Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Ah shyt.
Brehs,
This chick told me she still fukks her ex when she gets horny.
They have been broken up for a while but she keeps in contact with her ex because they are "friends".

I don't know what is worse.
A woman you are talking to who still keep in contact with her "friends" that are exes or a woman who still keep in contact with friends that she grew up with who she considers "brothers" :snoop:

She said she will not terminate her friendship with her ex for no man.

She expects for me to get in a relationship with her,
negro please.
 

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@DaRealness I need some real hardcore concrete advice...the best you can give...

In terms of the customer service situation I am at my absolute wits end...without getting into long stories I still continue to be tried from women of all ages from 20 to 70...and it isn't necessarily in your face agression or disrespect....its passive and on the sly which pisses me off even more...

For example this one lady at least FOUR separate times including today she has thrown her keys on the conveyer belt without greetingme(not that it would make a difference) then each of the times I don't look for her key...and she will ask me if I put in the card...and when I tell her "miss I don't know which is ur card" with a smile she picks it up and then gives it to me...one part of me would say the first time it happened I did a good job holding my ground...

But what am I doing wrong? ITS like they wanna get disrespected and have their spots blown up....because each time she finds the card and gives it back with a smile on her face.....she is an older lady but there is no way in hell she continues to forget like that....its like she is daring me to give in one day...

We mentioned earlier that its because of these naive older gentleman who put these women who are now 50+ on pedastals and raised their daughters the same way and those daughters will end up the same in 2054

I cannot comprehend the sheer disrespect and condescending....this is exactly why I understand why a lot of them get their asses beat...not that I'm condoning domesticviolence but I understand....

And it isn't just this lady....its numerous other ladies...

I mean I look young formy age and get the feeling they want to take their attitudes and anger out onpeople they think are younger than they are....but this is out of control...

Like I said if you have some real concrete advice for me let me know

As someone who used to work in the bank as a cashier years ago, my best advice is just don't rise to the bait. If it was a non work situation, then by all means you could put them in their place. Unfortunately, when you work with the general public, then that kind of bs is inevitable. You can't help what other people do. Throwing keys at someone on a conveyor belt is just ignorant and of course this woman knows damn well what she's doing, but if you need to pay the bills, don't let anyone provoke you into doing something that will make you lose your job. Just keep doing what you're doing and let her pick her keys back up and find the card her damn self. Don't give her any dirty looks or get mad because that's what she wants you to do.

What's worked for me at times is jedi mind tricking customers like her by being overly nice to them with a great big smile and making bullshyt small talk. Usually they wouldn't know where to look and when they see (or at least think) they're not getting to you they'll either stop their nonsense or go to another line in future.


Ah shyt.
Brehs,
This chick told me she still fukks her ex when she gets horny.
They have been broken up for a while but she keeps in contact with her ex because they are "friends".

I don't know what is worse.
A woman you are talking to who still keep in contact with her "friends" that are exes or a woman who still keep in contact with friends that she grew up with who she considers "brothers" :snoop:

She said she will not terminate her friendship with her ex for no man.

She expects for me to get in a relationship with her,
negro please.
In that case, I'd simply wish her all the best and keep it moving. :yeshrug: Time is precious and I wouldn't waste another second on her.
 

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Ah shyt.
Brehs,
This chick told me she still fukks her ex when she gets horny.
They have been broken up for a while but she keeps in contact with her ex because they are "friends".

I don't know what is worse.
A woman you are talking to who still keep in contact with her "friends" that are exes or a woman who still keep in contact with friends that she grew up with who she considers "brothers" :snoop:

She said she will not terminate her friendship with her ex for no man.

She expects for me to get in a relationship with her,
negro please.

:scusthov:

Women really don't analyze the type of things that come out their mouths but you also gotta realize if she was willing to tell you the bolded, she didn't see you as long term potential anyway and its almost a cue to make yall's situation strictly pleasure.
 

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So I recently got my tax return....I was thinking for a while to use it to get a secured credit card but now I'm not sure....I have no history of creditand I know they usually recommend secured creditcards for peoplein my situation when ur getting ur first card...

But do any of u guys have any tips for me if I should go ahead with it or not? I guess I'm worried about having to pay part of a cable bill monthly while working a minimum wage job I make under $200 weekly while paying a credit bill monthly will be too much....

Does the secured credit card really help in the long run guys?

How else would u recommend using a $215 fed return and $40 state return...

Btw @Turbulent this upcoming Monday is when I will be starting stronglifts and GOMAD
 

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:scusthov:

Women really don't analyze the type of things that come out their mouths but you also gotta realize if she was willing to tell you the bolded, she didn't see you as long term potential anyway and its almost a cue to make yall's situation strictly pleasure.

And that's a good thing...let them tell on themselves. It makes it much easier for us.

Just caught this chick trying to start an argument with me thru text... I dont have time for that shyt so i flat out told her delete my #

Another one bites the dust :camby:

That's the way to do it. Never get caught in any silly cattiness with a woman who ain't even your girl.

I don't get in any back and forths with women anymore, that's shyt not a good look and I don't have the time or patience for it. I dead that shyt right away. They can save it for their girlfriends or some hangers-on dude they have on a leash.
 

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And that's a good thing...let them tell on themselves. It makes it much easier for us.



That's the way to do it. Never get caught in any silly cattiness with a woman who ain't even your girl.

I don't get in any back and forths with women anymore, that's shyt not a good look and I don't have the time or patience for it. I dead that shyt right away. They can save it for their girlfriends or some hangers-on dude they have on a leash.

man thats my issue, i have a problem going back and forth with these chicks, im glad my current girl and I dont have that issue. I always like to get the last word in and want to one up the other chick, but its just a waste of time
 

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So for those of you that have been following my situation. I took the advice I got in this thread.

Wound up checking my homegirl about dating her friend. Put my foot down, and she respected that.

I think lowkey my broad respected it too.

Women subconsciouly or consciously want a man to take charge.

Even though they might not admit it.

Things been going smoothly with the broad thus far, she's from a 2 parent household with a strong father ( I dont deal with women from single mother households--they're always a headache) so i dont suspect any kind of insubordination but things are still pretty early.


Thanks coli brehs you opened my eyes :blessed::to:
 

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Ah shyt.
Brehs,
This chick told me she still fukks her ex when she gets horny.
They have been broken up for a while but she keeps in contact with her ex because they are "friends".

I don't know what is worse.
A woman you are talking to who still keep in contact with her "friends" that are exes or a woman who still keep in contact with friends that she grew up with who she considers "brothers" :snoop:

She said she will not terminate her friendship with her ex for no man.

She expects for me to get in a relationship with her,
negro please.

My girl is still friends with her ex. They dated 3 years. He did a lot for her and her fam and she told me that their friendship won't terminate. She has no feelings of love for him anymore she says.

She wants me to meet this nikka too but idk of I really want to yet.

Anyways Im not cool with it at all and she knows this but it's just something I can accept, I trust her.
 

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Ah shyt.
Brehs,
This chick told me she still fukks her ex when she gets horny.
They have been broken up for a while but she keeps in contact with her ex because they are "friends".

I don't know what is worse.
A woman you are talking to who still keep in contact with her "friends" that are exes or a woman who still keep in contact with friends that she grew up with who she considers "brothers" :snoop:

She said she will not terminate her friendship with her ex for no man.

She expects for me to get in a relationship with her,
negro please.
I was in a situation like this a couple years ago. Talked to this chick for like 8 months and peep this I've only had sex with her 1 time. She had an ex that she was still sleeping with although she told me that he treated her bad and all that crap. She just loved his penis. I was a rookie in the game and I didn't know no better and I stuck around her for that long. That moment taught me to never deal with chicks who are still talking to their exes and always have other options available.
 

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So for those of you that have been following my situation. I took the advice I got in this thread.

Wound up checking my homegirl about dating her friend. Put my foot down, and she respected that.

I think lowkey my broad respected it too.

Women subconsciouly or consciously want a man to take charge.

Even though they might not admit it.

Things been going smoothly with the broad thus far, she's from a 2 parent household with a strong father ( I dont deal with women from single mother households--they're always a headache) so i dont suspect any kind of insubordination but things are still pretty early.


Thanks coli brehs you opened my eyes :blessed::to:

LOL I remember that post. :pachaha: I couldn't understand why you were letting some next chick tell you who she feels you should and shouldn't date as if she would ever ask for your permission or blessing if it was the other way around. Even your own mother shouldn't have that kind of power over you when you're a grown ass man.

Male or female, people will always try you and if they see they can push you around they'll NEVER respect you until you give them the :comeon: and put your foot down. The fukk they gonna do anyway? It gets to a point where you realise a person's bark is always way worse than their bite, so you don't have shyt to lose.
 

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LOL I remember that post. :pachaha: I couldn't understand why you were letting some next chick tell you who she feels you should and shouldn't date as if she would ever ask for your permission or blessing if it was the other way around. Even your own mother shouldn't have that kind of power over you when you're a grown ass man.

Male or female, people will always try you and if they see they can push you around they'll NEVER respect you until you give them the :comeon: and put your foot down. The fukk they gonna do anyway? It gets to a point where you realise a person's bark is always way worse than their bite, so you don't have shyt to lose.

Yeah you're right breh, idk why I even THOUGHT about asking my homegirl as opposed to just TELLING her and setting her straight. It was always the way to go.

I'm just glad that situation is behind me and now i can just focus on building something with my woman.
 

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So I recently got my tax return....I was thinking for a while to use it to get a secured credit card but now I'm not sure....I have no history of creditand I know they usually recommend secured creditcards for peoplein my situation when ur getting ur first card...

But do any of u guys have any tips for me if I should go ahead with it or not? I guess I'm worried about having to pay part of a cable bill monthly while working a minimum wage job I make under $200 weekly while paying a credit bill monthly will be too much....

Does the secured credit card really help in the long run guys?

How else would u recommend using a $215 fed return and $40 state return...

Btw @Turbulent this upcoming Monday is when I will be starting stronglifts and GOMAD

secured cc aren't bad for building credit because you cant spend more than you put on the card.

CC debt trust me, ive been 25k cc debt in the whole before its not nice at all
 

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Ah shyt.
Brehs,
This chick told me she still fukks her ex when she gets horny.
They have been broken up for a while but she keeps in contact with her ex because they are "friends".

I don't know what is worse.
A woman you are talking to who still keep in contact with her "friends" that are exes or a woman who still keep in contact with friends that she grew up with who she considers "brothers" :snoop:

She said she will not terminate her friendship with her ex for no man.

She expects for me to get in a relationship with her,
negro please.

RUN, any women that keeps "exes" as friends means more than likely she's smashing him on the side, and also if you wo are dating she will give you information about your relationship.

on some calling him up
you know what i was ust thinking how good you treated me, juan doesnt even want to spend anytime with me :(
 

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My girl is still friends with her ex.

rarely if ever can exes go from smashing, loving etc. to just being "friens"


They dated 3 years. He did a lot for her and her fam and she told me that their friendship won't terminate.

they dated 3 years,a nd how many years have you dated? she has more of a connection,, slept more with this guy, her family cares about him more than you and your ok with that?

She has no feelings of love for him anymore she says.


page 64 of the book of reincar paragraph 6

"women will tell you whatever you want to hear to calm your fears"

ah let me see of all the things women have told me

"he's just a friend" - ended up dating and marrying this "friend"

"i hate him, he abused me, threatened my family and he cheated on me and treated me horribly, i could never be with someone like that ever again" - girl who ended up cheating on me with her abusive ex.

Whenever a woman tells you she has no feelings for another guy its the total opposite.

She wants me to meet this nikka too but idk of I really want to yet.

for what? f that nygga

Anyways Im not cool with it at all and she knows this but it's just something I can accept, I trust her.

smrt man, don't be cool with it, don't let your guard down, 99% of men who stay talking to their exes, hope to either sleep with them, get back with them, or get extremely jealous when they date again.

its not healthy at all.
 
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