Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

Atlrocafella

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One thing I'll say @Atlrocafella, is I always like your posts I think were the same age or close, but sometimes I think we on here, (in general) in theory and in practice can sometimes take some of the guidelines and gems a little too far to the extreme. Like, some of that shyt comes of as a little vindictive imo…I've been in the same spot, and I'll be there again, but as far as blocking someone, who didn't respond to a text? It'd depend on the nature of the text and the circumstances, but I'm an adult, and if someone chooses to not like one, thats on them, but I'd keep the communication line open, because who knows what use or purpose that women/person may be able to serve for me? Kinda like I think that the block makes it seem like that shyt was a big deal to you, instead of just shrugging her and the little situation off like it was nothing, which in the scheme of things, it is. It's a toss up tho maybe, cuz I may feel like people THINK they got over on me, or outmaneuvered me, when really I saw it all unfold, and just know that the person has those tendencies. It's not some Machavellian mind game, but I'll treat them accordingly. Not criticizing, just throwing out my opinion, seeing what the consensus might be.
:salute: your opinion is appreciated and respected. I think you may have missed a few key points as to why I blocked, we had talked earlier in the week and confirmed we would hang out that Saturday, I called her that Saturday morning, and got no response. I also texted that day and didn't get a response. I didn't immediately block her that day, that following Monday I saw her and she saw me and kept it moving as if she was oblivious to our plans that weekend. I took it as disrespect :shrugs:, the type of woman who won't bother to explain why she cancelled on a date without notice doesn't deserve any more of my time. Which is why I was shocked that weeks later she would ask if I read a text she sent me.
 

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:salute: your opinion is appreciated and respected. I think you may have missed a few key points as to why I blocked, we had talked earlier in the week and confirmed we would hang out that Saturday, I called her that Saturday morning, and got no response. I also texted that day and didn't get a response. I didn't immediately block her that day, that following Monday I saw her and she saw me and kept it moving as if she was oblivious to our plans that weekend. I took it as disrespect :shrugs:, the type of woman who won't bother to explain why she cancelled on a date without notice doesn't deserve any more of my time. Which is why I was shocked that weeks later she would ask if I read a text she sent me.

I may have overlooked or missed a few of those details, and yes that's pretty egregious and offensive, your right to feel disrespected….I would have to. And, I guess it's call you have to make, if you don't block, or ignore, you are left to explain your feelings or actions over text, or whatever, which I never like doing, and I'd rather just ignore the whole thing, like it didn't even phase me, which in turn could potentially look weak from her perspective. I never want someone to think I was upset or angered by some petty text or call situation, so move like your above it, and you will be, is how I approach it, not that your approach wasn't warranted or advisable.
 

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I may have overlooked or missed a few of those details, and yes that's pretty egregious and offensive, your right to feel disrespected….I would have to. And, I guess it's call you have to make, if you don't block, or ignore, you are left to explain your feelings or actions over text, or whatever, which I never like doing, and I'd rather just ignore the whole thing, like it didn't even phase me, which in turn could potentially look weak from her perspective. I never want someone to think I was upset or angered by some petty text or call situation, so move like your above it, and you will be, is how I approach it, not that your approach wasn't warranted or advisable.


Seeee, I beg to differ on that. That person might not think it matters much and keep doing it you...as they keep doing it, the more it might frustrate you. It's better to I think mention it rather than letting it get to the point where it frustrates you. Remember, you'll regret not saying how you feel rather than doing so. Once it's done there's nothing to really wonder.

I'm not sure how old you dudes are but I'm about to hit 30. The older I've gotten the more I've been able to get rid of my ego, and keep things moving.
 
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ATL did the right thing in my opinion. You invite a woman out, you two agree on a date and on that day she completely avoids you and ignores your texts and doesn't have the courtesy to even say she couldn't make it? What can you really expect from someone who treats you like that? You let her start off by putting you on the backburner and she'll continue to do it throughout the duration of your interaction with her. You don't have to be super vindictive and kick a woman to the curb for every little transgression, but something that blatant doesn't deserve a man's time. You only empower these women to engaging in this kind of behavior if you keep on giving her attention after she not only broke a plan, but didn't even have the courtesy to say why she couldn't make it or even acknowledge and apologize later.
 

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still don't understand how guys are wasting time on girls who aren't into them .... if a girl is into you, you're going to know, it's that simple, there will be no games.

I agree, the thing is mostly every guy knows when a chick is not into them, but there blinded by the hope maybe she will turn around and like me, or shes just playing hard to get
 

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So yall heard the news on Big Sean and his girl?

This fool had spent his total album sales money on an engagement ring and now they aren't even engaged anymore....and this was a girl who was sleeping around alot while on tht fmous show shewas on(the name escapes me right now) to get certain roles

15 years from now she will barely remember him and this fool is spending life savings on engagement rings with no music skill
 

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still don't understand how guys are wasting time on girls who aren't into them .... if a girl is into you, you're going to know, it's that simple, there will be no games.

Gotta have that door-to-door salesman mentality. :win:
 

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I haven't been on this thread a lot, just have been busy and stuff. Also I'm into the 3rd month of a new relationship with my girlfriend. She really is an awesome girl and our relationship is serious, she's very into me as I am into her. Sometimes people say I shouldn't be in a serious relationship in my 20's but hey in my opinion her and I are both goal orientated, we both like having fun and trying new things, and we both like to travel. I want a girl who wants to travel with me if we get that far because I want to travel a lot. I don't see the problem in having her at all. I'm just trying to my best not to post any problems that come up and try to deal with things on my own
 

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So yall heard the news on Big Sean and his girl?

This fool had spent his total album sales money on an engagement ring and now they aren't even engaged anymore....and this was a girl who was sleeping around alot while on tht fmous show shewas on(the name escapes me right now) to get certain roles

15 years from now she will barely remember him and this fool is spending life savings on engagement rings with no music skill

Yea and he let her wear his rolex or some shyt, and he wanted it back so she accused him of trying to steal it. bytch u wasnt with me shooting in the gym!lol
 

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I haven't been on this thread a lot, just have been busy and stuff. Also I'm into the 3rd month of a new relationship with my girlfriend. She really is an awesome girl and our relationship is serious, she's very into me as I am into her. Sometimes people say I shouldn't be in a serious relationship in my 20's but hey in my opinion her and I are both goal orientated, we both like having fun and trying new things, and we both like to travel. I want a girl who wants to travel with me if we get that far because I want to travel a lot. I don't see the problem in having her at all. I'm just trying to my best not to post any problems that come up and try to deal with things on my own

If you listen to what 'everybody' says, you'll end up wearing a skirt. Ignore what 'society' and 'others' say. Like we've been saying numerous times, if you got you a great girl who have her morals in place, hold on to her and don't be out here playing around. You notice that a lot of the great girls get snatched up young, so if you found that loyal one, give her loyalty in return and keep it moving. You see what's out here in the modern dating scene and you really don't want that.
 

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dribble a little spit on a womans back when ur hittin it doggie style. make her think u came. then just plow the shyt outta her
 

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Fam I beg you, tell me why I will get a girl's number and every-single-time these heauxs take HOURS to respond?

Am I the ugliest nikka on Earth? :what:
Am I boring as fook? :what:
What's the point of bytches giving me their number if they're just gonna fade man :what:
these hoes aint loyal bruh

#midnightboyz
 

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Never give a woman satisfaction of seeing/making you angry when she plays you. It let her knows that she has won and crush your ego in the process. Just wish them well and keep it moving. No woman is worth throwing your life away over her ego and need for attention.Embrace the scars and emotional pain, it will make you stronger and more aware in the future.
 

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Yup the thing is for the most part women move on in a hurry.

Never give a woman satisfaction of seeing/making you angry when she plays you. It let her knows that she has won and crush your ego in the process. Just wish them well and keep it moving. No woman is worth throwing your life away over her ego and need for attention.Embrace the scars and emotional pain, it will make you stronger and more aware in the future.
 
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