I always say you should try to never critique anyone, want what they have or the lifestyle you think they are living. Mainly due to the fact you have no idea the lives that people live, the struggles they are battling daily, or how much effort and hard work they have put in to get to where they are. The perception you have of their situation or lifestyle is more than likely not reality.
After my car accident and being deemed a high risk driver, for a dreadful year I was paying $792 a month for car insurance, with gas and maintenance monthly I was shelling out nearly $1,000 a month. That`s rent in a respectable area, that`s an all inclusive vacation in the Caribbean at a 4 or 5 star resort and every month for a year this is what I was paying. People may have looked at my ride and giggled inside as I did not have all the bells and whistles, all the fancy new gadgets etc., but what I was paying monthly I could have been driving a brand new Audi. PERCEPTION
If I tell someone that I`m 29 and live at home, the first thing that will come to mind is OH, are you living in your mothers basement, are you to scared to be on your own, can`t you handle the responsibility. When in reality I live at home because gasp I want to at this time, I contribute my fair share to the mortgage monthly and I`m building equity. I could easily rent an apartment and pay less than I`m currently paying to be cool by society standards yet in the long run I would have built up zero equity. PERCEPTION
If I tell someone I have 7 phone contacts, 5 Facebook friends, no instagram, twitter, snapchat or whatever the latest thing is = wow what a weird loser. When in essence I have lived that 100 phone contacts 500 Facebook friends lifestyle and well I don’t need it. I don’t care about social media or the masses having privy to my coming and goings, nor do I care about having a gluttony of contacts to scroll through. Everyone I would ever contact first or truly care about the magnificent 7 is in my phone book, everyone else is just an area code and 7 digits whenever they feel like messaging or calling me. PERCEPTION
I have been accused of being a player by the way I look or my aura of secretiveness, or putting on an act because “no one could be that good” whatever that means. When in reality I've never been a player nor committed an act of infidelity and I’m secretive because I live by the mantra of trust a few and even then trust and verify. Secondly the last thing I have ever been is “fake”, I don’t care to appease to anyone, or dare take advantage of anyone regardless of what they may think they may be offering me. PERCEPTION
I remember when people would say “Wow man she`s so hot, you`re so lucky”, “How did you find someone like that”; when in reality I have a feeling she`s cheating on me, I`m stressed out constantly, losing weight, I’m working on a way out of this relationship and life is going down the gutter in all facets and I would gladly switch spots with you. PERCEPTION
I could go on and on, but to keep it short, what you may perceive about others is not truly fact.
see the audacity? she saw the thirst and is treating you accordingly. you should have cut her off as soon as she started flopping on you. matter of fact, after the first meet when she fronted you should have given her enough space to let her set up the next meet.
