Winter is Coming

[Elle Driver]

I really want to know what the hell is a "hood" dude. These coded words are fukking insulting. Say what the duck you mean and stop generalizing a whole group of people. A lot of educated successful and/or influential people started out in the hood.

Like ?

This is why I don't like certain self-proclaimed "black nerds". They are just as ignorant as the "hood" people they want to shyt on. fukk outta here with that classist, Willie Lynch shyt.

Nerds is the wrong word. It basically means disgruntled.

And hood dude is the PC way of saying thug, which again, comes from disgruntled dudes who sit on a pedestal and have an axe to grind with women who choose those men over so called more deserving nerds that apparently are less capable of abuse, or sorry, less "likely" to abuse @7Revo

 

[Blackout]

Nerds is the wrong word. It basically means disgruntled.

And hood dude is the PC way of saying thug, which again, comes from disgruntled dudes who sit on a pedestal and have an axe to grind with women who choose those men over so called more deserving nerds that apparently are less capable of abuse, or sorry, less "likely" to abuse @7Revo

A hood dude is a person who has the hood mentality which ties to the Ice Cube video I posted awhile back. There are non hood people in those areas as well.

Let's not group me in with racist whites.

I'm just saying what I see and I have barely seen any black nerds abuse women especially with my sister married to one. I have mainly seen them take care of their family and be financially stable and not be disgruntled.

I have also seen them get used by women tho.

 

[CinnaSlim]

Nerds is the wrong word. It basically means disgruntled.

And hood dude is the PC way of saying thug, which again, comes from disgruntled dudes who sit on a pedestal and have an axe to grind with women who choose those men over so called more deserving nerds that apparently are less capable of abuse, or sorry, less "likely" to abuse @7Revo

Whenever I hear that shyt it screams " Oh no, I'm not one of those nikkas I'm a black nerd."
Like there aren't a ton of black kids from the hood, who enjoy video games, Anime and comic books. I know nikkas in Brownsville who build and customize computers and game consoles. I know dudes who do programming but also used to trap. Like black kids in the hood can't be multi dimensional. fukk that. You are not special!

The reason no one fukks with y'all is because you spend your time shytting on your own people and every other conversations is one of self pity. Go ahead and continue with your self fulfilling prophecies.

Like boys in the projects don't go crazy over Spider-Man, DBZ naruto and bleach. Like girls in the hood wouldn't want to cosplay. But when a black girl wears a bunch of piercings and purple hair she's not interesting, she's ghetto.

 

[.༼-◕_◕-༽.]

I really want to know what the hell is a "hood" dude. These coded words are fukking insulting. Say what the duck you mean and stop generalizing a whole group of people. A lot of educated successful and/or influential people started out in the hood.

Like ?

This is why I don't like certain self-proclaimed "black nerds". They are just as ignorant as the "hood" people they want to shyt on. fukk outta here with that classist, Willie Lynch shyt.

Exactly, I had to redact my cosign because I realized that I'm a hood chick who also went to boarding school with other hood people.

We excelled academically, BUT we also had social skills and knew how to talk to people and navigate through the hood AND the prep school.

We didn't call ourselves nerds. We just went hard in the paint. My former classmates (ALL from the hood) are now attorneys, physicians, PhD scientists, etc., and NOT ONE of them engages in put downs or insults.

One of my friends who's a physician (and millionaire) came from a very very rough hood and is trill AF. He's brilliant at what he does, but if you catch him off the clock, he's off the chain... I got another friend that's a big time executive, but babaaaay when she's off the clock, she fits right back in with her hood azz family. Being hood is not equal to being destructive.

Some of the people from my old hood maybe didn't go to college, but they're damn good people.

They've got good jobs, they're taking care of their families and are doing well in life. Some of them maybe got in trouble younger, some didn't, but it's all worked out.

I can STILL go back to my hood and get mad love and daps because I've always just been ME. I had no identity crisis. Black people are INTELLIGENT. I don't know why this is even questioned.

I don't need a person to have been to MIT to see their intelligence. One of the smartest and most well read men I know works in construction.

There's no one way to qualify intelligence or capability. I know couples where the non-college educated spouse is a millionaire (by owning their own business) and the Ivy League PhD spouse makes only 6 figures.

Character and lack thereof comes to play in abuse. Anyone can be a demonic a$$hole.

And I'm guessing the insecure weirdo who has to wear his credentials on his sleeve to feel validated is going to be more so than the "hood" dude who loves himself and his life and works a blue collar job.

I know of highly educated wealthy men who have beaten women to within an inch of their lives.

The psycho possibility can exist in any man and some men hide it very well. Some men actually hunt women down JUST to break them. It's some sickos out chea and everyone is suspect as far as I'm concerned.

 

[BigMan]

Brehs and Brehettes, any man can become abusive. From the felon to the good 9 to 5 dude.

with that said, didn't read thread

 

[Blackout]

Out of all of this talk Ive yet to see anybody show how nerdy men are just as likely to be abusive as other types.

Look like a lot of my people love the hood too much too.

If this never changes then we can never change the hood into a neighborhood and rise as a community.

Oh well at least I tried.

 

[.༼-◕_◕-༽.]

A hood dude is a person who has the hood mentality which ties to the Ice Cube video I posted awhile back.

Let's not group me in with racist whites.

I'm just saying what I see and I have barely seen any black nerds abuse women especially with my sister married to one. I have mainly seen them take care of their family and be financially stable and not be disgruntled.

I have also seen them get used by women tho.

Man I got some cousins that are ghetto AF who have been on the same job for 20+ years, married to the same woman 20+ years and have raised their children (who have all graduated from college and grad school). They're from the hood but they are NOT destructive. They don't do drugs- not even weed- but they're no joke.

Are they polished and refined for work and professional settings? Yes. But they still will fry fish in the backyard, sneak liquor into college football games and buy loosie cigarettes.

They also travel to Europe and Vegas and know how to conduct themselves in fine restaurants and resorts.

Coming from a poor background doesn't make a person trash. It just means they were poor.

A man who is intelligent, has good character and confidence is appealing. A man who has poor communication and social skills, isn't well groomed and lacks confidence is NOT.

 

[CinnaSlim]

Sorry about my rants. That's one of my biggest pet peeves is that self-limiting belief that if you are from the hood you can't be or do anything else.

fukk that! Black people are beautiful intelligent and interesting.

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Back to domestic violence (and this goes for any sex)

Cluster B personality disorders: Narcissistic PD, Borderline PD, and Antisocial PD (which includes Sociopaths and Psychopaths) can be very dangerous.

Sociopaths are usually the kinds of people who don't fit in, and are on the fringes of society. They usually were victims of an abusive upbringing.

Psychopaths are the opposite. They are charming and usually successful. They are able to gain trust and disarm people easily.

Both have a lack of empathy and no sense of guilt or remorse.

 

[Elle Driver]

Whenever I hear that shyt it screams " Oh no, I'm not one of those nikkas I'm a black nerd."
Like there aren't a ton of black kids from the hood, who enjoy video games, Anime and comic books. I know nikkas in Brownsville who build and customize computers and game consoles. I know dudes who do programming but also used to trap. Like black kids in the hood can't be multi dimensional. fukk that. You are not special!

The reason no one fukks with y'all is because you spend your time shytting on your own people and every other conversations is one of self pity. Go ahead and continue with your self fulfilling prophecies.

Like boys in the projects don't go crazy over Spider-Man, DBZ naruto and bleach. Like girls in the hood wouldn't want to cosplay. But when a black girl wears a bunch of piercings and purple hair she's not interesting, she's ghetto.

Exactly.

I was what you would consider an introverted black female nerd. I was shy and quiet and had to literally develop a personality. I was a studious kid. I used to be loud with a big personality because my father nurtured my hunger for the arts, but after he passed, my brother was incarcerated and then I just kind of lost myself for a bit. But I was definitely a nerd, in the traditional sense. I did well in school, went to a high school focused on science and math and even did that for fun. Even now, I still spend time reading and in book stores. But I wasn't disgruntled although I was often over looked for the thicker girl since I wasn't traditionally curvy and had to grow into my body. I was model thin. Until I hit my mid 20s, I barely had any curves to my slim shape but I realized that's life. I can't blame my misfortunes on others, nobody really deserves anybody, and to work on myself and be happy. Get in tune with your soul and be happy. These disgruntled dudes just don't seem happy, they need a damn blunt. Life is not black and white, there are plenty grey areas. There's good times, bad times, awful times, and content times. You can't go on in life thinking you deserve shyt and then grow disgruntled because it's not happening, nah just work on yourself first. shyt is internal.

 

[BigMan]

Man I got some cousins that are ghetto AF who have been on the same job for 20+ years, married to the same woman 20+ years and have raised their children (who have all graduated from college and grad school). They're from the hood but they are NOT destructive. They don't do drugs- not even weed- but they're no joke.

Are they polished and refined for work and professional settings? Yes. But they still will fry fish in the backyard, sneak liquor into college football games and buy loosie cigarettes.

They also travel to Europe and Vegas and know how to conduct themselves in fine restaurants and resorts.

Coming from a poor background doesn't make a person trash. It just means they were poor.

A man who is intelligent, has good character and confidence is appealing. A man who has poor communication and social skills, isn't well groomed and lacks confidence is NOT.

IMO someone can be from the hood and not have a "hood mentality". Just like someone can be from a middle or upper class and have an equally destructive mindset

 

[Blackout]

Man I got some cousins that are ghetto AF who have been on the same job for 20+ years, married to the same woman 20+ years and have raised their children (who have all graduated from college and grad school). They're from the hood but they are NOT destructive. They don't do drugs- not even weed- but they're no joke.

Are they polished and refined for work and professional settings? Yes. But they still will fry fish in the backyard, sneak liquor into college football games and buy loosie cigarettes.

They also travel to Europe and Vegas and know how to conduct themselves in fine restaurants and resorts.

Coming from a poor background doesn't make a person trash. It just means they were poor.

A man who is intelligent, has good character and confidence is appealing. A man who has poor communication and social skills, isn't well groomed and lacks confidence is NOT.

If they do all of that then they are not hood people. The hood dudes and hood rats are those with the hood mentality.

There are many smart people in the hood that do not subscribe to the hood mentality. Thats common knowledge. Everybody else other than hood dudes and chicks are people who just happen to live in the hood.

There just has to come a time where we change the poor areas into nice ones.

 

[Blackout]

IMO someone can be from the hood and not have a "hood mentality". Just like someone can be from a middle or upper class and have an equally destructive mindset

Thank you. Its like they cannot grasp what Im saying at all lol.

Good thing you understand.

 

[ManBearPig]

 

[.༼-◕_◕-༽.]

Look like a lot of my people love the hood too much.

If this never changes then we can never change the hood into a neighborhood and rise as a community.

Oh well at least I tried.

What are you talking about? I'm from the hood BUT I went to school with fuccin Rockefellers. I've been exposed to the finer things in life, I'm educated and I speak a few languages. You're making it like it's either or and IT'S NOT. People don't fit into these boxes. Do I know Black men from affluent families who are now professionals, etc.? YES I DO. I also know Black men from the hood who are professionals. I never judged a person because they DIDNT come from the hood. One of my closest friends in college came from a super wealthy Black family ( OLD MONEY). And she was and IS my friend because she's a sweetheart. She didn't dismiss me because I didn't come from money and I didn't diss her because she did. We clicked because we're both laid back, intelligent, beautiful women who shared common interests. I have a few women and men friends who came from money and we're very close. I'm talking trust funds... What is this division that we're supposed to have? I can go from the Harvard Yale game to the Elks club (hood shyt), no one cares.... This is about raising awareness and preventing domestic violence. Maybe ONE person will see the infographs in this thread (circle of abuse and wheel of equality) and maybe it will help them or their loved one.

 

[Fukwatutalkinwatisaylaw]

It isnt that complex by definition because they were the main ones getting teased in high school for being nerdy and virgins.

So you telling me a guy like this is abusive to women?

Lets be real here miss

He might not black ur eyes but he'll bite ur fukking face off wit them big ass teeth