Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Yup]

I knew a dude in HS that had plenty of women and he was smaller than me. He was like 5'6 and I'm the same height.

I am not implying that a shorter man can’t get women. All I am saying that Kevin Hart is not a good example of what the poster is trying to convey.

 

[Fatboi1]

I am not implying that a shorter man can’t get women. All I am saying that Kevin Hart is not a good example of what the poster is trying to convey.

Well I'm kind of short (5'6-5'7) and I've had plenty of women attracted to me. None ever mentioned my height.

 

[Yup]

Well I'm kind of short (5'6-5'7) and I've had plenty of women attracted to me. None ever mentioned my height.

honestly i dont find that short but then again im 5'2'' but i am aware that man are held to a different standard when it comes to height.

 

[Brandeezy]

Well I'm kind of short (5'6-5'7) and I've had plenty of women attracted to me. None ever mentioned my height.

You must be above average looking, n/h considering that it's never happened to me

 

[MikelArteta]

Post your pic no homo

You must be above average looking, n/h considering that it's never happened to me

 

[Brandeezy]

Post your pic no homo

I posted it on here before, I think in the post your pic thread but I'm at work anyeays

 

[Fatboi1]

You must be above average looking, n/h considering that it's never happened to me

Well I used to be fat and plain looking. Ended up losing a lot of weight when I did a raw foods/herbal cleanse and went vegan. I then grew dreads and yeah. I think I'm decent looking. I used to think I was unattractive but now I think I'm attractive. I still get nervous around beautiful women though(well only if I'm thinking of approaching). I posted my pics here before.

Edit: took this in March.

 

[King Kai]

 

[Yup]

alright i'ma give y'all the low down cause i can relate to alot of what's being said here and i would definitely appreciate some perspective

we were together for 4 and a half years and we just mutually decided to call it quits. it wasn't perfect but those first 4 years were the best relationship i've ever had. couldn't keep our hands off each other. the "honeymoon" phase went damn near 2 years then slowed down a bit for the next 2 but we was still happy and finishing eachothers sentences and all that other cornball shyt. where we clicked on the most was the fact that neither of us really went too hard with the party lifestyle. i drank with my boys every game night and the only bar hopping we did was with some close friends just chillin. it was a routine at this point but all was well and happy.

cut to the 4 year mark. i get a job i've been scratching and clawing for for damn near the last 3 years. i'm on cloud 9 at this point. i got my pay raise with a respectable job, i'm the best shape of my life, i got my woman by my side and the pieces are coming together. at this point, she flips like i've never seen before. anxiety. turns out this shyt runs in her family all the way up. gradually over a period 6 months she does a complete 180. she's down all the damn time. she can't even hold up a conversation anymore. completely apathetic. the anxiety shyt would have been a massive red flag for me but it never came up in those 4 years then outta nowhere this shyt hits. i cant emphasis that shyt enough fam. not one sign of it. i even got a call from one of her parents telling me they think she's hitting depression. naturally we start fightin more because its miserable any time we're in the same room. she even acknowledges to me that she knows it's coming completely from her end and says "she can't help it." she says the people at work dont appreciate her and that stress is getting her down and starts listing off a bunch of shyt that sounds like she's just making shyt up on my end etc etc.

by this point i already see the blood in the water and i would say for about 4 months already subconsciously started planning my exit. it was some shyt i've never seen before in my life. i saw her every damn day for 4 years and knew her inside and out and she flipped on a dime into a person i've never ever seen before. naturally the more speculative brothers would probably think maybe another dude would cause her to act this way. i already explored all those avenues before breaking up with her and it wasn't just me she was like this around. everyone. family. coworkers. when she smiled, anybody that knew her knew it was fake. it was beyond sad. even the friends from her side were telling me she was different. didn't sleep for a whole night thinking about this shyt and just approached her the next morning. i said i wasn't doing this anymore and that i was amazed at how fast shyt flipped in the last 4 months. she says it's all her fault and doesn't blame me for leaving but that she hasn't been happy with our relationship either and accepts it. now i've dealt with my fair share of completely crazy bytches in my life, and this definitely turned out to be one of em, but you wouldn't believe the switch here fam. we fought like normal couples do but we were happy and she was good to me and i was good to her. i never dealt with any bullshyt from her end in my time with her and naturally that made me go all out for her. flipped over night. completely different person.

i would love an outlook from my older more experienced brothers. i've got a feelin this bytch is seriously gunna hinder my ability to ever put my faith in a woman again.

and the shyt that bugs me out the most is i got my life figured out. i been waiting on this job for years. i hit the gym like never before in the last year and was feelin myself. shape of my life. everything came together and then she flipped.

Im sorry op.

 

[MikelArteta]

Hell I'm 5'10 154lbs, no tyson beckford no social media, no game only few chicks understand my story and yet I've ate well. A woman will feel you or not its that simple just put yourself out there

 

[MikelArteta]

alright i'ma give y'all the low down cause i can relate to alot of what's being said here and i would definitely appreciate some perspective

we were together for 4 and a half years and we just mutually decided to call it quits. it wasn't perfect but those first 4 years were the best relationship i've ever had. couldn't keep our hands off each other. the "honeymoon" phase went damn near 2 years then slowed down a bit for the next 2 but we was still happy and finishing eachothers sentences and all that other cornball shyt. where we clicked on the most was the fact that neither of us really went too hard with the party lifestyle. i drank with my boys every game night and the only bar hopping we did was with some close friends just chillin. it was a routine at this point but all was well and happy.

cut to the 4 year mark. i get a job i've been scratching and clawing for for damn near the last 3 years. i'm on cloud 9 at this point. i got my pay raise with a respectable job, i'm the best shape of my life, i got my woman by my side and the pieces are coming together. at this point, she flips like i've never seen before. anxiety. turns out this shyt runs in her family all the way up. gradually over a period 6 months she does a complete 180. she's down all the damn time. she can't even hold up a conversation anymore. completely apathetic. the anxiety shyt would have been a massive red flag for me but it never came up in those 4 years then outta nowhere this shyt hits. i cant emphasis that shyt enough fam. not one sign of it. i even got a call from one of her parents telling me they think she's hitting depression. naturally we start fightin more because its miserable any time we're in the same room. she even acknowledges to me that she knows it's coming completely from her end and says "she can't help it." she says the people at work dont appreciate her and that stress is getting her down and starts listing off a bunch of shyt that sounds like she's just making shyt up on my end etc etc.

by this point i already see the blood in the water and i would say for about 4 months already subconsciously started planning my exit. it was some shyt i've never seen before in my life. i saw her every damn day for 4 years and knew her inside and out and she flipped on a dime into a person i've never ever seen before. naturally the more speculative brothers would probably think maybe another dude would cause her to act this way. i already explored all those avenues before breaking up with her and it wasn't just me she was like this around. everyone. family. coworkers. when she smiled, anybody that knew her knew it was fake. it was beyond sad. even the friends from her side were telling me she was different. didn't sleep for a whole night thinking about this shyt and just approached her the next morning. i said i wasn't doing this anymore and that i was amazed at how fast shyt flipped in the last 4 months. she says it's all her fault and doesn't blame me for leaving but that she hasn't been happy with our relationship either and accepts it. now i've dealt with my fair share of completely crazy bytches in my life, and this definitely turned out to be one of em, but you wouldn't believe the switch here fam. we fought like normal couples do but we were happy and she was good to me and i was good to her. i never dealt with any bullshyt from her end in my time with her and naturally that made me go all out for her. flipped over night. completely different person.

i would love an outlook from my older more experienced brothers. i've got a feelin this bytch is seriously gunna hinder my ability to ever put my faith in a woman again.

and the shyt that bugs me out the most is i got my life figured out. i been waiting on this job for years. i hit the gym like never before in the last year and was feelin myself. shape of my life. everything came together and then she flipped.

Sorry breh, I've been there, its like driving for 4000 miles and everything is going smooth and the exit before your destination your car breaks down.

You invest so much, sacrifice in ways you never did, loved like you never did before and it all comes crashing down like pillars on Samson. All you can do now is look at the positives, look at it as a learning experience continue bettering yourself in every area and the emotional ties will get less in due time.

It's going to be tough, your going to feel sorry for her, feel like maybe you should still be a "friend" or whatever but trust me DON'T.

You can't predict the future, you can do everything for a woman be there through thick and thin, have chemistry like snoop and dre on a song but in the end it means nothing. At least you got out without being married or having kids. Breakups especailly after being with someone for years is hard to get over becaue they become so intertwined with your lives.

The switch is what gets most men, we can't fathom how soemone who said they loved us, someone who was there by our side for years, someone who you shared your deepest fears and secrets with, can just switch like a light switch, but trust me it happens

 

[King Kai]

Sorry breh, I've been there, its like driving for 4000 miles and everything is going smooth and the exit before your destination your car breaks down.

You invest so much, sacrifice in ways you never did, loved like you never did before and it all comes crashing down like pillars on Samson. All you can do now is look at the positives, look at it as a learning experience continue bettering yourself in every area and the emotional ties will get less in due time.

It's going to be tough, your going to feel sorry for her, feel like maybe you should still be a "friend" or whatever but trust me DON'T.

You can't predict the future, you can do everything for a woman be there through thick and thin, have chemistry like snoop and dre on a song but in the end it means nothing. At least you got out without being married or having kids. Breakups especailly after being with someone for years is hard to get over becaue they become so intertwined with your lives.

The switch is what gets most men, we can't fathom how soemone who said they loved us, someone who was there by our side for years, someone who you shared your deepest fears and secrets with, can just switch like a light switch, but trust me it happens

that is what's terrifying. i would be lying to everyone of my brothers on here if i told y'all i'm all fukk this bytch and she never had me. there was moments where it was perfect. there was moments where i legit thought i had a ride or die. that shyt is a level of fukked up i cant even comprehend. what if i had had kids with this woman? what if i had married her? in 4 years i never saw a side of her that she decided to just unveil in one night outta the blue. that is terrifying. that shyt makes me never want to trust a bytch again and i would be lying if i said i wasnt legit hurt by that shyt.

we were going on 5 years and i dont even remember what it was like being in the game. thats the hardest part. i gave her everything and in a flash between a couple months ive got nothing to show for it. i cared for her so of course im worried but the anger i feel is way too real. you wasted my motherfukking time. you wasted 4 years of my life and then flipped on me. could it have been worse? absolutely my nikka. she could have been a raggedy ass bytch that went behind my back and i realize that but i can't say this shyt doesn't scar me just as much. she had my defenses completely down and i never saw the shyt coming so i'm going into this completely unprepared. my word of advice to my brothers would be to always keep your guard up even when you're in heaven. ive fukked over women and ive done some dumb some shyt i aint proud of in the past but i was grown by this point. i cant think back and pinpoint a single moment where i could have treated her better because i was mature by this point. and that shyt flipped on me on a dime. these women out here aren't like us regardless of who you dealing with. they can find an unhappy situation no matter what you do. they can decide they're bored no matter what you do.

and the sick shyt about it is i know she's gunna be one of those bytches that turns 30 and panics and locks down some unfortunate nikka who doesn't see it coming. onto the next.

 

[Yup]

that is what's terrifying. i would be lying to everyone of my brothers on here if i told y'all i'm all fukk this bytch and she never had me. there was moments where it was perfect. there was moments where i legit thought i had a ride or die. that shyt is a level of fukked up i cant even comprehend. what if i had had kids with this woman? what if i had married her? in 4 years i never saw a side of her that she decided to just unveil in one night outta the blue. that is terrifying. that shyt makes me never want to trust a bytch again and i would be lying if i said i wasnt legit hurt by that shyt.

we were going on 5 years and i dont even remember what it was like being in the game. thats the hardest part. i gave her everything and in a flash between a couple months ive got nothing to show for it. i cared for her so of course im worried but the anger i feel is way too real. you wasted my motherfukking time. you wasted 4 years of my life and then flipped on me. could it have been worse? absolutely my nikka. she could have been a raggedy ass bytch that went behind my back and i realize that but i can't say this shyt doesn't scar me just as much. she had my defenses completely down and i never saw the shyt coming so i'm going into this completely unprepared. my word of advice to my brothers would be to always keep your guard up even when you're in heaven. ive fukked over women and ive done some dumb some shyt i aint proud of in the past but i was grown by this point. i cant think back and pinpoint a single moment where i could have treated her better because i was mature by this point. and that shyt flipped on my on a dime. these women out here aren't like us regardless of who you dealing with. they can find an unhappy situation no matter what you do. they can decide they're bored no matter what you do.

and the sick shyt about it is i know she's gunna be one of those bytches that turns 30 and panics and locks down some unfortunate nikka who doesn't see it coming. onto the next.

One of the thing that jumpes out of me is that you acknowledge you've been foul to other women tha didnt deserve. So how prideful were you to think that ish couldnt come back and bite you in the arse times 1000.

One thing i am learning about men is that they go through a stage of treating women like dirt and then when they choose to be with a girl they want it to be smooth sailing.

Unfortunately, as youve just learned life doesnt turn out that way.

 

[Easy-E]

@Ren

No shots, bruh, but; it sounds like she's sick.

Anxiety and depression ain't really something she can "control."

 

[King Kai]

@Ren

No shots, bruh, but; it sounds like she's sick.

Anxiety and depression ain't really something she can "control."

i understand that and with time i think i will be more emphatic to her situation but right now everything came crashing around me. i brought up the counselling because i wasnt ready to dip for the hills. i wanted to try and fix this with her and she was completely cold. it just caught me off guard and i wish i never went this deep into it. and the fact that i didn't see one sign of it at all just has me buggin.