when they are babies, but when they grow up they get their own families.
And same for your parents, they are number 1 when you are a child but that changes.


The top priority for any married person should be their spouse.
That goes for men and women

u got kids?

 

[8WON6]

Do what works for your family structure. I saw people actually debating this as a serious topic on Facebook last year. Right up there with "you let you girl pump gas". LMAO. This is what people be ending relationships over?

 

[Gold]

u got kids?

no

I'm hungry enough as it is

 

[Commish]

Good thing I don't depend on a woman to feed me. I have no issue eating last for I tend to like eating late, plus I know how to cook and been cooking for self for eons. *shrugs*

The bigger issue seems to be who is first priority vs. who is last priority within a family structure?

For me, I can't be a sole provider and be last in line not do believe that a husband or wife should have to compete with a child.

The day I become a tertiary member of a family will be the day I will be alone. Whoever deals with me will need fo figure out how my needs, wants and desires will be met to my satisfaction.

 

[ShadowBroker]

Considering we are not food deprived, my husband is served first then children. I think most women opt to feed their children first tho. I'd find a far more interesting question would be who do you choose between life or death. I read an article awhile ago where the husband/boyfriend chose his spouse/girlfriend and let the child die. I always wondered if most women would opt to save the children over their men. As morbid as it sounds, if you love your spouse, you can always have more children. Besides children get relationships of their own when theyre grown. If you haven't cultivated a meaningful relationship with your husband all those years while raising children....once the kids are grown and gone, youre gonna have a problem.

The threads question seems very old fashioned tho. Do men typically sit at the table and wait to be served by their wives? From my question you can tell I ain't got a man.

ALLISON PEARSON: An agonising decision: Would you save your child or your spouse?

Women, in particular, seem to believe Stacy Horton should not have given up on his son. Even if it meant losing his own life or sacrificing his wife.

Interestingly, men were far more likely to say they would save their spouse. Mums, faced with the same horrific dilemma, seem to believe they would always, always put the child first - and they would want their husbands to do the same

 

[sayyestothis]

no

I'm hungry enough as it is

Figured. Kids always first man...always.

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

But wouldn't that man know that the entire focus of ya'lls relationship should be the well-being of the children? Does that man really require that gesture in order to feel like a man? Is he gonna raise a stink if the 4 year old takes a bite before he does? If so, he's probably kind of not shyt.

facts.. that's what I was thinking.

 

[Wildhundreds]

This CAC mentality.. The man eats 1st..

Then run around talking "imma kang"

That shyt doesn't add up..

 

[Poitier]

Do what works for your family structure. I saw people actually debating this as a serious topic on Facebook last year. Right up there with "you let you girl pump gas". LMAO. This is what people be ending relationships over?

Its the Internet. A space to make the mundane into complex issues lol.

I grew up in a free flowing household.

We all ate on our own schedules so who ate first constantly shifted.

The only rule was to leave my pops the biggest portion if he wasn't hungry yet.