Why do so many men not take care of their kids?

[Raava]

Bird bytches will never see my mother or even get a ring, and they will take a back seat to the nerdy black woman with her head straight.

But these women here want to have that thug's baby because of his "cool" genetics

I have only heard reasoning like that from birds and the like. Actually I haven't heard anything that stupid ever irl so

 

[kevm3]

Their love for thugged out nikkas never go away. I have an older cousin that wifed up a hoodrat that is out of her prime, have kids with it, and STILL had a baby from a thugged out dude during the marriage. Even when they are 40+ and fat, their love for thugs never really go away.

That's exactly why you got to be so careful about these 'I am ready for a nice guy' type of women... They never lose love for their little bad boys. It's just not financially feasible to mess with him right now. A lot of them, as soon as they get their insta-paycheck locked in, go right back to that type. Look at the type a woman deals with in her prime when she has the most options... that right there tells you what she is inherently attracted to. If you don't fit in that category, don't fall for the sob story.

 

[philmonroe]

so many holes in that argument ma

is he educated?
hows his relationship with his parent/s
what does he do for work
what are his friends like n shyt

I can go on

but it seems alot of these females dont take into account these questions until its too late

Yeah she kinda set her self up for the alley oop Payton to Kemp style. While true dudes could up and run even after awhile together chances are if you do the things you listed in addition to waiting at least to dude is vetted or gasp getting married before having a kid you will greatly reduce the chances of picking a dude that will run out on you.

 

[mamba]

Yeah she kinda set her self up for the alley oop Payton to Kemp style. While true dudes could up and run even after awhile together chances are if you do the things you listed in addition to waiting at least to dude is vetted or gasp getting married before having a kid you will greatly reduce the chances of picking a dude that will run out on you.

For some reason, Black women cannot grasp that simple concept, breh. They can find the answers to everything else--which Atlanta housewife fukked X, how Blue Ivy is wearing her hair today, how a nikka's previous 3 girlfriends looked, etc.

But, when it comes to doing basic research on a nikka (job status, criminal record, OOW kids, etc.) before they allow him to skeet in them raw? Nope. They conveniently lose all their snooping skills.

 

[Made Man]

Only read the first page of this thread and this women blaming shyt is disgusting. We already know the poor choice of men argument but their is no excuse to not do your best to take care of your kid. There are well off..established men who make no effort . I mean I have a son and cant even imagine not raising or not influencing him to be a great person one day. Only someone w/ kids would understand this.

 

[Colicat]

you're the one skewing stats. its 72% of kids born out of wedlock, that doesn't mean the father "abandoned ship"

y'all have just killed the incentive to get married, so men over all are opting out.

You just throwing stuff out there huh... This is your bitter opinion of marriages and no where near the truth

Underrated post here @Raedawn07 @Colicat

there are some bitter single moms who do that, but no where near close to the amount of men who dip on their kids without provocation

 

[MikelArteta]

Black women dug their own hole, choose better men
Close your legs and the cycle will stop.

 

[MikelArteta]

I said black not African american

Yall can have your back and forth on this, but aren't you from Canada son?

What authority do you have within the African American community? :notserious::WTF:

 

[marcuz]

You just throwing stuff out there huh... This is your bitter opinion of marriages and no where near the truth

the #'s speak for itself. with all races across america, we're not marrying as much, and divorce rates are higher than ever. why do you think that is?

there are some bitter single moms who do that, but no where near close to the amount of men who dip on their kids without provocation

"some"

the issues are correlated. if women are not receptive towards male dominated homes, why would they choose men that could control the relationship dynamic. like i said, picking bums is a conscious and subconscious choice that allows you to wear the pants.

 

[MikelArteta]

If he has a career and introduces you to his family odds are he won't run out if you get knocked up.

let's say i'm dating a guy without kids. i get pregnant and he turns into a bum dad, then how could i know he was going to be a bum dad? women are expected to work, provide childcare, look like models, act like a maid and tell the future? i think you guys are taking terms like "super mom" and "super woman" too literally

 

[MikelArteta]

Isn't the traits of a good father someone who can provide for his child and HSS the means to, someone who has good traits and morality.

Ray ray the drug dealer raised by latawna in section 8 housing whose in and our of jail

Or james working 9-5 from a two parent home, no criminal record

I wonder which one would be in his kids life

so in order to be a good dad you need:

a college degree
good relationship with your parents
great job
certain type of friends



i can't even say i want this in a boyfriend without causing uproar & men attacking my argument. the job thing is okay to rely on as far as child support

 

[Colicat]

the #'s speak for itself. with all races across america, we're not marrying as much, and divorce rates are higher than ever. why do you think that is?



"some"

the issues are correlated. if women are not receptive towards male dominated homes, why would they choose men that could control the relationship dynamic. like i said, picking bums is a conscious and subconscious choice that allows you (I see what you did there) to wear the pants.

1) what numbers are you referring to?
2) how do those numbers state that women kill the incentive to get married
3) correlation does not prove causation... I get up when the sun rises.... My waking correlates to sunrise... Does that mean that I cause the sunrise to happen?... That's how silly you sound with women kill incentives and ish...

 

[Jplaya2023]

Bottom line women have to be extra cautious of the men they choose to be with because THEY HAVE MORE TO LOSE than the man does. But in the same instance

"any fool with a dikk can make a baby, but it takes a man to raise his child"

 

[FTBS]

let's say i'm dating a guy without kids. i get pregnant and he turns into a bum dad, then how could i know he was going to be a bum dad? women are expected to work, provide childcare, look like models, act like a maid and tell the future? i think you guys are taking terms like "super mom" and "super woman" too literally

It's this little thing called getting to know a person. Nobody just turns into a bum ass nikka over night. They were always a bum ass nikka. Are you really suggesting that it is too much to expect a person to thoroughly vet the person that they PROCREATE with? It's kind of a big deal that is worthy of caution and thoroughness wouldn't you say? That doesn't take men off the hook for their gross derilection of duty in far too many cases but this idea that there is no way a woman could know a man ain't shyt beforehand or worse yet it's crazy to expect her to vet him thoroughly to make sure first is equally disturbing.

 

[marcuz]

1) what numbers are you referring to?
2) how do those numbers state that women kill the incentive to get married
3) correlation does not prove causation... I get up when the sun rises.... My waking correlates to sunrise... Does that mean that I cause the sunrise to happen?... That's how silly you sound with women kill incentives and ish...

1.) any recent divorce statistics on married couples of all ages.
2.) they dont, but as a guy, i'm letting you know. women (along with the courts) are killing the incentive to get married. its an unnecessary business contract men don't really need to have a stable family.
3.) well you can play dumb, but this isn't about the sunrise or when you wake up. its about women who dont want to be controlled, picking men incapable of controlling them.

and i'm not saying BW cause it, our powerlessness causes it. but y'all certainly dont even try to hinder the situation. nikkas trynna to figure out how to repair a sinking ship, and we still have women poking more holes in the hull