Question for Divorcees....Wknd Dad or Summer Dad? Edit: my friend is leaving the state

[HARLEM AL]

This is a bold face lie bro, stop repeating everything you hear. The only time a man doesn't get joint custody is if he don't want it. Most men have to fight to get hoint custody with no child support (because they usually make more than the woman so the court will still give her something) not for joint custody itself. I done seen too many men I know personally go through this bruh, you are wrong.

not true

 

[Heafcliffe]

Not divorced nor a father but I ain't with the "seasonal" dad shyt.
My presence will be known in my kids' lives.
There is no replacement.

 

[The Radiant One]

The hell are you talking about

You are literally giving the definition of joint custody. You talking about fighting for the kids?

The American court system has made it tradition for joint custody to be pro-mom having either a 5/2 day split or for a 3/1 season split.

nikkas having agreeable BM's like that acting like they did it on their own.

Say abusive and you only getting weekends if you live their. The BM at best wanted me to have her every other weekend.

 

[Gold]

I dont have kids

 

[Eastside Get The Money]

nikkas having agreeable BM's like that acting like they did it on their own.

Say abusive and you only getting weekends if you live their. The BM at best wanted me to have her every other weekend.

I’m still trying to comprehend what buddy is trying to say. Re-reading everything he said he might be type spectrum

 

[Sad Bunny]

Depends on the state...

In states like NY and Cali the only way a woman doesn't get full custody is if you can prove she's a crackhead...

Bro do you think I'm stupid I know what state I got married in.

I already looked up all of the alimony divorce and child laws

my wife ain't no bum bytch like most of these bytches her friends would never allow her to not let me see my child and yes we are planning to have a kid before we turn 35

 

[The Radiant One]

nikkas acting like GMB isn't a thing.

In so many divorces the woman gets custody of the kids and the dad is the summer. "Fighting in court" doesn't change anything but more money.

A word of warning to you brehs who are working things out with the mom. and not paying child support. She can turn around and claim you never paid it if you don't have a court order

 

[Sad Bunny]

Now you know damn well things can change & get messy real quick

On topic tho unless you have to as a Man you should take weekend >Summer if 50/50 won’t be an option .

What could make it messy?

I don't do drama or none of that. She can have child support as long as I get my 50/50

She can have everything. I just want my freedom

She will go to a lawyer right now & sign a contract if I said let's agree on 50-50 custody if we ever break up

 

[Sad Bunny]

nikkas acting like GMB isn't a thing.

In so many divorces the woman gets custody of the kids and the dad is the summer. "Fighting in court" doesn't change anything but more money.

A word of warning to you brehs who are working things out with the mom. and not paying child support. She can turn around and claim you never paid it if you don't have a court order

Being married would actually improve the chances of being able to see your kid rather than having a kid out of wedlock

 

[Sad Bunny]

Why are the breaking up @Marc Spector ?

Maybe that will answer why the wife is being like this

 

[Sad Bunny]

Somebody tell me what's the point of marriage again? shyt is dead in the water.

Marriage is better than having a BM

Marriage is easier to get out of.... having a child with somebody you are not going to be with it's just trash.

Don't let these celebrity marriages and rich people divorce is make you think everyone gets 50/50 after being divorced.

I know three or four people right now who got divorced and there were no drama or issues.

The only issues are due to co-parenting differences differences

 

[Tupac in a Business Suit]

Neither brehs. Spend that money and get a great attorney. You will reap the benefits later when they are well rounded adults due to your presence.

 

[FocusedDaily]

Show me the data. I personally know dudes who fought for the kids. Again, show me the data where the men were rewarded the children.

My friends are some good dudes, who've always paid support, and had regular visitation with their kids.

But to a ONE, they all talked that getting 50/50 custody mess, and never ever ever really tried because they'd rather pay support then give up the freedom.

So I don't know where you'd find that in a statistic, but I don't know 1 dude who's actually gone to court and tried to get full or half custody.
Just talk, about what they "should" do. They're good weekend/summer dads in the typical sense, but I see some of them regretting it now that we're 40 and they and the kids are old enough to realize that they could have done more.

 

[etrofllenrod504]

This and a lot of men have been feed the BS that you can't win in court and the judge is always gonna rule in favor of the ex. So many men are like why try when they gonna kick me in the ass anyway.

When actually if they get the right lawyers...document everything they can get joint custody (or in rare occasions full custody).

Finally we can't talk about this situation without admitting how society drives some of this. Society says any divorce its the husbands fault and that he should be ruined finacially, whipped in public and the kids should blame him for the family falling apart.

Society also says in the dating world that a man should accept a women with kids living with her from a previous relationship/divorce. But a woman shouldn't put up with the baggage of a man with kids living with him from a previous relationship/divorce.

No one mentions how difficult the dating game is for men who have sole or shared custody of their kids.

A lot of times women (even if they have kids) don't even want to deal with a man who is a single dad who has custody of his kids. Not the same as a dude who has kids that live with his ex (women overall don't really have as much of an issue with that).

This post is spot on! This is what helped me, I documented everything's also had pictures, text messages, and receipts. So when she kept my daughter from for a month I had everything to show how involved I was with my daughter. So the judge was like you doing all this to a man who is clearly a good father? She had zero evidence or merit to show for her actions so judge gave me all I wanted. The biggest thing is men have to realize if we want our rights with the kids we need to get lawyered up! It's better to take the lick with $$$$ up front(if you can) then being stuck in unfavorable circumstances and getting wrecked by child support.

 

[HARLEM AL]

My friends are some good dudes, who've always paid support, and had regular visitation with their kids.

But to a ONE, they all talked that getting 50/50 custody mess, and never ever ever really tried because they'd rather pay support then give up the freedom.

So I don't know where you'd find that in a statistic, but I don't know 1 dude who's actually gone to court and tried to get full or half custody.
Just talk, about what they "should" do. They're good weekend/summer dads in the typical sense, but I see some of them regretting it now that we're 40 and they and the kids are old enough to realize that they could have done more.

The 50-50 custody effects the child support situation. Which would mean the would have to go half on everything unless he makes a significant more money. That every other weekend shyt is considered shared custody(which absurd).

Child support court and family court are really running some unconstitutional shyt.