Winter is Coming

[Blackout]

What are you talking about? I'm from the hood BUT I went to school with fuccin Rockefellers. I've been exposed to the finer things in life, I'm educated and I speak a few languages. You're making it like it's either or and IT'S NOT. People don't fit into these boxes. Do I know Black men from affluent families who are now professionals, etc.? YES I DO. I also know Black men from the hood who are professionals. I never judged a person because they DIDNT come from the hood. One of my closest friends in college came from a super wealthy Black family ( OLD MONEY). And she was and IS my friend because she's a sweetheart. She didn't dismiss me because I didn't come from money and I didn't diss her because she did. We clicked because we're both laid back, intelligent, beautiful women who shared common interests. I have a few women and men friends who came from money and we're very close. I'm talking trust funds... What is this division that we're supposed to have? I can go from the Harvard Yale game to the Elks club (hood shyt), no one cares.... This is about raising awareness and preventing domestic violence. Maybe ONE person will see the infographs in this thread (circle of abuse and wheel of equality) and maybe it will help them or their loved one.

Those people who came from the hood had a harder time rising than those who came from affluent families.

We need to get rid of the extra obstacles those from the hood have to jump over by improving the hood and turning it into a neighborhood.

What will really help is encouraging maturity among our people and getting rid of the hood mentality.

He might not black ur eyes but he'll bite ur fukking face off wit them big ass teeth

 

[.༼-◕_◕-༽.]

Exactly.

I was what you would consider an introverted black female nerd. I was shy and quiet and had to literally develop a personality. I was a studious kid. I used to be loud with a big personality because my father nurtured my hunger for the arts, but after he passed, my brother was incarcerated and then I just kind of lost myself for a bit. But I was definitely a nerd, in the traditional sense. I did well in school, went to a high school focused on science and math and even did that for fun. Even now, I still spend time reading and in book stores. But I wasn't disgruntled although I was often over looked for the thicker girl since I wasn't traditionally curvy and had to grow into my body. I was model thin. Until I hit my mid 20s, I barely had any curves to my slim shape but I realized that's life. I can't blame my misfortunes on others, nobody really deserves anybody, and to work on myself and be happy. Get in tune with your soul and be happy. These disgruntled dudes just don't seem happy, they need a damn blunt. Life is not black and white, there are plenty grey areas. There's good times, bad times, awful times, and content times. You can't go on in life thinking you deserve shyt and then grow disgruntled because it's not happening, nah just work on yourself first. shyt is internal.

Thank you for sharing this! I think the difference is that YOU loved yourself and saw your beauty! (And BTW my fam is model thin and tall. I think that's soooo elegant and beautiful. You probably get stares everywhere you go...)

I was a nerd in the hood and I didn't fully realize my beauty until I went AWAY.

I had guys interested in me in my area where I grew up, but they never approached me. Guess what I found out? My male cousins had THREATENED every single dude in my neighborhood that had wanted to talk to me!!! I had NO IDEA!

My cousins literally did every dude like this if they tried to come byand talk to me...

When I went away, I was bombarded with male attention like from every where.

The problem for some people is they NEVER get over those slights and rejections from their high school days and they carry that shyt into ADULTHOOD. I think that's what we're seeing here with some posters.

A girl they liked rejected them for Pookie or Peanut and they just never got over it.

And we cannot help these men.

How can one help a man still mad over high school?

All we can do is avoid them like the plague, because SOMEONE has to pay for that and it's NOT going to be me.

 

[.༼-◕_◕-༽.]

Those people who came from the hood had a harder time rising than those who came from affluent families.

We need to get rid of the extra obstacles those from the hood have to jump over by improving the hood and turning it into a neighborhood.

What will really help is encouraging maturity among our people and getting rid of the hood mentality.

The best way to do this is to make sure that parents and children know the path to take to prepare them academically.

 

[Blackout]

The best way to do this is to make sure that parents and children know the path to take to prepare them academically.

Well having an academic environment helps and the hood isn't an academic environment.

 

[Elle Driver]

Thank you for sharing this! I think the difference is that YOU loved yourself and saw your beauty! (And BTW my fam is model thin and tall. I think that's soooo elegant and beautiful. You probably get stares everywhere you go...)

I was a nerd in the hood and I didn't fully realize my beauty until I went AWAY.

I had guys interested in me in my area where I grew up, but they never approached me. Guess what I found out? My male cousins had THREATENED every single dude in my neighborhood that had wanted to talk to me!!! I had NO IDEA!

My cousins literally did every dude like this if they tried to come byand talk to me...

When I went away, I was bombarded with male attention like from every where.

The problem for some people is they NEVER get over those slights and rejections from their high school days and they carry that shyt into ADULTHOOD. I think that's what we're seeing here with some posters.

A girl they liked rejected them for Pookie or Peanut and they just never got over it.

And we cannot help these men.

How can one help a man still mad over high school?

All we can do is avoid them like the plague, because SOMEONE has to pay for that and it's NOT going to be me.

I had 9 brothers growing up, even visiting my brother when he was locked up he tried to warn me about dudes. but my school was 99% white and I wasn't about to engage in interracial (unless it was Afro Latino which is more inter cultural) but I traveled a whole lot. I didn't become mad at the world that I was being over looked and wasn't getting the guy (like white girls do). I just grinded, worked hard, got through school and made sure to accomplish what I wanted while giving back to the community. My husband is what I would consider a nerd but he's always been successful with women and for dudes if they carry themselves well enough it becomes endearing to women. He's just not hyper masculine and is secure enough in his masculinity not to feel the need to assert it all the damn time, which is a problem within the hood that yeah does encourage that behavior. He's just the quiet unassuming type. But don't get it twisted, he'll slit yo throat the minute you look at him the wrong way (maybe a lil Santeria too )

 

[.༼-◕_◕-༽.]

Well having an academic environment helps and the hood isn't an academic environment.

Well tell Harvard, Yale and Stanford that, because I sure as hell came from one. Google: Marva Collins . She's already answered this question.

 

[.༼-◕_◕-༽.]

I had 9 brothers growing up, even visiting my brother when he was locked up he tried to warn me about dudes. but my school was 99% white and I wasn't about to engage in interracial (unless it was Afro Latino which is more inter cultural) but I traveled a whole lot. I didn't become mad at the world that I was being over looked and wasn't getting the guy (like white girls do). I just grinded, worked hard, got through school and made sure to accomplish what I wanted while giving back to the community. My husband is what I would consider a nerd but he's always been successful with women and for dudes if they carry themselves well enough it becomes endearing to women. He's just not hyper masculine and is secure enough in his masculinity not to feel the need to assert it all the damn time, which is a problem within the hood that yeah does encourage that behavior. He's just the quiet unassuming type. But don't get it twisted, he'll slit yo throat the minute you look at him the wrong way (maybe a lil Santeria too )

They're the best! The quiet calm guys that people sleep on! #YesGawdNessa. I love a chill laid back secure dude. Not flexin and flossin..,

 

[Blackout]

Well tell Harvard, Yale and Stanford that, because I sure as hell came from one. Google: Marva Collins . She's already answered this question.

Your an a exception not the norm.

Try looking at the community and not just yourself

 

[WHIPPEDCream]

I've been familiar with these stats & it makes my heart ache.How do we go about protecting these black women?I will say I once dated someone who I thought could eventually be abusive & I ended things immediately. He was way too controlling & I distinctly remember one time when we were in the car he punched the palm of his hand because he saw a black guy being patted down by 2 white officers & he said it makes him so f*cking mad because he believes it was racially motivated.Even though the anger was not directed towards me it scared me.& I'm a firm believer in the saying when someone shows you who they are the first time believe them.

 

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Your an a exception not the norm.

Try looking at the community and not just yourself

But did you google Marva Collins? She's replicated this many times over!

 

[Blackout]

But did you google Marva Collins? She's replicated this many times over!

That's what we need to do. Improve the hood and turn it into a neighborhood by improving the black economy.

For every one person that is born in the hood and still manages to succeed there are a couple who fell victim to the negative factors in the hood.

 

[.༼-◕_◕-༽.]

I've been familiar with these stats & it makes my heart ache.How do we go about protecting these black women?I will say I once dated someone who I thought could eventually be abusive & I ended things immediately. He was way too controlling & I distinctly remember one time when we were in the car he punched the palm of his hand because he saw a black guy being patted down by 2 white officers & he said it makes him so f*cking mad because he believes it was racially motivated.Even though the anger was not directed towards me it scared me.& I'm a firm believer in the saying when someone shows you who they are the first time believe them.

You absolutely did the right thing. I have no parts of anyone losing their temper or acting out. I do talk shyt on the Coli, but I'm very laid back in real life. I do not like raised voices, yelling or any aggression.

I believe in 100% cutoff with ONE fuccup. And I mean any indication of hostility, ill temper or aggression is automatic dead zone. OR apathy. Some men will try to keep your attention through minimal effort. That's weird to me. Like trying to have a whole conversation by text. Any signs of a fuccboi... Fuccbois are apathetic. They're not paying attention to details... They want your time & attention but their motives are sketchy...

 

[.༼-◕_◕-༽.]

That's what we need to do. Improve the hood and turn it into a neighborhood by improving the black economy.

For every one person that is born in the hood and still manages to succeed there are a couple who fell victim to the negative factors in the hood.

Have you read about Marva Collins yet? Please do. You'll get it if/when you read about her.

 

[Blackout]

Have you read about Marva Collins yet? Please do. You'll get it if/when you read about her.

She created a school which is basically along the lines of what I've been saying that we need to do?

 

[Solomon Caine]

The word 6 million Jews has appeared again and again in the media as early as 1915. Either way, I couldn't careless about a Jewish holocaust after all we (blacks) as a people have been through. Where are our museums, our reparations, our holocaust fund or our promised land? That's right we don't even get a simple apology.