Don't do any of that. Let her text you man.
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I am not liking the letter idea, I've never seen that go well. Usually just awkward.
You are the man you need to be able to say how you feel outloud and directly. If she hasn't contacted you already then I would keep it going until she at least hits you up once and you don't answer.
You are the man you need to be able to say how you feel outloud and directly. If she hasn't contacted you already then I would keep it going until she at least hits you up once and you don't answer.
I feel u breh but that's the method I'm going with
Take it from me homie, do not do it. It doesn't work. You think your situation will be different. You hope it'll be different because you might have had something special.... It's not. If she hits you up, cool. I'd suggest leaving it alone still but if you do decide to entertain her. Do not simp it up, and make sure you leave like you left last time. From that point you'll know if she just wants to play games or has had a chance to reflect....
If I gotta go out I'm going out fighting. It's not like I've been just sitting around sad these 10 days. I've been hitting the gym, getting money off my brand, creating, hitting some hoes just for the sport... So it's all good. I'm honestly prepared for the worst.
Damn i didn't think i'd share this story. It's kinda long and pathetic by my standards but i need to vent, so here it goes.two weeks ago on wednesday the 15th I was off from work. What I normally do when i'm is chill at coffee spots with my sketchbook. So i'm at starbucks chilling and I notice this tall sexy caramel girl with dyed honey brown hair wearing a black blazer and a black skirt with a white button up shirt. Very classy and elegant. so she's walking around the coffee shop looking for something and I go back to my sketch. She walks over to my table and asks can she sit next to me to charge her phone. I realize thats what she was looking for when she was walking around. I'm like "sure, i don't mind". so she sits across from me and plugs her phone in the outlet near the table. So i'm drawing and she's on the phone with her friend and by the convo i could tell she wasn't from NYC because she didn't know where anything was and was pronouncing street names wrong. So she hangs up with her friend and I make a remark like "you're not a new yorker are you?" She laughs and says nah and we start chopping it up. Turns out she's from Minnesota and was here for job interviews and just left one hence the attire. So we chop it up some more and I make a remark about talking later and showing her around so we exchange numbers. Now this chick is a certified dime but I still kept it mackin' and went back to my business and she left to meet up with that friend from the phone and tells me text her so she can save my number in her phone. I text her "hey this is (my name)" She texts me back an hour later like "You didn't send me your last name". So i get a little weirded out and don't respond but then caved in and told her anyway. I text her the next day asking her if she wanted to link up and grab a drink. She doesn't respond to my text until sunday at 12:48 am saying how she's just now seeing my text and thats she's sorry(Red flag). I say no prob and we reschedule. so we agree to meet up on wednesday the 22nd. I text her that day at 12 noon asking if we were still on. Again no response(another red flag). so i call her and she sounds like she just woke up and we agree to meet around 6 that day at the restaurant. I get the spot at 6 then she texts me asking if we could postpone to 7. Now i'm heated but compose myself and say sure and lied about needing more time too. So she finally gets here and she's looking baaaaadddd. I'm fresh to death too of course so we walk over to the restaurant. so we eat and talk and I mention a bar around the corner I wanna go to and she's with it. We're having a good time i'm making her laugh alot. we get a drink and two shots so we're feeling nice but not drunk. we're walking out the bar and i joke around like "here let me be a gentlemen" and I stick out my arm and she wraps hers in mine and we start walking down the street. Then she stops me an is like "this feels weird" and grabs my hand with our fingers intertwined and we continue walking. The area we were at(near east village) is where I went to high school so I ask her if she wanted to see where my i went to high school an she's with it so we walk over and it's a nice nyc night. I was getting good signs so I decide to go for the kiss. I tell her some stories about high school while we stood across the street from it and say "we have to remember this day. it's very important to us" she's like "what do you mean 'us'?" I say "because this is where we had our first kiss" I grab her up against the gate and we make out for a good five minutes. She's like "wait wait wait, is this a date? I didn't even expect this" I say something like "I don't date, I just do" and we continue making out. Then we walk over to the park and we sit at the bench and talk(a little) and make out(a lot). We take a picture together on my cell phone and I'm like "what if i out this on instagram?" she's like "then you'd mess up my flow" I say "you got a man?" she's like "not a boyfriend just a guy i talk to" blah blah blah so we make out some more then we head to the train station i wait for her train with her and she tells me she's leaving monday night and we agree to meet up that weekend before she heads out. Her train comes so then I kiss her goodbye and she gets on and heads to her friends house she's staying with. So two days later on friday I text her to see if we were still gonna meet up...NO RESPONSE! so I call her the next day and the phone rings out. she texts me the next day like OMG I feel so bad i got your call while i was out with friends so she couldn't pick up then her battery died bullshyt. So she asks me if I had time to meet up monday earlier in the day before her flight and we set up a time. I hit her up monday afternoon and it's silence. Haven't heard from her since. What the fukk happened to my caramel dime brehs???
The way you talk online would have people believing you this smooth dude...
Taking selfies with bytches and asking is it cool to Instagram it to flex?
Then trying to bookmark a moment on when ya'll first met? And she hit you with the
She must have been bad for you to fall and act this way...bytch sounds like a flake.
I have the reputation as the good looking playboy who will forever be single because I'm so "harsh" to females. I swear most of my homeboy's and cousin's girls hate me. At the get together we had the other night...the women diagnosed me as having commitment issues because of my standards and how I refuse to get married until I'm in my 30s. I'm the only single guy of the group. Out of respect for my boys...I let the females cook. Didn't want to hurt no feelings. 
You are setting yourself up to fail with this girl. Ten days is nothing. Particularly in the summer - days just fly by with things to do. She missed you after 3 days, then by day 7 she is just annoyed (or relieved) by your absence.
At day 10 you are probably going to catch her in the middle of her angry phase, when she'll be the hardest on you.
Conversely, if she legit wanted you back and has been holding out for you to change some behavior, she knows you have not changed in 10 days. She knows you are just impatient.
You won't know which stage she's at because your impatient ass wants to send a letter. Which puts the burden on her to decide how to respond. And if she's of the latter camp, where she wants you to change and knows you haven't in 10 days, she will be waiting on your ass some more. But you will have given up.
I don't know what you are thinking, you know this girl better than we do, but this does not sound good for you.
EQ.
Mansur Brown - "Heiwa"
Experience has to come into play. You have to trust your instincts. I'm not saying advice is bad. What I said is the advice on this site is. A lot of the guys on here are immature. Some are attracted to women that require lies and manipulation in order for the relationship to work. I talk to my uncles that are 40/50 plus years old. Not some guy on a computer screen. Even in real life guys will pass you some bullshyt. Yea you need algebra teachers and math tutors. But if you wanna master math you gotta buy the book and practices by yourself. Your gonna get problems wrong but it shows your weak spots so you can fix them. Experience is key.
I hear what you sayin but truth is you cant make every mistake out there and sometimes its better to learn from someone elses mistakes. Alot dudes in this thread are passing on what they've been thru in the hopes that other dudes can learn or atleast be aware of what can happen.
Sincere Noble
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Breh, don't do any of that. She already knows how you feel. You're gonna end up digging yourself more of a hole to get out, emotionally. Like others have said, let her come to you. If she has any desire to see you or talk to you she will do that. Just keep busy and stay active.