That's definitely a lesson that comes with time. "What in the world am I stressing over?" When you stop walking that tightrope, stop putting these women on a pedestal and looking at them as some queen whose attention you need to earn, then things become a lot more relaxed. You're going to find out that all of those women you were stressing over, attempting to woo with the 'perfect conversation' and sequence of actions eventually left and you're left with absolutely nothing. Sooner or later, the longer they are around you, the real you is going to come out. If the real you is drastically different from that player image or whatever perfect image you were putting off, they're going to peel off because 'you're different' or 'you're boring.'
On the other hand, when you're yourself the whole time and never thinking about what you're saying and if it aligns with what 'she approves of', then any woman you deal with has a much higher probability of staying around because she's attracted to what you do daily and who you are as a person. She's attracted to your essence.
We have to approach situations with the proper mentality. instead of looking at women as a sort of exotic creature to be caught, look at them as someone you are giving an opportunity to, to see if they fit properly in the kingdom you are running. One of the biggest takeaways is that you simply have to accept when a woman isn't a correct fit or if she isn't into you and learn to let it go. If her interest isnt' there, don't start creating strategies and attempt to chase her. That makes you look small as a man. You simply have to learn to move on and find someone who values you for what you bring to the table. The only way they can do that is if you are being you and not 'what you think women want.'
On the other hand, when you're yourself the whole time and never thinking about what you're saying and if it aligns with what 'she approves of', then any woman you deal with has a much higher probability of staying around because she's attracted to what you do daily and who you are as a person. She's attracted to your essence.
We have to approach situations with the proper mentality. instead of looking at women as a sort of exotic creature to be caught, look at them as someone you are giving an opportunity to, to see if they fit properly in the kingdom you are running. One of the biggest takeaways is that you simply have to accept when a woman isn't a correct fit or if she isn't into you and learn to let it go. If her interest isnt' there, don't start creating strategies and attempt to chase her. That makes you look small as a man. You simply have to learn to move on and find someone who values you for what you bring to the table. The only way they can do that is if you are being you and not 'what you think women want.'
