Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[kevm3]

That's why I keep telling guys to stop going by the mainstream opinion. You watch television or listen to mainstream society, and you'll be programmed with a mindset that will lead to destruction. TV will teach you feminist trash and to be subservient to women. It'll teach you that you absolutely NEED the company of a woman, as opposed to only accepting the company that is joyous and mutually beneficial. You'll hear simped out guys and coochie hounds tell you that you must beg, fight, steal and maim others to in order to get a little attention from woman and that you have to accept any bit that they give you. That is coming from a position of low value and having little to nothing going on in your life.

As you get older, one of the most important factors you will find is PEACE OF MIND. A lot of guys deal with women just because they were brainwashed to believe they always must have female attention, and they end up unbelievably stressed out or end up putting themselves in highly compromising positions. A smart man will end up figuring out that you only allow female company in your life if she enhances it and brings you more joy. A woman that plays 10,000 little games is simply not worthy of your time because she is disturbing your peace of mind and you are only rewarding her for her behavior by paying her more attention.

Why waste time on those kind of women when there are a lot more who are eager for your company, or you can actually spend that extra time doing something you really enjoy as opposed to stressing over a woman playing around with you?[DOUBLEPOST=1397603460][/DOUBLEPOST]

Kev, swear down, I used to think you were corny cuz of the Jesus shyt but you really drop knowledge. I'm sorry I ever doubted the lightskin gawd

The Bible and Jesus is very powerful my brotha.

 

[MikelArteta]

That's why I keep telling guys to stop going by the mainstream opinion. You watch television or listen to mainstream society, and you'll be programmed with a mindset that will lead to destruction. TV will teach you feminist trash and to be subservient to women. It'll teach you that you absolutely NEED the company of a woman, as opposed to only accepting the company that is joyous and mutually beneficial. You'll hear simped out guys and coochie hounds tell you that you must beg, fight, steal and maim others to in order to get a little attention from woman and that you have to accept any bit that they give you. That is coming from a position of low value and having little to nothing going on in your life.

As you get older, one of the most important factors you will find is PEACE OF MIND. A lot of guys deal with women just because they were brainwashed to believe they always must have female attention, and they end up unbelievably stressed out or end up putting themselves in highly compromising positions. A smart man will end up figuring out that you only allow female company in your life if she enhances it and brings you more joy. A woman that plays 10,000 little games is simply not worthy of your time because she is disturbing your peace of mind and you are only rewarding her for her behavior by paying her more attention.

Why waste time on those kind of women when there are a lot more who are eager for your company, or you can actually spend that extra time doing something you really enjoy as opposed to stressing over a woman playing around with you?[DOUBLEPOST=1397603460][/DOUBLEPOST]

The Bible and Jesus is very powerful my brotha.

I really think its because many men sell themselves short. she's hot i have to do anything i can to keep her even if it means i lose my dignity and sanity, when if they just stepped back they would realize their is a chick out there who you will be attracted to that will treat you and respect you 100 times more.

 

[DaRealness]

As you get older, one of the most important factors you will find is PEACE OF MIND. A lot of guys deal with women just because they were brainwashed to believe they always must have female attention, and they end up unbelievably stressed out or end up putting themselves in highly compromising positions. A smart man will end up figuring out that you only allow female company in your life if she enhances it and brings you more joy. A woman that plays 10,000 little games is simply not worthy of your time because she is disturbing your peace of mind and you are only rewarding her for her behavior by paying her more attention.

Why waste time on those kind of women when there are a lot more who are eager for your company, or you can actually spend that extra time doing something you really enjoy as opposed to stressing over a woman playing around with you?[DOUBLEPOST=1397603460][/DOUBLEPOST]

Listen to 30:40 onwards....

 

[kevm3]

Here's another point to consider. Do not attempt to 'reflect' or directly reciprocate the bad behavior of some woman in an attempt to get back at her. You end up being vindictive and end up with, as they say, a 'ho mentality'. As a man, you don't want to become sassy, catty and passive aggressive. If you are dealing with someone or some situation, you always handle it as a man should. If a woman is playing games, you tell her to cut it out, and if she doesn't, you cut your ties and move on.

As a man, you also have to be strong enough to accept some truths. One is that every woman won't like you and they don't owe it to you to like you... so if one isn't feeling you and lets you know immediately, thank her for not wasting your time and move on. Don't try to strategize and formulate some new personality to 'get her'. Just understand that you are a steak and she is a vegetarian, and there are too many other women who love steak in order for you to try to convince someone who is opposed to meat to try you out.

Another very important thing is to have principles about yourself and have business about yourself. My principles are Biblical, and I have a wide range of interests, including programming... so I'm rarely ever bored. This is powerful because it gives me a frame of reference to work from which will keep me from being thirsty and being someone who constantly compromises for the attention of the opposite sex. It puts me in a position to only accept QUALITY attention... and that's ultimately what a man who has built himself up is supposed to do. He is supposed to be somewhat choosy. It's like how you get some money and aren't pressed for finances, so you can be discerning in what restaurant you eat at as opposed to having to eat some fatty, greasy junk from a fast food place.

 

[FLYINHAWAIIAN]

Exactly and btw that chick I told you all about who accused me of being boring hit me up yet AGAIN. I just didn't bother to reply.

I'm not interested in being some silly chick's 'challenge'. Just deal me with normally or don't deal with me at all. I'm way too old for that silliness.

Well I just want to do the "ignore" thing in my relationship.
My woman told me its okay to hit her up but I over do it.
Im a semi sump.

 

[MikelArteta]

Well I just want to do the "ignore" thing in my relationship.
My woman told me its okay to hit her up but I over do it.
Im a semi sump.

why do you want to play games?

if you have a girl like a committed exclusive relationship there should be no games etc.

 

[FLYINHAWAIIAN]

why do you want to play games?

if you have a girl like a committed exclusive relationship there should be no games etc.

That's not playing games.
That's giving her space instead of hitting her up so much like I was.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Some of you cats gonna literally lose your mind over some of these women.The over thinking is enough to drive anyone crazy.Weather is getting warm and people are doing more.Like Kevm says you gotta find something to occupy your time.

 

[Brandeezy]

I don't know how to attract women. Tbh I'm not really attractive, I'm short (5'6"), the minority in my area, don't have any friends, no license, never had a gf and have very little experience with women in general. What I do have working for me is that I have a job and work out a little bit but it's not paying off with the women. That fwb chick of 3 weeks doesn't talk to me anymore and we had had sex once, which was my first time. Idk, I just feel like I don't fit in. I had a nervous breakdown last month because all this shyt was getting to me so the doc gave me some pills but I quit taking them because of side effects. It annoys me that my coworkers are being approached by women at work and I don't, as a matter of fact I've never been approached/hit on/flirted with etc. I don't get it, I swear it feels like I'm the most unlucky black dude out here

 

[Shadow King]

still don't understand how guys are wasting time on girls who aren't into them .... if a girl is into you, you're going to know, it's that simple, there will be no games.

Knowing when a female is NOT into me is easy
Knowing when they are is a different ball game

 

[CityGuy]

I'm over thinking things a lot to. Met a female off online on Sunday. We made out at the end and she gives me the vibes she's into me (liked several picks on IG, smiley faces on messages and subtle hints). We texted a little on Monday and some today. We originally we're going to meet today but the weather is pretty bad and she asked for a rain check. Am I doing too much to call tonight or should I let this breathe out a little? Don't want to miss the window to be aggressive however I also want her to chase a little

 

[FLYINHAWAIIAN]

I'm over thinking things a lot to. Met a female off online on Sunday. We made out at the end and she gives me the vibes she's into me (liked several picks on IG, smiley faces on messages and subtle hints). We texted a little on Monday and some today. We originally we're going to meet today but the weather is pretty bad and she asked for a rain check. Am I doing too much to call tonight or should I let this breathe out a little? Don't want to miss the window to be aggressive however I also want her to chase a little

I think you should wait a few days.
You just met her Sunday and already have spoken to her every day since.
Dont wanna seem to needy m

 

[CityGuy]

I think you should wait a few days.
You just met her Sunday and already have spoken to her every day since.
Dont wanna seem to needy m

Yea that's my gut feeling also. Leaning toward letting her reach out 1st also

 

[ProfessionallyTrill]

I don't know how to attract women. Tbh I'm not really attractive, I'm short (5'6"), the minority in my area, don't have any friends, no license, never had a gf and have very little experience with women in general. What I do have working for me is that I have a job and work out a little bit but it's not paying off with the women. That fwb chick of 3 weeks doesn't talk to me anymore and we had had sex once, which was my first time. Idk, I just feel like I don't fit in. I had a nervous breakdown last month because all this shyt was getting to me so the doc gave me some pills but I quit taking them because of side effects. It annoys me that my coworkers are being approached by women at work and I don't, as a matter of fact I've never been approached/hit on/flirted with etc. I don't get it, I swear it feels like I'm the most unlucky black dude out here

Chill dog its all good. Either you're in the wrong area or be at the wrong spots. Sounds like the main thing your missing is self-confidence.

Start there.

 

[Grams]

Chill dog its all good. Either you're in the wrong area or be at the wrong spots. Sounds like the main thing your missing is self-confidence.

Start there.

No disrespect to you but I wish people would stop saying this. If girls not approaching him of course his self-confidence is gonna be low. I be in the same boat.


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