Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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Rocket Scientist
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A woman is like a job position.There are many candidates you have to compete with to just get your foot in the door.
majority are just min wage
here's the problem.......
you might be a good guy, you might be funny, loyal, well-spoken, have a decent job, nice looking......but somewhere in that message box, there's a dude who makes more money than you.....there's another dude who's funnier than you....another who looks better.
They might not have the full package of quality traits like you do, but the majority of women will go after the one strong standout thing, ignore the other stuff then get burned in the end and wonder why they "can't find any decent guys."
Rocket Scientist
Superstar
Think I just had this happen to me over the past few days.
I mean, on one hand, you have to talk to them.....on the other hand, you can't talk too much.
Screw it, I don't care. lol
When I look back the women who have liked me...just liked me. I wasn't adhering to any sort of code, playing a role or trying to play a game. They just liked me.
If a woman stops liking you because you vibe with her too well, or you treat her nicely, then she's not really of sound mind to begin with. The women who wind up getting wifed or are in serious relationships are not on some bs like that.
But these other chicks will later one day be say, "I want a man to be my best friend first, before anything else"
RealAssanova
Vagitarian
real spit fam.
you have experience though. I have some experience but experience where i've been intimate with a small sample of women and not the size i know i can reach.
With women, for me at least, it's just that I know there will always be another.
It's also important to know your worth. If you are confident in what you bring to the table, it easy to brush off the ones that reject you because you understand that their judgment is
If I feel/know that I'm a Benz and a women looks at me like I'm a Chevy Nova, I'm not putting a lot of stock into her judgment in the first place.I think of it like "Your loss, idiot."
Thing with this is, believing you are a benz and actually acting/feeling like you are, i think are two completely different things. I tell myself all the time that i'm the shyt and i'd be feeling like it in the heat of the moment but as soon as i see a shorty i wanna pipe, that feeling somewhat takes flight.
Maybe i need to push women to the side, and work on me for a few months....cuz right now, what i'm doing ain't getting me nowhere. Only problem is i'm a nikka and i got sexual needs. So this is where you have a clash of priorities of tryna do you, but at the same time, tryna satisfy your carnal desires.
That's something that can only come from within. You have to get into what my brother, his friends (my OGs) and I call JDC, "just dont care" mode. The only thing is that you cannot force yourself into it because by trying not to care (purposely) youre are caring. Some people let frustration with women drive them to JDC mode and ironically for some its having already ran through so many. For other people it might be busyness at work, general more important stresses or goals in life. For some porn might even do the trick. And for others, in the best case scenario (where I'm approaching) its a general happiness, satisfaction that one happens to obtain without having women that can lead a dude into not caring about them or the associated outcomes.
You might already know the game, know there are plenty of women out there etc. But that wont change the feeling you get from being rejected by a girl you really like unless you simply just dont care that much anymore.
i ain't afraid to admit that women sometimes do frustrate me. And its sad, because it ain't like i'm unaware of the game.
My 2 biggest weaknesses is my self-confidence and the fact that i am emotionally outcome dependent. I have JDC moments and i have insecure moments and i think every nikka does. Its being consistent that is difficult. But with everything, consistency and practice makes you more skillful...which leads me to my other weakness of being emotionally outcome dependent. Its a natural thing to emotionally invest in the outcome even if we try not to for fear of rejection and its this that is stopping me from practicing and being consistent.
im always calm, what is so special about this certain women that why I should get angry or sad or whatever if she rejects me or dumps me or leaves me, nothing. The only thing "special" about her is the emotional connection you may have.
I'm almost 30 so I been dating for more than a decade and like another poster said there is always another one. Of course back int eh day when it ended I thought this was it, I'd never get another beautiful woman again, id never get a chick again, but its all bs, I take the mentality now of cool, thanks for not wasting any more of my time, see when you look at yourself as the prize if someoen doesn't want it well onto the next person, if you look at the chick as a prize thats when you falter. Not saying its like a light switch and all that, but life is short why waste time or thoughts on people who don't view you as valuable
what you and all the guys said above makes clear sense and i know this. But applying all ya'lls logic to my daily life and changing my mentality is gonna take sometime to do.
your young though I had the same process when I was young, like I said its not a light switch but meh, 've been engaged, i've loved, women come women go
Think I just had this happen to me over the past few days.
I mean, on one hand, you have to talk to them.....on the other hand, you can't talk too much.
Screw it, I don't care. lol
When I look back the women who have liked me...just liked me. I wasn't adhering to any sort of code, playing a role or trying to play a game. They just liked me.
If a woman stops liking you because you vibe with her too well, or you treat her nicely, then she's not really of sound mind to begin with. The women who wind up getting wifed or are in serious relationships are not on some bs like that.
But these other chicks will later one day be say, "I want a man to be my best friend first, before anything else"
u have to understand though, whether or not u choose to play a game doesn't mean you aren't in the game. u better play or get played.
even if a woman genuinely likes u at first, she can easily lose interest if u dont know how to act (especially if she's attractive). i'm not saying dont be urself. but if "urself" is a cornball, u better learn to reinvent it if u wanna be balls deep in fresh pusssy.
about 10 years ago. i was dating a chick around my age and another woman about 17 years older than me (at the same time). yup. she had a phat ass. the chick my age drew me in by first saying she loved me. after spending more time with her, i began to "love" her as well. to make a long story short, she realized how into her i had become, and she eventually lost interest. i remember always bringing her up to the older chick and the older chick said something that kinda stuck in my head. i was like, its amazing how a girl can go from saying she "loves" you, to just straight up breaking up and not calling or texting anymore. the older chick said "she probably feels, if she can get YOU wrapped around her finger, she can definitely do better". meaning, shes thinking she can get even "better" guys wrapped around her finger.
u goto understand, there's a boundary that exists, which cannot be seen, but is made apparent the minute a girl realizes the man she's dating has a take-it-or-leave-it attitude about her. when that boundary is drawn or established, if ur the man, u can rest assured this girl will do whatever u want. this is because, in her subconscious, she is not on ur level. she is on a level lower than urs. u are to be looked up to. and she will submit to you. i have seen it with my eyes and i have lived it and i am living it.
its why if you leave a woman and don't beg, pin, chase, just accept and get on with your life why they always pop back up.
by doing all that begging, pinning, chasing you inflate her ego and show her that she is the prize and you can't live without her.
How do you become outcome dependent? Stop trying to 'catch' women, treating them as if they are some Pokemon that you got to do anything to have. You know the type of women that you don't feel any anxiety around? Those women that you aren't attracted to. You simply don't care what they think. When you go out, stop thinking, "I got to pull this or that chick." Go out and ENJOY yourself first and foremost and don't make your mission pulling women. If a lovely woman comes along, cool, and if she doesn't, you'll still be enjoying yourself. A man starts getting stressed out because he puts way too much weight on the opinion of some woman and of something out of his control. It's how he ends up in a ton of bad situations by trying to force some issue. When you go out and deal with women, you can't never really tell ahead of time what woman will like you and which ones won't. When you try to force some issue and catch a woman no matter what, that's when you start trying to do things outside of you and you start doing things such as wondering if she's liking what you are doing or not. That will start to make you nervous and have you questioning yourself all day.
The moment you realize that none of these women are inherently special, the better off you will be. They're human just like you. The only thing men are really intimidated by is beauty, and once you can look past beauty, then things become a lot more relaxed. Don't ever force any issues and just focus on enjoying yourself and not on 'catching women'. When you start interacting with women and start seeing ones that show interest and dealing with those, things will go way smoother than you seeing some random woman and trying to force her to deal wtih you.
The moment you realize that none of these women are inherently special, the better off you will be. They're human just like you. The only thing men are really intimidated by is beauty, and once you can look past beauty, then things become a lot more relaxed. Don't ever force any issues and just focus on enjoying yourself and not on 'catching women'. When you start interacting with women and start seeing ones that show interest and dealing with those, things will go way smoother than you seeing some random woman and trying to force her to deal wtih you.
Brandeezy
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Was suppose to meet up/go on a date with this chick tonight but she quit replying to me out of nowhere about 4 or 5 hours ago. Would've been my 2nd date ever but now it's not 
and now i'm laying on my bed in the dark listening to Weeknd about to pop some pills
"I should've fukking rolled but I fukking rolled"
and now i'm laying on my bed in the dark listening to Weeknd about to pop some pills"I should've fukking rolled but I fukking rolled"
The Blasian chicks ex-dude that cheated just tried to make her choose. She said she chose me. This dude asked for my number so I told her to give it to him. She said, since he wont stop calling she'll just answer one last time when she comes over tomorrow night 
The fact that this nikka is even in the picture at all will keep me from getting too deep into even tho shes bad as hell. She's gonna have to earn me even making her my main. I'll call it the Marathon List
This Dominican chick I recently exchanged #s with sounds even sexier on the phone. "Okay papi." "Yes papi" On the phone w/ her now
Lives all the way out in fukkin Acworth 
But she down to cook all these seafood dishes for me plus she's slim and pretty faced. The kicker:
Divorced, 29 years old w/ 4 damn kids!
Age 7, 5, 3, and 1! Straight FWB status.
The fact that this nikka is even in the picture at all will keep me from getting too deep into even tho shes bad as hell. She's gonna have to earn me even making her my main. I'll call it the Marathon List
This Dominican chick I recently exchanged #s with sounds even sexier on the phone. "Okay papi." "Yes papi" On the phone w/ her now
Lives all the way out in fukkin Acworth But she down to cook all these seafood dishes for me plus she's slim and pretty faced. The kicker: Divorced, 29 years old w/ 4 damn kids!
Age 7, 5, 3, and 1! Straight FWB status.
Youseenmywork
KING
The Blasian chicks ex-dude that cheated just tried to make her choose. She said she chose me. This dude asked for my number so I told her to give it to him. She said, since he wont stop calling she'll just answer one last time when she comes over tomorrow night
The fact that this nikka is even in the picture at all will keep me from getting too deep into even tho shes bad as hell. She's gonna have to earn me even making her my main. I'll call it the Marathon List
This Dominican chick I recently exchanged #s with sounds even sexier on the phone. "Okay papi." "Yes papi" On the phone w/ her now
Divorced, 29 years old w/ 4 damn kids!
who still uses "papi" she could be a hoe
