Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Poh SIti Dawn]

nope
i just dont want children
all of that carrying on the family name etc. is bs
children are a anchor and a drain

In your opinion, but not to all is having a child solely for the purpose of "carrying on the family name". You make it sound like having a child is a business move.

Either way first you state that you don't want to be saddled down, then you say it's about money, and now they're an anchor. What's the purpose of dating/marrying a woman if you don't want to be saddled down and anchored? You seem to lead a very Christian lifestyle so in other words I know that you're not fukking women, so your only other option is to be saddled down if you want to truly interact with the opposite sex, but if you didn't want to do that and wanted to be a loner then you wouldn't even be posting in this thread.

This woman that I knew had a far more valid argument than yours and she didn't contradict herself, now do you see why I'm so interested in her point of view?

 

[Youseenmywork]

When I first felt this way at 19 I never really told anybody I don't think I had the confidence to utter such a thing and I was afraid of what most peoples response was going be. When I was in college I would see women pregnant and not married and think that's never going to be me cause having children out of wedlock is lame to me and in this generation its about as coo as the word ...SWAG or something its almost like its a must do thing and that is sad. The term baby mama should never be coo but it is and the same with baby daddy. Call me old fashion but its how I fell. On campus it was always some struggle between the baby mama and the father and they never married. I pretty sure me not wanting children is deep rooted in my childhood some were that's what a physiologist probably would say and at times I did feel like a burden but I don't believe that's the reason. My parents wasn't the best example either my dad was 25 and my mother was 19 when she had me...and to be honesty with yall ...hell I believe I was born out of lust. My mother got with my dad cause he had a job and a car and my dad excepted my cause she liked him. My dad has never been good with women or knowledgeable which I can see why women run him. In my life I have never seen a ...relationship that I admire. Me and moms just got a go page about three years. So yeah really don't wont children. Ill leaving out a lot of stuff its just to real. I think that its interesting that people are still expected to provide reasons not have children, but no reasons are required to have them. Anybody that knows me knows well .. I hate complaining so... All praise do Jesus Christ all mistakes have been mine !

P.S. I remember the first time I told my father I didn't wanna have children (25 years old ) ...him being a preacher he told me he thought that GOD may not bless me in my life or I could be missing out on a blessing

 

[Turbulent]

i never felt like having children either.

 

[Sharp]

You share that girl

Many men are so caught up with a woman’s intoxicating beauty that he can easily get lost in the allure of her touch, scent and appearance that he will start intentionally overlooking all the signs that point him to the fact he needs to WALK AWAY from her a*s.

1. She Loves Going Out – A Lot – Without You

It’s cool that every woman feels the need to get out and have fun with her friends. It’s cool if she needs time away from you just so she can stay being a balanced person. Hell if you are still young, her going out with her friends is not a bad thing at all, as some young women need to burn themselves out from the party scene before kids, mortgage payments and all the other things that encompass being a grown-a*s woman come into her life in full effect. With that said, if she has created a whole separate party life away from you that you are not privy to, because she likes keeping you both separate - “You Share That Girl.” Unless she is a DJ or bartender, punch her in the left breast next time you see her.

2. Her Male Friends Aren’t Exactly Sure Who You Are

You can also chalk this up to: Her male friends aren’t exactly sure about the nature of your relationship and as far as they are concerned she is fully in play because she has never stated the opposite. You may be her baby-father or living with her, but that doesn’t mean other people don’t look at your relationship as fractured, leaving a crack open for them to slide in – which is not too difficult because she doesn’t claim you as her one and only man – because “You Share That Girl.”

3. Her Friends Are H0es

Birds of a feather, f*^k very similarly and your girls friends are NO different. YES it is possible for your ONE girl to be the NON-H0E in a group of scallywags, but understand that is highly unlikely. When her friends are sharing their tales of running through the Miami Heat like suicide sprints, she is up there giggling and laughing and high fiving too, because she SHARES a common bond with her girlfriends and going through multiple richards in one night is not abnormal to her – because “You Share That Girl.”

4. She Wants To Be Famous – For The Sake Of Fame

This is a crucial one that many guys tend to overlook. Any woman that wants to have her name in big bright lights NOT because she has a particular talent, but just because she dreams of being a rich, socialite with V.I.P. access to all the biggest events, is not someone interested in your long term potential as a couple. In fact she’s so focused on the short term, there’s a good chance she will be open to doing whatever she has to be popular - “You Share That Girl.”

5. She Constantly Flirts With Ex-Boyfriends

Flirting is only acceptable when it’s innocent and it’s only innocent when you have NOT seen that person naked and have felt their genitals pressed against yours. If she is L-O-L’ing on Facebook/Twitter/Text Messages and constantly calling/seeing this guy, then at that point you know they aren’t just maintaining a healthy “post-relationship friendship” and they are nurturing a potential booty-call situation. Once again, the key words here are “constantly” and “flirting” not just being nice or polite, but actually harbouring sexual tension – just a sign that “You Share That Girl.”

6. She Has Too Many DAMN Male Friends – And She Defends Them A Little TOO Hard

I know a lot of women with a lot of male friends and I can KINDA understand them when they say they can’t deal with women because they are too loud, overemotional and generally a*shole-ish beings, but when a woman has TOO many male friends it should raise a red flag. And If she defends them harder than Alonzo Mourning in the paint, then you need to ask yourself “the hell is wrong with this b*tch?” Every woman should have at least TWO good female friends that she can talk sh*t to, work out problems with, and generally just do girl stuff with. If your woman doesn’t have a ride or die girlfriend, chances are she uses MEN for every type of support she can need and we as men already know how easy it is for a lot of men to hide their true feelings and intentions for a woman. The second she starts wanting to pop out the shank just because you told her you aren’t comfortable with the way Eric looks at her, then that’s the point you should be DAMN WELL SURE “You Share That Girl.”

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[Mr210]

went on a date on friday night, went well, we will see each other again wednesday after work. The other chick that I went on a date with last weekend, havent heard from her in 3 days and we are suppose to be going to a concert tonight.

Thats why Im feeling chick number 1, if I dont hit her up, she always will hit me up, we havent gone 1 day w/o some sort of contact

 

[MikelArteta]

In your opinion, but not to all is having a child solely for the purpose of "carrying on the family name". You make it sound like having a child is a business move.

Either way first you state that you don't want to be saddled down, then you say it's about money, and now they're an anchor. What's the purpose of dating/marrying a woman if you don't want to be saddled down and anchored? You seem to lead a very Christian lifestyle so in other words I know that you're not fukking women, so your only other option is to be saddled down if you want to truly interact with the opposite sex, but if you didn't want to do that and wanted to be a loner then you wouldn't even be posting in this thread.

This woman that I knew had a far more valid argument than yours and she didn't contradict herself, now do you see why I'm so interested in her point of view?

I never contradicted myself. I was simply stating the reasons that have been thrown at me for not having kids, don't you want to carry on your family name, don't you want to raise a kid that is yours and you love.

I like to be free as a bird, i like to do what I love. And not really like I say i casually date, I don't want anything serious and the women i date know that.

Actually if you read any of my postings I post in this thread to post my life experiences and how women have directly affected it.

 

[MikelArteta]

went on a date on friday night, went well, we will see each other again wednesday after work. The other chick that I went on a date with last weekend, havent heard from her in 3 days and we are suppose to be going to a concert tonight.

Thats why Im feeling chick number 1, if I dont hit her up, she always will hit me up, we havent gone 1 day w/o some sort of contact

see when your not exclusive having more than one option if one flakes your like no big deal.

 

[Mr210]

see when your not exclusive having more than one option if one flakes your like no big deal.

Def. agree, When all my eggs were in one basket, shyt sucked, but now im like whatever, because right now I have atleast one chick who is always eager to see me. I told her yesterday that I had the next 5 days off and she was like Yay! now we can see each other. Any other chicks I add to the rotation will be my backup plans, fills in or whatever position I need them to play

 

[sixsixtwo]

 

[MikelArteta]

Def. agree, When all my eggs were in one basket, shyt sucked, but now im like whatever, because right now I have atleast one chick who is always eager to see me. I told her yesterday that I had the next 5 days off and she was like Yay! now we can see each other. Any other chicks I add to the rotation will be my backup plans, fills in or whatever position I need them to play

Its like I always say if a chick is interested in you and really feeling you you will know .

 

[Turbulent]

Def. agree, When all my eggs were in one basket, shyt sucked, but now im like whatever, because right now I have atleast one chick who is always eager to see me. I told her yesterday that I had the next 5 days off and she was like Yay! now we can see each other. Any other chicks I add to the rotation will be my backup plans, fills in or whatever position I need them to play

the hardest part is getting out of the drought because it's almost like a vicious cycle energy wise. getting the first one is the hardest cause you have no other options at the moment. but once you get her, things start to roll.
and even your posting style kinda changed (peep your earlier posts in this thread).

i think the solution to that problem (getting out of the drought) is to shift your perspective. Getting the "first one", we feel like it's do or die cause there are no other options. we need to redefine what "option" means. Don't view "people" as options but rather view "what to do with your time" as options. that way you don't see it as "only chick i have is nathalie", instead you should view it as "I can either spend my time with nathalie or i could spend it doing XYZ". If the person is the option itself, you tend to see it as more valuable because you're trying to own them (something you have no control over). But if the option is based on your time, then it's something you have control over so you already gain power. it's a small nuance but it can make the difference as far as your state of mind is concerned.

 

[Mr210]

Its like I always say if a chick is interested in you and really feeling you you will know .

Yeah my eyes have really opened up the past week or so, this thread has def. helped me

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

I never contradicted myself. I was simply stating the reasons that have been thrown at me for not having kids, don't you want to carry on your family name, don't you want to raise a kid that is yours and you love.

I like to be free as a bird, i like to do what I love. And not really like I say i casually date, I don't want anything serious and the women i date know that.

Actually if you read any of my postings I post in this thread to post my life experiences and how women have directly affected it.

So in other words, you haven't gotten over that whole ordeal with your ex fiancé. Oh okay.

Sounds like you're pretty bitter man. And why does it sound that way? Well I've never heard you mention anything positive about your relationships, it's always been something negative and your advice at times reeks of insecurity. And there you go again, you like to be as free as a bird yet you're in Canada and living with your parents, right?

I have read your posts, don't get so defensive; I didn't break your heart. But why casually date if you like your freedom? Aren't you just teasing yourself?

 

[MikelArteta]

So in other words, you haven't gotten over that whole ordeal with your ex fiancé. Oh okay.

Sounds like you're pretty bitter man.

in other words you have no rebuttal, and have to resort to calling me bitter because i don't conform to the pc way of life. Because I don't want children I'm bitter , because even when i said if i get married i still wouldn';t want children, i';m bitter .

And actually the whole ordeal with my ex fiance i got over that years ago, I haven't seen, spoken to my ex fiance since 2008, try again.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

in other words you have no rebuttal, and have to resort to calling me bitter because i don't conform to the pc way of life. Because I don't want children I'm bitter , because even when i said if i get married i still wouldn';t want children, i';m bitter .

And actually the whole ordeal with my ex fiance i got over that years ago, I haven't seen, spoken to my ex fiance since 2008, try again.

I called you bitter because I've yet to see you say 1 positive thing about your experiences with women, it's always "don't trust them brehs", "get married brehs", "after your date don't text them brehs" all of these feelings and ideas aren't given to you at birth, they're birthed in you over time. And yes, congratulations that's good, but you do realize that from the sounds of things you allowed that woman to destroy you, right? The ether that she gave you was strong enough to make you run to religion, never believe in a true relationship, and not even want to have kids, and don't say that you've always felt that way because if you did then you wouldn't have called off the wedding when she got an abortion. The whole money and time reasoning behind your argument is meaningless when you still casually date, I figure that these things are no other than walls that will be knocked down when you find the right one, that is, if your bitterness doesn't destroy you first.