Found out about 3 months after the fact. Kept it for another month before telling her. And honestly the only reason I ain't dip on the relationship ain't cause of the beauty. I like raw sex like any man and I ain't trying to be starting a new with some new bytch. The ones I cheated on her with I had a rubber on of course but the sex sucked. Overall, im secretly addicted to the craziness. Can't deny that.Damn, breh, that first paragraph shoulda been the end of the relationship.
I know she was bad, breh, but there's other bad ones out there. Sometimes you just gotta let go.
Unless that kinda relationship is your thing.
But if you get your shyt straight, and build up some confidence and go out and meet some people and start attracting women, I guarantee you won't feel the need to read those emails. You're doing that out of fear. Confidence is the opposite of fear.
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Jesus Shuttlesworth
I Got Game
Yeah I can believe that. Especially after that last post.
Different strokes for different folks.
That's too much excitement for me though. 
Why dislike it? I think it's a good thing you're looking more at personality compatibility. You're getting older and as the saying goes with age comes wisdom. But I can also see why you'd dislike it because for women when a man is actually trying to get to know us and not bringing up intimacy, complimenting etc early on this can throw some for a loop because we tend to think the guy isn't interested romantically. Loss of interest can happen fast. So it's going to take a bit tweaking to find that balance. Keep being you eventually the right woman will come along.
Go for it!! Maybe she had a bad day, got some awful news...you never know until you try.I run into this chick once a week for the last month and the conversation is always good but brief. She's real attractive, I can tell she's intelligent. Sometimes she comes right up and is asking a million questions and joking around, trying to get to know me a little more.
Today I see her and it's more like "hey how's it goin"
I was just gonna ask for her number too next time I saw her but that reaction had me like
LocDaPushaMan
Rookie
Drop a chick last night cuz she didnt get my sense of humor, took everything i said seriously...then at the end of the night wanna turn it on me like i been tryna push her buttons all day, im guessing it was the weed she been smokin
bytch calm down i jus joking
If you can't fukk with my sense of humor, I can't fukk with you
YeLovesBoston
Superstar
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Turk
Young, Gifted, and Black
Guys,
Make sure you keep tabs on every single woman you date. I dont care how much she's into you. My story is a very deep one, sit back and relax, and let us take a peep into the behavior of women.
been dating this girl for over half a year. shes a dime piece. a 10. she gets hit on everywhere. i've had guys stop me on the streets saying "dude, i would give anything to be you right now". needless to say, this girl is hot. but she's a user. and she's very skilled at making any situation where she's at fault, your fault. she's unappreciative and just very rude, plays mindgames, plus she's very costly. always wanting to be doing something, going out, dragging me everywhere with her, i give her rides a lot to her job on my way to my job and pretty much everywhere else we go (and i started doing this because i'm new to the area so i saw it as her introducing me to a lot of things, which she did).
so after a while, the rides i give her were starting to be a lil exhaustive for me. she doesn't understand how much stress it is driving in the city. told her about this many times, she just dont get it. i'm cool giving my girl rides, but this girl started playing games with sex. always wanted to have sex when she wanted, and only if she wanted. which was strange to me. never happened with any one of the girls i've dated. me and this girl spend a lot of time with each other so i doubt she could have been getting it from somewhere else. we even lived together at some point. but u never know.
anyway, recently, after her doing some sh1t that pissed me off. i decided i was going to get her back. (i've already slept with other girls behind her back anyway but thats besides the point).
she had believed i would drive her an hour to work one day. i woke up that morning and just dipped. told her i had something important i had to take care of and that i dont remember telling her id give her that ride. she was pissed! but she found a way to get to work that day. called me later for me to come pick her up. i told her i couldn't, i was drunk. hung up on her. she got even more pissed.
she then texted me this:
"if i'm so unimportant to you, then go date someone else. i cant believe you have it in you to do this to me. i'm worth more than this."
to which i respond:
"have a good night".
so i dont hear from her for a while. i check her emails a couple of days later and saw an ex (some whiteboy) randomly hit her up wanting to meet up. (he had hit her up earlier in the year, she ignored him...as far as i know). anyway, this time, she responds favorably on some tip like "i work late tonight, we can meet up after work, i remember where u live". i read this, and i'm fuming. but i dont say sh1t.
so 2 weeks go by and i finally hit her up. texted her about 4 times over 2 days. called her twice. she aint pick up nor did she answer my texts. so i dead it in my head. not gonna hit her up again. she hit me back like 4 days later. we meet up, and in her head, she's still fuming that i ditched her. i'm the one at fault. so i play it cool. i apologized profusely, said i was going through some sh1t. she wasn't buying it. she was very standoffish and just straight b1tchy. we grabbed a bite to eat, then i dropped her off at her place.
Then a short while later that night,
she texts me a long ass message saying:
"i love you. you say you love me, but your actions that day do not match what you did to me. u left me for dead. i was stranded at 12am with no means of getting home...(she says some other sh1t but thats too long to type), you didnt even call me. for 2 weeks, i didn't hear from you. you did not call me the next day to check on me. im very hurt and i'm not ready to give you my heart right now".
To which i responded:
"for the last half year, i've done you a lot of favors. if u want to hold on to this one instance and blow it up out of proportion, then do you. if things dont work out with whomever your dating, hit me up. i love you and i care for you, but i will not be used or mistreated."
she goes:
"i feel unheard with that last text from you. i dont know what to tell you. you and i live different lives. i dont think we're meant to be together. youre always thinking im out dating people when i already told u i dont have time for that. ive been extremely busy with my work. i cant date someone who's always accusing me of sleeping around. i'm stressed right now, i've been working nonstop (which she has cause theres this major event shes planning, but who cares). i really wish you all the best and hope we can be friends"
i go:
"nah, i do not wish to be friends. if you change your mind, u can hit me up. but i wish you all the best as well".
then i sent this about an hour later at 1:30am:
i dont respond to the above. so she sends this:
Be careful out there my friends! Trust no one!!!
I've always said over and over again to always check up on your investment.
If your renting out your basement you'd check a credit report of a applicant.
If a bank is giving money they check
if a job is hiring you they check your criminal history etc.
but why for when we date its just "trust", just go in willfully blind.
NAH not me, in front of you everyone will be nice and loving say great words, but when your not around do they? When gazillon guys hitting them up do you still exist in her mind?
People will toss out that insecure jargon etc. but its like @kevm3 said the knockout punch you never really see coming.
If there is one thing I've learned through the years it doesn't matter what you do for a woman it literally doesn't matter, you can give them everything, drive them everywhere, do everything for them but the moment it stops its not hey thanks for everything, its hmm you no longer car about me anymore I'll find someone else who does.
I remember with my ex, when she couldn't find a place to live I allowed her to live in my basement rent free, when she lost her job I did up her resume and applied and got her a job, when she was unemployed and had no food yep it wsa me again, I also drove her to work every morning just like you breh,d rove her everywhere it seemed to get groceries. Hell I even gave her half of first and last month rent as a deposit when she got her new place. Hell i probably spent like 5-6k in a year helping her out
, but at the end of the day when I asked back for 1000 bucks she owed me that she promised to pay back I was a "harraser", when I decided I'm no longer driving her to work because I decided to start earlier I was "selfish" and no longer cared about her anymore.When I finally cut her off she started she cursed me out, the bible talks abut women like this
"This is the way of an adulterous woman: She eats and wipes her mouth and says, 'I've done nothing wrong.'
chick out there e-mailing her ex and ish but your the bad person for snooping
And it wasn't even my ex I seen it time and time again with women, you can literally give em a kidney, part of your liver, peel the skin of your body for a skin graft if they have third degree burns but they don't even remember that just that "you stopped driving em to work".
You can see these broads 100 days in a row but one day you just want to relax by yourself and you get the "fine, don't come then i'll do something else", and they emailing a next nikka.
As a man one of the biggest weapons you have is to leave and never look back, Remember what i always say only three things a woman can hold over you 1. her beauty 2. sex 3. emotional connection thats it.
I live my life like the country of israel. Always know any day it could be war or a bum dropped on me , always prepared
remember arguments and back and forth are a womans battlefields, especially when she is in the wrong..
These women are out here wrong as hell but will twist it into you being at fault dont buy their poison toss em in the trash
These women are out here wrong as hell but will twist it into you being at fault dont buy their poison toss em in the trash
Jesus Shuttlesworth
I Got Game
I've always said over and over again to always check up on your investment.
If your renting out your basement you'd check a credit report of a applicant.
If a bank is giving money they check
if a job is hiring you they check your criminal history etc.
but why for when we date its just "trust", just go in willfully blind.
NAH not me, in front of you everyone will be nice and loving say great words, but when your not around do they? When gazillon guys hitting them up do you still exist in her mind?
People will toss out that insecure jargon etc. but its like @kevm3 said the knockout punch you never really see coming.
If there is one thing I've learned through the years it doesn't matter what you do for a woman it literally doesn't matter, you can give them everything, drive them everywhere, do everything for them but the moment it stops its not hey thanks for everything, its hmm you no longer car about me anymore I'll find someone else who does.
I remember with my ex, when she couldn't find a place to live I allowed her to live in my basement rent free, when she lost her job I did up her resume and applied and got her a job, when she was unemployed and had no food yep it wsa me again, I also drove her to work every morning just like you breh,d rove her everywhere it seemed to get groceries. Hell I even gave her half of first and last month rent as a deposit when she got her new place. Hell i probably spent like 5-6k in a year helping her out
When I finally cut her off she started she cursed me out, the bible talks abut women like this
"This is the way of an adulterous woman: She eats and wipes her mouth and says, 'I've done nothing wrong.'
chick out there e-mailing her ex and ish but your the bad person for snooping
And it wasn't even my ex I seen it time and time again with women, you can literally give em a kidney, part of your liver, peel the skin of your body for a skin graft if they have third degree burns but they don't even remember that just that "you stopped driving em to work".
You can see these broads 100 days in a row but one day you just want to relax by yourself and you get the "fine, don't come then i'll do something else", and they emailing a next nikka.
As a man one of the biggest weapons you have is to leave and never look back, Remember what i always say only three things a woman can hold over you 1. her beauty 2. sex 3. emotional connection thats it.
I live my life like the country of israel. Always know any day it could be war or a bum dropped on me , always prepared
My breh Scarf
,We finally meet in the gem thread. I rarely used to check this joint out but now it's becoming one of my favorites. I feel obligated to share the wealth of knowledge I've accrued over the years with my struggling demographic group.
You're treating women like rental applicants. But don't people usually lease from year to year with NO intentions whatsoever of staying? If that's the game you're playing, why are you bothering to look for evidence of sharing that girl? Of course you're sharing if you don't even own it.
No, women are still people. Not just any kind of people, the type of people looking for guidance. It's their natural order. When you meet a woman, you're not meeting an applicant. Who said she wants to have anything to do with you in the first place, creep?
If I were renting I would first look at the property. I would not expect a credit check at the open house. Who says I want to rent this POS in the first place? 
But again, this isn't a rental agreement anyway. Nah, it's just 2 people meeting. You run credit reports on your friends too?
"Aye you wanna catch the game?"
"What's your FICO score nikka?"
Just 2 people. And over time, if a relationship develops, you build trust. Why?Because one of the best traits in women, friends, any human being is loyalty. But what's loyalty without trust? You can't say you want a loyal woman and then not trust her. That's absolutely insecurity. You're feeling there's someone better out there. Vs "Psshh who better than me?"
And while you spend every moment just anticipating the end, you're not taking the time to appreciate all the good the relationship will offer. Makes you bitter, and she can tell. Then you wonder why she's driven away.
If you take that lead role, masculine, confident, strong, she ain't going nowhere. Believe that. You snatch a woman's heart, you got her. They're not like us. They don't wanna hop on every dikk they see. They wanna feel that protection and security for their heart and once they feel that, they're not going anywhere.
But you didn't offer security. Nah, you brought the opposite: insecurity. Instead you offered:
You tried to buy her love. You equated these actions with showing love. Ok, so if you stop doing these things for even a second then you're no longer showing love by your own definition. You set the expectations. Of course she's gonna expect that.
That's why the first thing I do when I meet a new woman is smack the shyt out of her. That's why she can never say "How come you don't treat me like you used to."
But so mush wisdom in that.
That's why they say "be yourself" with girls. You come off like an OG pimp when you're really a virgin, she's gonna expect your virgin ass to perform like an OG pimp. 
You trick and simp on the first date? Better be prepared to trick and simp until the last date.Think about those words. You know what this chick prolly told her friends about you? "He's so nice. He did such and such for me. Then he did this for me and he did that for me."
These are not words of respect. Notice she wouldn't be talking about you, but rather the many duties you performed for her. She fell in love with your service, not you. My internet works 364 days a year, but you damn right I'm pissed on the one day it doesn't. Stop serving these chicks and let them serve you. Your investment? Let them invest in you. You should never love your woman more than she loves you. Not even being cold, that's just the nature things. The female is more compassionate. If you love her more, often shown by simping or becoming her butler, it shows a feminine quality which equates to weakness. This is unattractive and drives women away. The only heart that can be broken is the one given to he other person.
In all honesty the only thing we can offer women is dikk and a coolness in the midst of their bytch fits. That's it. You can't do one or the other and she may stray. But trying to
a chick in every situation isn't really the answer. Let her figure her own shyt out like a grown up. And when her period is over, you're on the couch watching the Bills.
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@Jesus Shuttlesworth
It was just an analogy.
How when your renting a basement buying a car, even watching a movie, buy a videogame etc. you read reviews you investigate . but when we date a girl we dont. As long as she's hot, if she cheated on her past bf to get with us who cares. If she's hot but unemployed who cares etc
Etc.
Those days are over
And nah I didnt try to buy her love breh, that's just who I am.
I volunteer and donate my time and money to various foundations and charities and don't ask for anything in return.
It was just an analogy.
How when your renting a basement buying a car, even watching a movie, buy a videogame etc. you read reviews you investigate . but when we date a girl we dont. As long as she's hot, if she cheated on her past bf to get with us who cares. If she's hot but unemployed who cares etc
Etc.
Those days are over
And nah I didnt try to buy her love breh, that's just who I am.
I volunteer and donate my time and money to various foundations and charities and don't ask for anything in return.