Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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on some real shyt though, if you want to avoid flakey women you gotta make a change in your life/philosophy cause your current one doesn't seem to be working out. not even trying to clown but let me put tit to you this way:

women flake on dudes only if they feel like they can get away with it. for some reason, your behavior is letting her think that. As Patrice would say, you gotta provide another option to the chick. give her the option to be with a man she can't flake on and she'l GLADLY choose that option.

yup women flake on dudes becase they know they can call the next wek or next month and he'll be ok with it, if a chick flakes on me thats it see you, someone who has experience in dating, relationships can tell when a women is really into him, they never flake. I mentioned before hcicks who were really into me travelling like a hour to see me in the rain after work etc., meeting me even when they had exams etc.
 

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I got caught slipping man....

I've been on my no nonsense tip for a minute when it comes to females but I treaded some familiar water yesterday.

Met this older chick at this spot on Friday night, shyt was cool, we pretty much chilled the entire night. Fast forward to yesterday...we agree to meet at another spot later that night. When I met her the first time, she seemed like a cool chick. Saw her last night and it was like shorty was auditioning for a music video, tight ass shorts just relishing all the attention. Whenever I go out with a girl to a club, I give her freedom to dance with whoever she wants, especially after just meeting. In the past a lot of girls who just turn down every offer they received...well not last night. She was on every dude in the party that came up to her. Some dude got her number while I went to the bar and once I came back she just claimed that he was stalking her :shaq2:. After last night I just erased shorty out of my phone. Sure I could possibly hit, but I could also possibly hit the million of other girls I see on a daily basis. I got what I deserved. I met a girl at the club and I got what I had coming. At first I was upset and then I realized that I didn't have to waste anymore time with her so its :manny:
 

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I got caught slipping man....

I've been on my no nonsense tip for a minute when it comes to females but I treaded some familiar water yesterday.

Met this older chick at this spot on Friday night, shyt was cool, we pretty much chilled the entire night. Fast forward to yesterday...we agree to meet at another spot later that night. When I met her the first time, she seemed like a cool chick. Saw her last night and it was like shorty was auditioning for a music video, tight ass shorts just relishing all the attention. Whenever I go out with a girl to a club, I give her freedom to dance with whoever she wants, especially after just meeting. In the past a lot of girls who just turn down every offer they received...well not last night. She was on every dude in the party that came up to her. Some dude got her number while I went to the bar and once I came back she just claimed that he was stalking her :shaq2:. After last night I just erased shorty out of my phone. Sure I could possibly hit, but I could also possibly hit the million of other girls I see on a daily basis. I got what I deserved. I met a girl at the club and I got what I had coming. At first I was upset and then I realized that I didn't have to waste anymore time with her so its :manny:
thats not ya girl nikka lol

why you actin like yall was together
 

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yup women flake on dudes becase they know they can call the next wek or next month and he'll be ok with it, if a chick flakes on me thats it see you, someone who has experience in dating, relationships can tell when a women is really into him, they never flake. I mentioned before hcicks who were really into me travelling like a hour to see me in the rain after work etc., meeting me even when they had exams etc.
truth.com

Once upon a time, i started talking to a chick once and she was feeling me HARD. she would call me, text me, etc even if she had to study for an exam the next day she'd rather talk to me. she'd invite me to stuff, and even wore what i'd tell her to wear. When a girl is FEELING you, she will want to please you and submit to you. The thought of not meeting your expectations actually makes them anxious and that anxiety actually gives them a high when it's released. deep down they love that shyt.

It lasted for a little bit and then the simp in me started to come out (and this is my fault). then all of a sudden she started to get "busier", flaking, disappearing..had yours truly questioning himself (why? what did i do? is she ok? :snoop:) she smelled weakness, saw a crack in my armor and felt like she could put me on hold while she explores her other options with no consequences. And to be fair, i can't even blame her cause i LET her think that.

All that to say this. Don't make excuses for chicks and don't cater your behavior to their personality. When a chick flakes on you or doesn't act right, only question you need to ask yourself is if you were being the true you. If so, the rest is on her. dismiss her and it's up to her to choose if she wants to get back in your cypher or if she doesn't care and stays out. EDIT: when they feel you, they'll drop everything in order to maybe spend 5 minutes in your company. when they're not feeling you anymore or see weakness they'll flake on you with not a fukk given. it is what it is. don't get mad at it. just be prepared for it and treat them accordingly without bitterness on one side or sympathy on the other.
 
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Some of these bytches are something else.

I went to a BBQ yesterday with my sister whose friend's daughter was celebrating her 18th. At one point, one of my sister's coworkers who I saw for the first time earlier in the day who probably didn't even know my name asks me if I can go get a drink for her. I just literally looked at this dizzy bytch like :what: :comeon:"you don't me from Adam and you're asking me to walk through the kitchen and into the backyard to get something for you?" She was like ok I'll it get no worries. Plus her 'sometime boyfriend' was at the BBQ too. I told my sister about it and she was like oh that's just how she is, she doesn't care.

Chick is in her mid 50s and thinks she's still 20 by the way she acts apparently.
breh she's like 50 though, she's an elder. Give her a pass :russ:
 

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breh she's like 50 though, she's an elder. Give her a pass :russ:

Nah dude, she's just a silly ass broad (from what I've been told) who refuses to grow up. 50 isn't exactly over the hill, plus women aren't nearly as mature as they once were.

You see all them women who are near that age who act no better than their dumb ass daughters. She's one of those.
 

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There are a lot of women that simply look at men as walking favor machines like darealness just saw. Don't even know the brother, she has two legs and can walk, but feels comfortable asking for a man to do something that she could easily do herself. Instead of appreciating the favor if he did it, she would look at herself as 'conquering him' with her charm and look at him as weak or easily manipulated and might have put him in a category to ask for more favors down the line.
 

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on some real shyt though, if you want to avoid flakey women you gotta make a change in your life/philosophy cause your current one doesn't seem to be working out. not even trying to clown but let me put tit to you this way:

women flake on dudes only if they feel like they can get away with it. for some reason, your behavior is letting her think that. As Patrice would say, you gotta provide another option to the chick. give her the option to be with a man she can't flake on and she'l GLADLY choose that option.


Once again, never had issues with women flaking until these 2 that ive been talking about. Im doing the same thing ive always done which has worked for me. However; I do need to adjust sometimes, the chick that I went on the date with I was to accesible to hitting her up and responding to her text and when I went out of town I told her when I was boarding and landing like she requested. Looking back I shouldnt have done that. The second chick didnt like what I told her today because she said "ouch" after she told me she would get back to me yesterday and she didnt get back to me until this morning.

I got another number yesterday, i will hit her up a little later and see what happens with that, im setting something up tonight for like the next 2-3 days
 

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nikka don't know how hard it is to bag women with no car,no money,no food in the house for real,live with ya mama,being a young nikka,no shoes,no clothing that not 2 years old.

Some how women still try to start conversations up with me even tho i walk around with a mean mug or blank face.

I just want to be left alone......... Cuz if they found out what im really about they going to shyt talk on me to there friends:sadcam:.
 

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nikka don't know how hard it is to bag women with no car,no money,no food in the house for real,live with ya mama,being a young nikka,no shoes,no clothing that not 2 years old.

Some how women still try to start conversations up with me even tho i walk around with a mean mug or blank face.

I just want to be left alone......... Cuz if they found out what im really about they going to shyt talk on me to there friends:sadcam:.

it's not hard bagging women when you're in a situation like that.

It's hard KEEPING women when you're in a situation like that.
 

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Brehs,

Had you ever had a issue with the dating scene in your area? Did you have better luck with dating in a different environment that where you have lived or live currently now?
 
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