There will be generational shifts in what is considered normal at different ages, you saw that happening after the 2008 Recession, when people were making less, and overburdened by student debt, couldn't buy when home and ARM's/loan's were low, and then were trying to buy in a hot market about 6-7 years later, I'm in that exact range, of being 22 in 2008.
As far as what you want out of life, the idea that everyone gets to choose everything is not really accurate, people are influenced by family, neighborhood, economic situation, and the larger shifts in the world, as I described above, there's a slightly different reality where I get a girl pregnant in middle school (shoutout Tiffany) and just forever altered my life. Had I lived closer to her, and been over at her house, everyday,(while her Mom was gone) it could have easily happened. As it was, I had stronger influences, friend's families that kept me closer to my own immediate neighborhood, and "safer" in a sense.
There's another alternate path where I get a different woman pregnant when I was 18, it wasn't that I was so smart, some is that, some is luck, some is other influences in my life. I could have been washed and burned out so many times, it's a shock to me, I'm still here.