It's not about insecurity...it's about protection.
That's the first thing we are taught (or should be taught) about sex...why not family planning?
As mentioned by someone in here, the test is just the confirmation. If a person wants their partner to have an STD test
before they let someone enter their body, why can't someone want a paternity test before they let someone in their family/heart?
I have a relative who fathered a child from the woman he was living with...the boy has named "(his name) Jr."
Some other nicca called him up and said "I was fuccin' yo' gal, that might be my baby". He got the test done behind
her back, and the boy wasn't his. The boy is walkin' around with his name on him, and that's not his blood.
And I know a couple other stories like this.
THAT SHOULDN'T HAPPEN TO ANYBODY.
Again, you all have posted real stats on the situation. Your anecdotes are the vast MINORITY. The vast MAJORITY of men are raising children that are theirs.
Also, the bold is rather silly logic especially if it's between a HUSBAND AND WIFE who decided to already CREATE that family together. Boyfriend/girlfriend..whatever I don't care because I'm not having out of wedlock children.
However, your logic, especially within the context of a husband and wife (a family) just does NOT fly. HIS feelings are NOT the only feelings that matter. Get your test for a child you planned (whether now or eventually) with your wife but please expect consequences and repercussions since he is NOT the only person that has to "protect" themselves. At that point, she need to protect herself so if protecting herself means not having anymore children with him or no longer living with a man who does not trust her (and she probably doesn't trust now), then hey everyone has to do what they have to do to be happy.
He needed a test to be happy (and was unwilling to be discrete and do it without her knowledge). She needs a different type of relationship/man to be happy. You can't say one is selfish without calling the other selfish.
