Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Two Stacks]

how do yall brehs feel about being roommates with a chick that you're not dating

she's fine as shyt too

yeah i was expecting a similar situation with one girl at work a little while back if i went down the same route, we still casually flirt and get along but i know it could go down that route and i don't want it to be a thing everyone's talking about at work esp if it looks like i'm the simp (gotta carry myself as professionally even if my job isn't glamorous). we get along but i aint going down that route it don't make sense if you feel like you may have to work for it. i gave her money today to grab me something, but she didn't take it and just bought it for me



too many people in the world and even at work for me to stress these situations. the thing with coworkers i've noticed that is that it can be super easy to take the plunge, but its often not the right moment. id rather knock my work out and feel the situation out over time without getting too friendly with people, but i play it kinda safe at work

im still going to be cordial to her during work situations and in front of other people (read: managers). but that's it.

 

[Atlrocafella]

a nikka just fumbled the pass.

 

[Oye]

Really awkward moment for me a couple of days ago. I was going in CVS when I saw one of my moms friends in the parking lot and ended up walking in with her and talking. She needed to get some prescriptions filled for her husband so I walked with her to the pharmacy. So when we get there the pharmacist turns out to be a beautiful young green eyed Puerto Rican and I am like . Now comes the awkward part which is my moms friend has been trying for the last 10+ years to hook me up with her daughter and her daughter has had a huge crush on me for as long as I can remember. So here I am looking at this beautiful woman who is staring at me while she talks to my moms friend and I can feel my moms friend looking at me like
So as she's filling the prescription we start talking and she's laughing at my corny jokes and basically taking her sweet time. My moms friend isn't saying a word and she's usually very talkative so I know she was getting pissed so I dialed it back. In the end I didnt get her number and she had a confused look on her face as we were leaving. But I'll go back there by myself and grab some gum or something and see if she's there so.

Normally I wouldn't care but this is a woman who has looked out for me in the past and she's actually a good friend of the family in general. So out of respect I didn't want to get this woman's number in front of her after telling her I'm not looking for a GF while she offers up her daughter to me. The funny part is her daughter is actually cute but I don't want to get with her and I've told her mom that before and she insists we will get married.

 

[George Gooney]

Really awkward moment for me a couple of days ago. I was going in CVS when I saw one of my moms friends in the parking lot and ended up walking in with her and talking. She needed to get some prescriptions filled for her husband so I walked with her to the pharmacy. So when we get there the pharmacist turns out to be a beautiful young green eyed Puerto Rican and I am like . Now comes the awkward part which is my moms friend has been trying for the last 10+ years to hook me up with her daughter and her daughter has had a huge crush on me for as long as I can remember. So here I am looking at this beautiful woman who is staring at me while she talks to my moms friend and I can feel my moms friend looking at me like
So as she's filling the prescription we start talking and she's laughing at my corny jokes and basically taking her sweet time. My moms friend isn't saying a word and she's usually very talkative so I know she was getting pissed so I dialed it back. In the end I didnt get her number and she had a confused look on her face as we were leaving. But I'll go back there by myself and grab some gum or something and see if she's there so.

Normally I wouldn't care but this is a woman who has looked out for me in the past and she's actually a good friend of the family in general. So out of respect I didn't want to get this woman's number in front of her after telling her I'm not looking for a GF while she offers up her daughter to me. The funny part is her daughter is actually cute but I don't want to get with her and I've told her mom that before and she insists we will get married.

What's wrong with the daughter that makes you not want to get with her breh?

 

[Oye]

What's wrong with the daughter that makes you not want to get with her breh?

Her mom is very overbearing and it would be a weird situation if things don't work out between her daughter and I. I imagine my mom and her mom wouldnt be friends anymore and they've known each other longer than either of us has been alive.

 

[The ADD]

Her mom is very overbearing and it would be a weird situation if things don't work out between her daughter and I. I imagine my mom and her mom wouldnt be friends anymore and they've known each other longer than either of us has been alive.

Tell her that

 

[AJtheOne]

Really awkward moment for me a couple of days ago. I was going in CVS when I saw one of my moms friends in the parking lot and ended up walking in with her and talking. She needed to get some prescriptions filled for her husband so I walked with her to the pharmacy. So when we get there the pharmacist turns out to be a beautiful young green eyed Puerto Rican and I am like . Now comes the awkward part which is my moms friend has been trying for the last 10+ years to hook me up with her daughter and her daughter has had a huge crush on me for as long as I can remember. So here I am looking at this beautiful woman who is staring at me while she talks to my moms friend and I can feel my moms friend looking at me like
So as she's filling the prescription we start talking and she's laughing at my corny jokes and basically taking her sweet time. My moms friend isn't saying a word and she's usually very talkative so I know she was getting pissed so I dialed it back. In the end I didnt get her number and she had a confused look on her face as we were leaving. But I'll go back there by myself and grab some gum or something and see if she's there so.

Normally I wouldn't care but this is a woman who has looked out for me in the past and she's actually a good friend of the family in general. So out of respect I didn't want to get this woman's number in front of her after telling her I'm not looking for a GF while she offers up her daughter to me. The funny part is her daughter is actually cute but I don't want to get with her and I've told her mom that before and she insists we will get married.

should have walked your mom's friend to her car, and then go back in the store to get that Puerto Rican mami's phone number

 

[T-K-G]

Nah man, if you dropped that kind to joke on a girl out of the blue, 80% of the time, they'll take it left.

yall nikkas must be 30+ years old, or dealing with some straight up dumbass females then

 

[DaRealness]

Really awkward moment for me a couple of days ago. I was going in CVS when I saw one of my moms friends in the parking lot and ended up walking in with her and talking. She needed to get some prescriptions filled for her husband so I walked with her to the pharmacy. So when we get there the pharmacist turns out to be a beautiful young green eyed Puerto Rican and I am like . Now comes the awkward part which is my moms friend has been trying for the last 10+ years to hook me up with her daughter and her daughter has had a huge crush on me for as long as I can remember. So here I am looking at this beautiful woman who is staring at me while she talks to my moms friend and I can feel my moms friend looking at me like
So as she's filling the prescription we start talking and she's laughing at my corny jokes and basically taking her sweet time. My moms friend isn't saying a word and she's usually very talkative so I know she was getting pissed so I dialed it back. In the end I didnt get her number and she had a confused look on her face as we were leaving. But I'll go back there by myself and grab some gum or something and see if she's there so.

Normally I wouldn't care but this is a woman who has looked out for me in the past and she's actually a good friend of the family in general. So out of respect I didn't want to get this woman's number in front of her after telling her I'm not looking for a GF while she offers up her daughter to me. The funny part is her daughter is actually cute but I don't want to get with her and I've told her mom that before and she insists we will get married.

Her mom is very overbearing and it would be a weird situation if things don't work out between her daughter and I. I imagine my mom and her mom wouldnt be friends anymore and they've known each other longer than either of us has been alive.

Dude, look, your mother's friend doesn't own you and you don't owe her or her a daughter a damn thing. You're a grown ass man and it's up to YOU who you choose to date, simple as that. You don't need to explain yourself to anybody.

I can relate to your story, because I mentioned recently this hoe ass cousin I had an altercation with back in the summer. Her mother (my aunt by marriage) has an extremely overbearing personality to the point where you feel stifled at times. Last year, she was always saying it would be so good if me and my cousin's best friend can hook up, with no thought or consideration whatsoever for the fact that I was still grieving over the breakdown of marriage. She was saying how all this chick wants is a good man and blah blah blah (like I'm supposed to just get with a chick based on that as if that's my concern or business ) and she thinks we would suit each other. I was offended by this, because at no time were MY feelings ever considered, it's all based on getting with that broad just to make her feel better. I would have never hooked up with that chick anyway because 1)we're on two different paths spiritually, so no point in even going there, and 2)she and my cousin and the rest of that side of the family are very tight. My skeezoid cousin is similar to her mother and very difficult to get along with at times. Even before the incident, there was no way I was going to put myself in a position where those people are gonna be in my face all the time, cos we'd never have any privacy and if we ever broke up, the shyt would never go in my favour cos they would all turn against me no matter who was at fault. Anyway, after the incident, I don't fukk with those people anymore. But imagine if I did get with her before all that?

The point is, you're not obligated to date a chick you're not interested in just because her parents want to play the role of cupid. Personally, I would have bagged that PR chick with no fukks given. If the chick's mother don't like it, too fukking bad. Just because she may have looked out for you in the past doesn't mean you have to succumb to her wishes, so don't pass up on opportunities just to mqake another person feel better. Guaranteed, they ain't doing that shyt for you. I may sound harsh here, but I'm sick and tired of people who think they have a right to dictate and coerce others into doing shyt. You ain't no Indian chick on some arranged marriage bullshyt. We live in the west and have a choice. I'm sure there's at least 100 other dudes willing to date this broad. The mother needs to back off and mind her business. I mean, the mere fact that she's been trying to hook y'all up for 10+ years....I don't know man, but.....anyway you know them better than I do.......

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Ayo brehs you ever been tempted to re-establish a connection wth an old flame or lady you use to date.I was driving the other day and my mind ran on not to say an ex but she had great potential.Had to snap out of it.Glad I resisted the urge tho

 

[Rocket Scientist]

One thing to look out for is the women that try to pass jokes off as the truth. For example "Haha baby your so stupid" "If I ever left you it wouldnt be like that,I would do it differently" *you give her the she says "just joking". Alot of women do that,not to sound sexist but women arent gut busting funny in the first place,so their attempts at humor is wack at times.Watch out for the half jokes-little digs!

 

[Dooby]

Never refer to anything other than your wife, as your woman. Always refer her to as a girl. It will portray dominance because she will always refer to you as her man, a superior being. If and when she becomes wife, this will be instilled in her brain.

 

[DaRealness]

A lot of chicks say these 'jokes' just to test your reaction and gauge where your mind is at.

 

[kevm3]

I think Malik did the right thing hanging up the phone. These broads be telling jokes, but they don't really be jokes. They are underhanded little comments to test you. What in the world is she thinking about 'the next boyfriend' she's going to be with in the first place? Screw being cool and laughing it off. Being 'secure' in this day and age seems to be to put up with all of a woman's nonsense and underhanded digs and out of pocket behavior by acting like it doesn't affect you. Sometimes you got to set the precedent and let her know that kind of stuff won't fly at all. She can say you're insecure, you're this, you're that all she wants, but honestly, who cares? If you're with a woman, no need to put up with out of line behavior.

 

[RealAssanova]

I think Malik did the right thing hanging up the phone. These broads be telling jokes, but they don't really be jokes. They are underhanded little comments to test you. What in the world is she thinking about 'the next boyfriend' she's going to be with in the first place? Screw being cool and laughing it off. Being 'secure' in this day and age seems to be to put up with all of a woman's nonsense and underhanded digs and out of pocket behavior by acting like it doesn't affect you. Sometimes you got to set the precedent and let her know that kind of stuff won't fly at all. She can say you're insecure, you're this, you're that all she wants, but honestly, who cares? If you're with a woman, no need to put up with out of line behavior.

while i totally agree with this, i only think it applies to certain situations. I don't think homeboy's case was befitting for this. I think all he shuda done was respond in kind, or change da subject. BUT, if she was to do it again or on numerous other occasions, i'd end the relationship.