Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

What about body building dude.

At least you don't have to deal with the what ifs now, nothing changed she loves you like a friend a brother.

Time to move on breh

@kevm3

@Emperor_ReinScarf

Stayed over last night. We had a good time. Laughed and shyt. Joked about each other's little flings lol. No sex.

Then when I left I gave her the letter. shyt was like 15 pages front and back lmao smh


Said she loved me but I hurt her a lot during the 7 years we were together. Said she can't just fall back into that. Said she just wants to work on herself and she's been enjoying the time to herself.

Honestly I can respect all of that.

 

[The Mad Titan]

I'e broken no contact a few times in the past and I never got what I wanted until I realized to stay no contact not to get someone back but for me to heal and get on with my life. Everytime you break no contact your telling yourself is im just going out swinging, im not going out without a fight, I know her man, i know what we have, you just don't understand. I'll just say a friendly hi, but deep down your hoping she misses you dearly and wants you back, deep down you have a ulterior motive.

More than likely when you break No contact this occurs

you call

a) as the phone is ringing you feel a little lump in your stomach. She answers and you hear that familiar voice that used to say I love you and call you pet names.

a(1) you hear the coldness in her voice and realize this isnt going anywhere

a(2) she seems so enthusiastic to hear from you, long time no talk, how are you what's new, you chat for awhile then she has to go but make sure to keep in touch. YOu start to decipher the convo ala the breadcrumbs but if you really think about it nothing has changed. I call this going no fap for like a month then ah it feels so good, then after you bust a nut your like all that progress

you text
a) as you send the text your palms are sweaty, its finally gone through, you take a look at your phone for a reply, you keep looking, and looking. Maybe she's busy, did it go through? you send yourself a text and receive it instantly, you keep looking at your phone nothing. You broke all your progress for nothing


b) she replies right away and you text back and forth then it dies down


what i'm just saying is majority of everyone when they do no contact there is a ulterior motive to get my ex to miss me, to have them running back to me, and when they break no contact they break it because they think their ex will forget about them, they need their fix etc.

All your doing by breaking no contact is reattaching back to that emotional connection. Next you'll be checking her facebook, checking her instagram, and destroy all progress you have made.

of course every situation is different but more than likely you won't get what you want by breaking, you;ll just kick yourself for doing it.

Exactly man word for word truths.

 

[George Gooney]

The way you talk online would have people believing you this smooth dude...


Taking selfies with bytches and asking is it cool to Instagram it to flex?

Then trying to bookmark a moment on when ya'll first met? And she hit you with the

She must have been bad for you to fall and act this way...bytch sounds like a flake.

at this no name nikka trynna come at the gawd. This bytch still blowing up my phone but she's in the eternal bushes just because general purposes. You right about everything tho. She was super bad had a nikka acting outta character but even Jordan missed free throws little nikka.

 

[NerdNash]

What about body building dude.

At least you don't have to deal with the what ifs now, nothing changed she loves you like a friend a brother.

Time to move on breh

She said bobybuilding dude ain't nothing to her. He's just cool

 

[NerdNash]

What about body building dude.

At least you don't have to deal with the what ifs now, nothing changed she loves you like a friend a brother.

Time to move on breh

Honestly I'm cool. A month ago I would be stressing. The 10 days no contact helped me to keep it real. I emptied the clip and she knows what it is.

I respect that she needs time and is enjoying the time to herself. We gonna be friends, Ima do me, she'll do her and maybe down the line we make it work again.

not mad at all.

Time to roll up

 

[Ohene]

I have the reputation as the good looking playboy who will forever be single because I'm so "harsh" to females. I swear most of my homeboy's and cousin's girls hate me. At the get together we had the other night...the women diagnosed me as having commitment issues because of my standards and how I refuse to get married until I'm in my 30s. I'm the only single guy of the group. Out of respect for my boys...I let the females cook. Didn't want to hurt no feelings.

my twin

 

[Swamp-Thing]

@NerdNash I'm glad you're feeling better but I would not be cool with maybes and working on herself. That's fraudulent behavior. Because she can work on herself while she's with you, not like you're some taskmaster. Love is the hardest/most important thing to master, is she not too concerned with that aspect of self-improvement?

In my case (and maybe yours as well), she'd rather string you along for the attention, etc. and then not even really miss you whenever she meets someone else or ya'll stop talking.

Tiny bit?!? SMH.

I needed to be the one to cut ties to show her the seriousness of the situation, since I loved her. I almost think its a control thing, where she feels she has the power to keep bringing you back without giving you much, in return. When you go no-contact, you're taking the power back and hopefully getting a better view of the entire situation.

In the end though, it's about that question -- "Is it helping you or hurting you?"

 

[NerdNash]

@NerdNash I'm glad you're feeling better but I would not be cool with maybes and working on herself. That's fraudulent behavior. Because she can work on herself while she's with you, not like you're some taskmaster. Love is the hardest/most important thing to master, is she not too concerned with that aspect of self-improvement?

In my case (and maybe yours as well), she'd rather string you along for the attention, etc. and then not even really miss you whenever she meets someone else or ya'll stop talking.

Tiny bit?!? SMH.

I needed to be the one to cut ties to show her the seriousness of the situation, since I loved her. I almost think its a control thing, where she feels she has the power to keep bringing you back without giving you much, in return. When you go no-contact, you're taking the power back and hopefully getting a better view of the entire situation.

In the end though, it's about that question -- "Is it helping you or hurting you?"

It's motivating me.

 

[Swamp-Thing]

A new girl would motivate you too though

 

[Ohene]

good luck breh, sometimes its better to go out with empty bullets

nah. @NerdNash is fukking up heavy. But he will only learn the hard way it appears

 

[MikelArteta]

nah. @NerdNash is fukking up heavy. But he will only learn the hard way it appears

yeah I know but sometimes you gotta learn the hard way, ive done that letter ish expressing my feelings, but it taught me to never to do it again. I've "fought" for a woman I'm not going out this way bla bla but it made me never do it again.

Kind of like putting your hand on the burning stove as a child, or falling down the stairs you won't do it again

 

[OaklandCertified]

@NerdNash

I've been where you are as recently as a few months ago. I've started with the days of no contact to, blocking on social media, to the inevitable relapse into contact again. I though because this woman and I had a child together that it was different. IT IS NOT. I told her I loved her, wanted to work it out, and that I'd do whatever it took, but at the end of the day it meant nothing. She said she wanted freedom to work on herself. I was feeling down for a few weeks, but after talking to a few family members they gave me great advice. Shout out to the brehs in this thread too, you guys helped tremendously. I told myself I was done worrying about someone who wasn't worried about me. I started living life. Traveling, putting in extra time at work, ended up getting a promotion. Started to get my suit game top notch..etc. I ended up attracting a lot of women. One of which who eventually turned into my girlfriend. I'm happy right now. Like clockwork, as soon as I get in this relationship, guess who's showing interest. My son's mom that's right.

So I told that story to tell you not to listen to all of Bs they tell you. shyt is meaningless. My son's mom was talking all that shyt about freedom, but as soon as I became unattainable, she wanted me back. Just do you, if it's meant to be it will work itself out, you won't have to force shyt.

 

[MikelArteta]

@NerdNash

I've been where you are as recently as a few months ago. I've started with the days of no contact to, blocking on social media, to the inevitable relapse into contact again. I though because this woman and I had a child together that it was different. IT IS NOT. I told her I loved her, wanted to work it out, and that I'd do whatever it took, but at the end of the day it meant nothing. She said she wanted freedom to work on herself. I was feeling down for a few weeks, but after talking to a few family members they gave me great advice. Shout out to the brehs in this thread too, you guys helped tremendously. I told myself I was done worrying about someone who wasn't worried about me. I started living life. Traveling, putting in extra time at work, ended up getting a promotion. Started to get my suit game top notch..etc. I ended up attracting a lot of women. One of which who eventually turned into my girlfriend. I'm happy right now. Like clockwork, as soon as I get in this relationship, guess who's showing interest. My son's mom that's right.

So I told that story to tell you not to listen to all of Bs they tell you. shyt is meaningless. My son's mom was talking all that shyt about freedom, but as soon as I became unattainable, she wanted me back. Just do you, if it's meant to be it will work itself out, you won't have to force shyt.

glad your feeling better. And it's true man it doesn't matter how many years, how many kids, your status, your looks at the end of the day if a woman doesn't want to be with you there is literally nothing you can do.

It's kind of like applying for a job you send in your resume and application hav ea interview you can keep calling to check if you got it or just live your life and let whatever happen happen you can't change their mind.

And its always amazing how it works out like that, funny thing if you were to go back to your ex, it would probably only last a little while before your in the same spot you were before. It's the old have a old toy you never use but once someone else is playing with it you want it back

 

[Fatboi1]

@NerdNash

I've been where you are as recently as a few months ago. I've started with the days of no contact to, blocking on social media, to the inevitable relapse into contact again. I though because this woman and I had a child together that it was different. IT IS NOT. I told her I loved her, wanted to work it out, and that I'd do whatever it took, but at the end of the day it meant nothing. She said she wanted freedom to work on herself. I was feeling down for a few weeks, but after talking to a few family members they gave me great advice. Shout out to the brehs in this thread too, you guys helped tremendously. I told myself I was done worrying about someone who wasn't worried about me. I started living life. Traveling, putting in extra time at work, ended up getting a promotion. Started to get my suit game top notch..etc. I ended up attracting a lot of women. One of which who eventually turned into my girlfriend. I'm happy right now. Like clockwork, as soon as I get in this relationship, guess who's showing interest. My son's mom that's right.

So I told that story to tell you not to listen to all of Bs they tell you. shyt is meaningless. My son's mom was talking all that shyt about freedom, but as soon as I became unattainable, she wanted me back. Just do you, if it's meant to be it will work itself out, you won't have to force shyt.

They're all like that. That "Freedom" is just "I want to fukk with other dudes since I'm not feeling you like that no more but stick around because if shyt don't work out with him I may hit you up for consolation BUT that doesn't mean you'll get ass or anything so don't get any funny ideas."

It's painful the first few weeks because at times it feels like you'll never find someone that was like that or better and you start to feel like you'll throw in the towel but sooner or later someone comes along randomly. For me I haven't been in any serious relationship for more than a few months so I tend to get over a girl breaking up with me quickly. My second girl I broke up with I got over her(In the sense of me trying to hit her up) fairly quickly. I dumped her ass and stopped talking to her.. If I saw her or heard her name yea my stomach would turn and my heart would beat faster but my anger would be even more powerful and I'd shut her out my mind. I remember I told her I don't want her and walked out the room in front of my fams one time. I wasn't beat because her dumb ass tried to make it look like I stopped talking to her even though she was playing games a while ago(claiming she busy and that she'll hit me up later but then stupidly talking to my cousin on the phone throughout the day.)

 

[MikelArteta]

They're all like that. That "Freedom" is just "I want to fukk with other dudes since I'm not feeling you like that no more but stick around because if shyt don't work out with him I may hit you up for consolation BUT that doesn't mean you'll get ass or anything so don't get any funny ideas."

It's painful the first few weeks because at times it feels like you'll never find someone that was like that or better and you start to feel like you'll throw in the towel but sooner or later someone comes along randomly. For me I haven't been in any serious relationship for more than a few months so I tend to get over a girl breaking up with me quickly. My second girl I broke up with I got over her(In the sense of me trying to hit her up) fairly quickly. I dumped her ass and stopped talking to her.. If I saw her or heard her name yea my stomach would turn and my heart would beat faster but my anger would be even more powerful and I'd shut her out my mind. I remember I told her I don't want her and walked out the room in front of my fams one time. I wasn't beat because her dumb ass tried to make it look like I stopped talking to her even though she was playing games a while ago(claiming she busy and that she'll hit me up later but then stupidly talking to my cousin on the phone throughout the day.)

Yup freedom, space, just need time to think it over = other dude is on my mind, or out clubbing with the girls talking to a bunch of dudes on whatsapp etc. That's why waiting around rarely if ever works.

Sad to say but if a woman is not talking to you like that she is getting her fills/attention etc. from another guy.

The thing most of us miss is just the familiarity, you talked to them like every day, went out all the time and now thast gone so you literally have to rewrite your life and the routine.

I always say there is really nothing special about a woman who does not want to be with you or give you the time of day, I can leave my house right now and just walk down the street and spit game at the first woman I see and she probably won't be interested gasp just like any ex who doesn't want you, so what is so special about them? It's only the emotional bond, the sexual bond, once that is destroyed its meh

Its like a job, you can work in a crappy job cleaning feces, but if you get fired even though the job was crap with no redeeming qualities not even a special job you feel kind of because you had that connection to the job, you had benefits (paycheck) but as time goes on you'll realize hey its for teh best there are better jobs out there for me.