they wont hesitate to do it to you so feel no ruths doing it to them. In this world everybody is looking out for themselves first. Follow suit.So was chilling over the past few months but found out some shyt about her past that made me put the breaks on the relationship.
Told her I didn't feel the same, and I'm struggling to get back those feels. Aint mashed her in like a week or more. Don't even wanna touch her. But that's probably because of the chick on the side who I been texting, but not fukked.
Right now, she is quite dependant on me e.g. to help her find work and shyt. I don't give her money, she buys her own food. But she really will fall by the way-side if I drop her...but I need to, as I gots no love for her
Just feels bad lol
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I must be shallow as fack. If I'm not attracted I'm not getting close to digging deep enough to know all that other stuff.
So you have just been giving the “I need space” or “I just need time to find myself” or “I’m sorry it’s over, but we can still be friends” lecture. Now you are left in a quandary; do I consent to these demands or do I disagree. Well I correlate scenarios like this and have entitled it the “Alex Smith”.
Alex Smith is an eight year veteran NFL Quarterback and former number one draft pick. He was the starting quarterback for the San Francisco 49ers for many years, and was having the best season of his career when he got injured. As the weeks went on and his health improved and he was ready to return to his occupation as the starting quarterback, the team decided the position was no longer his and relegated Alex to the backup spot. Alex still wanted to start, he viewed himself as valuable and knew the skill he possessed many other teams would want.
Alex did not view himself as a backup, as someone who would be okay riding the pine hoping to get a opportunity that maybe the team would promote him to his former gig. After the season ended, Alex Smith was traded to the Kansas City Chiefs, a team that viewed him as valuable and rewarded him with loyalty and the starting quarterback position.
When someone tells you they need space and time to find themselves, or they try and demote you from a position you once held in their life; it’s up to you whether you want to decompose on the sidelines as a backup hoping for an occasion to get back to that starting position in their life. Or you can view yourself as valuable and go elsewhere like Alex Smith did and be viewed as a priority and not an option.
Alex Smith is an eight year veteran NFL Quarterback and former number one draft pick. He was the starting quarterback for the San Francisco 49ers for many years, and was having the best season of his career when he got injured. As the weeks went on and his health improved and he was ready to return to his occupation as the starting quarterback, the team decided the position was no longer his and relegated Alex to the backup spot. Alex still wanted to start, he viewed himself as valuable and knew the skill he possessed many other teams would want.
Alex did not view himself as a backup, as someone who would be okay riding the pine hoping to get a opportunity that maybe the team would promote him to his former gig. After the season ended, Alex Smith was traded to the Kansas City Chiefs, a team that viewed him as valuable and rewarded him with loyalty and the starting quarterback position.
When someone tells you they need space and time to find themselves, or they try and demote you from a position you once held in their life; it’s up to you whether you want to decompose on the sidelines as a backup hoping for an occasion to get back to that starting position in their life. Or you can view yourself as valuable and go elsewhere like Alex Smith did and be viewed as a priority and not an option.
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nope. everybody has her criteria and looks are important. if she doesnt meet your threshold of attactiveness whats to stop you from cheating down the line? save yourselves the trouble
edit: i was actually in a similar situation with a chick recently. intelligent, shares the same idea I have about religion and black issues, great temperament, compassionate, straight forward. But she just wasnt attractive enough. Tall, almost there but not quite attractive enough.
I was considering forcing it but fukk it.
i think attraction can grow though
that relates more to what ADD said. Typically the more time you spend with someone and see their personaltiy that happens...thats basically why although I wasnt fully attracted to the chick i was still cordial and talking to her. She was on the cusp. But months passed and I just wasnt that into her physically. I actually almost smashed it on my bday weeks back but I was too drunk and tired and couldnt get it up.i think attraction can grow though
She guilted me into coming over at like 3:30AM...i had no business doing so and ended up embarrassing myself.
breh did Alex smith even get injured that season? I swear Harbaugh just one week outta nowhere said eff it I'm starting KaepSo you have just been giving the “I need space” or “I just need time to find myself” or “I’m sorry it’s over, but we can still be friends” lecture. Now you are left in a quandary; do I consent to these demands or do I disagree. Well I correlate scenarios like this and have entitled it the “Alex Smith”.
Alex Smith is an eight year veteran NFL Quarterback and former number one draft pick. He was the starting quarterback for the San Francisco 49ers for many years, and was having the best season of his career when he got injured. As the weeks went on and his health improved and he was ready to return to his occupation as the starting quarterback, the team decided the position was no longer his and relegated Alex to the backup spot. Alex still wanted to start, he viewed himself as valuable and knew the skill he possessed many other teams would want.
Alex did not view himself as a backup, as someone who would be okay riding the pine hoping to get a opportunity that maybe the team would promote him to his former gig. After the season ended, Alex Smith was traded to the Kansas City Chiefs, a team that viewed him as valuable and rewarded him with loyalty and the starting quarterback position.
When someone tells you they need space and time to find themselves, or they try and demote you from a position you once held in their life; it’s up to you whether you want to decompose on the sidelines as a backup hoping for an occasion to get back to that starting position in their life. Or you can view yourself as valuable and go elsewhere like Alex Smith did and be viewed as a priority and not an option.
edit: nvm he had a concussion. and that was the year after SF was a botched punt return away from the SB right?
yup, i'm not saying kaep wasn't the better option just that alex smith did his part he was great, he viewed himself as still a starter in the league. So he took his skills elsewhere, I'll never be that chump guy being dumped and hanging around still, or being fdemoted to friendzone, or hanging around a girl that isn't interested in me, I got alot to offer
and if she doesn't see it, i'll put up my stats elsewhere 
yup, i'm not saying kaep wasn't the better option just that alex smith did his part he was great, he viewed himself as still a starter in the league. So he took his skills elsewhere, I'll never be that chump guy being dumped and hanging around still, or being fdemoted to friendzone, or hanging around a girl that isn't interested in me, I got alot to offer
and if she doesn't see it, i'll put up my stats elsewhere
that relates more to what ADD said. Typically the more time you spend with someone and see their personaltiy that happens...thats basically why although I wasnt fully attracted to the chick i was still cordial and talking to her. She was on the cusp. But months passed and I just wasnt that into her physically. I actually almost smashed it on my bday weeks back but I was too drunk and tired and couldnt get it up.
She guilted me into coming over at like 3:30AM...i had no business doing so and ended up embarrassing myself.
its funny when you mess wiht a girl you rnto attracted to , the way you treat them gives you so much loyalty, that chick in brampton who I didn't even find attractive but messed with for a few months till she got "distant", i could do anything and she would still come back, hell she still came back until i told her she was harrasing me and to get lost, yet the girls you are attacted to you never get that loyalty
i hear you. why is it that girls i treat like shyt especially have loyalty though?
theres this one girl around the way who I am especially thinking off straight from Jamaica for the most part. big ass titties but not fit enough for me to be attracted and very clingy. I havent treated her like shyt per se...but ever since the day i met her and blessed her with a great conversation shes been so into me and without going into too much details I have never given her all that much play except for the first week or so that we met. I literally have no idea why given my distant behaviour she still really likes me but at the same time I've been there with girls I was really attracted to.
i guess it comes down to feeling like you almost landed that opportunity to be with somebody or just have sex with them...so wnhen you get so close only to have the rug pulled from under you it hurts much more and you want it even more too
its crazy man. supply and demand i tell you
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@Urbanmiracle I don't know if you're still thinking about this but it's so true. I can cosign 1000%. Unfortunately the reality of life is that most of us are not strong enough to do it.
I've messed it up and reincar has as well. It's not until you look back on it after you've contacted your ex and been like "Why did I do that?"Like real talk, it's been 3 years since me and my ex split and even though I got better at not contacting, I still hit her up every now and then. I don't regret it but I do sometimes wonder how different things would be if I had NEVER hit her up. I'm talking three straight years of radio silence. I guarantee things would be much different now between us.
Oh well, live and learn. Stay strong. This is the part of life nobody prepares you for.
So was chilling over the past few months but found out some shyt about her past that made me put the breaks on the relationship.
Told her I didn't feel the same, and I'm struggling to get back those feels. Aint mashed her in like a week or more. Don't even wanna touch her. But that's probably because of the chick on the side who I been texting, but not fukked.
Right now, she is quite dependant on me e.g. to help her find work and shyt. I don't give her money, she buys her own food. But she really will fall by the way-side if I drop her...but I need to, as I gots no love for her
Just feels bad lol
Breh what she tell you??
Goin out tonight for a late happy hour. Gonna put my bid in to few.
I've basically put my focus only on my finances til the end of the year but this wont hurt.
I need this after being in that ratchet shyt last week
I've basically put my focus only on my finances til the end of the year but this wont hurt.
I need this after being in that ratchet shyt last week
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Brooklyn the planet...
About to have dinner with this older chicks family tonite. Hmmm shyt getting serious dumb quick. Might have to fall back a bit. As far as my ex, it's been a solid two weeks since I texted her. We split our phone lines and that was that Sometimes think about seeing how she is but I figure since she ain't even thinking of me, why waste my brain cells. I'm good guys. Gonna enjoy these free meal with this girl.