Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Reality]

Damn breh
I used to never get physical so soon cuz I dont want to run the woman off.
I had a chubby/thick Hispanic hoodrat charge me 2 years ago I think cuz we hugged and I didn't grab her ass. :Noah:

I be thanking they gone be like [DOUBLEPOST=1397582280][/DOUBLEPOST]

What was u doing physical

i mean you cant do this right off the bat but at the happy hour it was simple. we were sitting at a bar and once i started talking to her i smiled and scooted a little closer saying " i cant hear you" so i was invading her space a little bit...our legs forking each other if that makes sense. a little corny and obviously a ploy but the smile was meant to say "i know that was corny and obvious but im doing it for a reason". from there it was easy to touch her lightly on the thigh, etc and take it from there. eventually i just leaned in for the kiss when we were left semi-alone at the table and it connected. she protested a little bit..."we cant...i cant believe you just did that with everybody around" but fukk it. she looked really good and i wanted to do it. plus she's Colombian and I have a thing w/ S. American women. once we got to the parking lot we lingered while everyone else pulled off, and got some more time in.

as far as when she was at the crib, if there's such a thing as a law in the dating universe, its that if you are 1 on 1 w/ a girl at her or your place by invitation, the smash is yours to lose. there's a 98% chance she's going to let you smash, though she may protest as a formality to not come off as a slut.

in fact, if you hear any variation of "it's getting late, i should go" or "i'm getting tired", you should really take that to mean "hurry up and make your move". you're confusing the fukk out of a chick by being w/ her alone and not trying to smash, and most of the time that's a bad thing.

as far as my specific situation goes, it was easy. food, wine, some light tv, convo, squaring up w/ her on the couch, kissing, touching, then taking her clothes off.

 

[FukyourFort]

your self confidence cant be tied to something external from you. it has to come from the inner. when you work on yourself girls come along at the most random times...cant be sweatin that shyt

 

[Sandy_Cheeks]

No disrespect to you but I wish people would stop saying this. If girls not approaching him of course his self-confidence is gonna be low. I be in the same boat.


Shoutout to #OverthinkingGang


@BonitaChelz I'm shook for tomorrow

Why

 

[FLYINHAWAIIAN]

i mean you cant do this right off the bat but at the happy hour it was simple. we were sitting at a bar and once i started talking to her i smiled and scooted a little closer saying " i cant hear you" so i was invading her space a little bit...our legs forking each other if that makes sense. a little corny and obviously a ploy but the smile was meant to say "i know that was corny and obvious but im doing it for a reason". from there it was easy to touch her lightly on the thigh, etc and take it from there. eventually i just leaned in for the kiss when we were left semi-alone at the table and it connected. she protested a little bit..."we cant...i cant believe you just did that with everybody around" but fukk it. she looked really good and i wanted to do it. plus she's Colombian and I have a thing w/ S. American women. once we got to the parking lot we lingered while everyone else pulled off, and got some more time in.

as far as when she was at the crib, if there's such a thing as a law in the dating universe, its that if you are 1 on 1 w/ a girl at her or your place by invitation, the smash is yours to lose. there's a 98% chance she's going to let you smash, though she may protest as a formality to not come off as a slut.

in fact, if you hear any variation of "it's getting late, i should go" or "i'm getting tired", you should really take that to mean "hurry up and make your move". you're confusing the fukk out of a chick by being w/ her alone and not trying to smash, and most of the time that's a bad thing.

as far as my specific situation goes, it was easy. food, wine, some light tv, convo, squaring up w/ her on the couch, kissing, touching, then taking her clothes off.

But I wouldn't want to come off too strong though.
Like for example with my woman.
I knew I wanted to smash and we were already together so me feeling up on her ain't nttn.
Trying that with a broad you just met might have her on some "im about to go. He must think im a hoe or something"

 

[Grams]

Why

The scenarios that are playing out in my head

1. She straight up doesn't give me her number
2. She says she has a boyfriend and doesn't give me her number
3. She gives me her number but responds back slow as hell
4. I bytch out and don't even ask her at all

I swear to you, it seems like I'm a lame but this only happens to me with girls I really like. If I don't really like a girl I can do this and that with her but I put some of em on pedestals and that fear of rejection is as devastating as a Mike Tyson uppercut

 

[Sandy_Cheeks]

The scenarios that are playing out in my head

1. She straight up doesn't give me her number
2. She says she has a boyfriend and doesn't give me her number
3. She gives me her number but responds back slow as hell
4. I bytch out and don't even ask her at all

I swear to you, it seems like I'm a lame but this only happens to me with girls I really like. If I don't really like a girl I can do this and that with her but I put some of em on pedestals and that fear of rejection is as devastating as a Mike Tyson uppercut

Ima need you to grab a beer or something and calm your nerves.

Well if you didnt like her, you wouldnt give a fukk.

See you have to see rejection differently. Yea it sucks to be rejected, but its not always YOUR fault your rejected.

case and point: you see girl tomorrow, talk to her, and try to suggest she give you her number so yall can go out and get to know each other on a deeper level...
1. if she doesnt give you the number dont automatically think it is something about you that prevented it. She may be interested, but may not be ready for a relationship or anything of the like. She may just want to keep things platonic. She may like you too but would prefer to do things at her own pace without being probed for a number.
2. if she has a boyfriend and you dont get the number... on to the next one. That has nothing to do with you therefore you shouldnt take it personal because every dude will get rejected.
3.If you get the number and she responds back slow, inquire about whether she is a "talker or a texter" some people hate texting and will take forever a day to reply back to some simple ass shyt that could have taken 2 seconds. Also, if she takes forever to text back see if she has other responsibilities like work or something because she could just be busy.
4.


you better talk to that damn girl tomorrow. Just be cool and calm.... seem interested in truly getting to know her. Ask her what she would like to do or whatever and lead into " do you mind if I get to know more about you outside of school? " or whatever you think of at that moment.

I have faith in you breh

 

[Brandeezy]

Chill dog its all good. Either you're in the wrong area or be at the wrong spots. Sounds like the main thing your missing is self-confidence.

Start there.

How do you get self confidence?

 

[ProfessionallyTrill]

How do you get self confidence?

 

[Grams]

Ima need you to grab a beer or something and calm your nerves.

Well if you didnt like her, you wouldnt give a fukk.

See you have to see rejection differently. Yea it sucks to be rejected, but its not always YOUR fault your rejected.

case and point: you see girl tomorrow, talk to her, and try to suggest she give you her number so yall can go out and get to know each other on a deeper level...
1. if she doesnt give you the number dont automatically think it is something about you that prevented it. She may be interested, but may not be ready for a relationship or anything of the like. She may just want to keep things platonic. She may like you too but would prefer to do things at her own pace without being probed for a number.
2. if she has a boyfriend and you dont get the number... on to the next one. That has nothing to do with you therefore you shouldnt take it personal because every dude will get rejected.
3.If you get the number and she responds back slow, inquire about whether she is a "talker or a texter" some people hate texting and will take forever a day to reply back to some simple ass shyt that could have taken 2 seconds. Also, if she takes forever to text back see if she has other responsibilities like work or something because she could just be busy.
4.


you better talk to that damn girl tomorrow. Just be cool and calm.... seem interested in truly getting to know her. Ask her what she would like to do or whatever and lead into " do you mind if I get to know more about you outside of school? " or whatever you think of at that moment.

I have faith in you breh

 

[kevm3]

How do you get self confidence?

You get self-confidence by believing that you are worth something and continually working on all of those elements you don't like. Don't like your dress style? Sharpen it up. Feel you are flabby? hit the gym even harder. Feel your social skills aren't to par? Instead of sitting at home on the weekend, force yourself to go out and do something new. Learning to like yourself is one of the most important things you can do... instead of running from any fears or insecurities you have, embrace them and go after them head on... and make this an enjoyable process. It's a lot of fun seeing yourself morph before your eyes. The more you put yourself together and the less you dislike about yourself as you look in the mirror, the more that inner confidence will develop. Man go out this weekend and hit the mall and cop a cologne for yourself... just start off with something simple. It's just a lot of fun taking one element and improving that. Get yourself a new outfit and find a new place to go to that you haven't already. You got to learn to enjoy life instead of trying to measure yourself up to some invisible standard.

 

[FLYINHAWAIIAN]

How do you get self confidence?

Get money [DOUBLEPOST=1397618382][/DOUBLEPOST]

 

[Sandy_Cheeks]

awww. You will be fine

 

[Brandeezy]

Since I don't have anywhere to go after work I just stay and work OT. Like right now I'm on the way home and I went at 8:15 am. My mom doesn't like that I work all those hours but I don't mind

 

[kevm3]

Man all that OT will pay off... stack that money. There's too much in life to enjoy to be down, you feel me. You can end up traveling the world and just exploring and doing a bunch of interesting things. You got to come with that attitude of even if nobody else likes me, I'm going to like me. Now, you don't want to get arrogant and disdainful, but you just have to get to a point where you look in the mirror and you stop cutting yourself down. Get out and enjoy life. Put women on the backburner for now and hit all of your insecurities head on.

 

[RealAssanova]

@RealAssanova Sorry bruh, you might wanna skip this post.....

Just Jane: I hate myself for cheating with my driving instructor | Just Jane | Life & Style | Daily Star. Simply The Best 7 Days A Week
HAVING sex with my driving instructor is so good at the time but leaves me as guilty as sin afterwards.

I know I shouldn’t be having him on the back seat of his car but I can’t resist.

Towards the end of my lesson he invariably puts his hand on my knee and cheekily suggests a lesson in use of the horn.

I collapse into fits of giggles and I’m gone. We race to a secluded spot and make frantic love two or three times.

Two cigarettes later and we’re good to go home.

I burst through the front door and rush straight up to the shower claiming that I’m hot and sweaty after a tricky three-point turn.

But sometimes my boyfriend will insist I come into the front room to tell him how my lesson went.

This is when I start to feel like an absolute slut.

He’s forking out for my driving lessons yet I’m paying him back by cheating with the instructor – a bloke who lives near us.
My fella found him through a mate after we both agreed that booking a professional instructor would be the safer way to learn.

I have to confess that sex was the last thing on my mind the first time I climbed into his car and he just muttered: “Mirror, signal, manoeuvre.” But now I’m in too deep to change the routine.

My problem is that I love the sex while it’s happening, because I get caught up in the heat and the passion of the moment, but I quickly feel sordid afterwards.

How do I stop being such a tart?

been away from the coli cuz of exams...but now that its done breh...

i gotta start my summer off with this shyt?

and i wonder why my sisters and mom worry bout me and my future relationships...