Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[DaRealness]

^^^I thought I was the only who had zero tolerance and patience for that b.s.

 

[TRUEST]

Im always amazed how yall still deal with women after these "shyt test". I live my life everyday like I'm chasing the best version of me, so when I get these test from women I automatically "next them". I'm 31 I don't have time or the energy to be in clubs/bars. I don't do online dating for the simple fact its just landfills of single mothers. I feel like when a women test you ...all she is testing you for is to see if your worth of her vagina. What do the women have to have to keep a man or get a man without they vaginas ?

It's not a woman's job to test me that would be for GOD honestly. Women who test men need to learn to discern sincerity better.

see, when i said shyt tests, its just women's playful way of playing mind banter. to see how you respond.

one thing u goto understand is, women dont get attracted the way us men do. a woman can see a very attractive guy and get turned off quite fast by something he says, or some other sh1t he does that she doesn't like. it takes a lot more for most guys to get turned off of a phat ass. in the field of romance, my friend, u goto play these banter games. to some guys, this may be an annoyance. but if you let this annoyance protrude or leak into your interactions with women, you'll expose yourself as not understanding them, or as lacking the ability to sustain a relationship with one.

in this girls case, it was all fun and games. i knew i had her in the bag when i picked her up for the date. its pretty much how i acted that turned her on the whole night. even though i really wanted her to just meet me at the spot where we're gonna go eat, i told her i was going to pick her up. my logic was simple. i figured, if we arrived in the same car, she'll be more likely to invite me over to her house. women, really love to be wine and dined. and wining and dining is them doing absolutely nothing but showing up and looking pretty.

the shyt tests were more so her not hittin gme up for a while to see if i would hit her up. i didn't. she sent me a bunch of sexy pictures, but no nudes. this is where most guys screw up and they start asking for nudes. and then she would automatically next them as being thirsty. i didn't. i appreciated the pics and didn't bring up sex at all. i think of all the things i did, that was what got her drawn in the farthest.

 

[Mike Ock]

Brehs...some of y'all might think arranged marriages are sweet but I got a quick story.

One of my co-workers who I un-expectedly became mad cool with did the arranged marriage shyt. His grandmother went back home(to Bangladesh) to find him a wife once he turned 30. She ended up finding some one for him. The girl and him talk for months with out ever meeting and agreed to go thru with it. The shyt these dudes have to do as far as spending money. Traditional shyt but a lot of money spent. Dude had to buy her a plate of 24k- gold. Giver her parents money if things don't work out. It's sounds like a deposit and shyt. He also had to pay for a bunch of other random shyt for the wedding. So he goes out there for the marriage, meets her they hit it off and fall in love. Once the marriage was done they were able to stay in a room together by themselves to consummate. Now he told me she was extremely tight and he couldn't get all the way in, so as far as intercourse nothing really came to fruition. So he comes back home(to the U.S.) and they get the paper work rolling for her to come out here, which would take about a year. 3 weeks after he came back, she lets him know that she's preggo by him . He told me he never even came cause she was too tight and when he tried it was painful on both sides. They agree its too early for her to have a kid and they agree she gets a abortion...she tells him it cost $600 american dollars!!! to do so . Also every pay check, he's sending her some money to live off of while she goes to school. He's 31 and she's 23. I dunno, but I think this chik might be running a little game on him. He's really naive and doesn't think women back in Bangladesh would so something like that . I know he really wants to be married to this chik and is just focusing on keeping things sweet so she gets up to America with no problem. I think he's gonna have a future headache with this chik once she comes up here.

Nah she wasn;t a virgin. In fact her ex over there is still trying to get back with her and threatened to put hand on her for marrying my co-worker. Co-worker told me the ex was waiting outside of someone's house they were at, to shoot the fair one with my boy over her, I asked him is he sure it would cost that much out there for an abortion, also how she get prego if he never sprayed in the walls. I didn't even ask if he saw the positive prego test. That can be shown easily via pic. I do think she might be kinda shaking him down since he's from a 1st world country. Only time will tell though. Dude still lives with his fam (father, mom, grandmother and 2 brothers) all in a pretty tight 3 bedroom apt. I asked was he looking for a bigger spot but he said the whole wedding thing left him broke and he had to max out a credit card or two.

This just took a wrong turn today...

So co-worker and his wife talk a loooooot since its long distance. He booked a trip to go out there and see her for Valentines and his bday. Everything seemed like it was moving along until today . So he got rid of his fb page like a yr or 2 ago...but since they got married he re-activated it because she asked him to, but he kept it private. Only pics are with his brothers and pics from the wedding. So dude randomly signed on and got a message. The message was a screenshot from a convo she had with some dude before meeting my co-worker . So he reads the message. It's just the dude and his wife kinda arguing..The last line from the screenshot was dude telling the girl she's a slut 'cause she sleeps around for money! and thats where the screenshot cuts off. The right after he sent another message saying "I'm just trying to help you out " Whoever sent it, sent it then blocked my boy... from even responding or seeing who it is. I did notice my co-worker was real quiet the last 1/2 hr of the day..He told me what happened literally with the face. He's trying not to believe, he says women aren;t like that back home...not in his culture! He said he's gonna talk to her to get to the bottom of this tonight. I didn't even say anything, I just had the and gave him a cheer up pat on the shoulder. I think he mighta put 2 and 2 together with the abortion thing, even though he never even nutted with the chik. I was tempted to send him a GMB pamphlet package. Not even Allah can tame these chiks.

 

[1 other person]

What do you guys look for in a keeper. I feel like if a chick isn't right out of high school or isolated somewhere then she probably had so much dikk and partied so much that shes only good for a good time.

 

[chosen92GOAT]

I'm talking to a girl with a boyfriend how I get rid of em

 

[InDePickWest]

I'm talking to a girl with a boyfriend how I get rid of em

If thats you in yo avy, hmu. Im srs

 

[Youseenmywork]

see, when i said shyt tests, its just women's playful way of playing mind banter. to see how you respond.

one thing u goto understand is, women dont get attracted the way us men do. a woman can see a very attractive guy and get turned off quite fast by something he says, or some other sh1t he does that she doesn't like. it takes a lot more for most guys to get turned off of a phat ass. in the field of romance, my friend, u goto play these banter games. to some guys, this may be an annoyance. but if you let this annoyance protrude or leak into your interactions with women, you'll expose yourself as not understanding them, or as lacking the ability to sustain a relationship with one.

in this girls case, it was all fun and games. i knew i had her in the bag when i picked her up for the date. its pretty much how i acted that turned her on the whole night. even though i really wanted her to just meet me at the spot where we're gonna go eat, i told her i was going to pick her up. my logic was simple. i figured, if we arrived in the same car, she'll be more likely to invite me over to her house. women, really love to be wine and dined. and wining and dining is them doing absolutely nothing but showing up and looking pretty.

the shyt tests were more so her not hittin gme up for a while to see if i would hit her up. i didn't. she sent me a bunch of sexy pictures, but no nudes. this is where most guys screw up and they start asking for nudes. and then she would automatically next them as being thirsty. i didn't. i appreciated the pics and didn't bring up sex at all. i think of all the things i did, that was what got her drawn in the farthest.

I understand the psychology behind WHY women shyt test men ...you call it light hearted banter. Woman do it because if you cant take her banter/shyt test then how are you going to protect her from the world so to speak...I get it. I just dont respect it. Im a good man there no doubt in my mind ive come a long way and still have many things to learn ...i say this to say i put myself threw a lot to be the man I see in my dreams. I understand WHY women shyt test...I just dont respect it.

HONEST MOMENT: In my mind i havent been good with women ever. See when i was in college i was the guy that had the KNOWLEDGE but couldnt put into action. Now let me say i had a few women here and there but not like my college male friends did at all. If ive said the number of women ive been trust nikkas would neg. They would be like" that's it and you 31 " Luckly i dont seek the validation of others. In college i was the thinker my major at the time was psychology i understood the game but i just didnt fell the need to ACT or pretend to play DUMB for women or to get vagina. I didnt need to play the a$$hole even thoe i wasnt one at the time ...now i consider myself an a$$hole because im very direct and cutt throat with many aspects of this life including women. I wasnt the guy in college calling them bytches and hoes or trying to mind fukk them (to this day i dont know what this really is). It took me 28yrs and tons of threapy to truly understand my value as a man. You know why? Cause all the time while i was young and living with my mother ...all i heard was how great WOMEN are. Things like you got pull out chairs ...open up doors ...bring roses...and treat them with respect. NOBODY ever said how specail a man is not just to a woman but what good man means to this world we in. Now take a look at what the world lets women get away with as it pretains to men .

IN CLOSING: I dont know how old you are but im old enough to know at my age it at "banter" its becomes psychological abuse over time. I dont NEED a women to bring the best out of me or elevate me to my highest level . I get up every morning and do that for myself and GOD of course. Women now days it wears you down how much you have to go threw to get at one or trying to keep one i believe @kevm3 said its like you have to be a sociopath to get at these women are to keep them. If im on a date and a women shyt test me i give this look the evening gets a little quiter. We leave we go our seprate ways . I lose her number. last i checked i dont NEED anyone to test to see if im good man...how i take "banter" or whatever. This is the reason i havent wanted to deal with women in almost two years. I dont have anything to prove i know im a good man .

 

[chosen92GOAT]

If thats you in yo avy, hmu. Im srs

BACK DA fukkUP

 

[InDePickWest]

And like clockwork, as soon as I post a snap of me hangin out with some girls ol girl who didn't want a relationship hits me wit the 'can we talk' text

Bout to smash and go ghost

She dont like you. But likes the idea of you only liking her.

 

[DaRealness]

"shyt tests" or "banter" is just another term for disrespect, so let's just call it what it is and not sugarcoat anything.

Look, people aren't stupid and know what they're doing. As a man, YOU set the boundaries as to what you will and will not tolerate. You let these shyt tests or whatever you wanna call it slide, then next thing you know the playful insults start to get more serious. It's just like men who let women 'jokingly' call them stupid or a bytch....a woman who respects her man would know not to go there. Simple as that. Ask any older heads over the age of 60 if they would have ever tolerated that from their wives even in the form of banter and see what they say.

Let's not make excuses for rude and disrespectful broads for fear of being called sensitive or touchy and not being real men who understand women. That shyt is for the birds.

 

[NeilCartwright]

What do you guys look for in a keeper. I feel like if a chick isn't right out of high school or isolated somewhere then she probably had so much dikk and partied so much that shes only good for a good time.

I was wondering the same thing man. Met a female about two weeks ago:

-21, Relatively religious
-Just got out of a 5 yr relationship
-Only been with said dude. Was upset dudes in the past dropped her bc she wasnt a "freak"
-Doesnt wear makeup. Natural beauty (B cup but a phat ol ass)
-Doesnt go out alot except for her friend's birthdays or a special occasion..Not including just going on dates, i mean clubbing
-Complained she gave too much the last relationship...and dude didnt reciprocate the feelings


How does this sound? Break bread with me man. This lowkey might be the sweet spot nikkas need to be looking in...Naturally attractive w/o the makeup and who doesnt club alot. Not materialistic, etc. She reminds me a lil bit of moms (caring, religious, respectable) but a nikka been hurt too many times by these birdsMy only concern is she hasnt gone through her "hoe phase" yet. But maybe she dont need one in her maturation process

 

[DaRealness]

Brehs i met


I was wondering the same thing man. Met a female about two weeks ago:

-21, Relatively religious
-Just got out of a 5 yr relationship
-Only been with said dude. Was upset dudes in the past dropped her bc she wasnt a "freak"
-Doesnt wear makeup. Natural beauty (B cup but a phat ol ass)
-Doesnt go out alot except for her friend's birthdays or a special occasion..Not including just going on dates, i mean clubbing
-Complained she gave too much the last relationship...and dude didnt reciprocate the feelings


How does this sound? Break bread with me man. This lowkey might be the sweet spot nikkas need to be looking in...Naturally attractive w/o the makeup and who doesnt club alot. Not materialistic, etc. She reminds me a lil bit of moms (caring, religious, respectable) but a nikka been hurt too many times by these birdsMy only concern is she hasnt gone through her "hoe phase" yet. But maybe she dont need one in her maturation process

If she was non religious and 6+ years older I'd go for her.

 

[International Playa]

Brehs i met


I was wondering the same thing man. Met a female about two weeks ago:

-21, Relatively religious
-Just got out of a 5 yr relationship
-Only been with said dude. Was upset dudes in the past dropped her bc she wasnt a "freak"
-Doesnt wear makeup. Natural beauty (B cup but a phat ol ass)
-Doesnt go out alot except for her friend's birthdays or a special occasion..Not including just going on dates, i mean clubbing
-Complained she gave too much the last relationship...and dude didnt reciprocate the feelings


How does this sound? Break bread with me man. This lowkey might be the sweet spot nikkas need to be looking in...Naturally attractive w/o the makeup and who doesnt club alot. Not materialistic, etc. She reminds me a lil bit of moms (caring, religious, respectable) but a nikka been hurt too many times by these birdsMy only concern is she hasnt gone through her "hoe phase" yet. But maybe she dont need one in her maturation process

Relaxxxxxxx,take things as they come bruh, get to know her more. Things always look good at the honeymoon stage, wait till you start noticing her bad habits or silly things that annoy her about you.

 

[The Frozen One]

girl i've been seeing the past few months wants to see my phone...obviously to go through my shyt..

but i do got some skeletons i've been trying to bury.

but i already dug myself a hole by saying that i got nothing to hide..

how do i play this?

 

[Youseenmywork]

Something that I think many guys in this thread have over looked is the enjoyment of the chase. In this thread there or many forms of wisdom from a lot of men. Some of it has come from guys that have changed and have some wisdom that may help and some of it comes from you guys that still enjoy the chase. I haven't been in a club in years (2013). To enjoy women you have to enjoy the chase the games the psychological mind games etc. I for don't and I don't know if I'll ever enjoy the chase again I don't like being in club after club bar after bar strip club after strip club. I don't LOVE women enough to go threw with all that I have mentioned above. I barley like them. It may be to face that maybe I've out grown the chase. You guy see beautiful women I see nothing but work it don't matter how beautiful they are anymore. Time to figure out the next phase of my life. Enjoy the chase ...while it last.