Just recently cut off this chick I been dealing with for a minute.
There's a lot of history here, lots of back and forth. We reconnected recently after not talking for a few months, and were both single. We both admitted feelings were there (is having feelings for a female simpin? lol), but knew the time wasn't right.
She told me I was the kinda guy she wants to end up eventually and all those duck tales, and while I was skeptical, I was willing to see where it went. We weren't together so I was still doing my thing, and she told me she didn't wanna know about it.
Anyway, she met some dope boy at a BBQ, dude's got two kids from two different baby mamas. She went on a playdate with him, told me it was innocent, and then we didn't talk for a few days. She admitted she hung out til 5am with him and then confessed he smashed. She told me she wants to still hang out with me while ol' dude beats it up. I said I wasn't cool with it, to which she brought up my activities.
We had a big ass text fight (which are the fukkin worst) and I deleted her # from my phone. Just saw she deleted me on FB.
Too bad, when she ever gets her shyt together, she'll be a great catch, but I'll let this fake ass Nino Brown deal with it instead.
She's also the first single mom I was ever involved with. Learned my lesson with this one, brehs.

Just recently cut off this chick I been dealing with for a minute.
There's a lot of history here, lots of back and forth. We reconnected recently after not talking for a few months, and were both single. We both admitted feelings were there (is having feelings for a female simpin? lol), but knew the time wasn't right.
She told me I was the kinda guy she wants to end up eventually and all those duck tales, and while I was skeptical, I was willing to see where it went. We weren't together so I was still doing my thing, and she told me she didn't wanna know about it.
Anyway, she met some dope boy at a BBQ, dude's got two kids from two different baby mamas. She went on a playdate with him, told me it was innocent, and then we didn't talk for a few days. She admitted she hung out til 5am with him and then confessed he smashed. She told me she wants to still hang out with me while ol' dude beats it up. I said I wasn't cool with it, to which she brought up my activities.
We had a big ass text fight (which are the fukkin worst) and I deleted her # from my phone. Just saw she deleted me on FB.
Too bad, when she ever gets her shyt together, she'll be a great catch, but I'll let this fake ass Nino Brown deal with it instead.
She's also the first single mom I was ever involved with. Learned my lesson with this one, brehs.
lol @ text fighting....yep I know about them. Awful.
I dont know or where you're from, bu any chick messin with a d-boy, I'd have questions about her judgement. But it just depends on where you're from tho.
I wouldnt be able to take her seriously for a relationship, especially if she's lettin him smash. That's all that would be on my mind while we're together....but again, that's just me.
This chick I mentioned on the last page, I don't even have any proof of her creepin, but I semi-suspect it and my gut can't be completely wrong. Plus I cant go thru everyday wondering what she's up to, or where shes REALLY at. I cut off conversations with 3-4 other chicks b/c I liked her the most, so I'm not putting up with any bs b/c, not to sound arrogant, but I can find someone else.
You can pay attention without ever showing her a lack of trust. You set the parameters of what you deem acceptable behavior. Smarter men than I have said the same thing in this thread.Brehs does showin lack of trust to your girl show weakness?
Brehs does showin lack of trust to your girl show weakness?
i've pretty much had it. i'm listing these as bare minimum requirements if a chick doesn't have these i'm instantly done the moment i find out one of the four is missing:
a job
her own place (no roommates allowed)
zero kids
a working vehicle in decent condition
at my age and where i live the chances of finding all of these are slim but honestly i feel like i don't even wanna talk to a chick unless she meets that standard. like if she was gonna even be a jumpoff she better at least be bringing that to the table bare minimum.
i told a close friend about this and he thinks i'm crazy. i just can't do it anymore though been burned too many times lowering the standard beneath that bar. i mean if she's around my age she should at least have a job, a place, and a car anyway. Mentally I already resigned myself being single for the rest of my life. I dont really feel like I need a woman in my life anymore so if Im gonna accept one why not swing for the fences and get the absolute best even going as far as out of my league.
I feel like Ive seen enough crap. There are good women out there but honestly its not in me anymore to look for them or even seek them out. Im done dumpster diving looking for treasures. If one falls im my lap thats great and if one doesnt it is what it is. I came into this game wide eyed and bushy tailed and it literally beat me so bad Im just tired of it all. Its just not in me to play the game anymore. the best way to describe my attitude towards women right now is i want them like a 500 pound man wants to look like Arnold Schwarzenegger in his prime. if it was easy to look like that he'd look that way but he ain't putting in the work for that type of body and he knows it. doesn't mean he doesn't want the body just means its not worth the cost it takes to have it.
btw you are the guy she wants to end up with, safe, dependable their to raise her offspring from another male but for now she will still smash other guys, still hang out till 5am and leave her kid with the babysitter or her mom, still live a ratchet lifestyle because when shee gets it all together in her mind you will be there.
women do this all the same the safe dependable guy with it together is to boring to settle down with, so I want my fun i want to club, i want to sleep with guys with alpha male tendacies on the first night, but after they will use me and abuse me and break my heart, and im 30 plus and my looks are fading you will get your chance alfie just wait
