we often talk about men having no father figures and what effects it can have on them, but the women who have poor father figures in their lives, or have none, are usually left lost and seeking one throughout their lives. these are those immature females who are desperate to be seen, the ones who are always doing too much and wearing so little because they seek out constant male approval, need plenty of attention in their lives to feel like they are of any worth ... and they even say they want someone who will put them back in line when they act out. they dont consciously know it, but theyre going around looking for a man who will babysit her, give her needy ass constant attention, to "put up with her," and "spoil her" while hes blindly accepting and caring for her. what these immature females are looking for is at the root of it all, and they are looking for things that she seeks out in a father figure. shes out there looking for a man that will subconsciously, in her mind, become her real daddy.
while they are seeking a man to follow, unfortunately, many times their ideas of what a "real man" is, are based on traits that are unrealistic, superficial, almost entirely self serving on the side of the woman, and more than likely destructive. we all know about the single mother who has a laundry list of oxymoronic qualities and fantasy like requirements for you to get with her and be considered "a real man." a lot of times the concepts they have come from them not having a real man around them when they were being raised. this robs them of an opportunity for them to understand what a real man is and does. so what they do, is they find a man who
looks like a strong and important man, but they fail to chose the man who really
is one.
while their instincts might be kicking in on a certain level, and a few of their ideas I feel are right to a degree, I think that really many women who are brought up fatherless tend to have their life priorities mixed up and only know how to seek out males who can play the part, but arent really the part.
in their minds, a thug, a player, or a trick, is their ideal of what a man should be. they take parts here and there of what a man can be in their lives ... the protector, the lover, and the provider; and instead warp them
theres a lot to be said about the family unit and communities falling apart, and when we look at it like that, I believe that we begin to see why there are so many misconceptions and misunderstandings about relationships and gender roles today. thats why we have women seeking men who are cartoonish in their "manliness," and are juvenille underneath it all. these women dont even know it, but they are looking for a reflection of who they are and how they were raised. they have childish expectations and wants that are overriding their decisions. their desires are compromised by how they were brought up, which have roots in irresponsibility, selfishness, a somewhat sociopathic attitude, and being highly attention driven. they wind up linking with the other half of the equation, which in turn, are the males who are are irresponsible, reckless, sociopathic, and thirst driven.
now both sides have given up the responsibilites and roles that they have for each another, and are really living out the childish images that we have of one another. its short sighted and detrimental for what is meant to be a very serious relationship. if we cant figure out how to please and serve each other, then we cant really be working with the other side that seriously. and I mean society as a whole has to wake up and realize what we're doing. a lot of broken homes are showing us why we fail to understand what makes the true man/woman dynamic so unique and important for our futures. we cant have strong foundations in what is actual and what each brings to the table, if everyone is as dishonest, confused, and self centered like we are today.