Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Medio]

but heres the thing with me im terrible at consistency,i dont text or call nobody first and i barely have any friends because of it but imma make an effort with this girl,provided i dont sense any disinterest

Okay, just don't be texting her good morning every morning because you're scared of losing her or scared she might lose interest in you, that's where your going to lose.

 

[Virtuous_Brotha]

Okay, just don't be texting her good morning every morning because you're scared of losing her or scared she might lose interest in you, that's where your going to lose.

well i dont be texting that shyt for fun breh

 

[Beerus]

How old are u now? Might not think about it now, but you have a lot of living to do and females to meet. Just if you can save, explore man.

I've randomly met and hooked up with some dope chiks while exploring. In a thread a while back I think I posted a pic of this chik I met coming back from Florida as she was sitting next to me on the plane. Beautiful girl. She's German and Brazilian. Dope convo, ended up exchanging info. I was headed back to nyc and she was going there to connect on a flight to Africa for some trip. Anyway, I lost her info that day but didn't stress it. A year later she found me on FB…hit me up, we were both single at the time, next thing I know she invites me to Cali. We went half on a hotel in LA for 3 days. The next 3 days I stayed at her place in San Diego and had the greatest p*ssy of my life. Her dad was some former hippy with a nice beach house, so we kicked it there and got blown. He had some nice bud. We were supposed to meet up last year in Europe but she didn't have the funds. We are still great friends though. We chat via texting still and talk about our relationships and offer advice. Something totally un-expected. But that's life once you put yourself out there.

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[DaRealness]

Okay, just because you won't tolerate it doesn't mean I can't. Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who was friends with their ex? If you haven't then you're advice is VERY limited to me. I appreciate your concern though, honestly. I know people who are friends with their ex and they have a fine relationship with the current person.

She told me from the jump she is friends with her ex still and it's something that I can accept. I am not going to have a totally flawless relationship, I'm not insecure about it at all. She literally has no time to even do anything, she is in a hard medical program, all she does is study study study. She likes me so much that she is willing to even do a little worse in her program gradewise just to salvage our relationship. We both are putting in a lot of work making our relationship work. We don't even have time for games man, real talk. I have her class schedule, passwords to all her accounts/emails/everything, i can go through her phone, etc. etc...

So even if she did do some funny ish it'll be fukking hard AF for her to hide it.

That's why I appreciate the advice from reincar cause he knows I'm not going to tolerate anything, I don't like it but I can accept it. If you got burned in the past doesn't mean I will. And if she tries anything with that nikka, i'm leaving her so quick and she knows that.

I was simply expressing my opinion, I wasn't being facetious. You have a right to dismiss my advice (as you rightly have) because it's your life. You know your girl, I don't. Things may turn out bad, or you may end up getting married and rule the world together and live happily ever after and produce children who will turn out to be super geniuses. It's not for me or anyone else to say. As a man, if you do what's right for you, then you stand your ground despite what other people may say.

To answer your question, no, I've never been in a relationship where my woman was friends with her ex and I've never remained friends with one either. I've seen other people's situations, however. But you're right - what happens to one man may not necessarily happen to the next, any more than someone leaving their front door unlocked for the day only to come home and find their house has been burgled doesn't mean the same thing will happen to the person next door.

I have my views and principles and I stand by them. If that makes me "petty" or "bitter" or whatever shaming catchphrase others will use, then I guess that's what it is. However, I won't back down because if I do and shyt ever goes bad those same people aren't gonna carry the problems and pain for me and I'll only have myself to blame. I accept that life is about risk and nothing will ever be perfect and there will always be flaws no matter how good a woman is, but we all have things we will and won't tolerate. Some men refuse to date a woman with kids, some don't mind. Some refuse to date a woman with tats, some do. Some don't like smokers...etc etc. Different strokes for different folks.

 

[DaRealness]

How old are u now? Might not think about it now, but you have a lot of living to do and females to meet. Just if you can save, explore man.

I've randomly met and hooked up with some dope chiks while exploring. In a thread a while back I think I posted a pic of this chik I met coming back from Florida as she was sitting next to me on the plane. Beautiful girl. She's German and Brazilian. Dope convo, ended up exchanging info. I was headed back to nyc and she was going there to connect on a flight to Africa for some trip. Anyway, I lost her info that day but didn't stress it. A year later she found me on FB…hit me up, we were both single at the time, next thing I know she invites me to Cali. We went half on a hotel in LA for 3 days. The next 3 days I stayed at her place in San Diego and had the greatest p*ssy of my life. Her dad was some former hippy with a nice beach house, so we kicked it there and got blown. He had some nice bud. We were supposed to meet up last year in Europe but she didn't have the funds. We are still great friends though. We chat via texting still and talk about our relationships and offer advice. Something totally un-expected. But that's life once you put yourself out there.

 

[The ADD]

well i dont be texting that shyt for fun breh

Sounds like you are trying to win her over which is cool but trying to so it with these little things is a little backwards. Text should be accessories to being with her in person.

 

[DaRealness]

http://www.dailystar.co.uk/just-jane/366890/Just-Jane-Minx-uses-sex-to-get-her-way

Spoiler

When she wants anything - her "treats", as she calls them - she ravishes me senseless to get her own way.

When she wanted a holiday in the States last year, she cleverly planned her strategy.

She started by greeting me at the door wearing practically nothing, just a tiny thong, a seethrough top and very high heels. She led me upstairs and did every single thing I wanted her to. She titillated and teased me and gave me the time of my life.

She let me have whatever I desired, even the kinky stuff that normally she'd have slapped me for asking for.

Once she'd got me begging for her not to stop, she mentioned the trip to the States.

Chocolate For the first few nights of this treatment I kept my mind and said we couldn't afford it.

But after almost a week I couldn't help myself and agreed to this extremely expensive trip which maxed out my plastic.

Now she's at it again. This time we are in our second week of extreme sex and she hasn't even said yet what she wants. I can't stand it.

OK, the physical side is brilliant and I admit I'm having the most exciting sex ever. She's even let me tie her up and lick chocolate sauce off her.

But I am getting very worried because I reckon that it must be something really big and I'm waiting for the fallout. I can't afford another expensive holiday as I still haven't paid off my credit cards after last year and there's just no way that I can buy her a new car.

Worrying about what she really wants is beginning to ruin our sexy romps, but I don't want to ask her what it is in case she stops.

What should I do?

Dude should have learned from Goku:

 

[Mike Ock]

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I'm 29 man…but trust me you should explore. Took me getting out of a 3.5yr relationship to just say fuk it and start traveling solo. I've had trips with my people which were really fun. But something about traveling solo makes you much more open to things. I'm with my girl now and still think about it.

 

[The Frozen One]

 

[FLYINHAWAIIAN]

Okay, just don't be texting her good morning every morning because you're scared of losing her or scared she might lose interest in you, that's where your going to lose.

Damn breh I just now noticed I be doing that shyt

 

[karim]

Damn breh I just now noticed I be doing that shyt

 

[FLYINHAWAIIAN]

Can't help it breh.
I established too much of a connection with my woman to the point where if we don't talk for days I feel like shyt.


This is my second consecutive week though of only texting her once.

 

[The ADD]

Can't help it breh.
I established too much of a connection with my woman to the point where if we don't talk for days I feel like shyt.


This is my second consecutive week though of only texting her once.

If that's your chick

 

[Huellz Santana]

was out in DC this weekend. went on a date with a chick who really likes me. long story short, she got a deal and paid for it in advance. so i had to reimburse her. i gave her 50% of the costs and she got upset. like "Oh... we're splitting everything?" im like this was your idea. you mentioned splitting it. don't switch it up and expect me to translate that into I need to pay 75 -100%.

and she's one of those independent chicks with a good job. i dont understand women yo. im bout to her to the bushes off principle.

for those of yall in the dating game, i swear you'll learn a lot about women by asking them to go dutch or asking them to plan a date. just try it out and see how indignant they get. this shyt sparked a debate with my homegirl too. She was like, "I just feel like a man should plan the dates and pay in the beginning to show he's interested and cares." I was like, "What is the woman doing in return to show she's interested and cares? Putting on makeup? Yall expect us to do everything but want things to be equal." she had no answer for that.​

 

[FLYINHAWAIIAN]

If that's your chick

yea.
it'll be a year on the 15th.
I try not to be all up on her but I ain't got no other hoes to make me forget about her.