newworldafro
DeeperThanRapBiggerThanHH
chicks be like........................
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Why Are So Many Dudes Scared Of Getting Rejected?
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newworldafro
DeeperThanRapBiggerThanHH
...... that internal ether mixed with the percieved external (whether animated or silent) ether from other people is crucial feels like
*takes own advice*
Now I'm with you on the whole "getting over it" thing, but that's the reason right there.[/QUOTE]
You my e-doggie and all that, but I gotta inter jack your comment righ’ fast;
To be the kind of guy with the mindset of “rejection (especially, in a public setting where others can observe your "boldness") being embarrassing” is ultimately shooting yourself in the foot and limiting your success rate (somebody mentioned law of leverages
Any opportunity to approach a woman you are attracted to, you would truly limit yourself by coming into a scenario with that ideology.
Your tact and assertiveness is truly your best friend. A lot of dudes don’t really come at these gals with finesse (I like to be different,
I’m eccentric by nature, so that increases my odds off the bat; humility aside).
Know how to pick your battles. But how you fight them is key.
For instance, if i'm out and about and i see a lady i like, the very first thing you do is try to get her to notice you by smiling at her and/or just saying hi (and i know some, that's the hard part, breaking ice - but trust me, we haven't even started yet).
Your next move is crucial because after observing (seeing who she's with, how her body language is) it's time to react.
Go up to her and inquire about her drink or that you noticed something dazzlingly pecular about how,
You: Oh my goodness, this is the very first time i've ever noticed this... and it's quite profound - if a stud like must say. (You've riled up her curiosity, and this is how they usually respond)...
Her: Uhhh, *giggles* What? What did you notice?
You: *pause for a moment while looking at her deep inter her ocular joints*
Her: It's just that i... that i...
... never seen an angel without wings before...
Her: :inlove:
One thing i want to mention is that, it's never about what you say. The benefactor in this proverbial tractor; is "how" its delivered.
The way I look at it; women are a lot like food.
You can’t be walking into a buffay and say to yourself, “Ahhh damn. I ain’t tryna eat all this food. It’s gon’ make me take a shiit later!”
It’s something that’s innate like Robinson – you do it because it’s part of our social-carnal makeup.
And the rejection thing – that’s something equate to taking a shiit.
Look at it like this; cuz either way, you’ gon’ have to get ‘em both out of your system.
Ain’t nothin’ to it but to do it.
.
Pride. it's embarassing as hell to be rejected, especially in front of people because you think that internally everybody is either feeling sorry for you or laughing their ass off.
Then like someone else said, all while you're taking that walk of shame you picture her talking to her friends like
What nobody says is that in reality no one really gives a fukk and it's all in your head. But it's hard to go against your instincts because your brain wants to protect your self-image.
It's one thing to know something on a conscious and intellectual level, but completely different to really understand it on a gut/subconscious level.
It's even worse if you have to go to school with the person that rejected you.
Then like someone else said, all while you're taking that walk of shame you picture her talking to her friends like
What nobody says is that in reality no one really gives a fukk and it's all in your head. But it's hard to go against your instincts because your brain wants to protect your self-image.
It's one thing to know something on a conscious and intellectual level, but completely different to really understand it on a gut/subconscious level.
It's even worse if you have to go to school with the person that rejected you.
I don't think most dudes fear rejection as much as being embarrassed. I remember i asked a girl out in 6 grade she clowned me called me a black nerd and said she did not want a burnt baby. Now that had me fukked up for the rest of that year. I moved to a new school and was the new guy so all the girls was on my dikk my swag got up and i lost the fear of talking to girls.
Dreamzeedream
Banned
hell yea and sometimes yo homies wont let you live it down ether. but like you said ,its all a mindset.what alot of dudes fail to realize that women know who to try with certain bs. back in them hs days if you was a simp or a lame or dirty them hood bytches would clown you with no problem, especially if you tried to holla and public embarrassment takes time to get over.
But after awhile rejection becomes normal, back in my younger simp days i would become sad an bitter for a week if a girl rejected me cause i was always in my feelings but now i dont really care if i get rejected as long as she dont get disrespectful with it then im good.
its plenty of fish in the sea an they all pretty
PopOnCloud9
All Star
Because sometimes females aren't kind about rejecting. Instead of the simple no thanks, some women go to the next level to embarrass a dude especially if people are watching
next time a chic rejects you, just be like ok, and try to give her your beeper number.
i guarantee that will star the the conversation back up again. you might still get rejected, but its like have another life in your back pocket
i guarantee that will star the the conversation back up again. you might still get rejected, but its like have another life in your back pocket
Zapp Brannigan
Captain of the Nimbus
You my e-doggie and all that, but I gotta inter jack your comment righ fast;
To be the kind of guy with the mindset of rejection (especially, in a public setting where others can observe your "boldness") being embarrassing is ultimately shooting yourself in the foot and limiting your success rate (somebody mentioned law of leverages
Any opportunity to approach a woman you are attracted to, you would truly limit yourself by coming into a scenario with that ideology.
Your tact and assertiveness is truly your best friend. A lot of dudes dont really come at these gals with finesse (I like to be different,
Im eccentric by nature, so that increases my odds off the bat; humility aside).
Know how to pick your battles. But how you fight them is key.
For instance, if i'm out and about and i see a lady i like, the very first thing you do is try to get her to notice you by smiling at her and/or just saying hi (and i know some, that's the hard part, breaking ice - but trust me, we haven't even started yet).
Your next move is crucial because after observing (seeing who she's with, how her body language is) it's time to react.
Go up to her and inquire about her drink or that you noticed something dazzlingly pecular about how,
You: Oh my goodness, this is the very first time i've ever noticed this... and it's quite profound - if a stud like must say. (You've riled up her curiosity, and this is how they usually respond)...
Her: Uhhh, *giggles* What? What did you notice?
You: *pause for a moment while looking at her deep inter her ocular joints*
Her: It's just that i... that i...
... never seen an angel without wings before...
Her: :inlove:
One thing i want to mention is that, it's never about what you say. The benefactor in this proverbial tractor; is "how" its delivered.
The way I look at it; women are a lot like food.
You cant be walking into a buffay and say to yourself, Ahhh damn. I aint tryna eat all this food. Its gon make me take a shiit later!
Its something thats innate like Robinson you do it because its part of our social-carnal makeup.
And the rejection thing thats something equate to taking a shiit.
Look at it like this; cuz either way, you gon have to get em both out of your system.
Aint nothin to it but to do it.
.[/QUOTE]
I gotcha. I should've expanded more. But yeah, there's no better feeling than getting over that fear, even if it doesn't pan out for you. 
ChocolateCake
Rookie
Because they are p*ssy nikka who can't handle the truth
Because they are p*ssy nikka who can't handle the truth
girls who reject dudes should watch there back, were watching ur patterns where u work what time u get out
gameover82
Pro
A lot of guys take the shyt personal and it actually hurts their feelings.
pride is a bytch
ChocolateCake
Rookie
girls who reject dudes should watch there back, were watching ur patterns where u work what time u get out
Wow that's tooo far bro
That's why they got rejected
