Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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My sister was over and used my laptp i and took a look at her facebook (she has my ex on it), took a look at my exes facebook, didn't even feel that "stomach churning in the gut" or hate or anger that I used to feel, when your finally over it :blessed:
 

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I spent the night at this new girls crib a few nights ago and everything went well. Didn't smash but I didn't want to... we kissed and what not before I left and talked a lot the next day but now it seem like she ignoring and flakin on a nikka. Really wanna hit her wit the :camby: but that body and personality tho :wow:

I'm gettin tired of these females man... these bytches be actin brand new.
 

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Anytime a woman gets flaky I just take it someone else peaked her interest more . just gotta take that L cut your losses and try not to fret or get angry.



I spent the night at this new girls crib a few nights ago and everything went well. Didn't smash but I didn't want to... we kissed and what not before I left and talked a lot the next day but now it seem like she ignoring and flakin on a nikka. Really wanna hit her wit the :camby: but that body and personality tho :wow:

I'm gettin tired of these females man... these bytches be actin brand new.
 

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Should I text now or wait three days to show I`m not desperate?

Should I take on the role of an aloof mysterious personality and shun who I really am?

Should I juggle a bunch of individuals to show my desirability?

Should I use manipulation/jealously tactics to "win"?

Should I be stone cold emotionless and be a challenge to figure out?


Sure if all you want is hookups, casual on/off relationships and bouts of drama and confrontation, with lack of communication then by all means indulge in games, morph into a different character and "win" in the short run.


Because yes truthfully these tactics can keep the dopamine levels elevated and in this day and age that is what many people crave; the tingles, the novelty, the honeymoon infatuation period, the new car smell. And stability and familiarity well it slowly destroys the dopamine levels, the thrill and the rush slowly evaporates and next thing you know you are having that `talk`.


However the issue is if you desire a stable long term relationship built on solid foundation; it cannot be built on a chemical high, because once that high becomes placid the foundation crumbles. This is why it is imperative to choose your partner wisely and not just base of the butterflies in your belly. Observe and listen when they speak, be understanding, show empathy, communicate, have boundaries if needed, maintain a close friendship, be loyal and honest and realize that all relationships will have peaks and valleys.

That's real talk. Most of these PUA or playa type dudes end up confused because their whole life is centered around seeking approval from a woman, with her vagina being the ultimate objective. Their thought process is always based upon whether they are getting a woman's approval and go so far as to completely reinvent themselves in order to procure the brief affections of loose women. If your mentality is built on someone rewarding you in some fashion for your actions, then they have a tremendous amount of power over you. "Oh man, these women aren't responding to my cocky, but funny routine with a touch of bad boy. I probably should have waited 2.5 more days before I called back to demonstrate to her that I'm a busy man and of high value." As we've said numerous times before, there is zero that a woman is offering to go through all of those hurdles and to go through that self-questioning process for.

Honestly, if me showing up ain't enough for her, then she can take her butt on. Going through this rigorous self-questioning routine and pondering whether your actions are demonstrating 'enough worth' to her is the mark of a man who gives way too much authority and power to a woman... A woman who will most likely jet the minute you become 'boring' in her mind or when she feels she can upgrade. What's so sad is a dude won't ride a bike 10 miles to go get 5 chicken nuggets from McDonalds, but he'll end up jumping out of a window, walk on blistering hot coals and putting the essence of his being on the line for a woman. Dudes really need to cut that out. To me, the bottom line is she is either going to accept how I bring it or not. If she doesn't, that roster spot opens up for another woman.

Ultimately, men need to learn to find completion within themselves. A woman will never make you happy long-term. She can only ENHANCE your happiness. If your happiness is contingent on a woman, you are treading VERY dangerous waters, because as soon as she decides to leave and your happiness is rooted in her giving you approval or attention, you are going to become an emotional wreck. Cats need to get right with Jesus, strengthen relationships with family and friends, get those employment skills up and just enjoy life in general. Take a trip, do something you really enjoy. Structure your life in a way that you're thankful for everyday breathing. Don't waste much time on thinking what this or that woman is doing. When you've done this thoroughly well, you won't even really care if this or that woman is flaking because you're so busy enjoying life and counting your blessings and you know that there are several other women who would LOVE to take her place.
 

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Aight I feel you fam

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If a woman can ice you out that quick, you probably ain't have much value to her in the first place. Better that you find out now. A woman that can just ignore you on the drop of a dime most likely has numerous dudes she's talking to, so keep it pushing and don't waste too many mental cycles wondering what she's doing or how you can do some magical technique to procure her interest. Enjoy your life and push her in the past. In fact, let her wonder how she can get some of YOUR time.

Don't be a small fry. Top notch companies aren't worried if one particular applicant doesn't show up to the interview because they know they have countless others who want that interview. You don't show up, you lose.
 

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Honestly it had no effect on me, I didn't care. I just looked and closed it.

It's ok breh. It's ok to have a moment of vulnerability or "curiosity" due to whatever reasons we've internalized and overcome. It might not have affected you at all one way or another, but you still had that brief curiosity there, no? A curiosity you probably fought with for a long time and that became less and less over time?


Lol. fukk it :cheers: Laugh it off or deny deny deny, but as men, especially giving advice to men, nikkas need to know it's normal to have brief moments of vulnerability or curiosity (with yourself, not a bytch) :mjlol: We giving gems so cats can be MEN in here, not sociopaths :mjlol:

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