Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Ghanaian Armor]

Time waits for no one.

I don't care if a girl is busy tending to her dying mother. If she is feeling you she will make it happen somehow.

No such thing as "too busy". I have never been interested in Women who try and make themselves busy to avoid having to think about where they are going in life. They can take that B.S. to a nikka that will buy the excuses.

 

[IceDragon]

In my opinion never cut contact with a woman in your life with the expectation of her to come running back. Hey i've been there and i understand it can be hard with someone you feel strongly about plus the feeling of being wanted too. If they know you have options and you're doing just fine then they'll come back, not always but yeah for the most part.

Once you get em back it doesn't take too long before things revert back to what caused problems in the relationship in the first place. I'm young and i'm still learning so i can't claim that i know it all but lately i've been thinking to myself " i want you but i don't need you " that might be a little harsh but hey

 

[The Mad Titan]

In my opinion never cut contact with a woman in your life with the expectation of her to come running back. Hey i've been there and i understand it can be hard with someone you feel strongly about plus the feeling of being wanted too. If they know you have options and you're doing just fine then they'll come back, not always but yeah for the most part.

Once you get em back it doesn't take too long before things revert back to what caused problems in the relationship in the first place. I'm young and i'm still learning so i can't claim that i know it all but lately i've been thinking to myself " i want you but i don't need you " that might be a little harsh but hey

Your on the right track young padawan

 

[IceDragon]

Your on the right track young padawan

I had to get through the rough dark days to make it to the right track but I made it.

 

[MikelArteta]

Brehs im telling y'all, you don't know how good you have it now to EJECT, heal get on with your life.

Think of how your feeling right now, now just imagine if you were to stay in contact and be friends or be her old toy she picks up and drops at her leisure, then she gets engaged or married or has a kid, that slice right down the middle of your heart.

The odds are this, more than likely your ex will never feel the way she felt like she did for you before, more than likely she will fall in love with someone else, probably marry have kids with someone other than you, you'll be nothing but a distant memory. and it doesn't matter what you did, how you treated her, how the stars aligned etc. it doesn't matter.

kill that emotional connection NOW, its the only way to "win".


All the things I've been through in life, all the things I've seen, if there is one thing I learned is don't focus don't waste a second on those who don't for you

 

[International Playa]

UPDATE and current situation,

WOMAN 1

Met the first woman in April, I chased her for a bit, but she showed low interest and flakey as hell , so I stopped contacting her and things fizzled out. She finally made the effort to get at me the last month. She came to my place to chill a few weeks ago. We smashed, but things are in a grey area because we had a convo about making it official, but never made it official,so I don't know what we are.

WOMAN 2

Met her last month through mutual friends, we clicked from the get go, our personalities are just so in-snyc. We call each other once every two weeks. We talked today and she said I should call her often even just to say hie and she joked about hunting me down if I dont call her. I'm thinking of asking her out to hang out this weekend to see where things could go. Im really feeling ma and it seems like she choosing hard.

WOMAN 3

Been in a relationship with her for the past 2 years, its the beginning of the end, we always arguing over lil things and she refuses to have sexoften.We went from having sex anytime I wanted to once every two weeks. Things cant be salvaged so I been starting to hunt.

Im feeling woman number 2 personality wise and she got a decent body. woman number 1 is a dime, phat ass, shows so much respect, she cleaned my place up and has wifey qualities, Woman number 1 was flakey as hell from the beginning. Im confused as hell on whether to try and get to know woman number 2 of the strength of her personality and her choosing so damn hard. Im a fan of choosing the woman who feels you the most. help

 

[Rich Spirit]

UPDATE and current situation,

WOMAN 1

Met the first woman in April, I chased her for a bit, but she showed low interest and flakey as hell , so I stopped contacting her and things fizzled out. She finally made the effort to get at me the last month. She came to my place to chill a few weeks ago. We smashed, but things are in a grey area because we had a convo about making it official, but never made it official,so I don't know what we are.

WOMAN 2

Met her last month through mutual friends, we clicked from the get go, our personalities are just so in-snyc. We call each other once every two weeks. We talked today and she said I should call her often even just to say hie and she joked about hunting me down if I dont call her. I'm thinking of asking her out to hang out this weekend to see where things could go. Im really feeling ma and it seems like she choosing hard.

WOMAN 3

Been in a relationship with her for the past 2 years, its the beginning of the end, we always arguing over lil things and she refuses to have sexoften.We went from having sex anytime I wanted to once every two weeks. Things cant be salvaged so I been starting to hunt.

Im feeling woman number 2 personality wise and she got a decent body. woman number 1 is a dime, phat ass, shows so much respect, she cleaned my place up and has wifey qualities, Woman number 1 was flakey as hell from the beginning. Im confused as hell on whether to try and get to know woman number 2 of the strength of her personality and her choosing so damn hard. Im a fan of choosing the woman who feels you the most. help

Woman 2 is showing the most cooperation out of the 3. You should definitely set something up and hang out. You can put the other two chicks in the backburner for now

 

[MikelArteta]

UPDATE and current situation,

WOMAN 1

Met the first woman in April, I chased her for a bit, but she showed low interest and flakey as hell , so I stopped contacting her and things fizzled out. She finally made the effort to get at me the last month. She came to my place to chill a few weeks ago. We smashed, but things are in a grey area because we had a convo about making it official, but never made it official,so I don't know what we are.

WOMAN 2

Met her last month through mutual friends, we clicked from the get go, our personalities are just so in-snyc. We call each other once every two weeks. We talked today and she said I should call her often even just to say hie and she joked about hunting me down if I dont call her. I'm thinking of asking her out to hang out this weekend to see where things could go. Im really feeling ma and it seems like she choosing hard.

WOMAN 3

Been in a relationship with her for the past 2 years, its the beginning of the end, we always arguing over lil things and she refuses to have sexoften.We went from having sex anytime I wanted to once every two weeks. Things cant be salvaged so I been starting to hunt.

Im feeling woman number 2 personality wise and she got a decent body. woman number 1 is a dime, phat ass, shows so much respect, she cleaned my place up and has wifey qualities, Woman number 1 was flakey as hell from the beginning. Im confused as hell on whether to try and get to know woman number 2 of the strength of her personality and her choosing so damn hard. Im a fan of choosing the woman who feels you the most. help

women want you to be confused because in confusion you give them the benefit of the doubt -emperor reinscarf

if you have to ponder "what are we", "where is this going" with a woman then she isn't on the same wave length at you,

number 1 :bushes:

number 3 its over id cut all ties :bushes:


Number 2, like you I'm a fan of going with a woamn who is interested in you, where you don't have to ponder what to say or do, you already know shes feeling you and everything flows smoothly,

 

[Ghanaian Armor]

That's what you gotta do @J.B

#2 but not talking about the toilet.

Now there is a difference between one who is bold and aggressive vs. Desperate.

But you will know the difference in your gut. If she is coming to give you packed lunch at work and sacrificing her own work to do it and her own health now you got a problem.

That means she see you as a future meal ticket so she don't got to worry about maintaining her own.

 

[George Gooney]

Damn i didn't think i'd share this story. It's kinda long and pathetic by my standards but i need to vent, so here it goes.

Spoiler

two weeks ago on wednesday the 15th I was off from work. What I normally do when i'm is chill at coffee spots with my sketchbook. So i'm at starbucks chilling and I notice this tall sexy caramel girl with dyed honey brown hair wearing a black blazer and a black skirt with a white button up shirt. Very classy and elegant. so she's walking around the coffee shop looking for something and I go back to my sketch. She walks over to my table and asks can she sit next to me to charge her phone. I realize thats what she was looking for when she was walking around. I'm like "sure, i don't mind". so she sits across from me and plugs her phone in the outlet near the table. So i'm drawing and she's on the phone with her friend and by the convo i could tell she wasn't from NYC because she didn't know where anything was and was pronouncing street names wrong. So she hangs up with her friend and I make a remark like "you're not a new yorker are you?" She laughs and says nah and we start chopping it up. Turns out she's from Minnesota and was here for job interviews and just left one hence the attire. So we chop it up some more and I make a remark about talking later and showing her around so we exchange numbers. Now this chick is a certified dime but I still kept it mackin' and went back to my business and she left to meet up with that friend from the phone and tells me text her so she can save my number in her phone. I text her "hey this is (my name)" She texts me back an hour later like "You didn't send me your last name". So i get a little weirded out and don't respond but then caved in and told her anyway. I text her the next day asking her if she wanted to link up and grab a drink. She doesn't respond to my text until sunday at 12:48 am saying how she's just now seeing my text and thats she's sorry(Red flag). I say no prob and we reschedule. so we agree to meet up on wednesday the 22nd. I text her that day at 12 noon asking if we were still on. Again no response(another red flag). so i call her and she sounds like she just woke up and we agree to meet around 6 that day at the restaurant. I get the spot at 6 then she texts me asking if we could postpone to 7. Now i'm heated but compose myself and say sure and lied about needing more time too. So she finally gets here and she's looking baaaaadddd. I'm fresh to death too of course so we walk over to the restaurant. so we eat and talk and I mention a bar around the corner I wanna go to and she's with it. We're having a good time i'm making her laugh alot. we get a drink and two shots so we're feeling nice but not drunk. we're walking out the bar and i joke around like "here let me be a gentlemen" and I stick out my arm and she wraps hers in mine and we start walking down the street. Then she stops me an is like "this feels weird" and grabs my hand with our fingers intertwined and we continue walking. The area we were at(near east village) is where I went to high school so I ask her if she wanted to see where my i went to high school an she's with it so we walk over and it's a nice nyc night. I was getting good signs so I decide to go for the kiss. I tell her some stories about high school while we stood across the street from it and say "we have to remember this day. it's very important to us" she's like "what do you mean 'us'?" I say "because this is where we had our first kiss" I grab her up against the gate and we make out for a good five minutes. She's like "wait wait wait, is this a date? I didn't even expect this" I say something like "I don't date, I just do" and we continue making out. Then we walk over to the park and we sit at the bench and talk(a little) and make out(a lot). We take a picture together on my cell phone and I'm like "what if i out this on instagram?" she's like "then you'd mess up my flow" I say "you got a man?" she's like "not a boyfriend just a guy i talk to" blah blah blah so we make out some more then we head to the train station i wait for her train with her and she tells me she's leaving monday night and we agree to meet up that weekend before she heads out. Her train comes so then I kiss her goodbye and she gets on and heads to her friends house she's staying with. So two days later on friday I text her to see if we were still gonna meet up...NO RESPONSE! so I call her the next day and the phone rings out. she texts me the next day like OMG I feel so bad i got your call while i was out with friends so she couldn't pick up then her battery died bullshyt. So she asks me if I had time to meet up monday earlier in the day before her flight and we set up a time. I hit her up monday afternoon and it's silence. Haven't heard from her since. What the fukk happened to my caramel dime brehs???

 

[George Gooney]

@Emperor_ReinScarf @kevm3

 

[MikelArteta]

Damn i didn't think i'd share this story. It's kinda long and pathetic by my standards but i need to vent, so here it goes.

Spoiler

two weeks ago on wednesday the 15th I was off from work. What I normally do when i'm is chill at coffee spots with my sketchbook. So i'm at starbucks chilling and I notice this tall sexy caramel girl with dyed honey brown hair wearing a black blazer and a black skirt with a white button up shirt. Very classy and elegant. so she's walking around the coffee shop looking for something and I go back to my sketch. She walks over to my table and asks can she sit next to me to charge her phone. I realize thats what she was looking for when she was walking around. I'm like "sure, i don't mind". so she sits across from me and plugs her phone in the outlet near the table. So i'm drawing and she's on the phone with her friend and by the convo i could tell she wasn't from NYC because she didn't know where anything was and was pronouncing street names wrong. So she hangs up with her friend and I make a remark like "you're not a new yorker are you?" She laughs and says nah and we start chopping it up. Turns out she's from Minnesota and was here for job interviews and just left one hence the attire. So we chop it up some more and I make a remark about talking later and showing her around so we exchange numbers. Now this chick is a certified dime but I still kept it mackin' and went back to my business and she left to meet up with that friend from the phone and tells me text her so she can save my number in her phone. I text her "hey this is (my name)" She texts me back an hour later like "You didn't send me your last name". So i get a little weirded out and don't respond but then caved in and told her anyway. I text her the next day asking her if she wanted to link up and grab a drink. She doesn't respond to my text until sunday at 12:48 am saying how she's just now seeing my text and thats she's sorry(Red flag). I say no prob and we reschedule. so we agree to meet up on wednesday the 22nd. I text her that day at 12 noon asking if we were still on. Again no response(another red flag). so i call her and she sounds like she just woke up and we agree to meet around 6 that day at the restaurant. I get the spot at 6 then she texts me asking if we could postpone to 7. Now i'm heated but compose myself and say sure and lied about needing more time too. So she finally gets here and she's looking baaaaadddd. I'm fresh to death too of course so we walk over to the restaurant. so we eat and talk and I mention a bar around the corner I wanna go to and she's with it. We're having a good time i'm making her laugh alot. we get a drink and two shots so we're feeling nice but not drunk. we're walking out the bar and i joke around like "here let me be a gentlemen" and I stick out my arm and she wraps hers in mine and we start walking down the street. Then she stops me an is like "this feels weird" and grabs my hand with our fingers intertwined and we continue walking. The area we were at(near east village) is where I went to high school so I ask her if she wanted to see where my i went to high school an she's with it so we walk over and it's a nice nyc night. I was getting good signs so I decide to go for the kiss. I tell her some stories about high school while we stood across the street from it and say "we have to remember this day. it's very important to us" she's like "what do you mean 'us'?" I say "because this is where we had our first kiss" I grab her up against the gate and we make out for a good five minutes. She's like "wait wait wait, is this a date? I didn't even expect this" I say something like "I don't date, I just do" and we continue making out. Then we walk over to the park and we sit at the bench and talk(a little) and make out(a lot). We take a picture together on my cell phone and I'm like "what if i out this on instagram?" she's like "then you'd mess up my flow" I say "you got a man?" she's like "not a boyfriend just a guy i talk to" blah blah blah so we make out some more then we head to the train station i wait for her train with her and she tells me she's leaving monday night and we agree to meet up that weekend before she heads out. Her train comes so then I kiss her goodbye and she gets on and heads to her friends house she's staying with. So two days later on friday I text her to see if we were still gonna meet up...NO RESPONSE! so I call her the next day and the phone rings out. she texts me the next day like OMG I feel so bad i got your call while i was out with friends so she couldn't pick up then her battery died bullshyt. So she asks me if I had time to meet up monday earlier in the day before her flight and we set up a time. I hit her up monday afternoon and it's silence. Haven't heard from her since. What the fukk happened to my caramel dime brehs???

you fell to fast, things that start fast usually end fast. I guarantee back in minnesota she has a man, a man she's been with for years but now that shes in teh big city with a job interview and job prospects she's "free". This was prob her first taste of freedom and the drug of novelty in a long while you played your part and that was that, the omg just seeing this now is the biggest crock of ish ever.

women will have a man, a husband but when there caught up in the moment hes just a "friend", brother, cousin, just a guy im talking to

You were just her nyc fling like a flight attendant who got a husband or bf back home but when shes on the road shes free as a bird

This is what women do especially when their attractive they can flake, they can say just seeing this text now because they know the guy will be like cool no worries or whatever, or if he calls her out, he's "psycho" and she'll stop talking.

She's gone man, id delete her number, only reason you want to stay in contact or whatever is because she's "hot", and your options are slim

 

[George Gooney]

you fell to fast, things that start fast usually end fast. I guarantee back in minnesota she has a man, a man she's been with for years but now that shes in teh big city with a job interview and job prospects she's "free". This was prob her first taste of freedom and the drug of novelty in a long while you played your part and that was that, the omg just seeing this now is the biggest crock of ish ever.

women will have a man, a husband but when there caught up in the moment hes just a "friend", brother, cousin, just a guy im talking to

You were just her nyc fling like a flight attendant who got a husband or bf back home but when shes on the road shes free as a bird

This is what women do especially when their attractive they can flake, they can say just seeing this text now because they know the guy will be like cool no worries or whatever, or if he calls her out, he's "psycho" and she'll stop talking.

She's gone man, id delete her number, only reason you want to stay in contact or whatever is because she's "hot", and your options are slim

Number been deleted playboy. I know the game. I'm just shocked that I got caught up so hard... SMH Just strengthened my resolve. I wanted to share this story because I think it'll help the brehs.



PS. I agree with everything you said. She's the hottest girl I've had in a while so I know I simped. Won't happen again... Ever

 

[kevm3]

@Emperor_ReinScarf @kevm3

She has a man. I wouldn't take her seriously at all, because as soon as she gets bored, YOU'LL be the 'guy she's talking to' instead of 'her man.'

The fact that she is always hitting you a day later tells me she is tip-toeing around like she doesn't want her real man to catch wind of her talking to someone else.

 

[MikelArteta]

Number been deleted playboy. I know the game. I'm just shocked that I got caught up so hard... SMH Just strengthened my resolve. I wanted to share this story because I think it'll help the brehs.



PS. I agree with everything you said. She's the hottest girl I've had in a while so I know I simped. Won't happen again... Never

happens to us all man, meet a dime and you click, next thing you know it your in the fog. And just because she's hot you give leeway, or because at the moment you don't have any other options you just accept. Accept the flake, accept the reschedule, accept the 8 hours later omgosh im just seeing this now text. When in reality she's looking at her phone every 5-10 minutes like most people do nowadays