Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

People are shyt. I wouldnt be surprised if my best friend stops speaking to me tomorrow...it just wouldnt phase me...ive learned that people can and will do things thats best in their interest

Shoulder shrug and carry on friend

its sad to say but its true, the people I thought would be in my life and that I could trust are the ones who are no where to be seen and betrayed that trust, the people I never thought I could count on some are still around.

people at their core are selfish

 

[PaperEnterprise]

its sad to say but its true, the people I thought would be in my life and that I could trust are the ones who are no where to be seen and betrayed that trust, the people I never thought I could count on some are still around.

people at their core are selfish

Agreed. Some people in my circle say im not humble, or an a$$hole...lol

All i tell them is im focused on myslef and dont get disturbed by others actions.

Shoulder shrug and onto my interests lol

 

[MikelArteta]

Agreed. Some people in my circle say im not humble, or an a$$hole...lol

All i tell them is im focused on myslef and dont get disturbed by others actions.

Shoulder shrug and onto my interests lol

in the end all you got is you, people who i thought were some of my closest friends 5 years ago are no longer in my life in any capacity.

 

[PinotNoir]

It's sad that a lot of men and women can't see the forest from the trees. You have a lot of women who were never taught that they have to put some actual work into a relationship and the dude isn't just there to siphon money off of and to entertain her, and then you have dudes who have a great woman but decide to play with her and sleep around. Relationships have turned into competition instead of cooperation. Both sides are watching to see who is getting the best end of the deal, as if a relationship consists of two different businesses doing a transaction with each other. I seriously hope things turn around, because a society with no lasting families is something I find very hard to fathom.

Competition, that's exactly what I'm seeing with relationships. Which person offers the best deal etc etc. Lots of delusional individuals out there.

I'll say this I was in a long term relationship but been out of it for 4 years now. Getting back into the dating world was like entering the jungle with no gear, no survival skills what so ever. It's been a long journey, these past few years. I've gotten advice from female friends and relatives basically saying to be selfish but I can't be this way. I refuse to be. I'm 32 yrs old and dating today just seems so different with Facebook Instagram dating sites etc. It's an adjustment because some people are looking for unicorns, men and women, instead of being realistic. I do not believe in soulmates, practicality is what I base my relationship on. Is he mentally/emotionally stable, goal oriented, career/financially smart, values family and loyal/honesty. For example I dated a guy last year and he was ambitious, smart etcetera, my one friends gripe was that I could get a guy who looked better in the face...wth. She literally said I could get better bases on appearance. People are too focused on superficial attributes. Beauty is subjective. Character is what's important to me. Dating today, most seems to be out for self, in a not so good way.

 

[PinotNoir]

Many women were brought up being told they were princesses, or brought up being told to be independent feminist bla bla, and if they look beautiful or even average with the amount of simps out there they can get away with anything as spineless men will accept anything. The more i've dated in life and just loking back at my life and all the things ive sacrificed I sometimes life and cringe I literally brought everything to the table and women just showed up with a pretty face or fat ass. I accepted so litte

Yea and we don't learn until it's too late unfortunately. I like to examine myself and relationships once they've ended, trying to see what I did wrong and how can I stop it from happening again. Like I've recently discovered with initiating, I didn't do nearly enough of it in relationships. I also figured that if it didn't work then it wasn't meant to be because he didn't show enough interest to keep it going even though he DID show interest and some. I was delusional and it didn't come from a place of ill intent, it was more indifference or wasn't meant to be feeling once everything was over. I can't imagine being a man and dealing with emotional women because some of us really don't know what we want or how to PROPERLY go after it. It's tough. But I also think that some must take reponsibility for who we let into our lives because those people will always be xy or z. Ex: I have a sister who'd meet the same type of man just different name. They played with her and didn't recognize her worth, because she didn't see her own value. She's had some very nice guys trying to date her but she always found something wrong with them. She loved the drama and now she's 39 with no man in site, still pretty but still delusional. I've had the opposite problem bad boys trying to get with me and I didn't date them, period. Glad I stuck with the type of men I like because I could've ended up alone with a house full of kids with no father. Plus my parents were strict about who I dated. It's also who we choose to let into our lives. Like the saying, full me once shame on you, full me twice shame on me. I tell everyone I know to be mindful of who they're dealing with because we take responsibility for the choices we make.

 

[MikelArteta]

Dating today is trash, social media is so fake and if you don't partake in it people find you weird or like your hiding something.

You talk to someone and there talking to ten other people


An issue pops up on the relationship depart and next. It's like being so rich that you buy a car and the first time it doesn't start or need a oil change or a little maintenance you just buy a new car and Toss that one to the curb, instead of doing work to strengthen the relationship

Competition, that's exactly what I'm seeing with relationships. Which person offers the best deal etc etc. Lots of delusional individuals out there.

I'll say this I was in a long term relationship but been out of it for 4 years now. Getting back into the dating world was like entering the jungle with no gear, no survival skills what so ever. It's been a long journey, these past few years. I've gotten advice from female friends and relatives basically saying to be selfish but I can't be this way. I refuse to be. I'm 32 yrs old and dating today just seems so different with Facebook Instagram dating sites etc. It's an adjustment because some people are looking for unicorns, men and women, instead of being realistic. I do not believe in soulmates, practicality is what I base my relationship on. Is he mentally/emotionally stable, goal oriented, career/financially smart, values family and loyal/honesty. For example I dated a guy last year and he was ambitious, smart etcetera, my one friends gripe was that I could get a guy who looked better in the face...wth. She literally said I could get better bases on appearance. People are too focused on superficial attributes. Beauty is subjective. Character is what's important to me. Dating today, most seems to be out for self, in a not so good way.

 

[PinotNoir]

Dating today is trash, social media is so fake and if you don't partake in it people find you weird or like your hiding something.

You talk to someone and there talking to ten other people


An issue pops up on the relationship depart and next. It's like being so rich that you buy a car and the first time it doesn't start or need a oil change or a little maintenance you just buy a new car and Toss that one to the curb, instead of doing work to strengthen the relationship

Woa, perfect analogy. It's like Everybody today talks to at least three people at once. I can't do that because I like to focus on one person and I was told if you don't have a few guys on the team then you'll look weak and desperate and be heartbroken if it goes no where. The point of dating is getting to know the person and the potential for something more. It's like they all want to load up on as many items as they can irregardless of quality. It's sickening.

 

[Morethan1]

Help me I wanna call

 

[DaHNIC82]

When I was out today, I actually did alot of observing. I remember dating back 20 years ago, hell even 10 around this time period(Summertime) fellas were spitting HARD at the ladies. Whenever it be in super markets, outside at parks, Target, Walmart, The malls. I remember me and my boys use to hit up the malls on Saturday nights because we know thats where alot of the fly chicks were.

But today, Its like a ghost town out chea. You're sure to see alot of couples but I don't see these youngsters going for broke and approaching ladies like that. You go to alot of these stores or even after spots and folks are so distant today. What do yall think is going on?

 

[MikelArteta]

Don't

Help me I wanna call

 

[MikelArteta]

Just look at the whole 'harassment" crap just not worth it and to add in how popular dating apps are now a days and how people are glued to their phone.

When I was out today, I actually did alot of observing. I remember dating back 20 years ago, hell even 10 around this time period(Summertime) fellas were spitting HARD at the ladies. Whenever it be in super markets, outside at parks, Target, Walmart, The malls. I remember me and my boys use to hit up the malls on Saturday nights because we know thats where alot of the fly chicks were.

But today, Its like a ghost town out chea. You're sure to see alot of couples but I don't see these youngsters going for broke and approaching ladies like that. You go to alot of these stores or even after spots and folks are so distant today. What do yall think is going on?

 

[Youseenmywork]

 

[Serb]

What's good brehs. Just touching down here I'm in the middle of the anger phase and I'm seeing a lot of great red pill discussion goin on in here. I'm struggling with a break up right now and as somebody who never had a problem getting ladies I am just trying to push through this hard part. It's been about 3-4 weeks now since it happened.

Solidarity with my other brehs goin thru it

 

[McPiff]

What's good brehs. Just touching down here I'm in the middle of the anger phase and I'm seeing a lot of great red pill discussion goin on in here. I'm struggling with a break up right now and as somebody who never had a problem getting ladies I am just trying to push through this hard part. It's been about 3-4 weeks now since it happened.

Solidarity with my other brehs goin thru it

you'll be ok breh breh


just keep yourself busy and keep pushing

 

[MikelArteta]

What's good brehs. Just touching down here I'm in the middle of the anger phase and I'm seeing a lot of great red pill discussion goin on in here. I'm struggling with a break up right now and as somebody who never had a problem getting ladies I am just trying to push through this hard part. It's been about 3-4 weeks now since it happened.

Solidarity with my other brehs goin thru it

all i can say is time man, one thing I've learned over the years it doesn't matter your success getting women when all you want is one.

It's like applying to a bunch of schools and you get accepted but the one you really wanted to go to didn't accept you, yeah you have tons of options but you'll still feel disappointed.

Just got to stay focus on yourself try not to take a peak in her life and keep pushing.