Diondon
Thanks to the lawyers uh, I marbled the foyer
Before, he tempered his emotions but the thought of losing you triggered a tsunami of emotions 
Why do men get vulnerable after she leaves?
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I'm a little guarded in general, so I tend to keep certain things to myself until I get to know you better and feel more comfortable around you. With my significant other, I try to be open about anything that's internally bothering me. But I have my moments where I might keep things to myself instead. Which is why I always try to stress to any woman I'm dealing with that she can feel free to talk to me if she notices something going on with me that's affecting the relationship.
I will say that I've had things I revealed in a moment of vulnerability thrown back in my face at a later time, and not in a constructive way either. When you consider that he's likely not being open with many other people, using something he revealed out of vulnerability to you as a weapon against him can sour him to the thought of being vulnerable with you or anyone else in the future
I will say that I've had things I revealed in a moment of vulnerability thrown back in my face at a later time, and not in a constructive way either. When you consider that he's likely not being open with many other people, using something he revealed out of vulnerability to you as a weapon against him can sour him to the thought of being vulnerable with you or anyone else in the future
Derekjackson2
Banned
Sometimes a man can get distracted & cant give his woman the time or do the things he needs to. Women add to it then it becomes a major problem.
The only correct answer.
#1 show of emotions is seen as a sign of weakness
#2 is a thin line between a woman being turned off to you low key and being healthy. Women like strong confident men that appear to be invulnerable or at least project that. As soon as a man opens up to a woman about his insecurities not only is it used against us for a lot of women they are like."I really need a man thats...." lowkey.
#3 we really don't understand how bad it is until its over, not that fake semi breakup...but you know the FINAL straw. Then we unleash everything in a hail mary play. That goes back to #1 and #2 tho.
CapitalforCapital
Banned
PUTTING THAT p*ssy ON A PEDESTAL.
Black Cobain
Donkey Punch? I Donkey Slap!
The way I was raised ended up with me bottling up my emotions instead of talking about them, I have a horrible habit of ignoring ppl when shyt's going on and try shrugging it off so I can cry in peace later
Bless't
Living the dream
This is me to a T. Actually going through it with my lady now. I'll keep something bottled up until she can clearly see something is wrong. So I express what it is that's bothering me... only to have whatever emotion I was having at the moment thrown back into my face during an argument. I'm starting to see some toxicity in how we communicate. shyt sucks.
GPBear
The Tape Crusader
As this thread demonstrates, we live in a society where a lot of men feel they aren't supposed to show emotions, feelings, nor vulnerability. Hence why men's life expectancy is shorter, they bottle in stress/pressure to try and act stoic, but end up having heart attacks.
They hold onto this backward set of social customs, because they assume that's what got them into the relationship in the first place. Generally speaking, guys view showing emotions/vulnerability as "weakness," and so assume if they showed it to their significant other, that they would leave them.
Once the relationship falls apart, that fear is assuaged, and they open up. Or they get super pissed and start violently punching through walls, which again, is some Freudian, bottled-up-emotions becoming a violent death drive shyt.
They hold onto this backward set of social customs, because they assume that's what got them into the relationship in the first place. Generally speaking, guys view showing emotions/vulnerability as "weakness," and so assume if they showed it to their significant other, that they would leave them.
Once the relationship falls apart, that fear is assuaged, and they open up. Or they get super pissed and start violently punching through walls, which again, is some Freudian, bottled-up-emotions becoming a violent death drive shyt.
You can try just not being a nut lol
Rhyme n Tekniq
Superstar
you're not alone my gBetter question......Why is Vulnerability and emotional openness an attractive trait in men?
Not trollin just want an answer.....because the last 3 women ive dealt with had to get dealt with
Fukk you wanna know what make me cry for??
A nikka shed a tear watching Fruitvale Station and I swear shorty was bout to jump on me in the dam theatre
#TeamStoic
That shyt urks me to no end, Women can have a morbid sense of attraction sometimes.
There needs to b a legitimate level og commitment.
Women ask too much of men on the front end for us to trust y'all won't bail (emotionally) at first sight of trouble.
Y'all use our shortcomings against us.
How's your day?
A man will answer fine
Even if he was stressed out threatened and his job may be on the line
Ask a woman how day is and you'll know everyone she works with and what so and so are and the time they came in.
If a man were to open up and be like hunny i feel like when I'm at work the world goes on around me. There is laughter, people talking , commercial transactions happening, conversations over meals being shared, and no one notices that I am in this isolated capsule of hell and torment.
A man will answer fine
Even if he was stressed out threatened and his job may be on the line
Ask a woman how day is and you'll know everyone she works with and what so and so are and the time they came in.
If a man were to open up and be like hunny i feel like when I'm at work the world goes on around me. There is laughter, people talking , commercial transactions happening, conversations over meals being shared, and no one notices that I am in this isolated capsule of hell and torment.
Exactly,
How many times does a man come home and talk about the BS on his job, I rarely did it when I was shacking with my ole lady and when I did, she didn't care, she said "dayum that's mess'd up", and then just went into her own spill about her job and frustration she goes through, just took over
This isn't a shot or anything at the women,but there are not a lot of women that really cares how men feel unless they can actually see the thing/act/situation (physically) for themselves that is causing the man to feel that way.
Yup.
Men and women are wired differently, you can save a man's life whose your sworn enemy and he will forgive you of your transgression.
You can do the same to a woman and the first time you leave the toilet seat up, it's a we need to talk you never listen
Men and women are wired differently, you can save a man's life whose your sworn enemy and he will forgive you of your transgression.
You can do the same to a woman and the first time you leave the toilet seat up, it's a we need to talk you never listen
It's a vicious cycle. If I get to a point where I feel like I can't share anything with you without you throwing it in my face down the line, then what's the point of being together?
xXOGLEGENDXx
Veteran
That's the perfect answer. Seems kinda obvious. It's like asking why somebody snitches when they threatened with jail time.