Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[NerdNash]

I don't think you need to block her, but you should just focus on other things in life. I can understand her needing to focus on her studies, but if it turns into her not seeing you at all, then there's no relationship there. A woman that wants to deal with you will find a way to make time for you.

I feel you breh. She said she needs to focus all her time on her studies so I feel bad feeling a way about it. But it kinda feels like the perfect excuse.

I guess I need to just focus on myself 100% and just let the time that passes decide how I move.

 

[kevm3]

I feel you breh. She said she needs to focus all her time on her studies so I feel bad feeling a way about it. But it kinda feels like the perfect excuse.

I guess I need to just focus on myself 100% and just let the time that passes decide how I move.

That's pretty much what you have to do. If I just told you to cut her off, you'll mentally get in that mode where you start asking 'what-ifs'. If you feel it in your gut, it's probably the case. It might very well be an excuse, but then if you just completely cut her off, your mind will start running questions and you'll start wondering if you made the right move. Best thing is to just focus on yourself, not worry about women, handle your responsibilities and enjoy life. Give her her space and let the cards fall with her where they may. If she really wants to see you, she'll find a way to make time.

 

[NerdNash]

That's pretty much what you have to do. If I just told you to cut her off, you'll mentally get in that mode where you start asking 'what-ifs'. If you feel it in your gut, it's probably the case. It might very well be an excuse, but then if you just completely cut her off, your mind will start running questions and you'll start wondering if you made the right move. Best thing is to just focus on yourself, not worry about women, handle your responsibilities and enjoy life. Give her her space and let the cards fall with her where they may. If she really wants to see you, she'll find a way to make time.

Crazy shyt is i have so much shyt i can be doing....

Finding a new gig
My podcast
eating better
working out
my website
working on music
my daughter
misc things

Thats enough right there to keep me busy from the time i wake up until I go to sleep....but I keep letting this shyt get to me.

 

[kevm3]

Yeah your own emotions is one of the toughest things to deal with, even when you know logically what you must do. The thing is after breaking up is when your emotions are strongest, but as time passes and you remove yourself from the situation, it becomes a lot easier to focus on other things.

 

[NerdNash]

Yeah your own emotions is one of the toughest things to deal with, even when you know logically what you must do. The thing is after breaking up is when your emotions are strongest, but as time passes and you remove yourself from the situation, it becomes a lot easier to focus on other things.

and it's not like I can't get other chicks lol because I have more than enough options. It's deeper than that tho.

 

[MikelArteta]

My girl had her grsd for her masters over the weekend.

Her simp ex flew from Nigeria down ,

The look on dudes face when she said this is my boyfriend and kissed me, that Ralph wiggum in that theathre on valentines day look.

The funny thing is I actually felt sorry for him because I've been there before being cordial and friendly with an ex only to be crushed as some other nikka was reaping the benefits and you

But thanks breh its my turn now

 

[MikelArteta]

Never go back to past women brehs..ever.

No good will come from it.

never go back to past women
never be in a long distance relationship
if your not her number 1 leave

 

[NerdNash]

This year has been crazy lol smh ... Losing my girl...getting her back then KINDA losing her again. This year changed me for sure. Learned a lot about love brehs

 

[Turk]

So I thought this chick had blocked me...come to find out she just changed her number and didn't even bother to tell me. Either way this is a fukking L

 

[EMainstreet]

What's the best action plan of advice for not getting so attached and being more cold-blooded?

I read advice on here and on social media how people say "I hate it when she gets too attached", "I don't wanna be locked down", "I got sides" but to me it's hard to be that emotionally distant with a girl where you truly don't give a fukk if they leave you or not.

 

[MikelArteta]

This year has been crazy lol smh ... Losing my girl...getting her back then KINDA losing her again. This year changed me for sure. Learned a lot about love brehs

experience is the best teacher.

If I didn't go through what I went through, I'd still be getting burned

 

[MikelArteta]

What's the best action plan of advice for not getting so attached and being more cold-blooded?

I read advice on here and on social media how people say "I hate it when she gets too attached", "I don't wanna be locked down", "I got sides" but to me it's hard to be that emotionally distant with a girl where you truly don't give a fukk if they leave you or not.

Experience. I equate it to like driving a car, when I first started driving, I'd be somewhat scared changing lanes, or what to do next. I'd keep two hands on the wheel and constantly check my mirrors, do the speed limit and overthink time and time again. Then as I got more comfortable it started to change, now driving is second nature.

It's the same in terms of relationships, after awhile of dating your just yourself all that rules and jargon and following this and that becomes ., just second nature.


To me I just do what I want to do, if I want to see my girl every day and shes ok with it I'm going to. If I don't I want, However I also know that tomorrow I can get up and get a "this isnt working" text and well its done and over.

So just enjoy what you have, when you go on vacation your not thinking about the day the vacation is going to end, you go out and enjoy your vacation, the same with relationships. Just enjoy it, if it ends it wasnt meant to be and there will be another girl if you want it.

I like my gf but I know if it doesnt work out I've been here before, don't need gps to navigate me through the deep forest, yeah it will sting for a little bit but like everything in the past and life, I'll get over it

to sum it up, go all in, be yourself. And if it doesn'tw ork out just remember you'll be fine

 

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[Turk]

I'm thankful for this L I took earlier though. Im done fukking with shorty completely..im finna go ghost on her. Its mighty obvious she aint rocking with me like that

 

[kevm3]

Experience. I equate it to like driving a car, when I first started driving, I'd be somewhat scared changing lanes, or what to do next. I'd keep two hands on the wheel and constantly check my mirrors, do the speed limit and overthink time and time again. Then as I got more comfortable it started to change, now driving is second nature.

It's the same in terms of relationships, after awhile of dating your just yourself all that rules and jargon and following this and that becomes ., just second nature.


To me I just do what I want to do, if I want to see my girl every day and shes ok with it I'm going to. If I don't I want, However I also know that tomorrow I can get up and get a "this isnt working" text and well its done and over.

So just enjoy what you have, when you go on vacation your not thinking about the day the vacation is going to end, you go out and enjoy your vacation, the same with relationships. Just enjoy it, if it ends it wasnt meant to be and there will be another girl if you want it.

I like my gf but I know if it doesnt work out I've been here before, don't need gps to navigate me through the deep forest, yeah it will sting for a little bit but like everything in the past and life, I'll get over it

to sum it up, go all in, be yourself. And if it doesn'tw ork out just remember you'll be fine

We're living in very unstable times, whether it comes to job or with women. If you're expecting to work at the same company for 20 years and have them take care of you, then you have a thing coming to you. A company will dump you whenever it is convenient for them and will save them money no matter how loyal you've been to them. It's the same with a lot of women you end up dealing with. Not all women will up and jet, but then again, a lot will and it's hard to tell on the surface who will leave and who will stay, so it's best to come in with the mindset of expecting them to jet whenever, and looking at them sticking around as a bonus.

We keep telling guys not to build their world around women, because as soon as they do, she can easily end up bored, they leave for 'no apparent reason' and the guy's world comes tumbling down. If you base your happiness around women, you'll end up living a very unstable and disappointing life. Women in this day and age are fairly unpredictable, so unless you want your happiness to fluctuate constantly, do not ever build your life around women. Accept a high quality one if she is there, but expect even her to possibly take off at any moment. There are way too many blessings to enjoy in life than make happiness dependent on what another person does.