Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[kevm3]

there's a difference between keeping stuff from all past relationships vs. keeping stuff from only one particular relationship only, which was most likely her last one. one leans towards she doesn't like to get rid of old stuff... a pack rat of sorts and the other one is she still actively has the ex on her mind.

if she still has the number of all those exes, and regularly contacts them, that's a problem. If she just has all these pictures of her past relationships in her facebook and hasn't gotten around to deleting them and kept the jewelry or whatever she received from all her past relationships but she has none of those dudes numbers and doesn't contact them and hasn't contacted them in a long while, that's different than between exes buzzing around.

 

[Mr210]

there's a difference between keeping stuff from all past relationships vs. keeping stuff from only one particular relationship only, which was most likely her last one. one leans towards she doesn't like to get rid of old stuff... a pack rat of sorts and the other one is she still actively has the ex on her mind.

if she still has the number of all those exes, and regularly contacts them, that's a problem. If she just has all these pictures of her past relationships in her facebook and hasn't gotten around to deleting them and kept the jewelry or whatever she received from all her past relationships but she has none of those dudes numbers and doesn't contact them and hasn't contacted them in a long while, that's different than between exes buzzing around.

hasnt gotten around to deleting pics off facebook? Im sorry that shyt doesnt take that long plus if 2 years have passed im sure she has had plenty of time. Everyone will have different opinions, clothes from exes I keep, jewelry and things like that, but pics and cards and toss and I expect the same, to me if you keep those things you are holding on to the memories

 

[kevm3]

hasnt gotten around to deleting pics off facebook? Im sorry that shyt doesnt take that long plus if 2 years have passed im sure she has had plenty of time. Everyone will have different opinions, clothes from exes I keep, jewelry and things like that, but pics and cards and toss and I expect the same, to me if you keep those things you are holding on to the memories

different people react in different ways. they could say the same thing about you keeping clothes and jewelry as you holding on to memories. would i personally have suspicion of someone who kept all their old stuff? Obviously it would arouse suspicion compared to someone who didn't. there's a clear difference between someone who keeps ALL of the pictures she has and doesn't delete them vs someone who only has pics of her past man. It's probably going to make you feel some way when you see the picture of all those people in her past lol, but the reality of the situation is, it is what it is.

 

[Mr210]

different people react in different ways. they could say the same thing about you keeping clothes and jewelry as you holding on to memories. would i personally have suspicion of someone who kept all their old stuff? Obviously it would arouse suspicion compared to someone who didn't. there's a clear difference between someone who keeps ALL of the pictures she has and doesn't delete them vs someone who only has pics of her past man. It's probably going to make you feel some way when you see the picture of all those people in her past lol, but the reality of the situation is, it is what it is.

I feel you but when I look at the clothes, I dont remember if I bought them or some chick so when I look at my clothes it doesnt make me think of an ex, however; keeping pics and cards is only going to make you flashback to that ex. For example, one of my exes bought me this silver chain with a pendent that had a message on it that everytime I looked at it, reminded me of her, so when we broke up, I gave it back to her. I dont have that issue with clothes because honestly i dont really remember who bought my clothes

People hold on to pics for one reason and one reason only so that they can flashback to the time the pic was taken

 

[kevm3]

I feel you but when I look at the clothes, I dont remember if I bought them or some chick so when I look at my clothes it doesnt make me think of an ex, however; keeping pics and cards is only going to make you flashback to that ex. For example, one of my exes bought me this silver chain with a pendent that had a message on it that everytime I looked at it, reminded me of her, so when we broke up, I gave it back to her. I dont have that issue with clothes because honestly i dont really remember who bought my clothes

People hold on to pics for one reason and one reason only so that they can flashback to the time the pic was taken

It would be my personal preference to deal with a woman that deleted all the past stuff... that's the optimal choice, but if I had to make a hard choice between a woman who kept all her past relationship stuff and between one who kept mementos from one specific dude only, I'm choosing the former. For example, if there's a woman that has pics of all her boyfriends going back to middle school in the mix of all her other photos, I'll trust that more than the woman who has pics of her last ex only. Both could be cheating, but I'd be initially more trusting of the former, because one is showing that she likes to archive her past and isn't showing any particular preference to any one dude. She just keeps old memories. If she has pics of one particular dude and everything else deleted, that shows me she is elevating one dude above the rest and she's probably actively dealing with that dude at this very moment.

 

[Virtuous_Brotha]

thats it im gonna start falling back a bit i been sending her good morning text everyday without fail pretty much since january i know brehs corny as fuk but i cant help myself my roster is unbelievably .seems hard as hell to approach chicks these days,its like they all want is instagram/twitter followers or some dude they can brag about on social media.
all this bullshyt you gotta sift through just to find a decent woman to pro create with shyt shouldnt even be this complicated at all

 

[Virtuous_Brotha]

double

 

[Jone2three45]

Fellas,
how do you all feel about this?

Commitment

The difference between dating and being in a relationship is commitment. If you are going out with someone on a regular basis, and you and your partner have agreed to date only one another, then you are in a committed relationship. However, if you are dating a person and neither of you have agreed to date exclusively, then you are not in a relationship and you are both free to also date other people.

Let's say a woman has had five or more sexual partners. She thinks she is hot shyt and places her self-morals above other women because she does not fukk like a whore compared to them. But the thing is she fukks men that she is dating and not in a relationship with. Isn't that un-moral worthy? Is her morals just as bad as any other person?

 

[The ADD]

thats it im gonna start falling back a bit i been sending her good morning text everyday without fail pretty much since january i know brehs corny as fuk but i cant help myself my roster is unbelievably .seems hard as hell to approach chicks these days,its like they all want is instagram/twitter followers or some dude they can brag about on social media.
all this bullshyt you gotta sift through just to find a decent woman to pro create with shyt shouldnt even be this complicated at all

Why are you falling back?

If this wasn't a chick you were trying to be serious with those text

 

[Jone2three45]

thats it im gonna start falling back a bit i been sending her good morning text everyday without fail pretty much since january i know brehs corny as fuk but i cant help myself my roster is unbelievably .seems hard as hell to approach chicks these days,its like they all want is instagram/twitter followers or some dude they can brag about on social media.
all this bullshyt you gotta sift through just to find a decent woman to pro create with shyt shouldnt even be this complicated at all

Women don't like when a man sends them good morning texts first. If they say they do then their lying. Women are supposed to be the majority of good morning texters. Trust me, if she likes you she will text you every night before you go to sleep and every morning after you wake up.

Women when they are young look or a man with an image that they were taught to go after from the media. After they get older and more humbled by their looks and children they will eventually find a common man and settle down with.

Breh,
just "swag" or "turn it up" and play the game like they are playing.

 

[Virtuous_Brotha]

Women don't like when a man sends them good morning texts first. If they say they do then their lying. Women are supposed to be the majority of good morning texters. Trust me, if she likes you she will text you every night before you go to sleep and every morning after you wake up.

Women when they are young look or a man with an image that they were taught to go after from the media. After they get older and more humbled by their looks and children they will eventually find a common man and settle down with.

Breh,
just "swag" or "turn it up" and play the game like they are playing.

that would explain a lot,altho she did hit me with the "no good morning texts?"with a sad smiley when i didnt bother one day.but chicks not knowing what they want nothing new here shyt stops today tho

 

[Medio]

She needs to go back to him then.


I would have been

and there's no way I'd tolerate that shyt. The minute you have a falling out with her or one of her family members it's gonna be "well Johnny would have done this, Johnny would never have done that". The fukk is ole dude still hanging around for anyway and why does she want you to meet him? It ain't like they have kids together. LOL @ her rubbing that shyt in your face and playing games.

Don't let this chick play you and take you for a fool, man. Walk away with your dignity while you still can and leave that "well, my baby would never do this to me" talk for the birds. Come on dude. Wake up and stop burying your head in the sand.

Okay, just because you won't tolerate it doesn't mean I can't. Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who was friends with their ex? If you haven't then you're advice is VERY limited to me. I appreciate your concern though, honestly. I know people who are friends with their ex and they have a fine relationship with the current person.

She told me from the jump she is friends with her ex still and it's something that I can accept. I am not going to have a totally flawless relationship, I'm not insecure about it at all. She literally has no time to even do anything, she is in a hard medical program, all she does is study study study. She likes me so much that she is willing to even do a little worse in her program gradewise just to salvage our relationship. We both are putting in a lot of work making our relationship work. We don't even have time for games man, real talk. I have her class schedule, passwords to all her accounts/emails/everything, i can go through her phone, etc. etc...

So even if she did do some funny ish it'll be fukking hard AF for her to hide it.

That's why I appreciate the advice from reincar cause he knows I'm not going to tolerate anything, I don't like it but I can accept it. If you got burned in the past doesn't mean I will. And if she tries anything with that nikka, i'm leaving her so quick and she knows that.

 

[A.V.]

Okay, just because you won't tolerate it doesn't mean I can't. Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who was friends with their ex? If you haven't then you're advice is VERY limited to me. I appreciate your concern though, honestly. I know people who are friends with their ex and they have a fine relationship with the current person.

She told me from the jump she is friends with her ex still and it's something that I can accept. I am not going to have a totally flawless relationship, I'm not insecure about it at all. She literally has no time to even do anything, she is in a hard medical program, all she does is study study study. She likes me so much that she is willing to even do a little worse in her program gradewise just to salvage our relationship. We both are putting in a lot of work making our relationship work. We don't even have time for games man, real talk. I have her class schedule, passwords to all her accounts/emails/everything, i can go through her phone, etc. etc...

So even if she did do some funny ish it'll be fukking hard AF for her to hide it.

That's why I appreciate the advice from reincar cause he knows I'm not going to tolerate anything, I don't like it but I can accept it. If you got burned in the past doesn't mean I will. And if she tries anything with that nikka, i'm leaving her so quick and she knows that.

Red flag.

 

[Medio]

Red flag.

They are told in their program to not have relationships during the duration of the program.
Also she has a 4.0 so she is able to take a little hit if it happens. So far she is doing well in her classes and exams.

 

[CanesMiamiLakers]

Man some of y'all cut ya girls off for the most simplest thing while others will make any excuse for her. Where's the common ground in here