Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

This is what happened with my last girl. Even though it was partially my fault because I didn't really love her even after a year of relationship, I told her to give me some time and let's build a relationship together. She agreed, but one little fight months later and she got mad and we're done for. She says she needed more love and emotional attachment from my side, and she didn't get that, so she doesn't want relationship anymore. 2 weeks go by and I seen her talking to a dude that she told me before is the type of dude she would never want anything with because how he treats women, nikka basically on some pimp shyt, and she doesn't want me because I don't provide enough love makes no sense to me, but she prolly did it so I'd get jealous, but it only made me kinda resent her

insecure women are the worst brehs

one reason I don't associate with women anymore who didn't grow up in a loving two parent home. Been there and its always ended horribly.

And yeah man they will tell you that ish as well "hes just a friend", "just a guy in class", "your overreacting", "id never date a guy like that", "he's gay" then you check their social media and their in a relationship or shes liking every picture.of his.

That's why when its done with a woman it's better to just go your seperate ways or you will be in for a world of hurt or time wasting or confusion. You can't as a guy compete with a new guy, not saying the new guy is better than you just that in a womans eye new = exciting, mysterious. While your old and boring. Even if she comes back one day she will come back on her accord and it will be up to you then with a clear head whether to make your mind to give it another go.

 

[TheArchitect]

Not having the gift of gab is fukkin frustrating....i could missing out on so many opportunities and not even know it. I see something appealing, but my shyt goes blank. The frustration
.....

 

[kevm3]

Some of the threads I've been seeing on the forum lately remind me just of what the wrong women are capable of. I remember a lot of guys in this thread were being called bitter and insecure, but as time goes on, men are getting exposed to exactly what makes our mentality the way it is. NEVER build your life around a woman. Only let her participate in your life style. You sit around being overly attached to one woman and you end up finding she has some other man or men in her life and your whole world is wrecked. Nah. Enjoy a woman's company, but if she decides to go, let her go, but just make sure she can't take a whole bunch of your stuff on the way out.

 

[Rich Spirit]

Some of the threads I've been seeing on the forum lately remind me just of what the wrong women are capable of. I remember a lot of guys in this thread were being called bitter and insecure, but as time goes on, men are getting exposed to exactly what makes our mentality the way it is. NEVER build your life around a woman. Only let her participate in your life style. You sit around being overly attached to one woman and you end up finding she has some other man or men in her life and your whole world is wrecked. Nah. Enjoy a woman's company, but if she decides to go, let her go, but just make sure she can't take a whole bunch of your stuff on the way out.

learned this the hard way last night. shyt finally woke me up. Confirmed what i've been knowing all this time.

No more

 

[MikelArteta]

Some of the threads I've been seeing on the forum lately remind me just of what the wrong women are capable of. I remember a lot of guys in this thread were being called bitter and insecure, but as time goes on, men are getting exposed to exactly what makes our mentality the way it is. NEVER build your life around a woman. Only let her participate in your life style. You sit around being overly attached to one woman and you end up finding she has some other man or men in her life and your whole world is wrecked. Nah. Enjoy a woman's company, but if she decides to go, let her go, but just make sure she can't take a whole bunch of your stuff on the way out.

yup reality is if you never had it happen to you or been in that situation you can't fathom. I remember when I had my innocence so to speak, I couldn't understand why dudes used to be like reinscarf this and reinscarf that, until it happened to me.

 

[MikelArteta]

learned this the hard way last night. shyt finally woke me up. Confirmed what i've been knowing all this time.

No more

been there, never again. And they will never tell you honestly, just that they are busy with school or work , or hes just a friend. But your gut is telling you differently and more than likely its right.

You end up sitting around and waiting your going to be receiving a wedding invitation, or signing onto facebook and seeing Congrats girl all over her page

 

[Atlrocafella]

Wow thank you. I've seriously haven't thought about these things. I'll try them next time, I'll admit I've usually let the guys set up all the dates and that. Initiating is very important. Thank you so much!

Yup Initiating something is key. I'll go on 1 date with a chick i like, If she doesn't initiate the second meet-up or date, I'm no longer going to really press her.

 

[Youseenmywork]

Not having the gift of gab is fukkin frustrating....i could missing out on so many opportunities and not even know it. I see something appealing, but my shyt goes blank. The frustration
.....

I've got a whole post about what you talking about ...I'll post it later.

 

[PinotNoir]

Yup Initiating something is key. I'll go on 1 date with a chick i like, If she doesn't initiate the second meet-up or date, I'm no longer going to really press her.

Wow thank you Altrocafella! I see that now initiating is very important. I kept asking myself why was I failing in these relationships even after the guys told me that I basically wasn't showing interest, I didn't take them serious until recently. When I lost the man I really liked. He made me want to examine myself some more. I asked a female friend what she thought and her reply was that I'm picking the wrong men. I thought that was a one sided simplistic way of examining it because these were decent guys who have things going for themselves and we got along great at first. Now I know THE main issue. I'd just let them do all the work and I'm sure that gets tiring. Thank you so much. I can now see things from the guys perspective somewhat. I'll initiate dates, something I'll admit that I haven't done before with guys I was dating. Hopefully I can turn things around and work on other issues. But initiating was the bummer for me.

 

[Spades Of Aces]

@Emperor_ReinScarf and @kevm3 : Have you guys thought about doing a podcast or something like that as you both have been dropping great knowledge in this thread.

 

[kevm3]

@Emperor_ReinScarf and @kevm3 : Have you guys thought about doing a podcast or something like that as you both have been dropping great knowledge in this thread.

Thought about it before, but ultimately I think I prefer this format since it allows me to think things through. Preciate the interest

 

[RealAssanova]

i may have had an epiphany on thursday evening leaving class. Brehs, look at your surroundings. These girls ain't nothing special and trust me when i say that. For those of you that don't know, Toronto is a very multicultural, massive and metropolitan city. So you can pretty much imagine the amount of attractive women roaming these streets. However, being downtown that night....i saw something that stood out to me and made me stop and think. In almost every direction there was a woman wearing almost identical clothing or had the same dress style as the next. So there i was...standing on the sidewalk of one of the most busiest intersections in the city...thinking to myself..."are these the women that me and thousands of other men sweat and get worked up over? " The same women that literally copy one another. Same pictures and poses, same outfits, same hairstyles, same attitude and personality....these are the people that have made this thread reach 2182 pages?

that night made me see the bigger picture. Since then, I've seen chicks with they asses sticking out, titties poppin out, make up all over and yet i feel nothing for them. Complete indifference. Prior to thursday evening, i would've been like DAMN to every fine thing but tonight i'm like . That shyt don't impress me no more and i'm happy it doesn't.

I urge every breh next time they step out to observe their surroundings and i can guarantee you all will agree with me.

reclaim your power back and move onto bigger and better things brehs.






p.s. if a girl wants to be in your life, allow her to but ALWAYS navigate the relationship.

 

[kevm3]

i may have had an epiphany on thursday evening leaving class. Brehs, look at your surroundings. These girls ain't nothing special and trust me when i say that. For those of you that don't know, Toronto is a very multicultural, massive and metropolitan city. So you can pretty much imagine the amount of attractive women roaming these streets. However, being downtown that night....i saw something that stood out to me and made me stop and think. In almost every direction there was a woman wearing almost identical clothing or had the same dress style as the next. So there i was...standing on the sidewalk of one of the most busiest intersections in the city...thinking to myself..."are these the women that me and thousands of other men sweat and get worked up over? " The same women that literally copy one another. Same pictures and poses, same outfits, same hairstyles, same attitude and personality....these are the people that have made this thread reach 2182 pages?

that night made me see the bigger picture. Since then, I've seen chicks with they asses sticking out, titties poppin out, make up all over and yet i feel nothing for them. Complete indifference. Prior to thursday evening, i would've been like DAMN to every fine thing but tonight i'm like . That shyt don't impress me no more and i'm happy it doesn't.

I urge every breh next time they step out to observe their surroundings and i can guarantee you all will agree with me.

reclaim your power back and move onto bigger and better things brehs.

p.s. if a girl wants to be in your life, allow her to but ALWAYS navigate the relationship.

You're absolutely right, and when you consider what the average modern woman actually brings to the table, then there's even less to get worked up over. This or that woman may look great, but when you start to converse, can she keep you interested and keep the conversation 2 way? Does she bring to the table the things a woman should that would be conducive to a long-term relationship and the starting of an eventual family? Most times the answer is an emphatic no. There are those occasional gems of a high quality woman out there who actually are loyal and go hard for their man, but until you find one of those, there's zero need to get worked up over women.

Honestly, I would tell a dude now to not even make one of his life objectives to 'have' a woman. In this modern society, a woman can up and leave at ANY given moment. A fella on here started a thread about his uncle being 55, owning a nice business, and yet the woman he was married to just up and decides to leave. He could have been trolling, but there's several stories in real life that can be pointed out if that was fake. If a dude became overly reliant on 'having' a woman by his side, as soon as she leaves, he's going to be wrecked. Ultimately, a man should enjoy a woman's company, but if she decides she's going to leave, he has to be prepared to let her go and keep moving.

I would advise brothas to stop wasting time trying to impress women and putting all your money into circus tricks for them. There is a massive world to explore and see. If a woman isn't bringing the qualities like loyalty, cooking, cleaning, a sweet demeanor, etc., there's zero reasons to sweat over her. As big as a woman's booty may be, if her personality is wicked, then she's going to screw your life over.

 

[kevm3]

Wow thank you Altrocafella! I see that now initiating is very important. I kept asking myself why was I failing in these relationships even after the guys told me that I basically wasn't showing interest, I didn't take them serious until recently. When I lost the man I really liked. He made me want to examine myself some more. I asked a female friend what she thought and her reply was that I'm picking the wrong men. I thought that was a one sided simplistic way of examining it because these were decent guys who have things going for themselves and we got along great at first. Now I know THE main issue. I'd just let them do all the work and I'm sure that gets tiring. Thank you so much. I can now see things from the guys perspective somewhat. I'll initiate dates, something I'll admit that I haven't done before with guys I was dating. Hopefully I can turn things around and work on other issues. But initiating was the bummer for me.

We appreciate your humility in this thread and actually taking time to consider the advice you've been given as opposed to trying to tell fellas in here how things go. I wish you and the man you are dealing with the best of luck.

 

[kevm3]

The one thing I give this woman props for is that she is at least self-aware and honest:
I Will Never Cook For You: 50 Reasons No Man Will Ever Marry Me

any guy with common sense and a shred of self-respect will NOT marry this kind of woman, and unfortunately, this is the kind of mentality that a lot of younger women are being raised up to have. Media and other forms of programming are literally raising women into being unmarryable. Obviously, there's an agenda there to keep the family structure broken up. It's sad that most men in this generation never had the pleasure of being with a woman who actually acted like a woman and looked at a relationship as a cooperation instead of a competition. I'm telling you fellas, if you find a decent one, you better stop playing around.