Why Are So Many Dudes Scared Of Getting Rejected?

[Primetime]

lol i agree with this. i understand the mindframe of the threadstarter, but in all honesty, the reason people fear rejection is what you just posted.

even as a guy, if i see another guy get shot down, i feel sorry for him. its not a good look. imagine a girl seeing the same thing. its one thing to get shot down when there aint nobody to witness it, its another to get shotdown in front of people. the walk of shame away from the spot where it happen can have souls burning hotter than the deepest regions of hell.

Now I'm with you on the whole "getting over it" thing, but that's the reason right there.

lol this is true. i remember me and a homeboy rolled up to this club in the downtown area one night and it was crazy packed with bad females all around. i dunno what the occassion was but we later noticed luol deng and maybe a couple other NBA players were there so maybe word had got around and the females had they game faces on.

anyway, not long after we got there we noticed one of the baddest big booty slim waist big titty dark skin mixed broads that you could ever see. She was in the outter skirts of the dance floor like we was, just chillin but lookin bored and unamused as fuk lol.. and she was with a girlfriend who wasn't ugly but clearly didn't compare to her imo, tho she looked much more bubbly/excited to be there.

but yea, we weren't in that exact spot for very long but in the time there we literally saw like 4 dudes damn near in succession try to holla at ol girl or buy her a drink or wrap they arm around her (all of em basically ignored her friend), and she just shot them down 1 by 1 with the faces on repeat lol in like a 3 min span.

at the end of the day me and homeboy spotted some folks we knew and went over to where they were but lol i wouldn't say i felt sorry for them dudes but i def applaud their no fukks given attitude to it, esp given the "fukk off" stamp that she had on her forehead from jump. tho they all prob should've known better than to come at her dolo like that when she had a companion and prob wasn't gonna leave her alone.

 

[kermit da hustla]

Also, another thing, a woman rejecting you because she isnt interested isnt always the case either

Women be going thru the motions a lot of times, may be feeling down on themselves, or maybe the way you a approached her was a turn off

The first time my ex approached me, I was feeling down on myself and the way he came at me turned me off (he called me to his car while I was walking sayin some "aye ma c'mere ") I ignored him of course but i guess we were meant to be cus I was on the other side of town and ran into him again, only this time he approached me like he had some sense

Yup a lot of time it's about timing. It's also about how the nikka spits that game. Some dudes out here have ZERO subtlety. They immediately make it known that they are trying to fukk, which makes the girl feel like a ho and ultimately reject his advances. Even if a girl likes you, you have to play the game and approach her with a little humor and not overplay your hand out the gate.

 

[Black]

Who are these p*ssy nikkas you speak of? Also, How do you know these guys don't get p*ssy?

 

[eastside313]

Low self esteem

 

[Stone]

Yup a lot of time it's about timing. It's also about how the nikka spits that game. Some dudes out here have ZERO subtlety. They immediately make it known that they are trying to fukk, which makes the girl feel like a ho and ultimately reject his advances. Even if a girl likes you, you have to play the game and approach her with a little humor and not overplay your hand out the gate.

I've fukked up a couple of times because of the bolded and I just so happened to realize this right before I read this.

 

[semtex]

:sadcosby:

 

[rapdonttweet]

It's embarrassing to get rejected, and a lot of times if you get rejected, you'll end up lowering your stock with the rest of the girls in the group because nobody wants to be runner up, and it might also be the case that if you get rejected by one, the others in the group will see you as unworthy also.

Now I'm with you on the whole "getting over it" thing, but that's the reason right there.

What situation are you talking about? If its at a bar or any social scene her "group" consists of her and a few of her friends. And you're worried about her friend not wanting to date you? That's a lame ass excuse when you are seeing good looking women on a daily basis who have no connection to each other.

 

[twan83]

Maybe if majority dudes stop trying to spit game at the female

keep the shyt simple

Hello, How are u doing today? Whats your name?

this approach is simple respectful and from their the conversation is on you

and if she rejects you

just say

No worries it was nice to have met you take care

then leave it at that

way too many woman to be all BUTTHURT BOUT A DAMN REJECTION

 

[raidersreceiver]

this is what i fear the most

 

[Mantle Drunk]

I can't speak for everyone but when I get cold feet it's not about rejection when I get rejected I usually find it to be funny honestly. It's more the feeling that I don't have my game going at the moment and i'm gonna fukk shyt up. If I go up to chick and I feel I was on my A game and she rejects me. But if I go up to a chick and I fukk it up it eats at me a little bit so when I let a chick pass me by I'm feeling like in that moment I was gonna fukk it up.

 

[LezJepzin]

I'd rather get rejected, then go home wondering what if.

Also on 2 different occasions I've stepped to chicks and been rejected only to have them come up to me at a different time/place and act like they've never seen me before and hit on me

Idk, maybe they didn't like my clothes, maybe they didn't want to deal with a guy that night. Either way, I don't give a fukk. If I see a chick I like and kinda feel thats she's looked at me and might have a chance I'm going in for the kill. I'll survive regardless.

So true. This girl a couple of years ago at my church turned me down when I asked her for the digits after talking to her a few times. Last summer, I'm at service and two seats over , there she was but I forgot I even tried to holler at her before I was looking at her legs like but for some reason, I got a stuck up vibe from her and didn't approach her again.

However, after service, she went out of her way to look for me and holler for a minute. Even stroking my shoulder while I was walking with her. I didn't get her digits cause she was just in town for the week cause she was going to school at a CSU in SoCal. I even had to ask her what her name was and she didn't even get offended


Long story short, I saw her there again a few weeks ago and I got her number. For she's graduating this year and coming back up here

Sometimes you can just be there at the wrong time for her, so no need to sweat it.

 

[kermit da hustla]

Losers like you keep hitting on everything and thus increase these average ass hoes egos

i also increase the amount of p*ssy i'm getting. it's the law of averages. so i stay , while you

 

[kermit da hustla]

I agree with everything you said

but what were you doing while your boy approached those 5 women?

You not one of those people who give out advice and can't follow his own right?

i was doing the same. got shut down down a couple times, but i ended up bagging a nice little ethiopian before half time.

 

[kermit da hustla]

What nobody says is that in reality no one really gives a fukk and it's all in your head. But it's hard to go against your instincts because your brain wants to protect your self-image.

dudes don't realize that your boys might laugh at you getting shot down, but deep down, they respect the fact that you did it. a lot of nikkas just play the sidelines and watch from afar. but inside, they respect you for having the courage to step a chick, even if it didn't work out the way you wanted.

i should add that it's always good to never step to a girl blindly. in other words, try to catch eye contact, or some sign that her curiosity is heightened. if you catch eye contact, and she smiles or continues to look your way, make that move. HOWEVER, don't assume that just because she's giving you glances and smiles that she will give you the number. a lot of times, it really comes down to your word game. if you're talking wack shyt, no matter how she felt before you approached her, she will shut that shyt down quick.

 

[raidersreceiver]

how do i spit good game? and not wack shyt