That's a pretty one dimensional view of looking at it. Maybe she's genuinely interested in why the question was asked. It actually is a sign of interest...
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Or maybe he comes across as cocky which is a HUGE turnoff for women. Just from what he wrote that's the vibe I got.
EMainstreet
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I am not gonna lie I am a pretty cocky guy. I think I show it off more online than in person.
Good to you for being honest and I bet that throws them for a loop. I'm going to assume you come across as more reserved in person compared to the social media persona. Now you just have to find a way to rectify the cocky image. Why do you feel the need to be cocky? I'm suggesting this to you only if you want to portray a better image of yourself without losing who you are at the core.
@EMainstreet
dude listen. as a dude who has been labeled arrogant and cocky all my life, i've never had issues sleeping with women. see, it all started as a freshmen in high school. i was new in school so i was reserved. id walk by girls, see them looking at me, but because of my fear of saying something stupid, i would not look in their direction. i would just keep it moving.
of course, i started getting labeled "arrogant", 'he's so full of himself'. but at the same time, i started getting girls ask their friend to come talk to me. passing me their numbers. etc.
dont change who u are man. if it comes off as arrogant, so what. when u open ur mouth to speak, they will know what the deal is. but hey to each is own.
dude listen. as a dude who has been labeled arrogant and cocky all my life, i've never had issues sleeping with women. see, it all started as a freshmen in high school. i was new in school so i was reserved. id walk by girls, see them looking at me, but because of my fear of saying something stupid, i would not look in their direction. i would just keep it moving.
of course, i started getting labeled "arrogant", 'he's so full of himself'. but at the same time, i started getting girls ask their friend to come talk to me. passing me their numbers. etc.
dont change who u are man. if it comes off as arrogant, so what. when u open ur mouth to speak, they will know what the deal is. but hey to each is own.
Your key words "all your life" so it seems to be your normal behavior. Your label also came about because you were afraid of saying "something stupid", so fear brought out your cockiness. He probably knows what brings the cockiness out of him and for most people it's a defense mechanism. Anyways no one is asking him to change, only to improve. It seems like he's got two different personas and when the women meet him I'm sure they're a little taken aback. We also don't know what he posts on Instagram or Facebook etc to get those labels but all I'm suggesting is to improve how he's coming across because he actually seems like he wants to have some type of relationship instead of just playing hard to get (which is hella annoying and darn grade school). His first step on improvement is asking for help which I commend him for doing because some people won't even look within.
EMainstreet
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Bingo! Yeah online I have less of a filter but in person I'm more reserved and don't show that cocky side too much. Girls have complimented me saying that they like my humbleness.
It's not so much that I want to be cocky. It's more like in person I might be thinking cocky thoughts but I don't verbalize it as much as with online I just go for it.
Lol this was me back in high schoo. I was super shy and didn't know how to say hi to girls. I overthought it..should I just wave, should I hug them, should I give them a kiss on the cheek...etc etc. So when I would see a girl I know I would try to avoid them.
A lot of people told me that came across as arrogant and cocky but it wasn't me doing it on purpose I was just shy.
Yea I could tell I've known guys like you, Reserved in person but it was like I could read their thoughts because the cockiness would show through their eyes and subtle mannerisms. I'll tell you something, you don't want those women attracted to cockiness because they get excitement from up/down relationships and they are a pain to deal with. They thrive off emotional instability. If you do go for the ones attracted to that side of you I can almost guarantee the relationship won't last long. It seems you want something a little more meaningful. What's the question and what's your age range because that matters?
EMainstreet
Rookie
I am 18. And yeh I don't want a unstable girl no doubt.
you're too young to be thinking of anything stable right now. have fun with the girls u meet. u need a lot of experience (years of it) to fully understand the real nature of women. have fun until you're around the age of 27 and up.
Youseenmywork
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...Yeah see I had the knowledge and didn't know how to apply it in my 20s. I didn't really understand my value as a man until I was 28.( even thoe I lost my virginty at 16). So at 31 I got a few years left to mess around a bit. I like women. I just don't LOVE them. Hell I have been in love once. I got some intresting shyt for this thread starting in February 2016. This young man should put himself out there to see all the games and manipulation and how women think or rationalize things. You just have to put yourself out there.
Oh okay I figured you were between 19-21. Take your time dating around like I said, please stay away from girls into emotional instability because it'll turn you bitter then you'll find yourself 30+ on a website complaining about women being shyt and thots and #gmb, those guys live a lonely existence via hurt but they don't see it's them who's the cause of their torment because they let these women into their lives. Thankfully you're young and you can start on the right track but of course with life nothing is guaranteed and crap happens. Focus on college and join some clubs and I'm very sure you'll come across girls you're interested in and vice verse.