Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[360dagod]

You know what

I've been thinking

I should cut this bytch off.. She's just running game on me..

Keepin me around until she figures out what she's gonna do with this other guy..



I thought I was in for the winter once I cracked her shyt a few times

The p*ssy got you

 

[kevm3]

Man she just told your boy she wants to have another man's baby, so I don't know what you think you're going to be building with her. Move on and don't think twice. No, you won't 'win her over'. Keep playing around with her and end up raising another man's child.

 

[Nuke Dukem]

Man she just told your boy she wants to have another man's baby, so I don't know what you think you're going to be building with her. Move on and don't think twice. No, you won't 'win her over'. Keep playing around with her and end up raising another man's child.

I should've clearified.. It was said in a joking manner.. Like "don't jab me you'll hurt the baby haha"

I fukked her already

The other guy hasn't even kicked it wit her yet

 

[The ADD]

So overall I found out shes been talkin to this truck driver that comes to our business..

She copped an attitude with me at the end of the day n then she wouldnt kick it with me... I asked her wasup n she told me " a few of the hoes I work with told her I have a GF" (which aint true, I been single for a year now)

So she started get slick n sayin she aint coming to kick it blah blah..

So I had to bust her out n tell her what my guy told me at work earlier..

He was playin around n jabbed her in the stomach n she said "stop ull kill the baby" n he said " oh nuke dukems baby" She said no "Truck drivers names baby"..

So I asked her about that n then she came clean about everything n said

"I'm not gon lie to u we were talking for a while but he got locked up for sum shyt he's out he still tryna get with me nd if u saw or hear when he came I did give him a hug nd kiss in the cheek"


So I said okay.. I cant really be mad we aint exclusive n I see where we stand overall..

then she said
"I like u i do wanna be yur girl just be honest with me nd yea I was talking to few ill cut em off for u"

So I said.. "Okay ur offically my girl then"

Then she was on bs n said " wait I wanna chill with u sum more" and also

"Yea I feel rush... I'm being honest with u if I ain't want nun to do with u I'll cut u off we fukked already I want u to be mine I hope u telling me the true that u don't got a girl already"

We said good night n that was the end of the convo

How many red flags do you need?

 

[Cory MBA]

How many red flags do you need?

Chris Brown, Birdman, Wayne, Game, Suge, and Paul Pierce need to come in this thread and post a little something.

@Nuke Dukem Doggie, breh.......leave her be....


:dahellcos:

 

[Fatboi1]

@Nuke Dukem that situation sounds like a disaster in the making. I hope what you said was said in a sarcastic manner and wasn't something that you seriously plan on moving forward with.

This can affect your job breh. Even if you weren't working, I still wouldn't want to get involved with a female who was blatantly telling me shyt like this. She'd already be disqualified as a candidate for being a girlfriend.

 

[Fatboi1]

Oh man I forgot to post this

@Emperor_ReinScarf Remember the chick I said that ain't call me in like 2 weeks?? Well it's going onto three but anyway last night I was home trying to fix my internet when my ex phoned me and asked me if the connection is up and I told her I'd let her know when it's up. So after figuring out it was a interruption in service due to an outage, I went downstairs to tell her since I was already going downstairs for something else.

I knock on her door since I don't go in there barging in like I used to(I haven't gone in her room in weeks) and on top of that I don't talk to her unless she asks me a question or something. She opens the door and I see her(my ex), some dude(I assume either her BF or someone else) and the girl that I ain't talk to in a while. I just nod my head to dude and then tell my ex the internet is going to be down for a few hours while Comcast fixes it.

The other chick looks at me and says not a word. She tried moving her head to the side to get a better look at me since my ex was kind of standing in the way. You'd think she would at least be cordial and say whats up or something but nope, not a single word.

I left and I just was @ myself for really thinking this girl was something else. This is the same girl that used to blow up my phone and would let me know every time when she's at my house and this is like the second or third time she's been here and didn't say diddly squat. Oh well

 

[MikelArteta]

I dunno how you live like that I'd ho insane

Oh man I forgot to post this

@Emperor_ReinScarf Remember the chick I said that ain't call me in like 2 weeks?? Well it's going onto three but anyway last night I was home trying to fix my internet when my ex phoned me and asked me if the connection is up and I told her I'd let her know when it's up. So after figuring out it was a interruption in service due to an outage, I went downstairs to tell her since I was already going downstairs for something else.

I knock on her door since I don't go in there barging in like I used to(I haven't gone in her room in weeks) and on top of that I don't talk to her unless she asks me a question or something. She opens the door and I see her(my ex), some dude(I assume either her BF or someone else) and the girl that I ain't talk to in a while. I just nod my head to dude and then tell my ex the internet is going to be down for a few hours while Comcast fixes it.

The other chick looks at me and says not a word. She tried moving her head to the side to get a better look at me since my ex was kind of standing in the way. You'd think she would at least be cordial and say whats up or something but nope, not a single word.

I left and I just was @ myself for really thinking this girl was something else. This is the same girl that used to blow up my phone and would let me know every time when she's at my house and this is like the second or third time she's been here and didn't say diddly squat. Oh well

 

[kevm3]

Oh man I forgot to post this

@Emperor_ReinScarf Remember the chick I said that ain't call me in like 2 weeks?? Well it's going onto three but anyway last night I was home trying to fix my internet when my ex phoned me and asked me if the connection is up and I told her I'd let her know when it's up. So after figuring out it was a interruption in service due to an outage, I went downstairs to tell her since I was already going downstairs for something else.

I knock on her door since I don't go in there barging in like I used to(I haven't gone in her room in weeks) and on top of that I don't talk to her unless she asks me a question or something. She opens the door and I see her(my ex), some dude(I assume either her BF or someone else) and the girl that I ain't talk to in a while. I just nod my head to dude and then tell my ex the internet is going to be down for a few hours while Comcast fixes it.

The other chick looks at me and says not a word. She tried moving her head to the side to get a better look at me since my ex was kind of standing in the way. You'd think she would at least be cordial and say whats up or something but nope, not a single word.

I left and I just was @ myself for really thinking this girl was something else. This is the same girl that used to blow up my phone and would let me know every time when she's at my house and this is like the second or third time she's been here and didn't say diddly squat. Oh well

That's why I say women are transient these days. One day they are on you, and while they are feeling you, they give you all this attention for a little while, but they are scanning for options in the background and when they've found some new option, they don't bother telling you. They just go silent... when it doesn't work out with that new dude they are talking to, then they reappear like 3 weeks to a month later like 'heyyyyy why didn't you hit me up?'

 

[MikelArteta]

Remember.


Don’t hold unto someone who has let go of you


Whether in a relationship or friendship, if someone has let you go there is no need to keep clinging and hoping for a chance of reconciliation. Yes rejection can be painful and naturally when you are discarded you will try and do anything in your capacity to hold on. Even if it means accepting bread crumbs communication, demotion, and even disrespect but why?


If you are out shopping at a store and the owner is ignoring you, treating you with disrespect and not viewing you as a valuable customer as they close the store and usher you out more than likely you will take your business elsewhere. It would look foolish to wait until the store reopens or beg for another opportunity to spend your time and valuable possessions at their store. So why would you continue to wait, give your time; hold on to someone who has let you go?


2.You never have to chase what wants to stay


On the other hand, if someone wants to be in your life they will make the effort to be in your existence. You don’t have to play games, change the way that you are, run through hoops or any other ridiculous measures to impress someone to show you are priceless. I call it the “Tom Cruise Mentality” – small time and mid tier actors have to audition to get roles in movies, sometimes taking anything that is offered to them, while on the other hand Tom Cruise does not have to interview for roles, he does not have to chase the director to be in a film because he knows he is valuable and people come to him; Submerge yourself in that mentality!


3.Stop overlooking actions and trusting in words


Words are just words, and many people will tell you whatever you want to hear to calm your fears or give you hope. I can alertly remember for example being cheated on and told “I still love you though”, which was utter hogwash, hypocrisy, insincerity, mendaciousness because the action of infidelity and the phrase of “I love you” did not add up. As I have implied before there is power in words but in empty words and promises that are not backed up there is zilch.

 

[Fatboi1]

I dunno how you live like that I'd ho insane

I keep to myself and stay upstairs since that's where I live. I don't have to see her unless I run into her when I go into the first floor and that's not often. It's crazy but I gotta deal with it for now.

 

[MaccabeanRebel]

God is cruel man, kind of talking to this one chick..she's traditional, god fearing, well educated,can cook, and makes GOOD money...but she's a lil bit on the chubby side. Am I vain for being apprehensive to cuff that? I mean it looks like she's working on getting that in line, i mean the chick has a personal trainer she's hired... but still

I don't know what to do brehs
I got other chicks on the team, but she seems like a descent role player, what would yall do?

 

[StretfordRed]

So was chilling over the past few months but found out some shyt about her past that made me put the breaks on the relationship.

Told her I didn't feel the same, and I'm struggling to get back those feels. Aint mashed her in like a week or more. Don't even wanna touch her. But that's probably because of the chick on the side who I been texting, but not fukked.

Right now, she is quite dependant on me e.g. to help her find work and shyt. I don't give her money, she buys her own food. But she really will fall by the way-side if I drop her...but I need to, as I gots no love for her

Just feels bad lol

 

[Cory MBA]

God is cruel man, kind of talking to this one chick..she's traditional, god fearing, well educated,can cook, and makes GOOD money...but she's a lil bit on the chubby side. Am I vain for being apprehensive to cuff that? I mean it looks like she's working on getting that in line, i mean the chick has a personal trainer she's hired... but still

I don't know what to do brehs
I got other chicks on the team, but she seems like a descent role player, what would yall do?

Simplest solution is to replace her personal trainer.

Another solution: Let her go if you are not attracted to her physically. She is not for you.

You may think you have to 'force' relationships, but the truth is that you shouldn't.

 

[Ohene]

God is cruel man, kind of talking to this one chick..she's traditional, god fearing, well educated,can cook, and makes GOOD money...but she's a lil bit on the chubby side. Am I vain for being apprehensive to cuff that? I mean it looks like she's working on getting that in line, i mean the chick has a personal trainer she's hired... but still

I don't know what to do brehs
I got other chicks on the team, but she seems like a descent role player, what would yall do?

nope. everybody has her criteria and looks are important. if she doesnt meet your threshold of attactiveness whats to stop you from cheating down the line? save yourselves the trouble

edit: i was actually in a similar situation with a chick recently. intelligent, shares the same idea I have about religion and black issues, great temperament, compassionate, straight forward. But she just wasnt attractive enough . Tall, almost there but not quite attractive enough.
I was considering forcing it but fukk it.