Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Ohene]

it ain't gonna be awkward fam. I'm straight. She could've rejected me for a million of reasons. Me and her vibe alot in class and over text so i thought i'd see wassup.

she gonna be back.

meh, in this context it doesnt seem like she was shutting you down that badly. just fall back a little bit, and next time you see an opportunity put a real bid in; something straightforward that makes your intentions known. it doesnt hurt to be a bit aggressive and put your ego aside.

After she said she likes her neck of the woods I would've asked whats so good about her ends and suggested that I come kick it in her area to see for myself.

If even after that she gives you the then you know she has no interest in chilling with you. Cause right now all we know is that she has no interest coming down to your area to chill...even though she might be open to actually chillin. What cities yall from?

 

[TRUEST]

meh, in this context it doesnt seem like she was shutting you down that badly. just fall back a little bit, and next time you see an opportunity put a real bid in; something straightforward that makes your intentions known. it doesnt hurt to be a bit aggressive and put your ego aside.

After she said she likes her neck of the woods I would've asked whats so good about her ends and suggested that I come kick it in her area to see for myself.

If even after that she gives you the then you know she has no interest in chilling with you. Cause right now all we know is that she has no interest coming down to your area to chill...even though she might be open to actually chillin. What cities yall from?

her unwillingness to come down to his area to chill is a clear sign to me she aint feeling him the way he's feeling her.

 

[ProfessionallyTrill]

 

[Ohene]

her unwillingness to come down to his area to chill is a clear sign to me she aint feeling him the way he's feeling her.

why does she have to feel him the way he's feeling her? I've had instances like that where all it took was one on one time for me to have the girl butt naked in the crib or inviting me over to her place after a date.

it really depends so i'd have to see how that convo played out before then because IMO it woulda been better to separate the prospect of them two spending time together from them two spending time together in his area.

girls are dumb.

* i've had girls that were enthralled with me but I wouldnt expect them to travel far to come see me epsecially when all i said is i'd bring her around my neck of the woods
to most girls that probably means a dude just tryna bring me to the crib and smash

* i even had one girl from school that was loving the kid HARD. @Biggums can verify this. Without saying too much this girl wanted me to kick it with me in the summer but wanted to meet me halfway in Toronto. I'm from a suburb thats about a 35 mins drive from there and 2 hours by bus. I had a broken ankle and this bytch STILL didnt realize how stupid it sounded for her to want me to meet her halfway until I broke it down intricately.

like i said, girls, especially in our age group are dumb. I'm not tryna get homie to second guess himself, all i'm saying is that in order to reach full closure regarding a chick its best to make your intentions clear. That way you arent confused saying to yourself, "well we have great text convos and are really cool in class What gives?"


Forget all the innuendos, are you tryna kick it with me during reading week or not?

That being said he might as well sag off. She'll probably come to him, notice he is dejected and then start chasing if shes feeling him. If she doesnt, cant lose what you never had. Time will tell

 

[MikelArteta]

@TRUEST

Your thoughts on marriage?

 

[MikelArteta]

Cobra’s come in all different sizes but lucky me I tried to domesticate a King Cobra and shockingly was almost smothered. Ahem look ma it’s groundhog day, because yet again I’m making a horrible choice in women – my decision making was impeccable in this area at one point (sarcasm). By now I should have learned my lesson right? But nah, yet again I fell – hypnotized by beauty, charmed by sweet words that inflated my ego. Red flags were everywhere, if this was an airport and I screened it would have been shut down from what I found – but meh she was beautiful.

“Do not desire her beauty in your heart, and do not let her capture you with her eyelashes”

Oops because I desired and I was caught up, even though the task at hand was nearly impossible – trying to domesticate a king cobra. I trained myself to watch out for when the code phrase was uttered of “you know you are the first guy who has ever treated me this well” and to grab the parachute head to the door, eject and jump to safety, but this time I was still strapped into my seat.

I thought I could change her (lol), with me she would act different the perfect chameleon however I was just a handler so speak and once my shift was done she revelled at all the admirers and attention at every turn. This was someone who fed themselves through receiving attention from others, the thousands of followers on Instagram, the likes and comments
on the scandalous poses in photos, taking delight in the planets of men orbiting around her, the photo-shoots, the exes and past lovers hanging around hoping that I messed up or was discarded, the constant need to be validated to soothe any insecurities.(Note: If I could go back in time, I would disrupt the space time continuum and slap myself for being so spineless.)

I don’t even count this as an official anything as it did not even make it out of what should be the honeymoon stage (whew) that’s how horrible it was. But it ended and I was so relieved,
like jugging down a gallon of water and having to go really bad – but having to hold it for a few hours until you finally come across a rest stop and can empty your bladder type relief.
I was no longer being smothered, hissed at, stressed, enchanted by her beauty nor drawn into the battlefield of discord, drama and strife. And well I learned my lesson to never again try and domesticate a cobra, thanks but no thanks.

 

[TheBeigeBomber]

im20 years old now and i just finding out about game and shyt. listening to patrice o'neal every day started it off.

i just found out what a shyt test was like 10 minutes ago. these bytches been testing me all this time and i aint even know it.

if a male shyt tested me i respond with physical violence cus my mouthpiece is terrible. so when a woman did it i never understood how to react.

damn i feel stupid. i been literally oblivious to bytches for 20 years save for some drunken experiences outside dirty nightclubs with fat bytches and single mothers.

i have arrived brehs. i could be a problem with this shyt cus im actually good looking and in shape. but i didnt understand socially what was even going on.

am i making myself clear or am i talking bullshyt? i feel like i made some sort of breakthrough on becoming a man. it just happened like 6 years late.

 

[RealAssanova]

meh, in this context it doesnt seem like she was shutting you down that badly. just fall back a little bit, and next time you see an opportunity put a real bid in; something straightforward that makes your intentions known. it doesnt hurt to be a bit aggressive and put your ego aside.

After she said she likes her neck of the woods I would've asked whats so good about her ends and suggested that I come kick it in her area to see for myself.

If even after that she gives you the then you know she has no interest in chilling with you. Cause right now all we know is that she has no interest coming down to your area to chill...even though she might be open to actually chillin. What cities yall from?

we was texting throughout the day...and i was tryna crack her before...so it was quite surprising when she started being frequent with the texts.

so i thought, meh, i think she feelin da kid cuz she always talking to me in class so why not see if she down to kick it.

and she lives in da east while up north with @Emperor_ReinScarf

 

[TRUEST]

@TRUEST

Your thoughts on marriage?

i like the idea of marriage, but i dont like the idea of being with one person sexually for a long period of time. besides, marriage, from a man's perspective only makes sense if the woman makes more money (real money) than him or just about the same. that way, u're unlikely to pay alimony, and she's unlikely to come after u for child support if u two split.

personally, i feel any man who gets married before the age of 30 is an idiot. no offense to anyone out there. but since i was 24 my folks been trying to marry me off and i stay giving them that look.

and if u must get married, guys, make sure ur wife is far into u than u are into her. that sounds harsh but jealousy is a very dangerous feeling.

i recently ended a relationship with someone i really liked. i mean she loves me and i love her too. but things needed to end and she still hits me up regularly asking me if i'm sure of this. i care for this woman more than i have cared for any girl. but i dont feel as heartbroken, dejected, melancholic as i would have been had i been far into her than she was into me. being "that" guy is a very bad position to be in.

so when i get with a girl, and i find myself very attracted to her. i step back and wait to see who is more attracted. if i am, i kinda fall back. the most successful relationship, in my opinion, is one where the woman is far more into the guy than the guy is into her. women know when u are in a position to "take it or leave it" and that seems to have a way of keeping them in check.

 

[RealAssanova]

why does she have to feel him the way he's feeling her? I've had instances like that where all it took was one on one time for me to have the girl butt naked in the crib or inviting me over to her place after a date.

it really depends so i'd have to see how that convo played out before then because IMO it woulda been better to separate the prospect of them two spending time together from them two spending time together in his area.

girls are dumb.

* i've had girls that were enthralled with me but I wouldnt expect them to travel far to come see me epsecially when all i said is i'd bring her around my neck of the woods
to most girls that probably means a dude just tryna bring me to the crib and smash

* i even had one girl from school that was loving the kid HARD. @Biggums can verify this. Without saying too much this girl wanted me to kick it with me in the summer but wanted to meet me halfway in Toronto. I'm from a suburb thats about a 35 mins drive from there and 2 hours by bus. I had a broken ankle and this bytch STILL didnt realize how stupid it sounded for her to want me to meet her halfway until I broke it down intricately.

like i said, girls, especially in our age group are dumb. I'm not tryna get homie to second guess himself, all i'm saying is that in order to reach full closure regarding a chick its best to make your intentions clear. That way you arent confused saying to yourself, "well we have great text convos and are really cool in class What gives?"


Forget all the innuendos, are you tryna kick it with me during reading week or not?

That being said he might as well sag off. She'll probably come to him, notice he is dejected and then start chasing if shes feeling him. If she doesnt, cant lose what you never had. Time will tell

i think that's what my message may have come off as trying to accomplish. Perhaps asking to kick it over reading week would've been better. But even if my statement was vague (which it was), she could've just asked "what for" or "why? what do you got planned" to clear up any misunderstanding. But its all cool brehs @TRUEST and @Asantehene. This doesn't bother or concern me in the slightest brehs. I just wanted to see a different opinion on where i can improve as far as my game goes.

even if she does chase, which i doubt, i ain't entertaining it. If a girl doesn't bite the first time i throw the bait out, what kinda message would i be giving off by entertaining her the 2nd time around?

 

[MikelArteta]

I agree wholeheartedly with everything.

i like the idea of marriage, but i dont like the idea of being with one person sexually for a long period of time. besides, marriage, from a man's perspective only makes sense if the woman makes more money (real money) than him or just about the same. that way, u're unlikely to pay alimony, and she's unlikely to come after u for child support if u two split.

personally, i feel any man who gets married before the age of 30 is an idiot. no offense to anyone out there. but since i was 24 my folks been trying to marry me off and i stay giving them that look.

and if u must get married, guys, make sure ur wife is far into u than u are into her. that sounds harsh but jealousy is a very dangerous feeling.

i recently ended a relationship with someone i really liked. i mean she loves me and i love her too. but things needed to end and she still hits me up regularly asking me if i'm sure of this. i care for this woman more than i have cared for any girl. but i dont feel as heartbroken, dejected, melancholic as i would have been had i been far into her than she was into me. being "that" guy is a very bad position to be in.

so when i get with a girl, and i find myself very attracted to her. i step back and wait to see who is more attracted. if i am, i kinda fall back. the most successful relationship, in my opinion, is one where the woman is far more into the guy than the guy is into her. women know when u are in a position to "take it or leave it" and that seems to have a way to keep them in check.

 

[kevm3]

Something i constantly see in the music industry is how a lot of these rappers have access to the finest women, and yet their wives aren't really that fine. Look at TI, Styles P, DMX, etc. When it comes down to it, I think beauty enchants most those who haven't experienced much of it. These guys have access to beautiful women on the drop of a dime, so it's nothing mind-blowing like it is to the average man. They are then forced to look at a woman's character and how well the sync with her personality wise.

I think when you're on that level, you simply see things that shatter the notion that beauty is this ultimate thing that we MUST pursue. For example, you have all of these instagram models here that guys thirst over and say they would do anything for, but when you find out that some of them are letting Arab sheiks do the foulest of activities to them, your opinion immediately changes. The same woman you were thirsting over is allowing herself to get degraded to the utmost level for some money. These rappers are able to see that the woman the average guy would do anything for is willing to sleep with the whole crew because she's infatuated by fame. When you see things like that day in and day out, it sort of shatters the notion that just because she's super fine that she's something you have to wrap up.

I feel a man is really able to come into his own when he's able to treat that fine woman the same as an average woman and hold her just as accountable. Think about Bill Bellichick. When Darelle Revis skipped practice, he sent Revis home. He didn't waffle and say, "Oh you're the best CB in the game, so you get a pass for breaking the rules." And now, guess who has another superbowl?

 

[MikelArteta]

Sharp kind of said the same thing and I agree 100 percent

My old heads used to always tell me to get with a woman who loves you more than you love her.

When I was younger I never understood it because most of the girls who was feeling me more than I was feeling them, I wasn't attracted to them or there was no connection.

Maybe, it's because as men we love the chase, the challenge. We like to have the girl that everybody wants that none of them can get. And we get this girl, thinking she is the prize because of all the attention surrouding her. But in reality, we've dated a girl that chose us. We didn't choose her. She has all the options. We put in more effort to get her. She probably didn't put in any effort. Each and everyday we're thinking of ways to please her and make her happy, but is she really reciprocating? Probably not, because she doesn't have to. And if we fall short of her expectations, she will leave us and move on to her other options. Why do we put ourselves in these situations? We end up all anger and bitter because we feel like we wasted and invested all this time in her and got nothing to show for it. Whereas, she invested very little if anything. And even if she did like you, or even love you, she knew she had you wrapped around her finger and that you weren't going anywhere.

She didn't have to do anything for you, and it was okay. Sure, you would get mad and acknowledge that you're being taken advantage of, but if you spoke up about it, she would check you and possibly break up with you. It's a tiring process to keep thinking about ways to make or keep somebody happy. But this is inevitable when you date somebody who you love more than they love you.

Now, imagine a woman who just genuinely enjoys being with you. You don't have to do anything special, and she still enjoys your company. She finds everything about you cool, sophisticated, and sexy. She admires you. She's so into you and hangs onto your every word. She's loyal to you because she is decisive about where she wants to be. There are no unrealistic expectations. Now who wouldn't want a relationship like this? Now here's the kicker. I guarantee we all know a girl like this. But we didn't want her. And it's cool.... Maybe she's not attractive, maybe shes not your type. You can't really dwell on the past, but you can reflect.

There's more longterm value and the possibility of loyalty from a woman who is into you for who you are, not who you present yourself to be or what you can do for her. I appreciate women with a genuine interest in me. Now, I wouldn't force attraction because that's a recipe for disaster. But sometimes it's not about what you want, but what you need. If there's a mutual attraction and she treats me good, I'm going to go with the flow. But never again will I invest a woman who feels like I'm merely an option.

 

[MikelArteta]

One thing I'm happy about in life is that I dated beautiful women so I got my Immunization so to speak and now its meh. Not that I don't appreciate beautiful women but I won't get caught up like I did in the past.

I'm not afraid to walk away, nor do I give leeway like before. As well yep just like mentioned many men in all forms of lives do the same thing. I remember even making a thread on here asking the married men if their wives are the most beautofil women they dated and majority said no.

Beauty fades, and then what are you stuck with?

I'd rather a average woman with a good heart and good characteristics over a drop dead gorgeous women causing me stress

Something i constantly see in the music industry is how a lot of these rappers have access to the finest women, and yet their wives aren't really that fine. Look at TI, Styles P, DMX, etc. When it comes down to it, I think beauty enchants most those who haven't experienced much of it. These guys have access to beautiful women on the drop of a dime, so it's nothing mind-blowing like it is to the average man. They are then forced to look at a woman's character and how well the sync with her personality wise.

I think when you're on that level, you simply see things that shatter the notion that beauty is this ultimate thing that we MUST pursue. For example, you have all of these instagram models here that guys thirst over and say they would do anything for, but when you find out that some of them are letting Arab sheiks do the foulest of activities to them, your opinion immediately changes. The same woman you were thirsting over is allowing herself to get degraded to the utmost level for some money. These rappers are able to see that the woman the average guy would do anything for is willing to sleep with the whole crew because she's infatuated by fame. When you see things like that day in and day out, it sort of shatters the notion that just because she's super fine that she's something you have to wrap up.

I feel a man is really able to come into his own when he's able to treat that fine woman the same as an average woman and hold her just as accountable. Think about Bill Bellichick. When Darelle Revis skipped practice, he sent Revis home. He didn't waffle and say, "Oh you're the best CB in the game, so you get a pass for breaking the rules." And now, guess who has another superbowl?

 

[reserved_one]

I just cut ties with the new broad...Her home girl told me everything. She caught the bytch speeding away from her ex crib after work sunday evening. I been knowing her homegirl for a min tho...I'm just surprised she didn't cover for the bytch since they cool but she looked out for me. Either she don't really fukk with her like that or she trying to fukk me herself... One way to tell if a woman is cheating is if she just accuses you of doing everything outta thin air. She stayed on my dikk about me doing shyt and it was her that was doing real dirt. A dude I know that was hating on me for pullin her told the bytch I had fukked her roommate (which I did back on New Year's way before we started talking). That gave her more ammo to wanna accuse me and feel less bad about what she was doing. Her roomate is a known thot in my community that stays getting ran thru. I was drunk & horny so I had to do what I do for that night. She couldn't accept that a bytch uglier than her already beat her to the punch.

I feel like I dodged a bullet in the long run and on the bright side... I didn't have to spend a dime on her.
She was always spending money on me...taking me out, buying me shyt.


It felt good being simped on for awhile and if she tries to get at me again, she gonna have to cough up some bread. Other than that, I ain't fukking with her no more.